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writes:hi you agony aunts and uncles back again for some of your great advice, i was just wondering, me and my man been LDR for over two years now we are fully committed and i am moving to be near him soon, and we are eventually moving in together, this house i got near him is just a base for me to be there so i can see him more do the normal couple things together share responsibility's, cause we have kids to other partners and they get on but its a big step for them to move in together forever, so as i will be at his house more than mine, will eventualy make it more permanent thing once the kids adapt, but i was just wondering, cause he has said we will be together forever and wants all the marriage thing probably once we are all settled a good income coming in when the time is right, how do you hint about the making it partly official by getting engaged, or dont i? maybe he might ask me once i have moved up to him, but then i think, what if he don't ask me for another 10 years, so do i hint, or keep quiet and wait, please any advice would be nice thanks .
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 I wouldn't move 100 yards until/before I knew that this guy was serious and was going to go through with become a mate/partner/spouse with you...... If/when YOU move to be near HIM, then he has all the POWER.... and guys love that POWER because it means that they have CONTROL... and that they can walk all over the woman who "gives" them that POWER....
I recommend that you sit tight until much further along in any relationship that you are going to have with this man. If - and ONLY IF - he proposes to you and "makes it official" would I then suggest that you move to be closer to him....
Good luck...
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 September 2011):
 One step at a time. You need to make sure you've closed the distance in this relationship. Then let your children adapt to him and his children, vice versa. Which can take some time.
There's no need to be "partly officially engaged" right now. You know he already has marriage in mind with you and you guys are taking the steps to get there. Don't try to jump ahead of yourself. Give things time to settle then he'll most likely propose.
Do note that if you have that marriage talk to much, it can make him feel pressured and he may hesitate to go forth with an engagement.
Remember good things come to those who wait.
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 I think you should wait and let things settle down before you hint.
Take care!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 Well he has told you that he wants to get married to you. Which is a great start because at least you know where you stand. As for being engaged, personally I would want it to come from the guy themselves without any hints. But that is up to you completely. At the end of the day you are both together and you are both happy. So that should be enough for now. If I were you I would just go with the flow and see how things progress. You have both steady plans so for me that's a good thing. As long as you are happy and healthy just live life to the full.
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