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writes:HelloI wonder If anyone has been in the same situation as me ... I have realised that I am not a nice person when I am drunk, for the last few years I suppose I have gone off the rails, drinking far too much when going out, doing things I regret, not remembering things etc ... everything I regretted was due to what I had done/said when I was drunk. I also used drink to mask my problems, I have low self esteem and confidence, not a very good job so I drank to make myself happy. I don't have a guy so I felt I needed to go out or else I wouldn't ever meet anyone!Well now I have stopped going to these places getting silly drunk and am trying to turn my life around. I worry about what people may think of me though as I have been an idiot before when I am drunk. Has anyone been in the same boat as me? Will these people always think of me of a drunken party animal or in time will it fade? Any stories from anyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone
I just want to say thank you for your replies, you do not realise how much better it has made me feel about myself. I really appreciate it! To the new me :-)
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reader, KittieS +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Not a single person on this planet has a part of their life they regret a little bit!
I've had my wild days, not proud of moments but it made me who I am today!
Don't beat yourself up for you past mistakes and enjoy finding the "new" you it's exciting re-discovering yourself! Looking at yourself and changing your life will help increase your self esteem!
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (14 September 2011):
 time will fade this from them as they see a change in you, even if they are still in the party lifestyle. the thing is be mature and let them know that was the old you.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (14 September 2011):
Well lass, I have never been much of a party animal myself, but I can say this. I think maybe you're a little too worried about what people think of you. You stated in your post that you have had low self-esteem before so it is understandable that you're going to worry about what others think. There is some cliche, and god almighty I hate using cliches but this one is true: You wouldn't worry so much about what other people think if you knew how seldom they do.Many, many people have their party phase and for some, it lasts longer than others. That's fine. I'm sure your experiences have helped make you into the person you are today. I'm quite sure you're a lovely person. You just have to know that you are. If, after you have quite partying and drinking, you still feel some of the same issues (low self-esteem and confidence) then maybe a little counseling wouldn't hurt. Or, if you'd rather not do the counseling thing, do things that will help build your confidence and self-esteem: start exercising, get a makeover, those types of things. Push yourself past your comfort zone and you will for sure build your confidence. I think your self esteem will improve along with it. Don't worry about what other people think. That has been my rule since I first became a teenager. I didn't always fit in with any one "click" in school and I found out that I was good at drums. Knowing I was good, despite my modesty, helped my confidence and self esteem because I used to deal with those. To address one of your last questions: Will these people always think of me of a drunken party animal or in time will it fade? If you get a better you going, one that you know and feel is better they will see it. The good ones will respect it and you'll know the ones that are stuck in that rut because they may be the ones to put you down. For those, screw 'em. Their opinions matter not. You can do this girl. You got it. I hope I helped...
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