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Shaken up by seeing my ex out with a woman...

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Question - (13 January 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 January 2007)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello,

I need to talk. I was just on a night out with the girls having a good time when I saw my ex out with a woman. I didnt see them until they were leaving fortunately. It has really shaken me. I am still in love with the guy, though I wish I wasnt, and we have kept in contact since we broke up.

I have myself had another boyfriend for a while now, but still I couldnt help but be bothered by this evening. He wasnt holding hands or anything with the girl, and I know he is a free agent anyway so he can do what he wants. I am sure he saw me, but he didnt come over to say hello. However about 30 minutes afterwards he texts me saying he will be around next weekend and so we can do something together. I just dont get him, why text me if hes out with another girl. Why not just say hello there and then. I wish i didnt love him still so i could give myself fully to my new guy. I wish my ex wanted me, or I should say would treat me with respect. I know he wants me, he could just never treat me consistently well. I wish I didnt care about him anymore.

Argh!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, shania United Kingdom +, writes (13 January 2007):

shania agony auntOk you two split up yet your still in contact.I think its hard if one wants to remain friends still if the other person still wants to rip their clothes off...it doesn't work.You still have feelings for him,your ex im not too sure about,he might just want you for sex and nothing else,friends with benefits you call it? Your taking the crumbs.....if he really wanted you back then he would of contacted you and asked you out again,instead,he wants to meet up but my guess its just for one thing....maybe il selling this guy short but something dont feel right.If you do see him again then you need to put all your cards on the table and tell him where you stand,maybe he does miss you but only his actions will prove that and what he says....

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A male reader, bobbieg +, writes (13 January 2007):

to put it bluntly its jealousy. I finished with my ex at the end of 2005 and we have been good mates ever since and we have both had a few relationships ever since (me more than her) i really miss her cause even though its been over a year now i miss her like mad. I felt really hurt resently becuase she had a baby 5 days ago and for some reason it made me feel really jealous and down. I couldnt beleave after we were together for 3 years near enough as soon as she finishes with me she gets pregnant by anouther bloke. I think if she hadnt of got pregers we would of got back together but hey you just gotta try and think the past is the past and try to be happy i know its hard i have been there but the only way forward is to forget about the past and enjoy yourself with the man you have now.

Hope this helps hun xoxox

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