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writes:Hi ! I've been dating my boyfriend on and off for the last two years and I'm starting to seriously hate him. I love him so much that its growing into hate. When we break up we are still friends. We still hangout as if we are still dating. We just got back together a little over a month ago and my trust issues are starting to kick in. My boyfriend is a well known guy and gets along with pretty much everybody. But there is this one girl who he seems to get close too and I don't like it. He claims that she is a really good friend so one day when he was in the shower, I went threw his phone and read the messages that him and her were sending to one another. He was like ' do you miss me ' and she was like ' yeah, I miss you. Do you miss me ' and of course he said yes as well. I instantly broke up with him because I think that's fucking bullshit. Why tell another female you miss her when your girl is laying in the bed with you. All trust for him has gone away. When I broke up with him I realize that I don't want anyone else to have him so I asked him if he would take me back and he said yeah but things will be different. My question is, what is it that I should do ? Should him and I just break up for good or try to work things out ? We agreed if we was to break up again that we won't get back together and that's the plan I'm really sticking with. I feel like I'm in this relationship all by myself. Ugh, its crazy ! Thanks :)
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reader, tee_mariex11 +, writes (26 September 2011):
tee_mariex11 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks girly :) and yeah what you said what kinda right. I'm just being stubborn and don't want to see him with anybody else but in order to make myself happy I guess its best to just let things go. Its going to be hard but its something the two of us have to talk about. Your advice was great appreciated :D
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2011):
 It sounds to me like you cannot trust him. Yes OK maybe you have reason not to trust him when this girl is concerned. But you need to take some time to yourself and be realistic about it. Ask yourself can you trust him. Obviously you where paranoid to begin with when you went through his phone in the first place. You will both need to work hard if you want it to work because the trust is just not there any more. You need to be sure it is what you want. There is no point being in a relationship with him just because you don't want him to be with anyone else. You need to be sure it is what you really want. Be open and honest with each other, talk it through and make sure it is what both of you really want.
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