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writes: I have been dating the same guy for 3 years and feel like he really could be "the one" for me. However, i am still young and i do not want to start living the rest of my life with him just yet. Should i break up with him? I feel like if i do then i may lose him forever. I'm just not ready to start the rest of my life with one person just yet. Help... Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (13 January 2007):
 Is he pressuring you to make an everlasting commitment? ie has he proposed or something? If he hasn't he's not in any rush to make it forever either so I see no reason why you can't keep bumbling on. If you're really worried about it talk to him and explain that you love him loads but you're not ready to make a serious commitment yet. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): Ohhhhhhhhhhhh yeaaaa I will say you are very lucky having a man who is really in love with you and want to settle down with you. Please conpare to the level you are now, you have to discuss this with him to know your mind, cox if you just tell him that you are not realy to settle with him now, he will feel you dont love him that you have given your heart to another man,... and if he get to change his mind from you, you will loss him forever, cox he is looking for who to settle down with now and if not you now you lost him forever....
Think twice...and hope to helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007): I understand your feelings. "Is there something better out there?" or "Maybe I would like something a little different more, I mean you never know until you try"
It is common for these questions to arise.
My answer is trivial:
If you don't want to lose him then don't break up with him.
If you break up with him to "go fishing" then he probably isn't the one.
I don't know you or your boyfriend so you have to ask yourself questions like:
Are we compatible?
Does he treat me well?
Has he cheated on me previously (fact not suspicion)?
In my opinion, the most important questions are:
Do we make each other happy?
Do we have a possible future together?
Can I see myself spending the rest of my life with him?
And most importantly, do we love each other?
An interesting thing love is...
What are your reasons for love?
If you truly love each other you should love each other because you love that person. I am not talking about their looks, money, possessions, brains, sexuality, or even their personality. I mean deeper than that. Do you love each other because you love their: morals, thoughts, emotions, what is important to them. That’s honestly the best I can explain it. It is hard to come up with words to describe this level of love. I hope you understand what I am trying to say.
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