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writes:this is a question mostly for the ladies-how high is your sex drive? I am asking because I am with a girl who is just about insatiable, we've been going out for three years and she's ALWAYS after sex. All the time! In the beginning we had it two or three times a day most days, and I was all for it. But eventually my desire subsided a bit- I still think she's gorgeous and sexy and great in bed, I just don't need to have sex 2-3x a day anymore, I am satisfied with 3-4x a week usuallly. Anyway she is still a beast! Shes always after me, she wants sex at least once a day, but usually if I have sex with her once, she'll be back again in a couple hours asking for more. She wears me out.Also I am confused because i always thought it was supposed to be the other way around- men are horny and always lookin for sex, and women are completely uninterested? I just ask because maybe there is something wrong with her that makes her act like a man instead of like a woman. I have never had this problem with past girlfriends. I feel like I am dating a dude sometimes, and I'm playing the role of the wife.she also has a thing for porn and is always watching it... probably about 5 times a week or so... I don't mind so much, I don't personally watch it very often because most of the acting is so lame and the girls don't really do it for me... I do watch it 2-3x a month or so...almost always with my girlfriend.what do I do to tame her sexual desires? why is she acting like a guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2012): 42 year old dude, if she is single FIND HER AND TELL HER THAT! I am in my late 20's and have had this same problem as well.... Not only does our sexual prime increase during our 20's we EXPECT you to want it more than us. If you were giving it to us that frequently and now you are cutting back, are we getting fat? Are you not attracted to us anymore? Are you cheating on us? Do you still love us? Are we getting ready to break up? Are you sick and you don't function right? * this is what we think. We will nag you and beg you and then we will feel rejected and unattractive. We will probably start rejecting and possibly resenting you and it may cause irreperable damage. You have to communicate thngs with us but also understand we will. Have an increased need to feel wanted, desired and sexy as you are cutting us off..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2012): I am with you! I was a 42 yr old male and had a 22 year old girlfriend. We moved in together. She wanted sex 2-3 times per day 7 days per week. I loved her with all my heart but it was just too much for me to handle. Luckily, I was really good at giving oral. But after a while, I felt that sex was more of an obligation rather than a pleasure. It made it really difficult to acquire an erection because I would be worried whether i could perform or not. I was worried she would think i didn't love her anymore, I was inadequate, or I had a medical problem due to my older age. I was afraid that if I could keep her satisfied, she would find it somewhere else. I finally had to end the relationship because I felt it was based more on SEX rather than LOVE. It's been almost 3 years since the split, and there hasn't been a day that I haven't thought about her. But it was for the best, I believe.
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reader, Perana  +, writes (12 July 2012):
It could be because she has a high testosterone level, not that she's a man. Women only have 10% of the level of testosterone in a man, yet still, when they have a little bit more androgens in them, they usually have a higher libido. This is because women are four times more senstitive to testosterone. The best she can do is masturbate, talk to her doctor, or eat foods like: figs, cherries, raspberries, or avacadoes. These foods help settle down a woman's sex drive. I know, they've worked for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): Im a 19 year old female, and I do to have an extremely high sex drive. I recently got out of a relationship, but when i was in one i was having sex at least 4 times a day, i would of kept going if my vagagina wasnt so damn sore after that much sex! Im not single but i still occasionaly get some from my ex boyfriends but when they are not around i usually pleasure myself around 10 times a day, alot of times repetitively! Sometimes I feel like something is wrong with me, but the research ive done so far tells me its normal some women just have a shockigly high sex drive! If its too much for her you could always pleasure her in other ways after your worn out.. Or buy her a damn toy =]
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reader, sunshine420 +, writes (27 October 2011):
well i'am the same way, my boyfriend just turns me on so much that i don't even think he knows he's doing it, and right after sex i just want it again and again even tho he makes me orgasim multiple times it just feels so good that i want more, so maybe you're woman has the similar problem maybe you just make here feel really good and she just cant get enough it :)
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reader, sgore11 +, writes (30 September 2011):
