I'm obsessed with the man I had a little bit of fun with, 16 years ago!
Q. This is really weird. So, some 16 years ago, I had a one night stand with this acquaintance - we traveled together to a new city with a group of friends and stayed in the same house. I was relatively sexually inexperienced and socially inept. The ...
A. 1 December 2017: Block him on social media. Unfriend him on facebook. Difficult though it maybe. Time to move forward not back... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my mother believe what I am telling her?
Q. I''m a male who has aspergers syndrome, something I had when I was born which is considered a form of brain damage, ive had some form of therapies to help and been to doctors, my parents are at the end of their tether with me. I forget things a...
A. 28 October 2017: You're 30+ and your parents are being a bit overearing by the sound of it. I would contact the autistic society and see what help or support groups are on offer where you are. Also there is a website called wrong planet with a lot of good resources ... (read in full...)
Why can I not see things how they are?
Q. Why can’t I get over this crush? This guy I’ve fancied for 3 years now, his done my head in. I’ve never had such deep feelings for someone before, this guy matches me banter wise, future hope, likes and he just feels right! We’ve spoke on ...
A. 16 October 2017: Been there, done that. My advice to you, block him. On social media, mobile phone, online gaming etc. Seriously he is just a drain on your time. Ok, join a club, go on the meetup app and get away from the computer. Meet people in real life. Give ... (read in full...)
How do I control these erections I get so easily?
Q. Hello everyone! I've got sort of an awkward issue, and I'm going to try to make this brief. I get erections incredibly easily and it's starting to annoy me. Especially around my girlfriend. I'm a very physical person, it's how I show affection, ...
A. 30 September 2017: If it was me I would try masturbating more and maybe her some tighter underwear to help hold it in place. Don't worry about it, it's all normal ... (read in full...)
How can I last longer the first time?
Q. I just got into a relationship, its been quite a few months in. We are about to hit 3rd base and this is my first time someone will give me a handjob or even a blowjob. I don't think I can last for more than 30 seconds. Any tips on how to last ...
A. 21 September 2017: I would masturbate beforehand if you know that you don't last long. Just relax and only do what you feel comfortable with ... (read in full...)
I'm worried saying yes to sexual experiment will affect our friendship!
Q. My best friend of 15 years last night was telling me how he's curious to try things with a guy and he went on about it a lot. He kept asking if he could give me head and in all honesty I wanted to say yes but I just didn't want to risk my ...
A. 4 June 2017: Hey, first off are you a gay/bi guy or did he just ask in the hope that you were willing to experiment? My honest opinion? don't do it. There is a friendship line which shouldn't be crossed. You have your own doubts anyway which is why you have ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a woman who's bigger and I'm totally into her. Why do some people question my choice, my preferences and my motives?
Q. There seems to be an issue that's come up a lot in my life and I'm wondering if others have perhaps have experienced the same thing. Ever since I was a teenager I have been more attracted to females that are more full-figured. Its not that I don...
A. 23 August 2015: I bet they are just jelous of your happy relationship. Just ignore them and enjoy.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a gay man and I always thought I was straight. How can I explain this to family and friends?
Q. Okay so I thought I was straight until about 8 months ago. I was in a relationship with a girl we broke up cause she cheated. I got over it, sort of slept with a few girls and then one day I come across this guy on Facebook. For some reason I was...
A. 10 May 2015: Hey, well my advice would be to ask yourself the following questions. Why am I attracted to this guy?, why am I occasionally looking at gay porn? Would I share my life with a guy if I could and what scares me about feeling this way? Do I want to be ... (read in full...)
I'm tired and depressed and it's affecting my work
Q. Hello everyone :) My problem sounds a little stupid but i would really appreciate your guys help! Basically i work at in retail and recently ive been very tired and depressed i usually can block this out but its got worse its effected my sale...
A. 16 February 2015: Hey, sorry to hear this, but by the looks of your age, you are quite young and finding your way in life. Could you go back to college and study somthing that interests you maybe? If I were you, I would write a list of things that are bothering you ... (read in full...)
I want to say sorry in a Christmas card!
Q. Does anyone know how to write an apology in a Christmas card? I've never been good with words so I'm not sure if i should just wish the person i care about a happy holiday or to just say "I'm sorry" for hurting them? Ideas? I screwed up and s...
A. 10 December 2014: Anymore appologies and you're boardering on stalking and being creepy. You've appologised and now you have to wait for her to come back, if she does at all. If she doesn't all you can do is move on.... (read in full...)
How to hide teen hard-ons?
Q. Quick note: I have searched the site A TON already, and can't find anything useful on this, and desperately need help. Hello DC, I'm in a bit of a pickle... I'm 15, and "well endowed" so to speak, at 7 inches. In my gym class, we have to wea...
