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writes: Hiya, I have inverted nipples and it courses me so much embarrassment that i have never taken my top off, even in front of my long term boyfriend. hes very understanding but i havent even told him why. i really think its time to face this problem, but im unsure what his reaction will be. how abnormal is this? and does everyone find it as unattractive as i do? Thanks.
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reader, peanut86 +, writes (14 January 2007):
peanut86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, Thank you all for your replys. It was just the suport I needed. I feel a lot less abnormal, lets just hope he reacts like all of you. Thanks again x
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 "Anonymous" gave you stellar advice except for one thing. You won't do harm to the relationship just because you don't sleep with your boyfriend. Don't think that you are obligated to sleep with him. If you want to, fine, but if you don't, you don't have to - and it certainly shouldn't jeprodize your relationship.
Back to your question. Girl, you say your boyfriend is long term... he must really, really like you. And I'll bet he will love your breasts too... all breasts are different. Some are sort of floppy, some the nipples are really huge, some have oddly colored areolas, some are really uneven. All breasts are different! And all breasts are great.
If he really cares about you, he's going to love you, even if your breasts looked like wombats. Don't you worry your pretty lil' self about your nipples. You're very, very normal and your boyfriends going to love you just the way you are.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 You can get cups (like little thimbles) that gently suck the nipple out, if it's bothering you this much then go to your doctor and see if they have any advice.
But most importantly I don't think your boyfriend will give 2 hoots! He'll probably be glad he finally found out what the problem is his reaction to be honest will probably be "so whats the problem" it's not uncommon.
Go for it girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): Trust me your BF won't care my GF has inverted nipples and it makes no difference to me whatsoever! You'll end up doing harm to the relationship by hiding your breast/not sleeping with him because he will think theres something about him you dont like! Just go for it and have a good time :)
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (13 January 2007):
 I doubt your guy would mind about that, he'd probably too happy that you finally took your top off that he wouldn't even care! When you've lived with something you think is really ugly for so long, you get used to that image and start thinking everyone else will see it as you do. But its not a big deal to other people (such as your boyfriend) so just go for it
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reader, insecure241 +, writes (13 January 2007):
hi, i also have inverted nipples and just like you i struggled to come to terms with taking my top off in front of my boyfriend. i used to hate having inverted nipples but after a while i began to accept it. so will u. theres nothing wrong with you its completely normal. dont worry about your boyfriend seeing them either, He should understand. Once he's seen them once you should be alright after. if you feel slightly uncomfortable when you are topless in front of him dont worry it will pass in good time. just try not to think about it during sex. just relax :)hope this helps ..good luck xxx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (13 January 2007):
 I think you've probably made this into so much more than it really is over the years. Most people have something about their body that they dislike, it's only human an, as far as deformities go, inverted nipples is minor and quite common.
I know you think it looks really bad but all boobs are different and, to be honest, I don't think men are very picky! I'm sure he'll be so happy that you've been able to let your guard down and truly open up to him that he won't even care.
You've obviously always known about your nipples and therefore have got yourself all worked up about it. To other people, it simply isn't a big thing. A friend of mine has them too. Lot's of people do.
Please stop worrying and, if you trust this guy, open up to him and show him everything. He won't be disappointed and you can truly move forward as a person and in the relationship.
Good luck
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