This question hits rather close to home for me because of the fact that I'm in a relationship like you've just described, however I happen to be the one with the exaggerated libido. First of all, the fact that your girlfriend wants sex more than "the normal amount" does NOT mean that there's anything wrong with her. Would you like it if she thought something was wrong with you because you don't want to have sex as often as she? I know that this situation must be difficult for you, but you should know that the feelings of frustration are probably felt by her as well. If you love her and want to make it work, then go for it. Otherwise, I would suggest moving on to someone that has a libido closer to your level. The consequences of constant feelings of inadequacy on your part, and lack of sexual gratification on her part aren't worth it if you're not in it for the long-haul.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): Oh ! Listen to you guys! The men that see a high female sex drive are just panicking because it "contradicts" what they were taught about females all their life... It's almost like they would rather hear the advice of other men than women who actually experience the high sex drive, as if men know better. I'm sorry to see that there is still so much sexism and prejudice that men have about women. And to ask "if there was something wrong with her" is really offensive , don't you think? I also think there is "something wrong" with men that want to jump every girl they see... But that's supposed to be normal huh? Such crap... I will tell you from e perience, that I'm 24 year old female and I can crave sex up to 6 times se days... Does it mean I'm a nympho? Nooooo... Because I only feel such desire to some e I am completely and extremely attracted too... And that is rare... I think it's also not right that men will have sex with someone they don't like or fund attractivee only cuz their penis was feeling full. Hahaha.. I guess if you don't like having sex just tell her that you want a boring grandma that could have sex. 1 x per week, if even that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2011): Although I understand how many men might wish for this problem...it does sound obsessive and is probably an addictive behavior at it's core...albeit an enjoyable one! However, it sounds to me like she is overcompensating for something and is just using sex as a form of self medication, perhaps. Might be an issue for the couch. Sex is pleasurable and it should be a regular experience for two people with a healthy attraction for each other, but in the case of someone with addictive tendencies, it can certainly be right at the top of the list of addictive behaviors.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): I have the same problem all of a sudden. I am 43yrs old and married for 18yrs. I have normally had a normal sex life, occasionally have been too tired due to my illness. BUT for the last 3/4 wks I can't seem to get enough, my husband thinks all his christmas's have come at once!! I have even been calling him at work to come home for lunch!I think his work collegues have cottoned on as he keeps disappearing at lunch time. I can't seem to get enough, evening,lunch time and in the mornings. I have a 10yr old son who has been this his grandparents so we have probably been more enthusiastic than normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): I have a high sex drive and have for a while and I talked to my doctor about it. Granted mine hasn't always been high but it has for a while and I thought I was going crazy!! Anyway the reason for a woman to have a high sex drive is TESTOSTERONE! All women have this hormone too!! Some have higher amounts than others which can cause a high sex drive. It has nothing to do with an abusive or emotional problems!! Some woman even get higher levels at different times in their life while other may have high levels most of their lives. There is nothing wrong with your girlfriend! Just talk to her about it if it bothers you. Most men wouldn't mind such a woman. I have to say my husband has been pleasantly surprised. Granted he doesn't always keep up but I can take care of myself solo when need be! Good luck! And just be honest!
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reader, ewald  +, writes (17 August 2011):
Nothing wrong at all, having such a wife is great. If she wants more than you are able to give her let her make love with other men of her choice, or with common friends. You need not be jealous, she won't desert you; if you REALLY love her you have to feel that agreeing to her extra relationships you are giving her something. Today a wife is not anymore a property to be kept in a safe: love can be deeper than it used to be and should not be limited to sex, first and foremost not to sex exclusivity. I am happy watching my wife being pleasured by another man, provided they are really happy with each other. All that doesn't prevent us from having been passionately in love for tens of years.
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reader, LiveLoveRead +, writes (5 August 2011):
I am writing in response to mylifemypain below.
