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No replies yet... 8 May 2018: Hello all, Im not quite sure why but I had a little urge to write something about a great fear of commitment that I used to experience, in case maybe it can help someone who is going through similar or has their own story to share. This is a...
Thank you DC!
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23 October 2016: Hello to everyone of Dearcupid, I'd just like to say a massive thank you to everyone I've ever come into contact both receiving help from or giving help to over the time that I've used this website. I first started using DC back in 2011, w...
Why not everyone we find ourselves emotionally invested in is made for us
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14 August 2016: I watched a film a few days ago you may of heard of, '500 days of summer'. I had it recommended to me by a friend who knew of the bizarre situation I was in with a girl I know. I thought a rom com isn't really my idea of fun but thought what the ...
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Is this guy genuine?
Q. Hi there i'm in a bit of a dilema..i think. I'm a 19 year old female who started seeing a 24 year old male in April. We met at a nightclub i was outside in the smoking area with a friend when he walked past also with a friend. He stared at me as he...
A. 7 November 2011: Sounds extremely weird why he's suffering such serious injuries all of the time. Also how nervous he acted on the first meeting with the twitching eye.
Is there anything that suggests he may be involved with drugs? Sounds like he's been beaten o... (read in full...)
Love bites or hickeys?
Q. hi i was writing to get some tips. i'm 15 and it seems alot of people my age are giving 'hichys' or love bites to their partners. and that's what i'm worried about the thing is i don't know how to give them :S. i'm worried about doing it wrong when ...
A. 7 November 2011: Why would you want to give one? They look horrible and very cheap. Can't really imagine many girls who would enjoy having one!... (read in full...)
FWB: do any of you think that we will ever be together properly? Or am I wasting my time?
Q. Hi everyone this is my situation I have been in a fwb sort of situation for about 8 months now. Naturally I want more than this. So to find out how he really felt about me I made him jealous he came around one morning and I told him I had a date comi...
A. 6 November 2011: Sounds like you're wasting your time to me - as 'so very confused' said if he wanted a relationship he'd do it right now.
Definately don't have sex with him again until you're official.
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I cheated to find out if I really love my girlfriend
Q. Ok, this is a pretty big problem. Me and my gf have been together for 7 months now. Well the 7th Month was the shittiest ever. We had no sex what so ever and she was totally strange the whole time. We can only see eachother on the weekends because ...
A. 6 November 2011: This is about the stupidest thing I've ever heard, you cheated to find out whether you love your gf still?
So what if she dumps you, that's your own fault, why the hell would you cheat to come to this conclusion??
Its up to you whether your con... (read in full...)
If you received or read a text like this what would you think?
Q. If you had sent a general innocent comment to a male friend about some hedgerow cutting and he would have been genuinely interested to hear about it (and your female) and they replied 'bout time to' (I must admit I like a well trimmed bush) would ...
A. 5 November 2011: I agree with dark heart, that's how I'd take it.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to set a mood for my first time?
Q. I'm planning to lose my virginity to my boyfriend in the not-too-distant future, but while I'm excited about the prospect I know I'm going to be pretty nervous too! I'd like to create an atmosphere in the bedroom (nothing too extravagent - maybe ...
A. 4 November 2011: Do whatever you would like to that will make it special and as comfortable as possible for you. He will definately understand.... (read in full...)
Do guys eventually give up if the girl wont have sex with them?
Q. do players get turned off by girls who don't want to have sex with them straightaway? surely at some point they lose interest and give up on a girl who won't give them what they want?...
A. 3 November 2011: A player will yes, a guy worth your time won't.... (read in full...)
Gf lied and decieved me however has alot of underlying issues, should I stay?
Q. my gf and i have gone through a very rough patch recently when i found out she had been lying to me for months and texting and talking with another man along with sending semi nude photos to him and telling the man she loved him and he her. i am not ...
A. 30 October 2011: N0, y0u sh0uldnt stay, t0 me: this is cheating. Maybe0ther p0sters feel differently, but when y0ure in a relati0nship, at n0 p0int sh0uld y0u be texting pictures 0f y0urself t0 0ther pe0ple 0r telling them that y0u l0ve them.
0f c0urse her dis0... (read in full...)
My SOS (someone special) has a girlfriend!! Move on, or wait it out?
Q. So, I am very attracted to this guy that works for my Dad. Five weeks ago, we started talking. I think he is absolutely amazing. He is everything I think I want in a man. He is absolutely adorable, charming, and very sweet. He is just as attracted ...
A. 27 October 2011: Two things, you either put it out there that you like him and want to be in a relationship, and he either breaks up with his gf to be with you, or he stays with her. That's when it could get awkward and you may fall out of contact.
On the other ha... (read in full...)