A. 4 December 2014: Well this may sound crude but in all honesty I would try masturbating before school. This should help keep your urgest down and its what I used to do. Also when your starting to get erect, try thinking hard of your biggest turn off or somthing non ... (read in full...)
I'm a straight guy who's been told his approach to sex is 'feminine'
Q. So I've been tossing with this for a while and I really just want some other people's perspective. So the best way I can describe how they feel is; I feel sexually like a woman. I know its not a perfect description but I'll try to elaborate Bas...
A. 23 November 2014: Hey,
It sounds to me like you are hanging around with the wrong kind of women. There are loads of women who would appreciate the respect you show them without being agressive. The fact someone says you are feminine is spiteful and you shouldn'... (read in full...)
What's the hold up?! Why won't this guy meet me?
Q. I've been chatting to this guy online for many months now, and I'm really eager to meet him and get to know him more. Every time I ask him when he wants to meet up, he's very evasive and either ignores me or tells me he has too much on his plate at ...
A. 25 October 2014: Watch Catfish the TV show on viva. I had this when I was 18 and it turned out to be a faker. I never did find out who they really were. Sorry to be harsh but give them two choices. Meet you or you block them. You can't go getting yourself in deep ... (read in full...)
I really like this boy but I'm 14 and he's 12. I'm worried what people will think
Q. I have recently meet a boy a couple months ago and I really like him. The moment we started taking we instantly clicked and I feel like I've know him my whole life, I've never meet anyone like him and I feel as though I could tell him anything. The ...
A. 25 October 2014: 12 and 14. Yeah that's not good. I'm happy for you in that you get on really well with him and i'm sure hes sincere and kind to you. But you are in reality a big sister figure. He isn't even a teenager yet and may or may not have started puberty ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of my depressed slump?
Q. I’ve been feeling so shitty lately. I feel very inadequate in who I am and in everything I do. It’s like no matter what I do, No matter how hard I try, I’ll never be good enough. I'm not the smartest, the wittiest, the funniest, or the most ...
A. 25 October 2014: First off you're 18 so not old and I came out aged 19 and there are plenty of guys still in the closet who are a lot older than you. Your life is just beginning. Just because someone looks like their life is perfect doesn't mean that it is, they are ... (read in full...)
Do I risk all and go Or cut my losses?
Q. Hi! I live in England and was quite happily leading a quiet life of study martial arts and contemplation when a girl who had seen me in the street and just so happened to be friends with a few of my neighbors took a massive liking to me and we ended ...
A. 25 October 2014: I'll be honest, if she is used to things the way they are she will take a long time to change if at all. I would try visiting her for a holiday first if you are still interested. Seeing her in her own environment might help with with your decision... (read in full...)
How do I politely turn down invitation without closing doors to further invitations?
Q. Ok, I have a lot of friends, like a WHOLE lot. Some are casual friends who I had fun with, some are useful professionally, some are genuine friends I can go to, some are going out friends, some are culture friends. I amassed many friends but I do...
A. 12 October 2014: Tell me about it! I feel like that with a few people I know and I live in another UK city. Its also awkward when you end up with a group of their friends and don't know anyone. I would say, when your in a group of people don't take anyone, including ... (read in full...)
Could my crush be gay too?
Q. So I've been crushing on this guy for 3 years now. We met at University and became great friends instantly, we were even called a Bromance by our other friends. I always wondered if he might be gay, the "interested in" section on his facebook ...
A. 2 September 2014: I'm sorry man, its easy to hide behind the cute straight guy who makes you feel happy and wanted at times. But in the end, you just end up getting hurt. I once had a crush on a straight friend and I realized that I was doing two things; first, I was ... (read in full...)
Why was I unfriended on Facebook? Did I do anything wrong?
Q. Ok, what do you in following situation. If you went on a couple of dates with someone, you fancied them but you weren't sure how they felt as there were mixed signals and there were times were you felt they wanted to kiss you but didnt do anything. ...
A. 4 August 2014: they refriended you and then engaged in a conversation. I'd say that they either had one of those "facebook clear outs" and got a bit trigger happy with the mouse or its just an accident. If they don't want to talk to you, they would have ignored ... (read in full...)
Was it a joke? I haven't met him yet. We talk online.
Q. So yesterday I was just having a normal online chat/convo with a friend I haven't yet met but no off and talk to a bit and the convo turned to sex - with watch others for money, as a joke. But then soon turned into details of what we would do and ...
A. 2 August 2014: What do you want from this guy? Friendship or do you fancy him? Once you work that out you can go from there.... (read in full...)
This isn't a crush but she is my role model! Is this normal?
Q. There's a few 'teacher' questions on here already but I just wondered peoples opinions on my situation:) There's a young, female maths teacher at my school as she's basically everything I want to be in life, which sounds a bit weird. She's bee...