I know that you qualified that not all women have increased sex drive have something bad happen to them, but I feel that it is opposite. I am not sure how having a bad sexual experience would make you want to have sex more. I think you are promoting stereotypes that do not exist.
I have not had these things happen to me, and I have a rather healthy sexual appetite. I know others who are the same. I don't think what you are saying is correct, so if you have information to back this opinion up I'd like to see it.
Well here is one reason why you are off the mark. Testosterone is the only source of sexual desire. In women sexual desire is created with the hormones estrogen and progesterone. Hence increase in pregnant women. Some women experience increase sex drive during pregnancy. This is because of hormones. Here is some information to back up what I am saying. http://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnancy-sex
Sexual desire varies from person to person regardless of gender. This is because every relationship, experience and genetics is different in each person. Your assumption should not be based on gender but on the person.
Well here is one reason why you are off the mark. Some women expierence increase sex drive during pregancy. This is because of hormones. And pregancy hormones do not equal testostorne. here is some info to back up what I am saying. http://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnancy-sex
Sexual desire varies from person to person regardless of gender. This is because every relationship, expierence and genetics is different in each person. Your assumption should not be based on gender but on the person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): Yeah it's definitely a common thing, and I'm glad I'm not the only one. I read the response that said "do it right and she won't want it as much anymore", and I'd have to disagree. I need sex a few times a day, and obviously my husband can't keep up with that. So sometimes I have to solo. If for any reason a few days go by without sex, I start to get a "normal" libido. If I just had sex a few hours ago, I'll want it again. (It's the opposite for my husband, the longer he goes without it the more he wants it.) I don't think that there's anything wrong with your GF. Women want sex more than men do... it's just that we're not allowed to say it/ show it etc. Just be glad she feels comfortable with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): okay. sex feels amazing, im comforted to know that im not alone because honestly i could have sex over and over again all the time, i love it.
though this is not due to my partner not being able to please me, its almost the opposite of that. weve been together two years, and he still makes me want to have sexual relations with him more then ever. there is nothing wrong with me, im a healthy girl, and hes only been my second sexual partner, and i would never cheat on him because my sex drive got in the way. but sometimes i realize what a 'horndog' im being and i talk to him about it, i ask him if he is intimidated by it.... but he tells me that he was worried if we had too much sex, which is relieving. we reassure eachother.
but when we have our relations, all i want is to please him, so i make sure that hes sure that he can tell me if he ever in anyway feels overstimulated. and he does the same for me..
but i can see where my sex drive gets in the way because we will be watching a movie and i will just be affectionate and and he takes it as im trying to have sex with him which isnt what i meant by it (so hell feel bad that i cant just watch a movie with him) but of course if he did want sex i would be so down...
it could lean on the fact that i had sexual abuse as a child, or it could be that i need reassurance in love, or even just usual insecurities, but
if your girl has a high sex drive, its not because theres something wrong with her, she likes sex. if your not feeling it, then tell her, talk to her COMMUNICATION IS KEY
get down and deep with her (not in a sexual way) and just talk to her, maybe a couple beers will get her more comfortable and talking, but that just might make her hornier, idk. and maybe theres something you need to talk about to, maybe insecurities or something, which you should not be ashamed.
because your the one that has the problem with it.
