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writes: our sex life is drying up, we have always been quite experimental with positions but we always do the same 5 or 6, am i just being too demanding?ive got a vibratior and we use that as an aid during sex but im still bored.please help!!!!!!!!!! xXx
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 There is always somethjing that can be done differently in every aspect of our lives. You need to chillout a bit. Take it slow and just enjoy each sexcual encounter as it happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): me again, i've asked him once to do it and he said he didn't want to so i left it, i've never brought it up again, i think this is respecting what he has said. i understand that he might not have a fantasy but unless i am amazing and perfect and i satisfy his every need in bed then there will always be something that i could do differently.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (8 March 2006):
Some people just do not have sexual fantasies, and this is just the way they are! It doesnt mean they do not feel sexual, just they dont make up things to stimulate themselves. If he doesnt want to do this you cannot force him. To be truthful it sounds as though you may be sexually incompatable and this will cause problems for you in the long term.
He may just not be comfortable with *pretending* so dont make things worse by pressuring him into something he just doesnt want to do. And no, it is not weird to be like this. We are all individuals and we all have different wants and needs, and I think you may need to respect what he has said.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2006): me again, ive told my bf my fantasy (i want him to take total control of me do what he likes to me) but he doesnt want to do it, he says he doesnt feel comfortable with it, ive asked him his fantasy but he says he doesnt have one, i fink this is really weird there must be something he wants me to do! he is always open when we talk about sex.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (2 March 2006):
 Get some books and dvd`s out on sexual techniques, learn some new positions and go buy some new sex aids, you are most mens dream, so do a bit of fantasy fulfilling, men like it when you tell them yor fantasy and make it come alive.
You get out of sex what you put in so if you want to make the effort the rewards will come flooding in, that`s of course if he appreciates and wants your efforts, if not ditch him for one who has the same sexual appetite as you as sex is for you really important to your relationship.
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reader, juliagulia +, writes (2 March 2006):
 Maybe you are bored because there is not much chemistry there. Rather than looking for ways to spice up the sex you are having, look for ways to be more excited by your partner. Try doing some different things together that you have not experienced before. Try going to a strip club, even, and see if that gets you riled up. Play some sexy games. Think about what makes you feel sexy or what turns you on about your partner and play up those aspects. Talk to each other about your fantasies and see what evolves. Do some role play - meet at a bar and act like strangers hooking up for the first time. Just be creative!
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