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writes:Advise please......Know this guy for 3 years as distant friends, hes sweet funny and a workaholic, stood up twice by him in past due to work then after some convos on msn we met up with a bunch of his mates for a night out (was soo good) his friends are great and he was so nice and just himself really. we then went back to his ans slept together. it was rough and it went on for 4 plus hours (martial arts instructor) then wanted it again in the morning and again when I left but eventually i had to stop him was geting a bit much. I was feeling sore and he was very forceful and when i got home i noticed bruises on my inside legs neck and shoulders. Im not saying i didnt want it because i did and we were drunk so i was a bit number to it then i woulda have been when sober.I have been the first girlfriend hes had in 4 years and he wants it alllll the timeeeee! so If i tell him i dont want it that rough anymore because i dont like the after hurt and pain he will listen right? i just got with him after so long trying to and i would hate for this to be the reason for us to split i mean hes so loving in bed but just gets carried away. what to do ! meeting him on sat
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reader, Miamine +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Oh dear, problem isn't solved.. man is more gentle, and he's happy playing loving partner and father figure..
But how do we get him to stop wanting sex all the time... lol.. putting on me thinking cap right now.. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): well guys thank you for all your replys and the advice worked a treat.
Sat down with him and said i would like him to be more gentle and hey presto was the most loving gentle person. we had a lovly night and he wanted to stay with me for a few days also which because of past relationships was so surpriseing.
being a single mum it isnt easy but he took my babe to the park with me and even showed me my son has me wrapped around his lil finger lol!!.
Now just to get used to having it so often , must admit ive been a bit starved but this one is a keeper. took very good care of me :)
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reader, Daisy Doo +, writes (20 March 2010):
 i agree with " sincerelovee " Becouse if you realy loves he would be truely sorry and if he just wants sex, what's the point in being a sex toy?!?! Yes you sould sit down with him and tell him what you found afterwards and then say "I love you though, and i also like what we do, but i would like it if you could be more gentle please." or something like that, hope it all goes well, good luck for tonight, Please tell us how it goes!! x
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reader, Miamine +, writes (19 March 2010):
You should take the main role... He lies back, you get on top and you do all the work.. That way you can make it gentle and slow.
But you still need to talk to him. If he's a nice guy he won't like the fact that you are hurting and will try to be more gentle with you. Only a guy who dosen't like women would prefer not to know. Go talk to him, don't get upset, just talk and tell him what's going on. Don't hide your pain away, because you have feelings too.
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reader, anysecondnow  +, writes (19 March 2010):
It may be that he can only get excited when it is a bit rough. If this is true - and rough sex totally puts you off - then you have a problem.
Maybe he would be a different kind of lover without the alcohol.
In any case, you have to communicate your needs and let him know if you are not enjoying it. Don't just lay there and take it!
Good luck!
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 just sit down and talk to him, say "dont get me wrong, i like what we do, but sometimes its a bit too rough" or while you'e having sex communicate when you don't want it to be that rough.
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reader, sincerelovee +, writes (18 March 2010):
 if he was a true boyfriend, then he would accept when you tell him that you have bruises, maybe he will understand, so maybe you should tell him to just stop after a while.
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