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reader, mylifemypain +, writes (6 July 2011):
It's "impossible" for a woman to have a sex drive that srtong for phsyical reasons (i.e. because of high testosterone levels). It's physically impossible for a womans body to produce enough test for her sex drive to be anywhere near a mans. Therefore if she does want sex that much it's psycological. There are no two ways about it!!! If a woman claims to have a desire to fuck that much, chances are she some sort of complex. She has never had a man really make love to her on an emotional level with an emotional connection or she's doing it for you, thinking that it will make you more into her for fear you'll leave her or to get you to marry her. There are also woman that have a complex and feel they need to keep up with men for competitive reasons, these women generally suffer from having a father who wanted a son and they always had to prove they were just as good as a boy to them. The last cause or reason for woman being of this type is that they had a tramatic sexual expierience to some degree at some point in thier life. Most woman that have will NEVER talk to you or anyone about it. They have to have TOTAL trust in you to do so and chances are they are'nt even conciouslly aware of the event anymore and have burried it deep in the back of thier minds. They generally don't forget the event itself just the fact that they were dramaticlly affected by it. My advice would be if you really care about her try to talk about it with her, not her past at least not at first. Tell her that when you do it that much it dulls the emotional connection that you have when making love and you value that more than getting your rocks off. As that connection grows so will your relationship and maybe someday she may open up to you but understand she may never and if she does'nt don't force it it does'nt mean she does'nt love you. Sexual abuse can really fuck a person up in the head. If she insists on not listening to your needs and wants to just screw screw screw cut your loss and run. It's only going to get ugly. I had the same expiereance with a girlfriend years ago, we went to therapy together for 2 years and she refused to open up about it or even acknowlege that it happened, even when her sister came to therapy with us and revealed that she was in the same house when it happened and tried to get in her room to stop it bit her boyfriend locked the door and continued to rape and sodomize her with both of them screaming for him to stop. The guy got off scott free because after a week of not speaking to anyone she said it was consentual. Not all womem that have a very high sex drive have went through somethimg this bad but, rest assured it is not normal and your relationship is going to take a turn for the worse sonner or later!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): sometimes women do have high sex drives i know i do infact atleast half of my relationships have ended because of it and i also used to feel realy guilty and ashamed that my boyfriends felt tired or even like i was dominating to much but i know now that i shouldnt be guilty i cant help it its just the way i am
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): I have found reading this thread very comforting, as I have been through a similar experience to the OP.
My girlfriend and I have sex up to 15 times a week, which is fine by me as my own libido is rampant, and has always been. However, my problem is that I felt disturbed by how sexual she is, and had the same question as the OP in my head, "is this normal for a girl/is there something wrong with her?"
The first time we ever slept together she reached orgasm very quickly through penetrative sex and has done so almost every time since. This shocked me as I didn't think it was possible for women to cum in this way, at least not without massive amounts of foreplay beforehand. She says it's down to me being 'good' but I know this is not the case because I've never had a woman react to me so dramatically before, and I've had a fair few partners... We discussed our past experiences, and she told me a bout a period in her life when she 'used' male friends/acquaintances for sex after breaking up with her long term b/f when he cheated on her. Her sleeping around wasn't for attention, ego gratification, revenge or any of the other 'typical' motivations for female promiscuity, just that she "didn't trust anyone but still needed sex". I found this ability to have unattached sex because of a 'need' for it odd for a woman.
It messed with my head, I felt extremely jealous of her past lovers and ended up binge drinking, doing drugs and self harming in an attempt to cope. While I find the posts here from highly sexual women reassuring, I can't help but find what they say difficult to accept as reality, because everything we learn about women as young men contradicts it... For example, attempts at "hitting on" girls in nightclubs usually resulted in hostile rejection (suggesting that girls find guys and sex repulsive), the fact you never hear of male victims of female-perpetrated rape crimes, the fact that pornography and prostitution are aimed almost exclusively at a male customer base, that such conventional wisdoms as "girls give sex to get love, boys give love to get sex", "girls can't handle sex without emotion and commitment", and "men have hormones, women have headaches" etc. If the genders really are so equal in terms of sexual desire for the other (or even, if as some here are claiming, women are more sexual than men) then where does all of this "conventional wisdom" come from??
