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writes: my boyfriend is still supporting his ex financially like paying the electric bills and the boarding house, i may ask, is my boyfriend still in love with his ex? I confronted him with this but his telling me that he just wanted to help her, this made me sick, what will i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): There can be so many factors to this, whether he is still in love with her or not is something else.
Eg: I paid for an ex's post-secondary tuition and a part of her monthly expenses after we broke up for about 4 months. Why did I do it? Cuz she wasn't able to on her own. Plus it wasn't much and it did not hinder my spending. After 4 months, she got a better job and paid me back half as I told her to save the other half for herself.
Was I in love with her? No, not to that degree. Did I care about her enough? Yes, I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): The simple answer is YES.
First of all, as the previous post mentioned, "i were really in love" and "her pregnancy".
There should really be only two reasons that he would pay her bills. If it's not out of honor and obligation due to pregnancy or a child, then you have to be open to the very real probability that he loves her.
I know that's probably not the answer you want to hear, but you know it to be true and that's why you've been sick of it.
You need to trust your instincts and you need to decide what you can and can not live with. If this is something that is making you sick and is not going to change, then I say distance yourself from it and focus on yourself or something else you might want out of life for awhile.
But if you find this is something you can live with and don't mind, once you make that decision deal with and get on with it.
You also might want to consider how he might react if the tables were turned. Just think about it.
I don't envy your position, but I do hope that helped. Good luck!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 I don't think he loves her at all. If he did he'd still be with her. I think he just feels responsible for her. Maybe she's having money problems or he knows she needs some extra support at the moment. If I were you I'd be proud to be going out with such an amazing guy who can be there for someone when they need him. Hope this helps.
CD
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reader, Angelina : ) +, writes (14 January 2007):
 yes, he is , he so much is. dont have a enough space to say how quickly you should run out the door an never go back. im not saying im angry but hell i am. The Door matt says 'welcome'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): Hello baby girl please i want you to remove that thought your boy friend still having an affair with his ex girl, just like what is happening to me, as i am writing you this mail... i have a girl friend b4 now, how i were really in love with, but she were not be faithful to me, which i have to break the relationship... but as i am talking to you right now, the girl is pregnant and she dont even know who is responsible for her pregnancy, but now i took all her responsibilities of feeding paying her hospital bill and all other thing you can count on.... so what i am trying to let you know on this is that with the first time of been in true love, he still have that mind of pretty even though they are both apart from the friendship.... so he may not really have anything doing with her again even though he pay her electricity bill and other expenses.. cox like me now, even when this girl pass this pain i know she will try and come back to me, but i have made up my mind never to go back into relation with her.... so your boy friend doing this to his x gf does not mean he want back the friendship with her...
think this will help u... best of luck and if you have any more question for me, pls send my a private mail
byeeeeeeeeeee Mr. Akhere Abraham Oseyi
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