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writes:Help, i can't get over my ex boyfriend...I am gay and i believe he's at least bi. It's been 2 months since he dumped me and i still miss him so badly..He left me for another girl which i believe was his rebound since they moved on so fast and he did everything he used to do with me, but with her. And true enough like everybody said, his rebound lasted for just about 4 weeks. He is now separated from her and looking lonely again in school.Then why is he not back to me? All these are giving me hope which makes it difficult for me to move on. I was told to believe in him and wait quietly till he comes back, but it seems to get more and more tough for me since he's ignoring me like crazy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2011): I say that perhaps he broke up with you for other reasons than just the girl. Maybe he is bi but maybe he has become uncomfortable with the gay side of himself for some reason. Or maybe it just was not meant to be.
I assume if he is ignoring you there isn't much hope he will come back.
Instead of obsessing, which I know is hard, try to focus on yourself. Take care of yourself. Allow yourself to grieve but don't allow yourself to drown in it. Take up new hobbies, meet new people, work toward finding non-relationship things that help you feel better. Allow time to do the magic it does and help heal your heart.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 September 2011):
 If you'd like to learn about the value of "hope"... ask a long-time Chicago Cubs fan about that.... THEY have held out hope since the early 1900's that the Cubbies were, finally, going to land a pennant. Hasn't happened yet!
You, Sir, are in the same basket with those Cubs fans...
Good luck...
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