Men grow up genuinely believing that girls don't look at us as objects of lust like we do them, and that if they fancy us it's 'romantic' rather than 'sexual'. I could understand if this were true as I don't think there's anything remotely interesting or attractive about male bodies, even the best "Brad Pitt" types. Therefore, when we encounter a female who is as carnal as we ourselves are, we don't understand it and feel disgust. We think she's breaking a basic law of nature and accuse her of "acting/thinking like a man" to use the OPs words, or worse, being a s**t. I hate myself for feeling this way, and would love nothing more than for the whole of male humankind to truly believe in our hearts that what you have posted here represent the truth about female sexuality, and that you aren't 'freaks' or rare exceptions to a universal rule. The unfair double standard over human sexual behaviour might then finally end...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): It's true that women want sex more often than men but society abuses them for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Your problem is common, as most women in the world are sensitive to the sense of touch. I am a 20 year old man and in a relationship for 3 years, she has a high sex drive which goes haywire whenever we are alone. We used to have sex everyday, but later i found it too exhausting and we settled to 3-4 times a week. Well of course we don't get time now that we both have university to attend, whenever we do i try and make sure that i am fully into it.... if i am not, i just share a few intimate kisses and tell her to wait till i am ready, sometimes i take her out for a drive, movies,dinner etc. at the other times she gets me aroused..... so a woman's sex drive isn't a problem you just need to say no sometimes ;)
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reader, doitright  +, writes (30 March 2011):
Do you think she may be so comfortable with you that she doesnt need your sex. How about trying to surprise her with a kiss on the back of the neck when she is washing up but dont go any further, she will then start to want your sex again, She hasnt gone off you, you must be spontaneous but dont treat her like an object, good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): I have always had a high sex drive, two three times a day, my husband couldnt keep up with me, BUT when I had been with him for 3-4 years I lost my drive as sex was not spontaneous anymore, try to surprise her with a sexy touch when shes washing up, but dont dont go all the way, you have to make her feel you want her for her and not as a sex object, hope it works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): I am a black guy and my GF is white. I have a high sex drive,when I met her I thought she did as well. But lately I am lucky if I get it once a day.I really love her, but everyday I feel my frustration growing. I've tried to communicate my feelings to her, but she really doesn't get it. I don't blame her. When I don't get sex I physically ache, worse still I hate cheating,porn, or masturbation. The all leave me far worse off. We've been going out for about 4 years, and I am seriously considering ending the relationship. I am glad I am not married to her yet. I didn't know sex actually meant that much to me. In future my partner has to match my sex drive for real!!.
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reader, EternalFlame24 +, writes (29 March 2011):
that's not true, i have never been able to reduce mine
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): to stop her high sex drive all you have to do is marry her
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): She likely has a high level of testosterone. Most women aren't crazy horny because they generally have low levels of testosterone. Libido is controlled by testosterone and are directly correlated. When one goes up, so does the other. 2-3 times a day is a bit much. I don't have an answer as to why she's always horny, and I'm sorry I can't help you there, but testosterone is likely the reason why she "acts like a man."
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): Could it possibly be that you aren't pleasing her enough. I know I want it more if I haven't been pleased properly.Give it to her the way she really likes it and I guarantee you she will not want it as much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): Women often have high sex drives. It doesnt mean something is wrong with her. IF she is making you feel like less of a man, that's your problem not hers. My advice is to get out of this relationship, for her sake, not yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Here's the deal, I have never come across a woman with a drive as high as you women claim you have. I dare say because you don't exist. All the women I've come across only use sex as a weapon whether that's booty shaking and flirting for free drinks at the bar or for tricking guys into a relationship where you seek to destroy the very thing that makes us men. For all the other guys on here saying you get it too much and your dick "hurts" good for you. But listen up, it'll all be over soon. That or you're lying because no man in their right mind would complain about too much sex. From one sexually frustrated guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): My new GF is the same, 2 or 3 times PER DAY for the last 2 months ... my dick HURTS, and I am extremely sexual, but man, be careful what you wish for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Ok dude stop complaining and be thankful that it's u she is after.if her sex drive is a problem for u then let her know.pretty sure she will be reasonable
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reader, bellboyrsa  +, writes (3 February 2011):
How I would love for my wife to have hat kind of sexdrive!
I would love to have sex 1 or 2 times a day as a 48 year old but I'm lucky to have sex once every 6 to 8 weeks from my wife that is 49!
Be grateful that this girl love sex so much but please be aware that she might loose her drive after menopause.
