A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm turning 18 in a few weeks so I am looking to go out and meet new people. However, I'm rubbish at actually doing this.In a group of males I'm fine because we all have common ground sports, girls, games etc. When it comes to chatting to new women though I get too nervous and can never think of what to say. Which is honestly quite weird because I have been bought up around a lot of women and haven't really had any trouble pulling girls in the past. They have always just seemed to have came to me rather than me having to do any work though.I'm hoping to overcome this nervousness though so I was wandering if you guys could give me a few tips. I can usually hold a good conversation and I am quite chatty when I know people but I am rubbish at making the first move to actually meet these people.So I'm mainly looking for female advice because I'm looking to meet new women when I go out more than anything. How would I go about approaching you and how could I get the conversation flowing? Once I'm in conversation I am fine but I just don't have that much confidence to just go up to people and chat especially when I am attracted to them.So any tips would be much appreciated.
View related questions:
confidence Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone! That was all good helpful stuff and has just made me realise that it isn't all that hard is it. Like one of the comments says start it simply and work from there.This has made me feel a lot more at ease with approaching people just off one thread.Thanks again!
A
female
reader, Claraw1  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 I have found that I respond better to a man when he walks up to me and says hi my name is _____ what's yours? It's the best way to go every time. Then just ask questions about her, it should work.
...............................
A
female
reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 This article should help.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-approach-a-girlthe-right-way.html
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): I think it depends on the situation, but if you are say, at a party or a bar or some other sort of gathering like that, its usualy easiest and most effective just to introduce yourself simply like 'Hi my name is ___what's yours?' and then ask questions like, where does she go to school, what does she study, what are their plans for the evening, who do you know at the party etc... just try and get the conversation flowing like that. if you can make people laugh, that's even better, but simplicity is the key to start off with, and you should get a clear idea if the girl wants to talk to you or not.
...............................
|