I prefer giving rather than receiving! How common is this?
Q. Well I got a question, not really a problem. I like to give oral to my girlfriend, more then to get oral. Most of the people I know it's the other way around. anyone of you can recall this? ...
A. 26 October 2011: I'm the same, I could take or leave oral. Get more kicks out of giving.... (read in full...)
When does the ugly duckling stage pass? Need it to happen
Q. Hi, I haven't known too many girls who've suffered from ugly duckling syndrome but I do know it's out there. When does this stage usually pass? I had acne but I took accutane, I'm beginning to lose weight and currently I have braces. Through ...
A. 23 October 2011: Like m00's mum said, its ab0ut self c0nfidence. F0rget this 'phase', just play the hand y0uve beeu dealt! L0ve y0urself and l00k 0ut f0r number 0ne!
Y0ure the m0st imp0rtant pers0n in y0ur life! Sh0w it!
... (read in full...)
Girls: What did she mean? "We are too close for anything like that to happen."
Q. Hi there, i'd love a lovely lady to please translate this into male speak, "We are too close for anything like that to happen." Was in relation to a date. To me that seems like a perfect reason to try dating but apparently women don't think like...
A. 22 October 2011: She sees you more of a 'brother' than 'potential lover'... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my FWB about my feelings for him?
Q. Hi everyone here is my problem me and this man are fwb, I wanted more and I told him but he didn't say anything back. he treats me quite badly, we arrange for me to stay at his and then he forgets all about it. we arrange a night out then when the ...
A. 21 October 2011: Why do you want to tell him your feelings? You're a booty call, the only thing you should be telling him is to f**k off and move yourself onto someone who respects you!... (read in full...)
What should I do about this guy my girlfriend is hanging out with?
Q. So my gf meet this guy on a dating sight just like she meet me. But this guy is 30 and says age is just a number. He buys her whatever she wants and she hangs out with him i know she hates this guy. SO DO I. But he keeps touchin her and picks her ...
A. 21 October 2011: Why is your gf using a dating website when she has a bf? I'd dump this girl immediately, sounds like she could jump ship at any moment as she's materialistic.... (read in full...)
I'd like to let him know how I feel
Q. I went on a "date" with a man tonight. We went out for dinner, and played pool, spent a good 4 hours together, talking and laughing the whole time. He has made me dinner twice in the past month, and we have casually gone to the driving range once ...
A. 19 October 2011: Exactly that..tell him that you enjoy spending time with him but would now like to move past friends and into a relationship.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I convince her that I'm worth it?
Q. I am currently trying to mend a relationship that ended because she freaks out at any sign of commitment. We still talk everyday and hang out, she said she doesn't want anything but then says she wants to try and that she really likes me. every time ...
A. 19 October 2011: Didn't you ask this yesterday?
There's nothing you can do, if she liked you enough, she'd be dating you.... (read in full...)
Honest opinions: Are all boys like this over oral sex or is he out of order?
Q. hi, have been with my bf for 5 years. we are both 26. we keep on having the same arguement ALL the time its regarding oral sex and we he nearly finished our relationship over it a couple of weeks ago. bjs are really important to him but i re...
A. 18 October 2011: Not on at all. Very much agree with all other posters.... (read in full...)
I neeed HELP!!!!!! virgin about to make biggest mistake of his life!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Q. My friend is 19 and a virgin. We are both going to the same college. He met this girl at a school party and she gave him head over the weekend. She later asked how many gilrs he has been with and he said 0. Her roomate is leaving this week and she ...
A. 18 October 2011: Nothing at all, at the end of the day it's his decision. Sure, you're his friend looking out for him, but after a while of being a virgin it can become a despiration to lose it, maybe this is the case here maybe not. But either way he's gotta make ... (read in full...)
What do you think, is it over? What would you do?
Q. Dear Cupid My question links on from this previous question... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-relationship-was-amazing-and-now-i-need.html Basically I gave my gf space for five days. Come Saturday I left her a voicemail saying I ho...
A. 18 October 2011: No other choice than to ask her mate, you will never know how she feels until you do.
You're in limbo atm, there's only one way too find out what the state of your relationship is.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
B/f wants to give me oral sex but I feel insecure about it
Q. Hi :) So just wanted to talk about a problem im having and hope you guys can offer some reassurance.. Iv been dating a guy for about 3 months now and its all going great. we've been sleeping together for about a month now and really care about ...
A. 18 October 2011: Just lie back and enjoy, be happy you've found a guy that wants to go down as pretty much every guy I've spoken to about it tells me they hate it and won't do it!
Let's be honest, it doesn't taste like fine cuisine, but it doesn't taste bad eith... (read in full...)
