A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone. Just wanted to know what people thought about retaliation sex in a relationship.If you know your partner has cheated on you in the past, even if they minimized it saying they never penetrated the woman, is it ok to have the same type of relationship with someone else to give them a taste of their own medicine.Just wondering what everyone thought. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2011): Do you believe in "an eye for an eye"?If so, then go ahead and hurt the other person badly.But, it won't make you feel better.My wife had a nightmare out of this, this is the abbreviated version. She thought maybe I was having an affair, I had a lot of work and was coming home late (which in her family growing up meant her father was doing someone besides her mother).So, she gets pissed, and some guy comes on to her, and she decides that she's going to get even, and does.But, I wasn't having an affair...which became apparent after some time.10 years later, she still has nightmares about it.
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 September 2011):
 I agree with Aunt Honesty. 2 wrongs certainly never make a right.
The only thing you achive is to lower your own standards and morals to HIS level. You really want to go there?
...............................
A
female
reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (25 September 2011):
 I always found that situation interesting myself. From what I have read, only a few women felt better after retaliation sex. The majority didn't feel better and the resentment for their partners persisted. The only way to find out how you would react is to do it yourself. Just be warned, your partner may not be as forgiving as you. Men are typically less forgiving when it comes to physical cheating than women, so you may actually end up getting dumped after all your troubles. All I can say is this: if you feel that you cannot get past your partner's infidelity (which is a completely normal response), you need to cut your losses now. It's better to go through the pain now and start the healing process now than to wallow in miserable thoughts for months, or years.
...............................
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2011):
 In my opinion two wrongs don't make a right. At the end of the day if someone cheats in a relationship it is very wrong but if someone chose's to forgive them well then they need to live with it. It will just bring more trouble to the relationship if you go and do the same thing.
...............................
|
