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writes:Ok. I know you're going to say "Forget him" and "that's just stupid" but im still going to write it. I am 14 (nearly 15)years old, and i am crushing on my teacher who is 25 and is single. I am now in year 10 (14, nearly 15 years old). in year 8, (13 years old at the time) i had some lessons with this teacher for about 7 weeks! i know it sounds stupid, but i think i may have fallen for him. he is good looking, and is incredibly funny. he has a fantastic personality, and makes me laugh every time we see each other. he made it clear to me i was his favourite. i always got nervous around him, and he was the best teacher ever, because he never acted like a teacher, more like one of us. whenever someone asked him for help, he would always say "in a minute, im talking to (my name)" he would always just spend lessons talking to me, and would always help me first. he always called me funny, and said i had a fantastic personality. we always had a mini joke whenever we saw each other, and i always used to say "ahh, i love (his name!) as you do say you love something. but as i said it, i felt something more. like i really was in love with him. last year, i always missed him, and i felt like a part of me was missing (yeah, i know it sounds stupid) and whenever i got sent to go and get something from one of his lessons (i always volunteered) he would always say "ahh, hows my (my name) doing today? come in, come in" and would always say "no, stay and talk to me for a while!" and he always says "i miss you (my name)" i dream about him all the time, and always wake up smiling! :)this year, i am helping out with a school interform (mini class competition for years younger than me. he is always helping me, and had the biggest smile on his face when he saw me. he came over to me and said "(my name), youre helping? im going to love interform! youre staying with me!" and sits with me ALL the time in the interform! he jokes with me and said to me "yanno (my name), i really do miss you. i hardly ever see you any more." he handed me the bats one by one, and each time, he'd brush my hand with his, look at our hands, look at my face (which was smiling) and smile back at me and slightly blush. and when he said to me "ill see you this time tomorrow for interform" he winked at me, and put his hand in the small of my back!i know this may sound crazy, but do you think there is a small chance he may like me back. i know this sounds crazy! i really like him, and i think he may like me back! has anyone else in this position? and what do you think i should do?
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reader, KatyD123 +, writes (28 October 2010):
KatyD123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question loftusashley12- thank you! its good to know im not the only one in this situation! we should defo help each other out! want to talk about your problem, im here! thank you :)
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reader, loftusashley12  +, writes (28 October 2010):
I am in the same boat with you! I'm 15 now and my teacher is 30. I know excalty how you feel! It is a horrible feeling when you are away from them. And when you're with them, it's so hard to be sad! Maybe we can help eachother out! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Of course you're not crazy for liking him! Sometimes, older teachers are the most attractive guys to young girls. But even though it's okay to feel this way, it's NOT okay to act on your feelings. I have totally been in your situation, I had this immense crush on my math teacher last year and I still think about it often. But still, I never ever thought about actually acting on my feelings, I just enjoyed my fantasies. It was fun, but it'll never happen. So yeah, have fun with it! It's not a bad thing at all! Just don't do anything stupid. PS, that part when you said he touched your hand and your back...that's sort of strange. If you ask me, you should probably back off a little. Even if you're probably enjoying it, it's not right for a teacher to be touching students like that, even if it's all friendly and nothing weird.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): I don't think you're crazy for liking him. I think we all have had some kind of "crush" on one of our teachers when we are young. I know I certainly did. But thinking it could turn into more or the teacher will reciprocate the feelings is something likely never to happen nor should it be pursued.
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reader, KatyD123 +, writes (12 October 2010):
KatyD123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust like to point out, im not planning on starting a relationship with him. i was wondering if i was crazy for liking him, and whether someone else has been in my situation? any advice would be greatly received.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): I believe you are so infatuated by this man that you have deluded yourself into believing him to "love" you. It's also highly probable that you do not understand love. Don't cause him to lose his professional and personal life because of your infatuation. Just go on with your life.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Stay away. The only way he'd like you is if he was a pedophile, and then he would go to jail. It is illegal, it would get him fired (and thrown in jail) and basically ruin his life. Plus I guarantee you he's not interested. Find a hobby, do something to distance yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): He may like you as just a "good kid" (ie friend). But I doubt he feels the same emotionally about you as you do about him. And even if somehow he did feel the same about you, it would be professional (and personal) suicide for him to ever act on it. We all have crushes when we are younger. But it's for your best to just forget about him that way.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 October 2010):
There is no chance of him liking you back unless he is a sex offender, as you are a child, under the legal age and you are in his care. It would be totally illegal for anything to happen at all, and he would be jailed as a paedophile, he would be banned from nearly all jobs and his life would be ruined. You would be expelled from school. How do I know this? It happened to a girl in my school. Her and the teacher had a relationship, he was fired and became a sex offender, the girl was expelled.
He is a teacher, you are a student and that's it. Sorry to burst the bubble, but if anything were to happen, his life would be ruined. And I'm sure you don't want that. Enjoy his company, admire him, but don't ever think of taking it further.
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