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writes:OK, I really like this guy and ive liked him for ages. i mean years. i havent spoken to him much at all, well, maybe a couple of conversations a few months back. several months ago, i added him on facebook, but i still cant find the courage to talk to him yet. i think he knows i used to like him, but im not sure he knows i still do. i think he might have liked me a couple of years back. so, im trying to find the courage to talk to him on facebook, because i will never be able to start a conversation with him in real life. but i think if i try and talk to him on fb, because i dont know him well, he might figure out i like him, or he might just laugh at my efforts, because he is really really popular.he hangs out with the really pretty popular girls. do you think i have a chance and i should try talking to him? how should i start a conversation, to not seem too bothered? where do i find the courage? thanks for any help.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 September 2011):
 Jsut a short message, hi, how are you doing? can be an icebreaker.
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reader, TheTouristAttraction +, writes (25 September 2011):
If I were you I would just start just by saying Hello. Don't push it. Don't over flow him with messages, Casually enter a conversation, Maybe wave at him in school or smile at him. Try to play it cool. If a guy hangs out with pretty girls all the time and is still single it means he probably isn't in it just for looks. I`m sure he`ll come around. :)
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reader, a7xluva101 +, writes (25 September 2011):
i think you should start by messaging him on Facebook, and start with light conversation. you could sit with, or near him at lunch or in classes and just try to talk to him a bit more. after a while, if you feel ready and he doesn't have a girlfriend, ask if he wants to see a movie or something sometime. hope I helped xx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2011):
 The courage has to come from within you. You are lacking confidence in yourself so you need to start building that up. You say he hangs around with pretty girls. You need to believe that you are pretty as well. Plus beauty comes from deep inside now what we look like. So just be yourself and be confident in yourself. If he isn't interested well it is his loss not yours. Have faith in yourself.
Don't start a heavy conversation just start it slowly ask him how he is what he is up to. Just try and get to know him better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2011): I think the best thing you can do here is try to take a step back and try not to put too much stock into it. I'd not panic about messaging this guy - if you are casual in your approach he's not likely to jump to any conclusions straight away and you'll have some time to find your feet and suss the situation out. Even if he does sense that you like him then surely the worst that can happen is he'll be flattered - no harm in that!
Perhaps a good way to start a conversation on facebook would be to pay reference to something in his status updates or info page which you share a liking for. If he really loves a certain type of movie, perhaps you could say something like "I didn't realise you were a fan of X.. have you seen Y? It's a brilliant film..."
hope this helps x
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