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writes: Well I just got back together with my ex like a week or so ago. The last time we went out like over a year ago we didn't break any ground we did even make first base. He lives two hours away and so we still haven't seen each other since a year ago but I really want things to go further this time like at least make second base. We have a date this weekend and I want to break ground but how far should we go on a first date? Also my friends are all upset with me getting back together with him because they don't think it's gonna work out and that I'm gonna get all upset when it ends and stuff. What should I do?
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 I can really understand why you're back with this guy if you haven't seen him in all that time? But if things go well on the date, you both go as far as you feel you want to. Don't worry about what you think you should be doing, just do what feels right for both of you. You were obviously happy last time you were together not being sexual so why not relax and see where it goes? Putting pressure on things only causes problems.
As for your friends, they're only looking out for you. They don't want you to be hurt again, it's hard to see someone go through that. I know how they feel: it's bad enough seeing a friend hurt for the first time by a guy but to see them going back for more is heartbreaking and frustrating, as they have to pick up the pieces when you do split up. I hope you're making the right decision for you, anyway, no matter what anyone else says.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (13 January 2007):
You should go as far as BOTH of you feel comfortable with. Don't push things to quickly, just take it easy and see what feels right at the time. As for your friends being worried, do you think they have a good reason to be worried? sometimes our closest friends and family can judge our situations better then ourselves because they can look at it objectivly where as when you look at your own personal situation you can be blinded by thigns such as love, lust etc...
Why didn't your relationship work out last time? If the issue of that still could exist as it may have not of been resolved then there is probably a high chance of it not working out this time. Because for it to work this time, you have to make sure the reason why it ended last time has been dealt with. So for your best chance at it working this time, make sure the reasons why it didnt work out last time are resolved. If you dont do this then I guess its a chance you will take at facing it again and dealing with it then. Remmeber your friends are just worried about you and want the best for you. If you do get hurt then its not the end of the world, you can get through it with the support of friends and family.
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