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writes:Hi,My ex boyfriend and I broke up a around Nov of 09' which was about 6 months ago. A couple weeks after we broke up he had this friend who he vented to about us and they soon after were dating, im guessing it is a rebound after everything i've read about them. They are still together however, as of today. But it says rebounds can last 6 months to a year or maybe even more depending on how much the partner is trying to forget about their ex. My question is its been 6 months and he just now deleted a myspace we made it was like our own little private one where we would right notes to eachother and things like that, well he just deleted it as a friend off of his myspace after 6 months, what does this mean? This obviously must mean he is thinking about it enough to delete it. To be honest i even forget he was friends with it, but today i noticed it was gone.I just got a boyfriend (6 months after breaking up) he got a girlfriend only (1 month after breaking up) it seems like he is trying to forget all about me and our relationship like getting into a rebound and now deleting the myspace we had. What is this a sign of in your opinion..moving on, or that he is still thinking of the relationship and can't bare to look at the things we wrote to eachother? I've moved on. Im happy have a new boyfriend (and i waited), but everything he does seems so eagered to forget about our bad times. I've heard that deleted someone isnt a sign of moving on, it means that you really haven't-your thinking about it constantly-and deleting it seems like the only way and that by doing this your still thinking of the relationship. But let me know your opinions thanks a lot!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 My ex tracked me down on facebook... after bloody 4 years of constant contact, he still hasn't decide to get rid of me yet.. if he ever deletes me, then that means, I'm free...
Ex deletes you off my space, that's the end of things as far as they go.
And yes, my ex had a rebound woman (lived with her for two years), left her just as soon as I refused to speak with him.. (it just didn't feel right) Now I'm sure my ex has moved on... what makes you feel that yours hasn't even though he no longer feels the need to stay in contact with you?
Been there, done it and bought the teeshirt, your wasting time honeypie, and time is very precious...
(Now off to find an answer to deal with me stupid ex)
PS: Yep, I'm familiar with psychology... guy is moving on, according to "Bowlby's theory of attachment"...
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (2 April 2010):
OP...get a grip. Just because you took General Psychology at your local Junior College does not mean that you've "studied" it. All you want is an answer that you want to hear, you want to hear, "OMG! That is a true sign that he just can't bear that myspace page. Because myspace is definitely legit in defining your love. Oh he is crushed!"
Don't bag on him for having a rebound, because obviously you're still not over him since you're asking this question yet you have a boyfriend...which is your rebound that took you a little longer to get.
How about experience...which is just as good in psychology in my opinion. I've had a couple boyfriends that I cared very much about...one that I lived with. I could not throw out his any picture of him because I was not over him and was clinging to some hope that we would get together again and I wouldn't regret throwing out those pictures. Well when I was over him, I had absolutely no problem throwing out those pictures. 6-months later your ex is over you and that's why he deleted your precious little myspace page. He's over it and is letting go. Now move on with your life.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2010):
Oh dear, you don't know about psychology either. I DID study psychology, thanks. And I've seen plenty of emotions, from abused children right the way through to rape victims. So don't try to be too smart, or you might come up against someone who is smarter. You didn't say he'd contacted you. Any decent psychologist will tell you that you need to know all the facts. And what you're suggesting in love is that if a man hits you, he love you. Or if he hates you, he loves you. Or if he calls you names, he loves you. There is no textbook approach to feelings, and there are no answers that refer to everyone. Everyone is different. And lastly, I'm a man. I understand men. He deleted it because he has moved on. If he liked you, he would either be with you, or would have hinted because that's what men do. Or, indeed, his girlfriend told him to delete it. Whatever the answer, he is moving on. That's it. And if you want a textbook answer, I'd say you're not over him and want him back. Because if you were over him, you wouldn't be here asking this question.
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reader, Agony Auntie Smiles +, writes (2 April 2010):
 See the deletion as a little tidying up. Your ex seems to be content with his current girlfriend. Rebounds actually do work sometimes and very well.
Why are you so bothered? Why are you checking up on him on MySpace? You should look to your own problems, not grasp straws and not see mysteries where there are none.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Maybe his girlfriend asked him to delete it. Maybe he told her about it, she wasn't happy about it and told him to get rid of it. That would be my guess.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Okay OP, how about you write the answer you want to receive from the Agony Aunts and we will all cut and paste it for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): It doesn't matter what his reason are what his new relationship means to you because it is his business.
After six months why do you care if he had a rebound relationship? In fact why are you making the "breaking up" a competition?
What does it mean? His reasons and meaning belongs to him and only he knows. I'd ask you, what does it mean to you and why do you care so much but I prefer to think that you shouldn't care about it.
All the best to you ^_^
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (2 April 2010):
I doubt it is a rebound, some men don't get into the rebound thing, its off with the old and on with the new, I would think deleting the my space thing is him moving on more than it would be him thinking about you
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, you've written on here before to things i've asked. It seems like you no nothing about pyschology which i've studided and by doing one thing means the opposite in love.
Thanks, but can someone give me a real answer someone that knows about emotions and how they work not just oh he deleted you he must be over you and ready to move on. Ummm if he really was he wouldn't have contacted me while in his rebound.
Someone give me a real answer please. Thanks!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2010):
He's well and truly moved on, and is making a point about it too. The relationship might be a rebound, it might not. But he's over the relationship he had with you.
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