On the end of the day she blames me for not be able to get her arosed and I feel that I cannot do it due to a lot of factors. In fact I don't need to be arosed by somebody or something as I'm permanently ready to have a go. Give me a pussy and I will go! I will not guarantee that I can keep it stiff or ejaculate every time but I like to even do oral also...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): wow, I am so relieved to know I am not alone. I gues I am not asking for too much. All I am asking for is sex at least 3 times a week but all I get is once in 3-4weeks!!!!! Can you imagine my frustrations. Since past few days, I have gone bonkers, created a chat id for myself and went crazy sharing sexy pics of myself to online males and orgasmed 4-5 times a day!! What is worng with guys! I felt sick with my behaviour and am scared i could cheat on my hubby. He just has tooo low libido and does not satisfy me even when we do it. He just wants to get into the act without foreplay. You girls are getting quite enough! So don't fret if you are getting it at least once a day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2011): I can honestly I am like his girl friend i think about and wish i could have sex all the time and sometimes i think there is something wrong with me. My boyfriend gets me sex toys and we are in to BDSM, which helps to tame me a bit. What I am trying to say is find something that will keep both of you happy. My boyfriend knew if he did not we would not be together long, and he would rather have a woman that wanted him all the time then not at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): Everyone's sex drive is different depending on multiple factors, a big one is exercise and diet. What I found problematic was how you said she is acting like a man and that you feel like the wife. What the heck is that suppose to mean??? That wives are suppose to be always submissive and wait until the man wants to have sex with them? No. I don't think so. Do generalize and stereotype like that. Completely disrespectful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): what is wrong with you!i would kill for my gf to have a high sex drive!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): I recently starting taking bioidentical hormones and my sex drive returned like it was in my 20's and 30's. I can't believe it because a year or so ago I didn't care if I ever had sex again. Now my boyfriend and I are constantly thinking, talking and having sex. There's nothing wrong with a woman having a strong sex drive!
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reader, kittywithissues +, writes (15 January 2011):
My boyfriend has the same problem with me. He complains that I want too much sex too often and doesn't trust his friends around me since one flirts with me constantly and hes afraid I'll cheat. All I can say is this. Don't worry too much. if your girl is anything like me, shes just glad she found a wonderful man that loves her and wanted to spend every moment with him. What better way to get close to a guy than with sex?
If it gets too out of control, just let her know you love her. Try doing something special for her and cuddling with her more often. Just don't make her feel like you don't want her or things will only get worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): Mercifully, I found this site. I'm 64 and want sex all the time. Probably sounds strange to most of you young ladies, but I'm sure there are other women like me. I've always enjoyed sex with my partners over the years but also had to masturbate to satisfy myself enough. I used to be able to squeeze my legs together and orgasm, sometimes 20 times or more. I don't do that anymore but still want sex everyday and finally broke down and ordered some dildos. I've been celibate for 10 years and need a penis in me several times a day. I'm also cravng anal stimulation. There, I've said it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): I just got out of a relationship because my partner wouldn't do anything to adress the lack of sex in our entire time togither (3 1/2 years). I have a decent male sex drive and wanted to be comfortable with her desires. i couldn't expect sex all the time but there has to be an understanding between partners of what an even expectation of intamcy and sex to be shared. The problem was, she had little or no desire. Every sexual encounter was not satisfying and I could not do what I wanted to satisfy my urges. The main urge is for me to satisfyher. It took me way to long to realize it just wasn't going to work. Now, I changed my outlook in finding a new partner, without risking going without sex for months and months at a time. I met that girl I was looking for. She is open with sex, as I am. Attentive to a partners needs, and shows me what she wants. She can come, and come again with little recharge time. I am in absolute bliss as I am ready to use any and all tools at my disposal to satisfy her as best I can. I may tire out after a few hours, but that's because I am human. I can fully accept that she may always have more stamina than me, and I will