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No replies yet... 8 May 2018: Hello all, Im not quite sure why but I had a little urge to write something about a great fear of commitment that I used to experience, in case maybe it can help someone who is going through similar or has their own story to share. This is a...
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23 October 2016: Hello to everyone of Dearcupid, I'd just like to say a massive thank you to everyone I've ever come into contact both receiving help from or giving help to over the time that I've used this website. I first started using DC back in 2011, w...
Why not everyone we find ourselves emotionally invested in is made for us
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14 August 2016: I watched a film a few days ago you may of heard of, '500 days of summer'. I had it recommended to me by a friend who knew of the bizarre situation I was in with a girl I know. I thought a rom com isn't really my idea of fun but thought what the ...
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Why would he have this type of porn on his computer?
Q. I found heaps of Asian porn on my husbands computer. Now I am worried he prefers them to me and I am getting very upset about it. Everytime we go out I am worried he is perving at them and preferring them to me. We fight about it all the time. I am ...
A. 27 April 2011:
What has he said to you when you have asked him about it?
Personally, I wouldn't read too much into it, its normal for men to look at porn even when they are in a relationship, I wouldn't see it as him preferring them to you and you're secon... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get enough of my FWB! She wants me to cool down my strong desire for sex-but it's hard to when we're together!
Q. I was a virgin up until about 2 months ago, I lost it to a FWB. Since then, I've been pretty sex mad and we've done a lot of stuff since then, she recently told me that she doesn't always wanna have sex when we meet up and I've agreed to that, but ...
A. 26 April 2011:
Thanks for that youwish, I have started to masturbate a little more as that was the first thing that I thought could help me out here.
Taking her out is a great suggestion, I think ill offer to take her to the movies this weekend or something.
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Why did he let me get away with this? (FwB question)
Q. Long story short, I've got a friend with benefits and I made a huge mistake. He took to long to respond to a text, and then told me he was busy. And I got pissy at him and told him to talk to me when he decided I was worth talking to. I pre...
A. 26 April 2011: No, your age gap is not the same as a 25 and 20 year old because yours is illegal.
The only advice that I would want to give to you is to stop what you're doing.... (read in full...)
Did he just say those things because we were having sex?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. We are both grown adults. We have discussed love and we both feel that we love eachother, but neither of us ever say "i love you" to eachother (because we are both afraid of heartbreak) last night ...
A. 25 April 2011: I think it sounds real to me, during sex it can be a very passionate experience between two people who are special to each other, IMO it's a good time to say something that you couldn't just bring up in normal conversation if you don't have the ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to see that I'm not in this just for the sex?
Q. Hey guys, Not checked in here for a while, but I'm in a weird situation atm. It started off with a girl who was friends with on of my mates, my sister introduced us and we got to talking and got on like a house on fire, she is great, my dream ...
A. 25 April 2011: Thanks for the answer Aiden, we've spoken about it since, after I picked her up from a night out, so she was a little tipsy, but was making a little sense and put her viewpoint of the situation across. We have agreed that we wouldn't have sex for ... (read in full...)
Bought a sex-toy, but I'm not sure if it is safe to use.
Q. So, I have recently purchased a sex toy called "Ring o's" which is a small rubber hoop, which you put on the base of the penis, it is described as "enhancing the lastability and hardness". Now, I tried it out once, and it was pretty tight, so tight...
A. 25 April 2011: Sounds like it's tight to keep the blood in the penis to keep it hard. Wouldn't worry too much about it as that's kinda the idea.... (read in full...)
I can't make her cum with fingers or oral, and I've got no rubber for sex...how do I find her G-spot?
Q. i can't seem to make my gf cum by my fingers... she doesn't let me touch her clitoris cuz she says it is too sensitive..we can't do oral either cuz she isnt comfortable yet and we have no rubber for sex.. any tips other then the g-spot because i can'...
A. 25 April 2011: You are 13-15 having sex? That is breaking the law and shouldn't even be happening.... (read in full...)
How will my Bf react if I tell him I want a threesome, with us and his twin brother?
Q. I want to have a threesome with my boyfriend and his twin brother. I'm so in love with my boyfriend, we have been in a relationship for 6 years and just a few months ago his brother came from italy and he was totally different, i want him but just...
A. 25 April 2011: That would be mighty awkward I'd imagine, I wouldn't really want to stand there watching my brother have sex with my girl and it's not like they could get too involved with each other either seeing as they're brothers.
I think the situatio... (read in full...)
How does a guy break up with a girl, but do so in a kind way?
