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writes:hi, ive bin goin out with a boy for 2 years and we were really serious, he always made me happy and feel special. but last month he insulted me and sed everything between us was a joke, he was jus playing about with me, cos it made him feel good playing with someones emotions. he said when i told him i loved him, he later on laughed until he cryed. he said i was a whore and he thought i was one ever since he first saw me. he loves me so much. i cant believe that, that was him, hes so different :( im really upset now and im findin it really hard to trust any boy now, plz help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): Never mind this a*sehole, he doesn't deserve a drop of your tear. The most important thing is that you have learnt to be careful who you give your heart to. Maybe you were being a little blind with his behaviour in the past. Next time you know to observe your relationship a lot better. Next time you will be able to pick up whether this person respects you or not. Please don't let it make you bitter and paranoid. There are good men out there, all you need to do is to know that you deserve them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): I am so sorry you have been hurt and insulted like this from someone you thought you could trust - your boyfriend. You spent two years with him and its outrageous to think now that everything he told you was a sham.
No wonder you are finding it hard to trust any other boys! This has been a huge blow to your self-confidence and has made you question the entire relationship.
You don't say whether there had been some big argument between you or difficulties that made him angry enough to spill all this garbage. But even if there were issues that is STILL no excuse for him to treat you like that!
I hope you have told him to get lost and not to contact you again. Anyone who acts as he did either has some serious problems or, as he told you, he just did it for the "fun" of it. Its cruel, selfish and unfeeling, to say the least. What he did was verbal abuse.
Please, do not take what he said as a reflection on you or your worth! Take some time now to perhaps talk to a counsellor - he really was dishing out abuse to you - so that you can begin to heal. Get on with the activities and friends you enjoy. Don't think about getting another bf at present. In time you'll be ready to date again, and will find a boy who is genuinely nice, considerate and appreciative of who you are!
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Hold your head up high and forget him, I know that, that sounds hard to do right now, but you need to remember that you know what you are a beauitful smart and funny girl, and that he is just a jerk that will realize what he missed out on sooner or later. You will find a guy that wants to be with you and i am not saying that you'll never get hurt again, cause you know that is going to happen no
matter what we try. But you will know when the right guy comes along, you'll have no trouble trusting him, cause he won't give you a reason not to. This other guy just sounds like a jerk, and maybe his friends put alot of peer persure on him. not saying that that is an excuse but you said that it doesn't sound like him, well it mgiht not have been him talking.
Just keep your self busy and try not to think about him surround yourself with good friend and alot of laughter, and you'll soon forget him.
Hope that helps and if you need anything cleared up about what I said then just contact me and i'll clear it up for you
Sweetie
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 January 2007):
 I'm not surprised you're finding it hard to trust people after that! What a horrible person! You will trust guys again but it's going to take time and wise choices with the next guy you trust. Take some time out and spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself and say good riddance to that loser. I hope this helps you.
CD
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