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writes: I am 14 years old and my ex boyfriend is telling all his friends that I had sex with him but I didn't!!! I am still a virgin and planning on being one for a long time because I think losing your virignity is a big thing. But everyone thinks I'm a total slut now ever since he has said that and I'm totally not- I'm the opposite to one!!! It's really horrible and I have no idea what to do... shall I confront my ex about it or shall I try and put his friends straight....I really don't know what to do. I need some advice and quick!!!
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reader, miss ellie-may +, writes (26 April 2006):
 bastad!!! personally id marshal ur friends, get him cornered and leave ur hand print on his lying face!!!
if ur the less violent type then at least expose the turd before all his loser friend - a few choice phrases like "why would i have sex with someone who cant even tell the difference between a kiss and an industrial suction pump" should do the trick.
he doesnt deserve pride, friends or credit, so discover ur inner bitch and take the asshole on!!!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (25 April 2006):
 I had EXACTLY the same problem as this at exactly the same age as you. Even my own friends didn't believe me the rumours were so rife.
I confronted the guy when he was with his mates and asked him straight out 'why are you telling everyone we had sex?'. When he didn't answer and turned bright red his friends knew he had been lying and never mentioned it again. If you confront this boy and his answer is 'because we did' (still lying, obviously) just reply 'yeah right, so shall we tell everyone how small your penis is as well'. The conversation will turn from whether he did it to you or whether to how small his willy is! It works honestly.
Or you could cat like a grown-up and ignore it.....much harder to do though.
Good luck
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 April 2006):
 To be honest he doesn't sound worth it. If he cared about you he wouldn't say what he said. However, if you do want to give him a chance, tell him he needs to change his story and tell the truth to his friends, otherwise you'll break up with him.
Also, just stick to your guns with your friends. Keep telling them that you haven't slept with him, and that you don't plan on sleeping with him. Tell them that he's making it up, probably just trying to look cool with his friends. You say the same thing to his friends too, they'll end up respecting you for it in the long run if you stick to your story and don't let him pressure you.
Waiting for sex is a good thing. If you wait until you're older you'll find you have a better experience, which is important as bad sexual experiences can stay with you and cause problems for you in the future. Wait until you really feel comfortable, and have been with a guy for a long time where you are sure he cares about you. And remember, teenage boys are very good at pretending to care when all they really want is to get into your pants and then go tell their friends about it ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2006): Hi Darling, Your boyfriend sounds like not the best of blokes. Hes proberly young and maybe doesnt know all that better and wants his friends to look up to him and think hes cool for having sex but hes letting people form an opinion about you that is totaly untrue. You need to stand your ground (you dont have to be so drastic but personally id finish with him and let him know its coz he's lieing to people about you) your young and without sounding like im talking down to you i doubt this is the man for you and you will be together till the end. Im 24 and have made mistakes by letting people walk over me with out taking stand so dont let the same happen to you. Plus theres plenty of nice guys your age who arent ready for sex either that you could spend your time with and form a relationship with. Good luck x
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