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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How long should a guy last on his first time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6518 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 30-35 - Hi i was wodering how long men norally last on there first time... (13 words)

What does relationship mean?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5882 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 51-59 - what does relationship mean?... (4 words)

My current bf is taking this too fast, but past pain with my ex bf, still haunts me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 41-50 - hi, about 6 months ago,my heart was broken in a terrible manner by my ex - kayode but now i'm dating someone else, femi.i went to the same pre-college with him and i knew he had a crush on me back then (8yrs ago) but nothing happened.after a while,we lost contact but we found... (166 words)

How do you know when you like someone? What do you feel?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6315 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - Hey, This might sound like a stupid question but, how do you know when you like someone? What do you feel?, I just don't know if I like someone or not thanks x... (35 words)

After my attraction to another-I don't think I can love with my husband, again. I find him gross! Any opinions?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6520 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 51-59 - I am in love with another man... I have been happily married for 8 years, although my sexual attraction to my husband was always weak (different story). About 16 months ago I became attracted to someone at work. The attraction grew stronger while my attraction to my husband ... (241 words)

We're both virgins and he couldn't get it in!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6512 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 17 and my boyfriend is 19, we're both virgins, and we've been waiting to do it for about 6 months, we tried to the other day, but he told me he couldnt get it in. Is this a major problem? What can i do to fix it?... (49 words)

I want to help her but i feel she is trying to permanently break us up!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6520 days ago

13 January 2007 (M)

age 36-40 - My girlfriend was pregnant with another guy's baby, way before i met her, but seeing as i loved her i was fine with that, we have been going out for 3 weeks yesterday when she told me she was worried about the baby and wanted a few days break from me. She wont even let me speak ... (84 words)

Followup to "He is friends with a 27 year old woman from work. Are they friends or is there more to this?"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6516 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age - . need advice for both of us allthough he does not know i've asked for help sorry this is so long.i recently posted a question regarding my husband befriending a 27 year old on on jan. 12 first of all thank you to those two who responded so far your in put and opinions are very ... (769 words)

Since we started having sex together--he stopped saying he loved me? Any thoughts?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6520 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 41-50 - I'd like to hear what some guys think. My bf and I have been together about 2 years now. we never said i love you all the time the way some couples do, but usually when one of us said it, the other would say it back. Maybe not every time (it wasn't like an obligation or ... (352 words)

Why should you feel bad for snooping and finding out someone is cheating on you?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 6519 days ago

13 January 2007 (M)

- Just a question about snooping. If you go through your partner's phone/email etc. and it turns out they're cheating on you, why in the world should you feel bad about the snooping? If you never snooped, you'd never have found out. Which is worse? I dont understand all these ... (76 words)

How can I make the first move without it being really obvious?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6520 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - How can i make the first move with out it being to obviouse?... (13 words)

How do I find out if he fancies me, without asking him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - hey i have a crush on this boy who i have nown scince i was 4. all mi friends say that he fancies me but im not sure! how can i find this out with out asking him?... (39 words)

After 2 years of dating, he said everything between us was a big joke and that I was a whore! I deeply hurt and I can't trust other boys now! Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, ive bin goin out with a boy for 2 years and we were really serious, he always made me happy and feel special. but last month he insulted me and sed everything between us was a joke, he was jus playing about with me, cos it made him feel good playing with someones emotions. ... (127 words)

Is there anything I can do to speed up an orgasm, during sexual play?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - The other night i was talking to my boyfriend about our sex life (virgin, but im talking about fingering and oral ect) and things we like that we do (we're very open) when he casually pointed out that i take quite abit longer than most women to climax. I thought it could be ... (96 words)

Am I bad person for basically doing the "friends with benefits thing?"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - Hi, I'm a junior in high school and I have a hard-hitting crush on a guy. We both work together, and we hit it off. One day, I was having a really bad day, I had a panic attack during a AP U.S. History test. He knew I liked him, and he decided to kiss me that night. We got ... (905 words)

Why didn't he get an erection when he kissed me? Don't all guys do this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5075 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - hi i was hugging my new bf for the first time today and then we kissed (just a normal kiss but for quite a long time. anyway i heard ages ago that normally when boys are hugging and kissing their gf's they get an erection. well why do you think my bf didnt get an erection wh... (96 words)

I was snuggling and kissing this guy I like-the next day I had a red rash on my face! What is it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6130 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - hi this boy asked me out yesterday and i said yes. after school we were hugging for about an hour outside the school (it was quite cold). then we kissed (just a normal kiss). then today when i woke up i have really red cheaks and they feel quite hot, and i have a bit of a ... (159 words)

She has cheated with this guy and yet-I don't want to give up on her! Advice please?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 36-40 - Me and my girlfriend have been goin out for 8 months, for the last 3 months its been pretty bad. In November i learnt that she had been cheating on me with my best friend! She said it was because i had been keeping her at arms length. Anyway we both wanted to work things out, ... (206 words)

