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writes:What do you do when you have fallen in love with your friend and he is already married and doesn't feel the same way about you? You have the same group of friends and see each other everyday. How do deal with this situation? It isn't easy for me because I have these feelings and it is difficult to be around him knowing he does not feel the same way. Am I torturing myself if I continue to be his friend, thinking maybe someday he will change his mind? Do I distance myself or cut contact? I am not sure how to handle this situation. It's a really tough one because we genuinely like each other and get along well. But it is hurting me because I try to read into his behavior and some days I see signals of interest and then other days he shows absolutely no interest. It is a roller coaster ride of up's and down's for me and I don't think I can go on this way.I could use some advice. : ) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): Your friend is married, right? So respect the sanctity of marriage and slowly move away feom this circle of friends.
Whether he "sometimes" shows interest is not important. He is married and I'm sure u don't want to hurt his wife.
Do u suspect your friend to be bi or a closet gay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2011): That's tough. Unless you find new friends to hang with. Just try to tell yourself he is just your friend and bury these feelings. Convince yourself nothing will ever happen. Try to focus on other people and activities.
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reader, positivesmiler  +, writes (14 September 2011):
You answered your own question here that he dose not feel the same way about you.Plus he is married.You are not being fair to yourself torturing yourself having these one way feelings..He is being a friend to you and he is letting you know that he is only ever going to be a friend.Do not waste your feelings this way plus only heartbreak will come out of it..There is a man out there for you.Do not lose the friendship you have with this married man and the friends you have together..Marriage is a sacred thing You will find that out when you meet the man you are meant to marry..He made a commitment to his wife..You must respect that..You will have happiness in your life but not with this man..
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