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writes:I'm in love with this guy but I dont know if he likes me. He's constantly blowing hot and cold on me and I dont know how he really feels. We go to University together and we've just had our christmas break. I didnt see him for a month and in this time I've come to realise that I have deep feelings for him. We went out with other friends last week, it was the first time we'd seen each other for ages. It was great, I realised how much I'd missed him and he said the same to me. We were flirting all night and he was stroking my leg under the table. He walked me to the train station and hugged me goodbye. I got on the train but then he came to the door to hug me again and i kissed his cheek.When i got home i sent him a text message saying 'I really did miss u x'. he sent me one back saying 'Me too xx' He was showing all the signs of liking me, yet since then I've text him and hes just sent me one word answers and not put kisses or anything like that. I'm really confused. MYy feelings are starting to eat me up and I need to tell him, but I'm afraid that he wont tell me how he feels and I'll just make a fool out of myself.Am I taking his actions too seriously or his text messages? Should I tell him how I feel now? Or wait until I know for certain how he feels?Please help!
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reader, monkeybuzz +, writes (13 January 2007):
I was in the same situation as you- I really thought I liked a guy/ maybe even more- I thought he was different etc. He was very hot and cold towards me, one min he would be so nice and kind, and other times he would be cold and distant and back off. Usually happened when I showed an interest. After spending many weeks thinking about him, and wondering if he liked me enough to have a relationship---
I kinda snapped out of it- and looked retrospectively-- if he really liked me he would of initiated something already, he would of said he liked me etc. I realised the guy I liked still had issues, and he still was in love with his ex g/f.
You deserve a guy who likes u 110% , not 65% (maybe if u go out with him - he might likes u 80%)-- and who is not afraid to show he likes you.
I hate mind games- its torture.
So what I did-- was delete his number- and washed him out of my life-- and I have noticed he is making more of an effort. But I'm over him and v happy. So many guys out there.
let us know how it goes
xxxx
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reader, Reebe +, writes (13 January 2007):
 Hmmm this is quite tricky.
I think he enjoyed that night and he probably did miss you. Although you don't say what you have texted him and how much you have texted him, I think maybe he has got the idea that you like him, and maybe he's a bit confused if he just see's you as a mate, then he probably doesn't want to lead you on. For now I wouldn't text him for a few days and wait and see if he gets in touch. If he doesn't then I would leave him to it. If he likes you he will get in touch but don't get hung up on it, go out and have fun and see who else is out there!
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reader, shania +, writes (13 January 2007):
 It does appear that you are more keener then him..You met up with him with some friends and he walked you home but he didn't really give much indication that he wanted you as a proper girlfriend.This is what i would do...you back off,you dont txt him or email him....nothing....make him miss you for a change,once you stop the contact he might then wonder whats happened...maybe you met someone else,who knows what he might think but iv always believed that if a guy is really keen on a girl then he will do all he can to have her.Lets see what happens....if after a while you dont hear nothing or he's not really in contact much then you will have your answer.
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