never let that intimidate or discourage my ego. I am open with her to my limits and am confident that we are going to teach each other all about our selves when it comes to the sexual side of each other. That's my story, and my approach. In your case all I can suggest is opening yourself to your hopes, fears and joys with your partner. Sex is important, and more important to others. Relationships are built on truth and loyalty. Truth comes with honesty and respect for one another. It can hurt at times but is a beautiful thing to share with your loved one. The acceptance of ones truths is what allows you bond forever. Loyalty is what a couple aggrees to do and expect from eachother. Be loyal to yourself first and never settle for anything but what keeps you who you are as a core person. You may not be able to keep up with your partners sex drive at times, and you need to tell her that. Tell her your fears, and why it is hard to talk about it. I hope the best for you in any outcome. One thing that might help is making videos of your sessions with eachother. She can watch those and you can still be involved with her getting off by herself. have fun
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): SORRY TO SAY GUY but women are capable of FAR MORE SEX TO ORGASMS than men. The average women 18 to 40 are able to masturbate 3 to 5 days a day having 3 orgasms per masturbation session and that can be 20 to 50 or more orgasms per week. I FEEL SAD ABOUT THIS because at 44 im only able to have an orgasm once every 4 days and that is it for me or i'll be worn out. NATURE DIDN'T MAKE LIFE FAIR FOR MEN. If the tables were turned and women were the ones that had far less orgasms per week and men were capable of far more, then women will finally know the suffering us men have to go through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): lmao be a man and give her what she needs i have a very high sex drive and if i can and he lets me i have it about 6 to 7 times aday. so i dont think that she is asking for to much lay back and think of england
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): Wow now I know am normal, I was starting thinking that I was weir cuz I have a high sex drive, I lost my boyfriend cuz my sex drive, we Used to have sex two to three times a day for no less then 45 minutes or I can go all night, oral, anal love that, never get enough, but my boyfriend couldn't handle me and left me saying that was to afraid I was gonna sheat on him, then I meet other guys after and they also couldn't handle me they think am too much. So I am by my self but I just one to have only one partner. I also feel rejected cuz after awhile they don't want me anymore. Why is that? They all think am the perfect woman with many virtudes but they just can handle me even guys who supoustly are good with sex or High sex drive. After I read most of the post now I know am normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): well i have a high sex drive and my boyfriend says the same thing as you its more like when a girl really loves you and shes comfortable she wants to express her love also if shes not getting of she will tend to keep wanting it until she satisfied on the other hand. you should be damn happy that someone wants to sleep with you. many people would damn to wish to have her place buy her toys see what happens
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): There's nothing wrong with your girlfriend. I'm a 21 yo girl and I have a high sex drive. My fiance and I usually make love 3 to 5 times a day depends on how busy we are, I want him all the time. But there are times when he's extremely busy with his work and I'm in need of sex, I usually do something else to distract my thoughts about it like cycling, swimming or any exercises or sports that can make me sweat and tired. For me masturbating will make it even worse because I'll be wanting him even more. probably you should talk with her about that and try to make her understand that you don't want it that much, not because you don't love her.. If she loves you, I think she will somehow understand. The most important of all, try to have a good communication between the two of you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): i'm 19 years old , and i have a high sex drive , and i think its hard for my man to deal with . He tells me he loves it , and he thinks i have a rockin' bod and so sexy , however sometimes he just doesn't want to ? Its just confusing i mean i'm not in a normal relationship , i have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. And of course i am the girl with the higher sex drive , so obviously we have sex more , and i always wondered what was wrong with me .. and then i read someone wrote they think they always want sex, because they feel they don't feel enough of an emotional connection to my husband. Sex is when I feel loved, wanted, and emotionally satisfied . And that is understandable when my boyfriend has two girlfriends, like talk about a jealous bug ahha no jokes . but seriously when there are 2 girls in the relationship and one guy it sucks if one has a high sex drive .
