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writes: Hi my name is Jessica im 14 and i think i might be pregnant.but i dont know im too afraid to go to a clinic and get checked out so i know for sure.I am like 4-5 days late and i dont want to tell my mom because she might like hate me and stuff.I cant afford to buy a pregnancy test,because i dont have a job.what should i do?Jessica
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reader, agony-aunt15 +, writes (25 March 2006):
 hi don't worry if your pregnant there are loadz of women widhing the concieve having a baby is a blessing and you are blessed that you know that you can concieve your mom isn't going to throw you out of the house but first make sure you get a pregnancy test first bye shauna
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2006): hey babes go to a chemist n buy a test seriously like just try get one of ur really good mates to give u the money and pay them back or ask the boy who you had sex with to help you, but the way you really should have just used a condom
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 Look you can get money together for a test. Or you can go to your GP and get tested there. Or you can sit back, bury your head in the sand and hey presto in 9 months you have a baby. Tell your Mum because she will find out eventually anyway and at least she can help you thru this.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (7 March 2006):
 Hey Jessica,
Well I’ve been where you are now? so firstly don't panic, being 4-5 days late is very likely to happen in the first 3 years of your period.
Secondly I think you should speak to your partner as if you are pregnant this is something you both have to face. but you should go to the clinic soon as possible as if you had unprotected sex/the condom spilt/your on the pill you not only risk pregnancy but also Sti's, Std's or HIV. I personally recommend you go to a family planning clinic as you don't have to give them your name or address if you don’t wish to they won't contact you parents either.
I understand you not wishing to tell your mother because I never told my mum until I lost my baby. But if you and your mother have a strong bond then she won't hate you. She be upset and May not deal with there but she'll be there for you.
Jessica you’re very young for a sexual relationship you should enjoy your youth sex just bring complications.
When you do go to the clinic do speak to the about other forms of protection such as a coil or implant or injections.
I hope all goes well for you, all the best Jessica
Cherelle
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reader, juliagulia +, writes (7 March 2006):
 Can you ask a trusted friend for the money to buy an over the counter test? I think it may be best for you to at least try to be somewhat sure before you talk to your mom about it. I sincerely believe that when you are worried about not getting your period, it tends to be late. Also, it could be stress from school or personal relationships. If you find out you are pregnant, then I suggest you talk to your mom immediately because you are going to need some help. You are too young to support a baby, which means if you decide to keep the baby, your family will have to help you and they have a right to know as soon as possible so they can advise you and help you make some decisions. But for now, I would say that you should try to take a test on your own before you bring this up because you might regret saying something if you find out you are not pregnant. If you cannot borrow the money from a friend to buy a test, then you will have to talk to your mom and let her help you get one. In the future, you should practice more caution and use contraceptives so you can avoid this kind of trouble.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (7 March 2006):
 My advice is go to a clinic and tell your mum.
Don't be too scared - I mean, 4-5 days late does not necessarilly mean you are pregnant, but it does need to be checked out.
Clinics are there for these sorts of situations and they are not going to be mean or scary. They will help you first of all, establish if you are pregnant and then, if you are, they will be able to help you with advice and options. They are qualified people who are to help the public.
If you don't do anything, you will freak and worry yourself out. You need to know what the deal is and what options you have to deal with it.
Either way, your mum is not going to hate you. She may be upset but she will not hate you.
But please, get yourself tested because that is the first step.
Good luck
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reader, ferraro-lisa +, writes (7 March 2006):
well first of all periods come at different times for different reasons, you may not of started bcoz of stress or just bcoz of hormones... its best to get checked out... the ladies in the clinic do not judge you and definatly keep it all confidential....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): Go to a doctor/clinic, asap, take a friend/sister you can trust, the sooner you know the truth the better, it'll give you more choices in the longrun. In future use contraception!!1
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): The longer you leave it before going to see a doctor, the more the fear will build up and the more out of hand it will become.
Firstly, going to see the doctor about this is not half as bad as you think it will be. Trust me on this. They are confidential and have seen it all before. They will not judge you and are there to help you. Take a friend that you know you can trust.
If you are pregnant then they will help you deal with that and give you ALL of the options. I think that only if it comes to this do you need to tell your mum, although other people will say otherwise.
The worry will build up day by day. Please go to your clinic soon. Believe me, I have been in your situation, it is not as bad as it seems right now. We all get ourselves into scrapes! It's part of life!
You know what is logical.
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