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writes:I don't know how to go about this. I met this guy who is amazing in so many ways, it is shocking how good looking he is!! But more so that he is on the same wavelength as me and i've never met anybody who has been more of a perfect match for what i've wanted in a guy, never. We got along brilliantly and we both can't stop smiling around each other!So obviously i don't want to lose out on him, but when i met him last week i had contacts in that made my eyes look hazel, they attract a lot of attention and look very real. Well, my real eye colour is dark brown and i'm worried that if he gets back in contact with me and we meet again that he will think differently of me. That maybe he wont find me attractive and notice that my eyes are a different colour! Should I wear my contacts again, or not wear them and just be honest they were contacts. I know it sounds shallow, but i'm just worried he wont be as attracted to me, or think of me as fake and not be interested anymore. I don't know what to do!!? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 September 2011):
 I'm wagering that he's sufficiently shallow such that, if and when he sees your eyes their natural colour he will run for the door!!!!
C'mon!!!!.....
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (25 September 2011):
If you guys are on the same wavelength, your contacts will be insignificant, you guys sound like you have a connection that goes beyond that.
Most importantly though, if you do have a deeper connection with him and are looking for a genuine connection, you will want to be honest with him from the start. You can either go without them, or go with them if you wear them often but make a point of letting him know that you wear them so that he knows.
It is important that he can accept you for who you are. The same can be said for you, that it is important that you accept yourself as you are. Realise that you aren't less if you don't have your contacts, or make up, or a particular outfit. If he is going to like you in a real way, those things shouldn't change his opinion of you.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (25 September 2011):
 You're worrying way, WAY too much about this. He's probably not going to care or even notice. Even if for some ridiculous reason he does care about something like that, do you really think he's worth dating?
Worrying about it is going to make you seem preoccupied the next time you see him, which in turn will make you come across as insecure and nervous. You don't need to worry, just relax and let him like you for who you are.
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