He told me we could have a baby but he avoids having sex with me! What's up with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 41-50 - Ive been with my fiance 7 years. When i was 19 i had an abortion as he said it wasnt the right time. 6 years on the time is right. We talked and he said he was ready. We started trying but i feel dirty having to ask for sex. I cant even get him to sleep with me every other nite ... (146 words)

My parents won't let me have a bf! Are they being too over protective?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - hi im 14 an my parents won't let me hav a boyfriend, i don't want one jus for the sake of it but i think they r bein a bit over protective. i've had 2 but they caught me n made me break it off. wateva im doin im always wary of wat they think i no they dnt trust me still n i dnt ... (69 words)

He's not exactly the best looking guy but I really like him! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6520 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - hello i know this might not be as big of an issue as some of the letters you get, but im really stressing about this. you see i like this boy, and i know every girl says the same, but he's my best friend, another thing is he's not exactly the best looking boy in school, ... (168 words)

I like him but so does my best friend...do I go for it and let him know how I feel?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - totally confused me and this boy are really close and ive started to really like him but my best mate really likes him aswell shes liked him for ages and went out with him for three days and shes been infatuated ever since but he doesnt like her. he came over the other day and ... (151 words)

She's a bit wilder than me-I have traditional relationship values. Is it wrong of me to expect more from her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 36-40 - Im a 20 yr old guy and im in a relationships.i give my GF(also 20) a lot of advice/"maybe nagging" about things that i don't like...This sounds a weird Q to ask but am i acting like a 'nagging old loser'? for example when my GF went out for her friends birthday wearing... (408 words)

After we have sex...he finishes up with masturbation and porn. I hate that..what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) - Sorry for the long story.. Im going through a tough issue. I love my bf dearly he's good to me in every way possible. We have plans to live together by summer 07' We've been together for 4 yrs now. I discovered that when ever we have sex, we only do it once, and I a... (567 words)

What ways are there to masturbate without using toys?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - hi. this may seem like a stupid question, but what ways are there to masterbate without using sex toys? i need to know cos i think id really like to try sex but i know im too young to have it. please help.... (43 words)

"Monster' in law problems! I need help..any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 36-40 - my soon to be mother in law has cause many problems for me in the past and always tries to savitage any events we plan. and on sevral occations made up accusions but me in the attempt that i would look bad. she doesnt even want to get to know me because she claims she didn't ... (275 words)

We like each other a lot--nothing is happening though! What can I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) - I'm in love with this boy...I have been for 3 years and I can't take it anymore...I know he likes me too and we are always flirting...but I don't know what to do cause he knows I like him and I know he likes me but nothing serious has ever happened..help pleaase?... (52 words)

We like each other but I think he's way too good for me! Should I go out with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - right thear is this boy who i like and he likes me but he is way 2 good 4 me and my best m8 likes him and has been out wiv him lotz she says shes ok with it but i no wen it comes to it she wont be wot do i do can eney 1 help ?????????... (59 words)

Married gals! Would you be upset if your husband had a habit of winking at other women?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6507 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 51-59 - this is a question for married women- would you be bothered about your husband as a habit of winking at another woman (just one in particular)?... (27 words)

He called it off and said it wasn't me-he had other issues. Should I accept his answer at face value?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6518 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

age 41-50 - Argh!!! I havent a clue how things got too big so soon! I went out for a drink with a few mates from work. There was this lad amongst them, I had noticed him as he works on the same floor. I am rather loud and out going especially if I am off ballnce, nervous or feeling a bi... (300 words)

Mysterious calls have shown up on her phone--should I be worried?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 41-50 - I was over at my girlfriend's house the other day and picked up her cellphone bill to look at it ... to see how much she was accruing in charges (being nosey). With that, I noticed that she was calling some numbers at 3-4am in the morning. The calls weren't too frequent. B... (170 words)

Married 21 years and now..he sleeps in a seperate bed from me! I feel so unloved-what can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6517 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age - me and husband been together 21 years did have sex then 6 years ago husband started sleeping in single bed said it was his nerves all things in his head always going to doctors doctor took him off list sick of him did have sex now and again then he was having problems not been ... (113 words)

Cant get my ex tutor out of my head. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 36-40 - Hello I really need some advice on this. Right i had a huge crush on my fourm tutor when i was 15 and im 19 now, nothing happened between us apart from when i looked at him i blushed and so did he and one year i got an valentines card of him and still nothing happened and wel... (116 words)

Could my wife's cheating be caused by her menopause?? Should I believe this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4774 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age - On 6th December 2006 i submitted a question as a result of having caught my wife on 4th July 2006 kissing and cuddling with another man. This had been going on for 18 months,after 28 years of marriage. Meetings were limited to 15 to 30 minutes a time in the front of his van, ... (319 words)