She says she wants to be friends, doesn't want to lead me on
Q. I was recently with a girl. It took me a lot to get her, she has committment problems because of a past relationship. She tends to push people that make her happy away, like me. All was going well until she ignored me for a week. When she did talk ...
A. 18 October 2011: You can't, simple as that. She has told you she doesn't want a boyfriend - I've been told this one in the past and it usually translates to 'I don't want YOU as a boyfriend' - There's obviously not enough chemistry there for her to change her ... (read in full...)
Relationship of 12 years not going anywhere, so I'm cheating and want to be with that girl
Q. I,ve been in a relationship 4 12 years now but the relationship doesnt seem to be going anywere. recently i,ve been seeing someone else behind her back, shes allot younger than me, when ever i see her i feel complete, ive even risked a kiss and ...
A. 13 October 2011: You should have left her already then. No reason to cheat.... (read in full...)
Is age really just a number
Q. Hello Cupids. Im a little curious about your opinions. Today I found out a boy I use to go to school with likes me, hes really nice and everything I don't know him all that well. He gave me his number today and well the only thing that is...
A. 13 October 2011: If you like him, go for it, why would that age difference matter? There will be people who are in a relationship with 33 year age gaps, never mind 3.
Give it a chance and see where you end up!... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: What a great story that would be to tell all his mates. No, this is completely wrong, and pretty sick that he wants to involve his brother.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is not virgin! How do I forgive her?
Q. i have a relation with a girl since march 2011. after 2 months when she come to know that i love her, she told me that she is not virgin. she cried the whole night and told me that she was force by her ex-boyfriend when she was having a severe ...
A. 13 October 2011: Surely this is a joke? She's told you she was forced to have saex, which is basically rape. And you're asking how do you 'forgive' her?
I know you're from an entirely different culture being from india and there's different viewpoints on things f... (read in full...)
Does this profile picture mean she's in a relationship?
Q. Hi. This girl I really like uploaded a profile picture on Facebook with her smiling in a photo with a boy. I'm not added as a friend so I can't see her relationship status. Does this mean that she's likely in a relationship? Why else would she u...
A. 7 October 2011: If you're too shy to send her a friends request, why does it matter? Not like you'll be speaking to her...
Just man up, add her and speak to her!
'Hey, you look familiar, where do I know you from?' Then let the conversation flow
Good luc... (read in full...)
Don't want to scare him away. But how can I drive him wild and make him fall for me? Any reliable strategies please?
Q. I've known this guy for about a year now, we've been just friends, but recently he's been texting me about hooking up and being friends with benefits. But he even said a couple times that it would just be fun, nothing serious; so I guess that mean...
A. 6 October 2011: No no no no no no no NO!
FWB is a terrible idea, believe me, I've been there and fell for this girl so hard. She didn't feel the same and I don't speak to her anymore. It was so hard to get over her, then I found out she was seeing somebody... (read in full...)
If men want their women to look like porn stars, why don't us women care that our men don't look like porn stars??
Q. I'm 25, and I'm here to discuss pornography and men. Some but not all men complain their women don't look like porn stars/models etc. but how come women don't do the opposite and ask for 6-packs/chiselled bodies / big penises etc? Or if they do,...
A. 5 October 2011: I literally have never met anyone who thinks like that.....not quite sure what people you know that obsess over their other half looking like a porn star.
Personality Looks... (read in full...)
How do guys act when they like the same woman?
Q. Can anyone tell me why two guys that like the same woman (and both know the other likes the same woman)would ignore each other when they run into each other in a public place? They know each other. They both had opportunities to talk to each other ...
A. 5 October 2011: They're not going to be civil to each other when they're both fighting for the affections of the same woman.
It would be incredibly awkward for them to stop and have a chat when there's a serious issue between them both.... (read in full...)
Is my FWB toying with me? Should I wait and see what he does or should I just ignore him and get over it?
Q. I've had a FWBs relationship with a guy for a little over a year now, I've asked for advice on here before but now there is a different problem I seem to cant understand. He has recently become more affectionate with me and openly telling me he wa...
A. 4 October 2011: He's really messing you around by the sound of things, you can either up front ask him what he wants from you or simply end it and move on, doesn't sound like he's worth chasing to me if he treats you this way.... (read in full...)
Am I just over analyzing things and should I keep on, or is this one a lost cause already?
Q. Hey Guys, So I'm back again with a new question... Okay, so I knew of a girl beforehand never spoken to her before though and after a night out, she sent me a friend request on fbook, so I accepted as I think she's a good looking girl and wo...
A. 3 October 2011: Well this hasn't turned out so great, the player (who's also a very good friend of mine) ended up sleeping with this girl this weekend just gone.
