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writes: my parents are against my gf since shes an actress.she has taken on all kinds of roles including sexy and seductive roles and also has done sexy photo shoots.she appeared in a couple movies were she plays a hooker and in a love scene her top was exposed. it was done creatively and within the story line. my parents haven't met her at all and is judging her from her movies.my parents are very conservative and to them, this is not acceptable and is very ashamed and furious at me. ive decided to get married and they said they are not going to my wedding. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe roles that she portray in some movies were very seductive.but its in the storyline and was needed. its not done in a cheap way by any means.definitely not soft porn or i wouldn't be in the relationship.we're from manila and people there have a one track mind about actresses who do sexy roles.they call them BOLD STARS...SEXY STARS...TINTILATING STARS...etc.much like action stars but overall they're actors in the rest of the world like the U.S. the conotation for these actresses are that they sleep around with people just to get the role, or sell themselves for a higher price and etc. my girlfriends passion is acting and she loves to act!she has played comedy,action,suspense,and horror roles.but she took the daring role because it was a challenge to her to act fully and become a versatile actress.
my parents also have friends in the U.S. that hear tidbits of our relationship and we are both celebrities and they catch the news on filipino tv and they give my parents a hard time about why im dating her etc. my parents are easily ticked off when things like that happen. but everywhere we go here in manila,we get adoration and people stop to take autographs and pics with her or me. my parents care too much what other people think. overall my gf comes from a good family with morals and values.she helps her family out financially whenever they need help, takes great care of me and the people around me. she is sensitive to my needs 24/7 and has an orphanage that she has been contributing since she started in showbusiness 14 years ago.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 They do seem to be judging her for the parts she has played, but are all the parts requiring sexual or seductive behaviour, are you sure she is not actually a soft porn actress? Because you have to remeber your parents are form a different generation and as such they probably see thiese parts as slightly unclean or dirty. They are the sort of parts only a *tarty* actress would take? I DO NOT HOLD THIS VIEW!! I am just playing devils advocate here, so please don't be offended by anyhting I say.
How come they have seen her movies but they have not met her yet? How can you have decided to get married but she has not met your family yet? Something here doesn't ring quite true. Please supply more information.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): They need to meet her. You need to explain to them how much she means to you, and to give her just one chance. If this does not work, you may need to actually threaten to lose contact with your parents. If nothing else works, you need to think about who is more important to you and who you couldn't live without: the parents or the girlfriend? It probably will not coem to this, though.I really hope that your girlfriend is being supportive of this issue.. I think that could be quite a big indicator in what to do.Do the meet and greet. First impressions (the films) aren't always what count.
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