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writes:Hey, I'm a 22 year old guy and would just like to know why I still find teenagers attractive, nothing under legal age of course, just barely legal really turns me on. My last few girlfriends have all been 16, it's not that I don't find girls my own age attractive, just the younger ones are just so much more attractive to me, am I on my way to being a paedophile or what? Help. Reply to this Question
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (14 October 2010):
 16 year old girls are much more easily impressed..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 While is true that men are genetically programmed to be attracted to women in their fertile years- it's a common misconception that the age of max. fertility is 16.
The age of max. fertility is 20 to 25.
Nowadays, girls are hitting puberty sooner and sooner , but just 70 or 80 years ago ( long time,but not eons ) a 16 y.o. girl had just barely reached the age for their first menstruation.
So, the "biological imperative" has got nothing to do with it.
It's more a psychological thing. Men mature more slowly. and a 22 y.o. man is often still very much a kid at heart. Plus , he feels better,and more confident, with a younger woman. She is much more easily impressed, much less demanding sexually , ( he'd be the expert one ) ,much willing to take the lead in the couple, much less discriminating in her choices.....all in all ,much less maintenance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): It may be looked at as on the thin line of acceptable at the moment but that will change very soon in a couple of years time as you get older. What I am concerned about is that you actively seek out these 16 year old girls, you like their vulnerability but what is the next stop? 15 and you can reassure yourself its only a year away from 16? You need to start having healthy relationships with girls your own age, by just focusing on that young age group will lead to bigger problems in your future.
I am doing a psychology degree.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): I always think it's men who aren't mature enough for women their own age so they feel in their comfort zone dating younger women. Or it's easier to impress them.
I mean, if you dated a woman your own age most will find only you having a great job, your own place and car impressive and will be a lot more mature, obviously. Common 16 year old girls will find you buying them alcohol impressive, or the odd gift now and again. It's easier I admit. I think once you get a little older and more mature you'll find women a little older more attractive.
As long as it's legal and you're not like a billion years older like some people nowadays then it's fine! But as we all know everybody has different views/opinions on the matter.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 It sounds like what you're attracted to is vulnerability and naivete, not to mention the fact that 16 year old girls are easier to impress than 22-25 year old women. When I see someone around my age dating a girl that's barely out of high school, I figure he's either a bit immature and can't find a woman of his own age to date or is only after one thing. This may not apply to you, but in my experience, this is usually the case.
Personally, I don't agree with those saying it's acceptable because it's legal. Biology is also no excuse, in this day and age a 16 year old is in a different stage of life than a 22 year old. Some say men are biologically programmed to cheat as well, but that doesn't justify cheating, does it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): This is just a wild guess, but maybe you are naturally attracted to women who are at their most naturally fertile ages? Strange concept, I know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Because you are a normal human male I would be horribly frightened if you did not find a pubescent woman attractive.You, as has been said, biologically programmed to want to mate with women who are the most likely to fall pregnant and that is women of that age onwards.It is a relatively modern thing that has made it morally decadent to entertain such desires. It is certainly going against every biological function we, as men, have.So long as it's all legal and said partner is ready and willing to handle an adult relationship (and yes at 16 you are fully capable of it) then I see no problems here.But you are, in my humble opinion, severely limiting yourself. Why limit yourself to one age bracket. There are attractive women of all ages. In fact some of the best looking ones are in their 30's and 40's... like Monica Bellucci... oh my how I dig her.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): You're a 22yr old British male that likes 16/17 year olds.
OMG who doesn't!
6 years difference.. but as we know, women mature faster than men in this country..
You're not breaking any laws going out with girls this age but where are you going to go?? Can't go to pub, can't get into an 18Cert movie at the Showcase... What do you want to do?
Try talking to women your age, do you have an girls that are friends..
20 something girls are fun, and I'll bet you more fun than hanging around the park with a 16 yr old..
I just think you're in the middle of boy to man.. good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): It's legal in the UK since 16 is the age of concent so go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): heyy,
im only 16 and im dateing a 26yr old,
theres nothing wrong with this in my eyes just becareful of what you do and who with, this way no harm will come of it :)
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reader, Natalie:) +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Maybe your into the whole dominant male thing? So you just like the idea of a girl who is sort of smaller/less worldly because it makes her subordinate and submissive in your mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): I wouldn't say you were a paedophile but i do think you should date girls who are around your age. 16 is very very young and as you get older you can't keep dating 16 year olds. Is it just you find them physically appealing or is it that they are more easy to manipulate? I don't mean any offence by that i just find the idea very uncomfortable and i really think you should think about what you're doing. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): I'm not sure about your country, but in mine the legal age is 16 for boys and 17 for girls! So I think you may have already broken the law. You are aged 22-25. Being with a 16 year old is just wrong for your age. Your a man! How would you feel if you had a kid sister dating a 22-25 year old? It's not right, if I were you id seek counseling!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 October 2010):
 You need to back off the teenagers, as you're definitely going to be viewed as a pervert. It's unhealthy to have a fixation on such young girls. You should ask yourself why, because women in their 20's are "young and beautiful" as well. Are you sure it's not because they seem vulnerable or because of the personality of being very young/naive? If you find that you are incapable of being attracted to women your own age, I highly recommend you get help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): The real question is why you don't find more mature women attractive, that is, women more your age.
Are you threatened by women who have some experience, not just in sex but in life?
Really, a 22 year old with a 16 year old, that's pretty lame when a 22 year old woman with some life experience (not to mention some sexual experience) can be much more fulfilling in a relationship.
Just my Holy Opinion.
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reader, Odds +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Technically, the word is "ephebophile," but I get your point.
Men are programmed by evolution to be attracted to youth and fertility. Physically speaking, that's in the age range you're talking about.
Morally, however, the pressures of modern sex are (correctly, I believe) viewed to be too much for girls in that age range, so we have age of consent laws. Here in the states, they vary from 16-18, but the idea is the same.
You're not unhealthy, or psychologically messed up. Just keep following those laws, and don't date anyone (of any age) who you think is not emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship.
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