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writes:Hi!!I need advice, as always. Yesterday my boyfriend and I had a fight, we usually text or mail each other very early every day, yesterday I had some things to do and couldn't answer any of his mails until afternoon, he hates this and has told me several times that if I know I won't be able to write to him, I should let him know (like telling him that I'll be busy that day), he says that he worries about me when and he likes to know that I'm fine. I have done this like 3 times (sometimes I just forget to tell him, or just assume he remembers it because I've told him like a week before). Yesterday was one of these times, we were arguing about for a long time (I thought he knew, he said I was supposed to tell him again) and I ended apologizing and saying that I would be more careful with that kind of details.Today I also had some things to do and I told him I'll reply late and everything, when I arrived home I send him an e-mail, he didn't answer, I was worried because we had just talked about it yesterday, so I send another mail, it was also unanswered. Like three hours later I got a call from him, I was upset, but I acted normal; then he explain that he forgot to tell me he wouldn't answer and he was so sorry about it, I tried not to get angry and told him it was ok, just don't do it again. My first question is, did i do the right thing?, or maybe I should have been angry just like he was yesterday? I really don't know...Ok, my second question; after all this he said he would not be able to call, write or e-mail me at night because he would spend the night at friend's house; we always talk for at least an hour every night, especially when one of us is hurt in any way, and that made me feel pretty bad, I mean, if we spend one full day fighting over something (little things, but still), and the next day he does something he knows would bother me, I think he could at least try to fix things with his girlfriend; or that's what I think. Now the question, Is normal that this little things (him not being able to write me when i'm upset because he's with other people) make me feel so bad?? Thanks for reading me, you've helped me before and I really appreciate your answers!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 No. You both sound pretty neurotic to me and if you don't learn to chill and be laid back, and most of all to be a little less needy and dependant upon each other, this relationship risks to implode in a not so far future.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (15 September 2011):
It sounds like you are both being childish, and playing games with each other instead of being true about your real feelings about each other.
Nothing wrong with being busy to not sometimes be able to text/email/call in the morning. He should understand this. If you don't have time, as soon as you do, just send him a text to say hi and tell him what you're up to.
I don't understand why he is saying he's going to stop contacting you at night because he's going to be at a friends house. That seems pretty strange behaviour to me?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 So you have to contact each other to let the other know that you won't be able to contact each other... every single day..?
Seems silly to me, but more importantly... it sounds flippin' IMPOSSIBLE to maintain. Every day... good grief!
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