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female
age
36-40,
*easidechick22
writes:Hi,I recently found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has cheated on me with his ex partner. He says it was only once, but I'm not sure. He could be telling the truth as we had a row and then he spent a few nights elsewhere with ex. He says hes sorry and even though we have been together for such a short time I know I love him. He only lives across the road from me so I see him everyday and he has come round three times to see me in one day! What should I do? Would I be really stupid to take him back on the grounds that he has nothing to do with her? Please advise, its driving me crazy!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (19 August 2007):
 Dont blame you babe, you make him work and good luck i hope everything works out for you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, seasidechick22 +, writes (19 August 2007):
seasidechick22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou everyone for your advice, it is nice to get a variety of opinions from people. 'Flower girl' your response was great advice. I do intend to talk to him but in no way will I be a doormat, he would have to work INCREDIBLY hard to get to me back.
Thanks everyone!
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (18 August 2007):
It's only been three months, I doubt you're really in love. You may have strong feelings, but you are just starting to get to know each other and you already found out he cheated. What's to stop him again? How many other "one time things" will there be? Don't be a doormat, move on.
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reader, so sick +, writes (18 August 2007):
Honey...once a cheater always a cheater! I swear to you...i have seen it over and over again! Dont believe them...I know and totally understand, they say things that make you believe them 100%! You can live w/o him...he obviously still loves his ex. Do better!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): Honestly, I wouldn't give him another chance especially that he cheated with his ex. Him and his ex probably shared something special and whatever it was that went wrong ruined their relationship. He should have moved on. If you two are trying to have a commited relationship and he has already changed your trust, I would not trust him and find someone who is happy with only me.
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Hmmm....3 months, nope. Say goodbye!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (18 August 2007):
 Hi
I wouldnt, but thats just me. How many times will he 'visit' the ex when you argue, and even if he doesnt, you will be wondering if he is.
I wouldnt be a door mat. Exes are a worse no no than anything. Sounds like she might always be on tap when needed.
But good luck.
C xxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 August 2007):
Everyone deserves a second chance, but he needs to realise that he can't go running off to his ex if you two argue, the right thing to do would be talk about things and get them sorted.
The decision is yours at the end of the day, but only do it if you can forgive and forget as that is the only way forward.
Take care.xx.
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