He likes his beer, he doesn't take my calls and I love him! What can I do, to win him over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6519 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 36-40 - am monique am in love with a handsome but poor boy i love him so much but has has a separated wife with a kid he says he loves me but is very busy its me who told him that i fell in love with him but he does not help me in anything unfortunately he has a job and likes taking ... (131 words)

He spends a lot of time with his daughter and not us! What can I do to improve this situation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 51-59 - i dont know where to start, but i know im very depressed at the moment, i have 4 children 2 are disabled so i have quite alot on my plate, im also doing a full time college course in fitness training, so im juggling quite alot, the childrens dad left about 5yrs ago and dosent ... (694 words)

He was falsely accused of rape! Will he be able to find good jobs after having this happen to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6515 days ago

13 January 2007 (M)

- My friend was falsely accused of rape. He was cleared as the women had lied about it. However since then he still hasn't been himself as he's worried that his name has been stained and can't get another job (he was a chemical engineer before he got sacked after being charged). ... (65 words)

He's still supporting his ex financially---is he still in love with her, then?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 41-50 - my boyfriend is still supporting his ex financially like paying the electric bills and the boarding house, i may ask, is my boyfriend still in love with his ex? I confronted him with this but his telling me that he just wanted to help her, this made me sick, what will i do?... (53 words)

I feel that I can never have a good relationship because of my poor body image! Any advice for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - Well, I suffer huge self confidence issues. I hate my body which I feel is not as slim as I would like it to be and what’s more is also scarred with hideous stretch marks after a fairly chubby me had lost weight when I entered high school and developed a new found interest in ... (179 words)

Troubled by my inverted nipples!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 36-40 - Hiya, I have inverted nipples and it courses me so much embarrassment that i have never taken my top off, even in front of my long term boyfriend. hes very understanding but i havent even told him why. i really think its time to face this problem, but im unsure what his ... (70 words)

Will he think I'm not a worthy' gf if I don't want to tongue him, when we kiss?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - hello i have been going out wiv my b/f for a week and 2 days. we kissed for the first time yesterday and i think he tried to put his tougue in my mouth, but i had my lips closed so we didnt get off wiv eachother. im really not ready for that yet. i just wanna kiss... (146 words)

We broke up because he made promises to call me, but he didn't. Now he wants back--should I date him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 51-59 - i have recently been in contact with my ex-boyfriend and we have met up a few times. We broke up because he always promised to call but never did. His previous girlfriendS had cheated on him. When we are together he is very affectionate and I could tell he missed me when we ... (102 words)

After no contact from him for awhile, he texts me! Should I not bother replying, or give this a day or two? What on earth do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 41-50 - Your thoughts please... (this is a follow up question to a previous dilemma)! We went on 2 dates in the space of 1 week - both driven by him. Of course, he seems keen to get me into bed, but I'm not ready until I get to know him / know what he's about! But I did like him. ... (315 words)

Gave up the swinger's lifestyle but my partner hasn't! How do I convince him to?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (M)

age - Dear Cupid, My partner and I have been together for 11 yrs (we're both in our mid-40's). We had a somewhat open relationship from the very beginning (i.e, group sex or occassionally hooking up individually with other guys)...a few years ago I made known my intention to dis... (145 words)

I'm confused! Not sure what this guy's true feelings are...any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

- I'm in love with this guy but I dont know if he likes me. He's constantly blowing hot and cold on me and I dont know how he really feels. We go to University together and we've just had our christmas break. I didnt see him for a month and in this time I've come to realise ... (280 words)

My parents found out I am having sex-now they won't speak to me! What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - My mom and dad found out about me havin sex, now they are not talkin to me, when i try to, they ignore me..i just cant cope with it no more, i thought that they wud understand..but i guess not=(.. help me plz!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... (47 words)

In the last month..we barely talk now! I am deeply upset...what is going on with this guy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

- I writing here for help because i so badly need it. I feel like I'm lost in a never ending situation. I can't find ANYONE who can help me. I have even tried help lines and all that where you speak to actual counsellors but after talking to them for an hour or so they all seem ... (688 words)

Questions about DearCupid

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 41-50 - Hi. When posting questions, are readers allowed to write over a page or more? Or is there a total limit? And could readers request for their questions to not be displayed on the website? or in others words, be dealt privately by allowing their questions for only the agony aunts ... (66 words)

In her past she cheated on other bf's and now I'm struggling to trust her! Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (M)

- SORRY ITS LONG My girlfriend has been away from me for a month. I tell you those first few weeks were rough. She didn't call me, she hardly talked when we were on the phone. Minimum time on the phone was about 5 min. I confronted her about it and she started to chang... (205 words)

