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writes: I am 16 and I started going out with boys when I was 14. Up to about 3 months ago I was a virgin although I did not mind boys doing anything else to me, I would not let them go all the way. Anyway, last December I went out with a new boy to a disco and I got a bit drunk and when I woke up the next morning I felt a bit sore down there but I did not take too much notice. I just thought he had been a bit rough with his fingers. A couple of weeks later I did not come on but I did not worry because I was only 16 and sometimes, at that age, periods don't always happen. When I missed my second period, I went to my Doctor and he tested me and has now told me that I am pregnant. That boy gave me something in my drink but I know that I can't prove it. I haven't told my Mum yet but when I look in the mirror I am sure my belly is getting bigger. The boy I went with that night has long gone and I do not know what to do. I do not know whether to keep everything secret, have an abortion and stay at school or to tell my Mum and Dad and have the baby. Have any of you been in this position and what did you do?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 God bothers united. You can prove anything you want by quoting the bible, and I mean ANUTHING. Guilt is not what she came for she came for advice.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (7 March 2006):
 I want to rebuff the absolute diatrabe of religous crap that an anonymous, bible quoting Christian has posted.
Rather than relying on an out of date text that is increasingly irrelevant, you need to rely on YOUR OWN judgement and logic, not those of others who will try and push the views of make-believe deities (hint: really their own).
So have a long hard thing and do what's right for you, but do not let yourself be swayed by anonymous, bible-bashing fools.
Sadly today's American Christian Fundamentalists are a growing danger to the free thinking of this world.
It's your body and if you want to terminate this pregnancy then I wish you all the luck in the world!
HBF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): Having sex with someone who is unable to consent is RAPE!!!You should tell your parents and report this young man to the authorities. It will not be easy but if he has done it to you and I am certain he has done this to others. As for keeping the baby or not that is a difficult decision that you will have to make for yourself soon. Ask for your parents and friends advise and support but ultimately you must choose for yourself and accept that decision. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): Please, please, please do not have an abortion. It is a decision that you will regret for the rest of your life. Yes, there will be pain and heartache in the short term by having the baby. But, you will get past it. That baby is a baby, and not just an accident. That child is a person who just happens not to be born yet. I'll quote the Old Testament book of Psalm which proves that every conceived child is a person whom God knows:
Psalm 138:
If I say, "Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,"
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to [b] me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
When I awake,
I am still with you.
I am praying for you that God will give you the wisdom and the courage to do the right thing. Finally, know that this is one of the most important decisions of your life. When you are 80 years old, you will look back on this time and realize how important it is to have saved that child's life.
Also, read this from the following website:
http://www.priestsforlife.org/brochures/counsel.html
ARE YOU IN A CRISIS PREGNANCY?
ARE YOU SUFFERING THE EFFECTS OF AN ABORTION?
HELP IS AVAILABLE !! YOU HAVE A FRIEND!
Counseling for Abortion Alternatives
Nurturing Network 800-TNN-4MOM
Pregnancy Hotline 800-848-LOVE
Bethany Christians Services. 800-238-4269
Several Sources Foundation 800-NO-ABORT
It's often difficult to know where to turn when you are pregnant and afraid.
Well-meaning friends and acquaintances may recommend abortion as the easiest solution to a difficult situation. Yet we at Priests For Life have received hundreds of calls from women who have made this choice and later regretted it.
A November 1994 Reader Digest article by Mary Cunningham Agee reported that 91% of women surveyed in post-abortion interviews stated that they would have carried their child to term if the support had been there. Items most frequently mentioned were help with medical bills, ability to continue in her career or education, and most importantly, understanding from family, friends, and the father of the child.
Priests for Life wants to do what we can to help connect you with the people and resources which can make the choice for life a practical one, as well as a loving one for you and your baby, regardless of your financial or social situation.
The Church's response: Radical solidarity with the woman
Click here for a simple handout providing numbers for abortion alternatives and post-abortion counseling
Pregnancy Centers Online
www.pregnancycenters.org
America’s Crisis Pregnancy Helpline
800-67-BABY-6
Heartbeat International
Visit www.heartbeatinternational.org to see their Worldwide Directory of Life Affirming Pregnancy Service Providers, with about 4000 listings and updated monthly.
America’s Crisis Pregnancy Helpline 800-67-BABY-6
Birthright 800-550-4900
Good Counsel Homes 800 723-8331
Also, please call the crisis pregancy center for help.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (6 March 2006):
You didnt get spiked, you messed with alcohol and this unfortunately is what happens.
You need to confide insomeone who can help you as you probably only have a short time frame in which to react now if you wish to terminate the pregnancy.
Next time have a little more self respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): I am in that position at the moment. I was spiked at a party and am having a termination next week. I'm 25 and am still scared - I chose not to tell my parents, but have spoken to a close friend who has been fantastic.
You need to go to the doctor and discuss the options available. If you feel abortion is the best answer, then get the right support and go in that direction, if it isn't what you want to do, speak to your parents and you could be surprised with their reaction. It takes a very strong person to take on a child which is a result of a rape, and no one will think any less of you if you decide on an abortion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2006): Dont have the kid. You should try to finish school and sort things out first. You are pretty young to have to deal with being a parent and it will only limit you in the long run. Talk to your parents, and try to tell someone about that boy because that is an illegal offense and he is underage as well it sounds.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (5 March 2006):
 i think you really need to speak to your parents. who ever you think well take it better. because what happen to you is rape and the guy who did it shouldnt be allowed to get away with it. i think you should go to police it might be hard and they may not be able to make a case, you should still try as this will maybe stop him and help you get over it in a process. you should really think about whether you wish to keep the child as its your decision in the end. but please speak to someone about it you shouldnt have to face this on your own
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