Felt like she'd lost interest anyway, I've tried talking to her since and what not and it's always m... (read in full...)
Men: Who hasn't cheated? I'd like to know why.
Q. Are there any men out there that have NEVER cheated on their girlfriend, or wife? I mean - no form of cheating. No online flirting, no emotional cheating .. etc. If so, what made you stay faithful? ...
A. 3 October 2011: Isn't that obvious? They love their partner and aren't interested in anyone else.
Simple as that.... (read in full...)
Am I just over analyzing things and should I keep on, or is this one a lost cause already?
Q. Hey Guys, So I'm back again with a new question... Okay, so I knew of a girl beforehand never spoken to her before though and after a night out, she sent me a friend request on fbook, so I accepted as I think she's a good looking girl and wo...
A. 29 September 2011: Hahaha! Yeah sorry about that. 2 it is :)
Thanks!... (read in full...)
Am I just over analyzing things and should I keep on, or is this one a lost cause already?
Q. Hey Guys, So I'm back again with a new question... Okay, so I knew of a girl beforehand never spoken to her before though and after a night out, she sent me a friend request on fbook, so I accepted as I think she's a good looking girl and wo...
A. 29 September 2011: You wouldn't think she'd want to meet up with a guy who a womanizer though, she will know his rep and what he's after, so maybe she's in the same boat. I don't know maybe I'm just over thinking again lol
Ill give it a few more shots, as this has... (read in full...)
Am I just over analyzing things and should I keep on, or is this one a lost cause already?
Q. Hey Guys, So I'm back again with a new question... Okay, so I knew of a girl beforehand never spoken to her before though and after a night out, she sent me a friend request on fbook, so I accepted as I think she's a good looking girl and wo...
A. 29 September 2011: Yeah that's a very good point cindy, I was thinking this in the back of my mind a little myself. That's why I was kinda bummed about it.
When we were out she did things to imply that she was interested, she was always dancing real close and kept... (read in full...)
Am I just over analyzing things and should I keep on, or is this one a lost cause already?
Q. Hey Guys, So I'm back again with a new question... Okay, so I knew of a girl beforehand never spoken to her before though and after a night out, she sent me a friend request on fbook, so I accepted as I think she's a good looking girl and wo...
A. 29 September 2011: Thanks guys, that's made me feel better, I was ready to just leave it at that. Any thoughts on her going to the cinema with other people though? Considering we were going to sort some plans out, seems a little odd that she would make plans elsewhere ... (read in full...)
Seems like every girl loves him. He flirts. What should I do? Don't want to appear jealous.
Q. I really like a boy and I know he loves me. But it seems like every girl loves him. He knows it too. It really makes me feel insecure and jealous when he flirts with other girls. Is it normal for a boy to do this? Am I overreacting? I'm afraid that...
A. 27 September 2011: If he loves you then why is he:
A: Flirting with other girls
B: Not your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend drinks a lot. Am I right to be worried?
Q. What should i do? My boyfriend is always sitting at the bar drinking, like everytime i talk to him .. im like ' Hey what are you doing ? ' , and he is always like at the bar .. or having drinks with my friends .. and he already got in trouble from ...
A. 25 September 2011: You have no other choice than to tell him, if there's something in your relationship that you're worried about and you want it to be resolved, he can't change his ways if you don't share with him your concerns.... (read in full...)
At night, my girlfriend scares me over the phone by talking about ghosts, how should I cope with it?
Q. I am in SDR with girl who lives in the same city between we have distance of 15 KMs between us. It’s been almost two years since we together. We meet over the weekend and keep it going through phone . For the last two weeks, my girlfriend has p...
A. 20 September 2011: I agree with marie clare, you're over 26 years old, this is something you'd laugh off. Pretty childish of your gfs part too!... (read in full...)
Sould I inititiate a 'friends with benefits' situation?
Q. Hi all, So I have this guy friend that I have known for three years. We met in school, get along really well. We often would hang out in groups for the first year we knew each other. After that I started dating a person and we kinda grew apart. H...
A. 20 September 2011: I'm 99% sure that one of you is going to start developing feelings for the other, it's extremely rare where a fwb stays precisely that.
But like you said, you're going to talk to him, that is where you'll find out what he wants, if he is okay wit... (read in full...)
Acts like he likes me. But never asks me out. Is "Friend" all I can hope for?
Q. I really like this guy, I thought he liked me too, we text and or phone every single day all day from good morning to night night texts etc, at least 20 texts a day!! It was my birthday two weeks ago and he hasn't even mentioned it, I did tell h...
A. 19 September 2011: Is there any particular reason that you can't ask him out? Lol
Women can make the first move as well you know, chance it, it may work out, if not at least you have your answer either way. ... (read in full...)
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