Q. Hey guys This is a question that one of my friends asked me but I didnt know the answer so can you try and answer it. Thanks He has been going out with this girl for about 2 months now and he feels the spark has gone and he is going to break u...
A. 24 April 2011: Just be honest, don't try and come up with the 'It's not you, it's me' cliche ending.
Just tell her that he doesn't feel the way he did at the start and things have gotten stale and it's not working for him and it would be unfair to both of them ... (read in full...)
How can I get this persistent other guy to leave me alone? I like a different guy.
Q. right so theres this guy who likes me, and pretty much every weekend since decemeber we have hooked up, nothing serious just like made out anyway i told him in feb i don't like him, and that i like one of his mates, who i've got with quite a few...
A. 24 April 2011: I am in the EXACT same situation, but I'm the other guy (The guy who you like in your case).
The other guy constantly argues with the girl, has also resorted to following her in the past and has threatened me with violence when he found out that... (read in full...)
Is snogging different to kissing?
Q. Im 14 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now.. we both want to 'snog' each other but every time we kiss that's all that ever happens.. HELP :...
A. 24 April 2011: Yeah, a kiss is just the standard peck on the lips, which can actually be quite passionate if you do a few in quick succession and let it last for a few seconds.
'Snogging' is basically when you put your tongue into each others mouths and kinda ti... (read in full...)
Why did he let me get away with this? (FwB question)
Q. Long story short, I've got a friend with benefits and I made a huge mistake. He took to long to respond to a text, and then told me he was busy. And I got pissy at him and told him to talk to me when he decided I was worth talking to. I pre...
A. 24 April 2011: To be fair, amazingk is right, I couldn't agree more with the points she made. Also, what you're doing is illegal as I'm assuming you do other things besides sex.
I'm currently in a FWB relationship and again, as amazingk mentioned, it's hard eno... (read in full...)
My bf refuses to change his fb status, what can I do
Q. My boyfriend of 5 months won't change his FB status and I am angry!! Right now it doesn't say he is single, he has it blank on that line. I sent him a request to change his status on FB from nothing to "in a relationship" and link it to my page. H...
A. 24 April 2011: I wouldn't take it too much to heart, maybe he just doesn't want his private life pasted on facebook, I know I wouldn't like posting stuff about bf/gf all over facebook, I hate it when I see others doing it an sure as heck wouldn't do it myself!... (read in full...)
Questions about 1st time sex
Q. I'm 15 years old, I've been with my boyfriend for 9months. He's 16. We don't have an overly sexual relationship. We're both not ready for sex. Far to many things to worry about at the moment. But my question is, well not a question as such...
A. 24 April 2011: My first time was about 2 months ago, I'm 19 and it was with a FWB. I'm the type of guy that didn't want just anyone for my first time, I wanted to wait for someone special ad I think I did because I really like this girl. She at first didn't bel... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I might be pregnant and I'm scared to tell my parents!
Q. Hi, Im 14 years old and I have a boyfriend that is 16. Me and him had sex about a monto get h ago and I was supossed to get my period a week ago but it hasnt come. Im afraid I might be pregnant. We used a condom, but it broke. I dont know how to t...
A. 24 April 2011: Maybe you should find out for certain before you do anything rash.
Also, be aware that what you and your boyfriend is doing is illegal so I don't think your parents would be too happy about that either.... (read in full...)
He has cheated on me at least 6 times but still I am with him!
Q. Im so stuck. I feel lost and heartbroken. And im really uncertain of what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now. I have always been faithful to him. Completely stopped talking to other boys infact to make him feel better. Although ...
A. 24 April 2011: Never let someone make you feel so down and shatter your confidence so you feel like nothing. This guy is no good for you!
You need to leave this guy immediately, you should of left him the first time this happened, there are so many honest a... (read in full...)
Is being a virgin a turn off for guys?
Q. Hi:) I am 18 and a half and I was wondering if guys think that being a virgin is a turn off. Lately my friends tease me, especially my male friends when they find out the truth. One male friend (23y old) even told me that I should get...
A. 24 April 2011: Not at all, I'm a 19 year old male and was a virgin up until about 2 months ago, I waited for someone that was special to me and it was fantastic, I'm so glad I didn't waste it by getting with a drunken girl for a one night stand or something.... (read in full...)
The myth of "best friends" of the opposite sex
Q. OK, I know I am going to get a lot of flack for this (assuming anyone read this) but from my experience and observation I believe that a heterosexual man and woman who claim to be "best friends" without any romantic feelings...is a myth. Almost al...