If she and I aren't 'technically' dating-can I temporarily date other females?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 36-40 - ok theres this girl i grew up with like my whole life then i moved i love this girl and she loves me but she says long distance relationships arent good she says that we'll get together when i move back there wich is in about 2 years {college} in the mean time im visiting ... (104 words)

I keep getting mean thoughts about him..why do I do this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) - Are unwanted thoughts ..thoughts that just come to you randomly or can you think them yourself but wonder why you did because they arn't true? I feel like i don't deserve this great guy because i keep getting MEAN thoughts about him of different things... (46 words)

Broke my porno habit... but should I tell my fiancee about my secret past?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 6485 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 36-40 - In regards to pornography and masturbation, my question is opposite of most others on this sight: I began this habit at the age of 13 and did not feel there was any problem with it. My opinion began to change at the age of 18 due to religious beliefs. I fought it for se... (195 words)

Should I beleive him that nothing is going on between them or is this really an affair?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6520 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 36-40 - Is He Cheating?? Sorry its long- I have been married for almost 2 years in May. My husband and I have been together for nearly 6 years but have known each other since childhood. A few months ago he got a phone call from a woman late at nite. He shrugged it off saying ... (458 words)

I haven't dated him since the 3rd grade-does he wants me back and should I give him another try?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6519 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

age 30-35 - ok it happened in 3rd grade i was datin a guy named anthony and me n him were the best of friends when we were dating we dated for a day then he broke up with me n then the next day at school he asked me back out n sinced i liked him i said yes n then the next day he would ... (343 words)

Guys: Has he stopped loving me since we started to have sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

Was I out of line to tell my fiance that things between us aren't the same as they used to be? Any advice?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) - Was I completely out of line to tell my fiance that things between us aren't the same as they used to be...for example, we don't cuddle as much. I didn't say it in an angry tone, and didn't want to start an argument. I was just noticing it, not like it was a bad thing at all, ... (259 words)

Shaken up by seeing my ex out with a woman...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 41-50 - Hello, I need to talk. I was just on a night out with the girls having a good time when I saw my ex out with a woman. I didnt see them until they were leaving fortunately. It has really shaken me. I am still in love with the guy, though I wish I wasnt, and we have kept in ... (242 words)

My friends are upset I am going to date my ex again! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 30-35 - Well I just got back together with my ex like a week or so ago. The last time we went out like over a year ago we didn't break any ground we did even make first base. He lives two hours away and so we still haven't seen each other since a year ago but I really want things to go ... (129 words)

She has a bf and I really like her...what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6461 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 36-40 - I really like this girl but she has a boyfriend she has been texting me for ages and i think she likes me but has never said anything i have said i like her and she has told me that is really sweet and cute. I really want this girl and i know its wrong cause she has a ... (74 words)

I have a crush on a guy who has a pregnant gf! Any thoughts?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6335 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) - See, I'm kinda crushing on this guy. But I know he has a girlfriend and she's pregnant with his baby. And his girlfriend doesn't go to our school. Whenever he gets a chance he stares at me and whenever we pass each other in the hall, he looks at me square in the eye. Wev... (94 words)

How do I help my brother become a happy person again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6522 days ago

13 January 2007 (M)

- I have a brother who's in his mid 30's. About 4 years ago his fiance had an affair. Even though they had been going out for a while (think for 5 years) the signs were obvious that it wasn't going to work but he would ignore them. Both were going different paths etc. The po... (198 words)

A past 'kissing' indiscretion" is threatening my good relationship with the girl I love! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (M) age 36-40 - Hi! I am a bit confused as what to do.. I have been with my girlfriend about 1 1/2 years and it's been the best time of my life! About 6 months ago a "friend" of hers kissed me. (not a close friend as you can imagine) Anyway, after she kissed me we kissed again, and t... (268 words)

I have no idae of what excites me in a job what I would be good at. Any good advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F)

- i lost myself in this world! i had the best year of travel. i returned home wanting to start a fresh. i told myself i wasnt going to go back to working in factory's, that i would get a better job. something to excite me, but also lets me live. my problem was that all i ever ... (177 words)

Not ready to settle down, yet..do I break up with my bf?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6521 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 36-40 - I have been dating the same guy for 3 years and feel like he really could be "the one" for me. However, i am still young and i do not want to start living the rest of my life with him just yet. Should i break up with him? I feel like if i do then i may lose him forever. I'm ... (78 words)

I dislike sex with him when he's drunk and I told him that! Now he's mad and in a huff...what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6522 days ago

13 January 2007 (F) age 51-59 - This evening my boyfriend came round to my house. I couldn't go out as I was working from home. He went to the pub. I fancied a nice evening together when he got back but I didn't wish for him to be drunk. He does drink everyday and when I used to live with him, I didn't ha... (260 words)