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writes: I'd like to hear what some guys think. My bf and I have been together about 2 years now. we never said i love you all the time the way some couples do, but usually when one of us said it, the other would say it back. Maybe not every time (it wasn't like an obligation or something), but in general, it was about even. We had sex for the first time a few months ago, and it was the first time for both of us, even tho we're in our 20s. Since then things have been okay. We fool around as much as we ever did, and i think the sex is good, although i'm not sure if he does i think sometimes he has problems with the condoms but there are a few positions that seem to work ok for him. The problem is that it seems to me ever since we started having sex, he hasn't told me he loves me. And i don't know whether it's something i'm imagining, b/c i was worried about going from just oral, etc., to actual sex, or whether it's real and if it is real, what does it mean? We've been realy busy (him even more than me) but we still make time to see each other almost every day, even if it's just for a quick meal or something.Do you think he's stopped loving me? i'm feeling really insecure right now about a lot of things, generally, and i don't want to put that on him b/c i'm already trying to make up for having been passive-aggressive and too iritable in the past. Have his feelings for me changed now that he's getting sex, or is it probably just in my head? my friends told me the thing about guys not liking girls anymore once they slept with them doesn't count when it takes them two years to get to that point, because they obviously werne't in it just for sex. is that true?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): Why not ask him? i have a good relationship with a girl right now ... meeting everyday is really good effort but its meaning-less if 1 party feels its troublesome.. you guys could meet up twice a week and make it more romantic than usual?
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (13 January 2007):
 If everything else is as good as ever and you're both still putting in the effort then I'd say things are fine. Telling him about your insecurities needn't stress him so long as you tell him exactly what would help solve the problem. (him reassuring you verbally of his love for you). If you're feeling secure and happy you'll be more relaxed and fun with him so I'd just be honest and from what you've said he's probably a decent sort of guy and will just reassure you and everything will be fine :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): I think you're worrying too much. You have been together for two years, if he was with you just for sex then he would have been long gone.You have taken time to get to know each other. As for the I love you's, sometimes actions speak louder than words.
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