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writes:My boyfriend has been grabbing me in front of his friends and they have been joining in on grabbing me, ass smacking and pinching and grabbing my breasts. It is a turn on but I'm afraid they will go farther and want more. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): Dump him if it doesn't stop , shout no get off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Run! & then spend some time learning to respect and value yourself for the wonderful person you are. Once you have learned to respect yourself you will be ready for a normal relationship. This person is a boy, but certainly not a friend. Do not mistake that.
You need to cut all ties with these people now. Get some help for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): If you don't mind your boyfriend doing this to you, then thats cool, but let the friends know that it is NOT ok for them. Don't just politely laugh it off, let the next person to do it know that it is not cool, get angry at them in front of everyone. Maybe even have an insult lined up in your head to fire away and make others know not to mess with you.
They only grope you because they know they can get away with it. They don't respect you for being polite and not reacting to their groping and it certainly wont make bystanders who witness this behavior think very highly of you either. If you're scared enough to come to this site for help, then you should trust your gut instinct. Make them stop, or you're just playing with matches in a newspaper house.
Best of luck
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 This will end in rape... if you continue to see these people they will assume that you are interested in violent group sex.
If you don't want to happen, you will dump this boy and avoid him and his friends. At the moment he isn't acting like a loving boyfriend, he's acting like a pimp who has young meat to sell.
He will throw you to these dogs, and it will hurt and you won't enjoy it.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 I once knew a girl who allowed things like you have, ... nice girl, just so desperate for love and attention she confused being groped with being liked and desirable, .... and those same guys spurred on by each other and treating it like a joke, ended up raping her with a cricket bat!
You need to learn to have more respect for yourself coz your boyfriend and his friends certainly are not thinking you have any boundaries. Say NO, do it NOW, before you end up regretting giving the impression that treating you like a peice of meat is acceptable!
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reader, livinituk +, writes (21 March 2010):
Allowing men to touch and grope you is in a sense giving them your permission to treat you like a piece of meat, the fact that your boyfriend allows his friends to do it shows he clearly has no respect for you but then again by not stoping them yourself shows you haven't got all that much respect for yourself so why should he respect you!
if you dont want it to go any further then you need to stop it now, tell them to back off and keep their hands off you, if they and your boyfriend cant respect that they aren't people you want to be around.
if you enjoy it then thats your business, but just ensure that they know thats as far as it goes and stand your ground if they try to take it further, you never really know what anyone is capable of until something terrible happens, im actually concerned for your safety with these people, you boyfriend should be there to protect and defend you and i just cant really see that happening if something was to happen because he doesn't tell them to stop it now. im not saying something will, and i sincerly hope it doesn't.
i just know i wouldn't allow my friends to touch my man, youve got to ask yourself what man would allow his friends to touch you and whether thats the kind of man you really want to be with.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 March 2010):
Yes. Dump him. A man who feels you up in front of his friends needs to be told off. But when he's allowing his friends to do it too, he has no respect. You can do better. Don't stand around and be used. You're not an object, you're a woman. Remember that, and never let anyone else make you think otherwise.
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reader, pandabird  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Your boyfriend should have far more respect for you than to do this to you, And to let his friends treat you like that! My guess is that they've picked up on the lack of respect he has for you, and this is why they think it's okay to do this... They're treating you like a piece of meat, and it's not alright. I would put a stop to this, immediately, it's not fair that they're objectifying you like this.
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