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writes:hellomy husband at first sugested on having a 3sum for a while in the end i did mmf but now he wants to go to club to have sex with others i didnt feel comfortable about this but said yes to it we arrange to go. we got outside and i saw what types of people that went in. i said to him i cant do this he got a bit angery with me and i think i no why. we met when i was 10 he was 11 we are now in our thirtys he has never been with another women and i think deep down he wants to go with a women but i think i would feel betrayed he tells me that he can leave without that but i dont think thats the case what do you think i should do.should i go with a 4sum and get it over and done with im so confused Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): I get the feeling you are compromising your values and your esteem to 'satisfy' the sexual needs of your husband. The day sex becomes degrading to you then it is time to get out. Trust your instincts. He shouldn't be pressurising you in this way - the fact that he is proves loud and clear that he purely thinks of his own satisfaction and is prepared to share you, at whatever price to your emotional state, with other men. Just tell him he can buy meat in the supermarket
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (18 August 2007):
Ditto on Flower Girl and HLSkitten.
You should never be forced into a situation you are uncomfortable with and he should realize this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): why on earth would any man enjoy seeing his wife getting boned is beyond me,why dont you suggest another 3some with another female that way you can both get an give pleasure an he gets a chance to sex another woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): I agree that you should only do things that you are comfortable with. Maybe there is another way that you can accomodate your husband's needs? I don't know what to suggest, but why not do more talking with him, find out what his drives are and see if there is another option?
It sounds like you have a great relationship with your husband. He has the courage to tell you that he has this need, knowing that you will not stop loving him. He clearly loves and respects you, so he does not go and have an affair behind your back or lie to you, because your marriage is so important to him. You listen, do not judge him and try with an open mind to accomdate him. Not many marriages have that, so you will survive this hurdle!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): It won't be over for your Bf as he, sexually speaking, is like a fire, and will just keep on wanting more and more wood,(sex,sex,sex), And he"ll never get enough sex. You are just nothing more than a pit-stop on his road of lust. you better get out while the getting is good.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Once again, agree with flower girl.
No one should do anything they are not comfortable with! Its a big no no! No way!
C xxxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Husband or not you do what you want to do babe and if you are not comfortable with that then do not let him pressure you into doing it.
If he wants to do that sort of thing you tell him that he needs to go pack his bags and find someone that is willing because you are not.
Take care.xx.
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