A. 21 May 2014: Hey, what you describe there is a normal mentor\mentee relationship. I've been in the same situation as your teacher too. We like to hear from our mentees that we have helped them and it means a lot to us. In terms of friendships when you have left, ... (read in full...)
Should I move to where she is?
Q. Let me give a quick backstory: I have a best friend I’ve know since the end of high school, close to 4 years now. We dated briefly at the time, but due to some irrationality on my part and some communication problems, it ended over a slight bit ...
A. 3 April 2014: Hey, my opinion on this is, you're in the middle of your education making this an important time in your life. Honestly your education comes first at this point and you need to look after yourself. Keep incontact with her but finish things up where ... (read in full...)
Difficulty ejaculating.
Q. So I've had a real issue with ejaculating during any sort of sexual activity with a partner throughout my whole life. I can ejaculate eventually, but it just seems to take a long time (1hr+). For the longest time I was pretty happy about it, I can ...
A. 29 March 2014: Hey, I'm 30 and I am the same. I have never cum via any route other than masturbation. I accepted it as just how I am and I have been with a guys (i'm gay btw) who cum too quickly so it doesn't really bother me. I guess if I was trying to father... (read in full...)
I masturbate to photos of girls I know. What do I say if they find out?
Q. I am a 16 year old guy. I am constantly on social networking. I've many a time found myself looking at my friend's who are girls pictures. I have a tendency to masturbate to people I know and I never feel guilty about it. Is this wrong? Does this ...
A. 20 March 2014: Being totally honest and I'm sure I might get flamed for saying this... I think that it is normal. I'm 30 and in the days before social networking and internet porn, I would always fantasise over people who I knew or saw in real life that I find ... (read in full...)
My heart says fight. My head says let it go.
Q. So I've asked for advice on here before about this guy from work. I'm crazy about him, for the past 6 months all I've ever thought about was him. When I found out he was bi, I decided to tell him that I like him. He said I'm a great guy but he's ...
A. 17 March 2014: I agree, all you are going to get is hurt (sounds like you are already) and if we tell you what you want to hear that you might be able to make him like you then we will only make the situation worse. I would keep my distance from him and start ... (read in full...)
How do you get over a crush and what is the best way to do so?
Q. Hi cupid How do you get over a crush and what is the best way to do so? Can you stay friends or no contact is the rule! Staying friends doesn't mean there is hope of you being with that person any soon! So what do you guys think about it ?...
A. 12 March 2014: Hey, well it depends how long its gone on for and how it ended but essentially if she isn't in your social circle I would keep your distance for 3 months, if she is in your social circle I would keep contact brief but again try and be distant ... (read in full...)
My friends want to move abroad without their young-adult children
Q. Am interested what you think of this situation. Some friends of min are bith 52, and have 2 kids: girl of 18 and boy of 20. The parents want to emigrate from england to spain on a permanent basis. The kids dont want to go with them. But the p...
A. 18 February 2014: Hey, all I can say is my parents did this to me and my brother though they let us rent their UK house for 2 years until I managed to afford a deposit on my own flat and moved out. Its a 2 hour flight and I see them twice a year.... (read in full...)
I am in love with him, I think he is gay, but I am not sure!
Q. Alright, so I have a problem that I have posted about on here before. It has been years, so hopefully I'n not bothering anyone again with the same question. I am a 20 year old gay (possibly bi?) male. I am in love with one of my sightly younger best ...
A. 16 February 2014: Hey, I would come out the closet yourself and that way you will take a lot of the power he has on you away. It sounds to us as if you are scared of coming out. I have been in the same situation before and came out aged 19. I know it might be hard, ... (read in full...)
I am in love with him, I think he is gay, but I am not sure!
Q. Alright, so I have a problem that I have posted about on here before. It has been years, so hopefully I'n not bothering anyone again with the same question. I am a 20 year old gay (possibly bi?) male. I am in love with one of my sightly younger best ...
A. 15 February 2014: Hi USC, I must say I feel for you over this because I myself have been in situations where I have had a crush but too scared to do anything about it. Our friendship didn't survive in the end but the situation was totally different.
Anywa... (read in full...)
I don't like how this girl affects me and I don't know what to do about it!
Q. I don't like how much this girl affects me. I met her in October of 2012, and still cannot stop getting that tight throbbing in chest when I see her or someone mentions her. When we met, I was depressed. She saw the cuts on my wrist and showed m...
A. 24 January 2014: Hey man, it sounds like you need some time alone to work yourself out and get yourself some professional help while you are still young. I guess you feel you can relate to her but in reality you harldy know her. Say sorry if you have hurt her and ... (read in full...)
Is this gay guy seriously blowing hot and cold, or was I off?