A. 23 April 2011: I agree completely, it's very easy to say "None of us have felt romantically for the other" How can you say that for the other half of the friendship? You don't know if they are being completely serious or not.
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Have I gone and ruined everything? A FWB question.
Q. Long story short I have a friends with benefits (almost a month now). We haven't had sex yet, because I'm a virgin We used to text every day, now we text every few days (he always texts me, but lately I have been texting him, and now I regre...
A. 23 April 2011: I'm in a situation like this with a girl I know, I've never openly lost my temper with her like this, but it usually takes her a hell of a long time to reply and it really annoys me.
She recently told me that she doesn't wanna do anything anymore ... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my bf orgasms through oral sex?
Q. Ive never had sex before but my boyfriend has. He has said that none of his exs have been able to make him cum by just mouth he just gets soft after so long. I want to be his first. Dose anyone have any tips or sites I may visit? Thank You! :)...
A. 23 April 2011: I've only been with one girl so far and had pretty erratic orgasms to be perfectly honest.
About 2-3 times I've been able to cum in her mouth, quite easily, sometimes to a disappoint me as it's been way too early.
Again, 2-3 times I've reall... (read in full...)
My dream girl is kinda seeing my friend (but denies it, as she doesn't know he's told me what's gone on). What can I do here?
Q. Hey Guys, Hoping for a bit of help on this one...So, a couple of days ago there came an oppotunity to meet one of my sister's firends for the first time as we both know a mutual friend (A guy friend). It was on a night out at a nightclub and I ...
A. 23 April 2011: Just want to say thanks guys, I went for it, and so far it's been going amazingly well.
I've just had to post a new question up regarding her though as she's given me a little bit of bad news :(
Thanks again guys.... (read in full...)
We're stuck sexually, I'm going to Mexico soon and she's freaking out after I fingered her. Help?
Q. So I've been together with a girl for like 14 months and things are going pretty good but kinda suck on the "sexual" side... She's beautiful and kind and I really do care about her but not much happens in our "alone time" other than lots of kissing ...
A. 16 February 2011: I'd say if you're tempted to cheat on your GF then maybe you should either tell her how you're feeling, or just try your best to ignore the urge, if you can't and you do cheat then it's up to your own judgement whether you tell her or not.
As fo... (read in full...)
What do guys think about virgins?
Q. I'm turning 18 and finishing up my senior year of high school. I am a virgin and do not want to have sex until I am sure I'm with the right person. My mother had sex at 14, needed an abortion and lived a pretty messed up life for a while after that. ...
A. 16 February 2011: Something like this shouldn't matter, it's your choice that you want to lose your virginity to someone that you care about. If someone can't respect that then they don't deserve you.
That's the same outlook that I have, I have a lot of friends ... (read in full...)
I want to mess around with my girlfriend's friend!
Q. So me and my girlfriends bestfriend were talking via text messaging and i told her a deep secret, i told her i masturbate. She said she did too. Its really awkward now because i want to masturbate with my girlfriends best friend. What the hell ...
A. 16 February 2011: I have to agree with caring guy - If you're going to cheat, do the honourable thing and end it with your GF - Have some respect for her and make sure she doesn't get hurt as it's very unfair on her.... (read in full...)
How to ask someone out when you don't know them too well?
Q. So I met this girl through a friend of mine and i want to ask her on a date. ive only seen her once and we didnt talk a whole bunch since that time she was with her friend and i was with mine. The thing is my friend gave me her number and i want to ...
A. 16 February 2011: I'm in the exact situation at the minute bud, A girl I don't know too well and would like to get to know better.
Like you, I have no way of bumping into her in daily life, so I ended up sending her a message on facebook, I thought she would th... (read in full...)
Girls, how should I play this now?
Q. Hi Guys, On new years eve, I was at a friends party and ended up sitting next to a girl that I know of, but hadn't spoken to before, I'd always thought that she was a good looking girl but haven't had a chance/need to speak to her before. But w...
A. 15 February 2011: Thanks for the advice guys, I just want to add, that there isn't really a way possible for me to see her in day to day life, I work, she is at college (I'm 19, she is 17-18) and I don't live near to her - This is why I had to take this option, I ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want our relationship status on facebook?
Q. Why is it that when your dating someone and you want to share it on facebook they dont want to. Its been a long time now since we've been together but he still acts like he doesnt know it. I havent done anything to him at all so what does this mean? ...
A. 10 January 2011: Maybe he is a guy that doesn't want it to be plastered all over facebook. Respect to the guy, I wouldn't want that either, it's private business and I don't blame him for not wanting everyone to know about it. I wouldn't read too much into it, if ... (read in full...)
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