Q. So I met this guy, we hooked up, he refused to kiss because he said he was in love with his best friend in another country, who was also in a relationship. He said he wouldn’t kiss because he felt like he was betraying his best friend (!!!!). Alarm ...
A. 22 November 2013: I've met a few like this in the past. They do blow hot and cold and make no sense. To be honest, they never will. I know it is easy to take this personally but at the end of the day you have a life to lead. I would walk away and leave it at that.... (read in full...)
What do I do if I bump into a guy I used to date while at work?
Q. So, I'm going for a job interview in a couple of days. Nothing fancy, just an office job at a university near to where I was a student. I still have friends there, so thought it would be fun to return. Thing is, there's a guy that goes to the uni ...
A. 20 November 2013: Hey, if it is more than 6 months ago that you broke off contact I doubt either of you will care and if you do see him you will both walk on by as if you were strangers. Don't worry about it. ... (read in full...)
Why do so many people think I "need" a boyfriend?
Q. My 30th b-day is around the corner and I'm getting more and more frustrated at friends I've had throughout my life. While my circle of friends/acquaintances has changed over the past 15 years, I have always had the same problem: I keep getting told ...
A. 7 November 2013: If I was you, I would tell your friends to back off your love life and stop caring what other people think. Your happy having your own life without tieing yourself down. Enjoy it and don't give time to anyone who lectures you in the you must get ... (read in full...)
My friends girlfriend is cheating on him... Do I tell him?
Q. This is a bit of a strange one. And to some it might sound bad on my part. I want to try to set the scene so everyone has a better understanding. A few years ago my next door neighbour moved in with his girlfriend. We both stay in semi detach...
A. 1 November 2013: One of my golden rules in life is to never get involved in other peoples relationships. It won't end well for you and what they do in their own home. Well, is their business. ... (read in full...)
Gay and ginger, is there any hope?
Q. Hi all, I would be very grateful for any advice so here it goes. Im a 22 year old guy and I have just accepted that I am gay and I'm not out to anyone. I'm also very unfortunate to have Ginger hair too. I have been a quiet and shy guy all my life ...
A. 27 October 2013: I have always wanted a Ginger boyfriend, would you like my phone number? It's confidence you need, coming out isn't easy to start off with. I'd focus on coming out first before you worry about partners. Hope it all goes well for you, send me a ... (read in full...)
I am a male and hate that I get emotionally (but not sexually) attracted to other men. Is this normal?
Q. I am 23, and I've started finding myself getting emotionally attracted to men and I HATE it. I don't feel sexually attracted to them, only emotionally, sure there are some physically attractive men, but it only goes as far as looks and emotional ...
A. 30 September 2013: Hey Well i'm a gay guy and recently I become emotionally attached to my female friend. She wasn't staying around long, only for a few months. Once she had moved on, I missed her terribly. You see the thing is that people look at emotional attach... (read in full...)
I'm seeing another side to my boyfriend after moving in together. Should I stay in this relationship?
Q. Hello, so I have been dating this guy since January and we really hit it off well, never fight, never argue, and always have a good time. We always say things like we'll spend the rest of our lives together as well, so I am extremely invested in ...
A. 23 September 2013: Hey,
How long have you two been living together? The thing is, do you two give each other space? do you enjoy hobbies together? You two have entered into a serious commitment and you've also realised relationships aren't going to be 100% perfect ... (read in full...)
I think he's gay but he has a girlfriend. I want to tell him I am gay.
Q. Hello there. I have a problem. recently I've really started to like this guy at work but hes going of to uni till December. The problem is I'm gay and I and lots of other people think he is but he has a girl friend. I'm ok with that because...
A. 23 September 2013: Hey Topher If I were you, I wouldn't bother. You can tell him your gay if you want to and when you do tell him say you're doing it because you see him as a friend, but beyond that you might not get very far. He has got a girlfriend and i... (read in full...)
Had a very positive message from him on the dating site, then nothing. How long do I wait?
Q. Hi there, so this story is a bit a complicated so it requires a little bit of background before I get to my question. So I transferred not long ago to the current university that I am attending. When I transferred I went to an official LGBT meeting ...
A. 19 May 2013: Go on, go to the coffee shop towards the end of the day and if he is there, get him to serve you and make some small talk about his course or what he is doing then offer him your number or if you are feeling shy try this... Go into the shop, g... (read in full...)
I experimented with my male friend, but decided to go back to females. Why is he so upset?
Q. I’m a young man and I’ve trouble with a friend. I’m very outgoing person, I like to try new things and everything new. My friend is gay and although I’m straight, I thought that I’m living only once and decided I want to try something with another ...
A. 24 January 2013: Hey man, Your friend probably thought at the start that you were just trying it out and had decided you were gay and wanted him. Did you kiss him while you were fooling around etc? I know you were clear with him at the start but unfortunately yo... (read in full...)
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