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): Hey I am one of these women except I am learning how to deal with it It has been a struggle,but I have learned about being considerate of my spouse/ partner. It is probably easiest to completely abstain. I believe I differ from most women with high sex drives because I am faithful. I have thoughts of it from time to time. There are times when my need causes me to physically ache.. If rejected at that time it is tough. Men with a woman like me needs to communicate a lot. If she really loves you she will listen and change things. To the the lady that referred to our condition as a dragon. I have used those terms too. I know exactly how you feel. You should find something physical and fun to do. I kayak and ride a bike. Don't completely stop having orgasms. Just don't let it rule your life. Drinking a lot really doesn't help. I hope that you try something else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): whats so funny i been w my bf 3yrs and i have a high sex drive and sometimes i feel my man dont want me or aint into me like he used to be. he tells me over and over by me wanting it makes him not want it??? it went from 4 to 5 times a week to 1 or 2 a week. i feel like the man...its confusing there are some woman who dont wanna have sex w there spouse. here i am ready and willin to please him and only him!!! yet sometimes i feel undesierable... i get depressed. u should tell her how u feel though hes told me and i still dont understand its making me not into sex as much as i was b4 cuz i have the idc anymore attitude and thats sad idw lose him. hes the best thing that ever happen to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): I have a high sex drive. But I use a lot of it at the gym. I call it "fucking the weights." With my supplements and physical health...I still have sex two times a day. If I didnt bust ass at the gym as hard as I do I'd need 4 or 5. My girlfriend has a high sex drive too. And i'd be a fool to think mine is as big....it cant be. A man has got to have a load...know what i mean.....a womans is strictly pleasure. My girl masturbates right after sex. I gave her 13 orgasms in one session and she's NEVER done....unless i just ram it to the point of sore. Hers the thing....I cant trust her. She is always horny. I've already caught her. And whatever....her sex is that good and i've distanced myself (guarded) to where it is what it is til something else comes along. Not only is my sex drive high but also freaky...as is hers. I kindof like her gettin it on with someone else. BUT....to settle down with her forever.....HELL NO! u cant trust a woman or man who is not never satiated after sex. but its fun while ur lookin for ms. right. if u have the energy (im always dry). i'm afraid of finding that someone i can trust and love to death and them being lame sexually.
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reader, Tizzie0612 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Honestly i dont believe there is. Maybe she just likes sex.im a 19 year old male and i ll admit i have the same problem as your girlfriend.For me, i think its because i was really attracted to my partner who i been with for almost 6 years.i lost my virginity to her and visa versa but ever since then its like i cant stop wanting to have sex especially with her. she gorgeous.She 's was use to it after a few years and like you doesnt really want sex as often.My cravings were only satified when she gave me a work out.Like really put me to work.After that i didnt really crave sex for a few weeks.I honestly believe that maybe your girlfriend just has a high sex drive is all. Also, if your up for it try really putting her to work in the bedroom. Give her all she can take and maybe she would be satisfied for a while.If nothing works try foreplay..or oral sex to give her some satisfication for the day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Look there is nothing wrong with her. I'm a 27 year-old woman with a very high sex drive. But what I have found is that the more you stimulate a desire the more you crave it. That is why porn is definitely bad for her. It is like someone trying to go on a weight loss diet but sitting in front of chips and chocolate and other bad foods all day. It just makes it worse. As for masturbation and sex toys I must say those are worse. While porn just creates cravings and brings no satisfaction masturbating by yourself brings a satisfaction that is of a lower quality and therefore acts as a stimulator again, because it is not what she is craving and it is not fulfilling.Again it is like someone on a weight loss diet eating sugar it is just going create more cravings. What dietitians tell people is eat good food, good tasting, and of good quality and fulfilling. It is what she needs from you, affection and attention. kissing, cuddling and love initiated by you. You also have to ask her what she wants you to do for her during sex that way you will satisfy her sexual cravings and make her whole. I don't think you can get her to want it less than once a day but that is healthy anyway. I actually used these techniques to reduce my cravings to once a day. and now I have found time to do other things in my life. I think more than once a day is when it starts taking over your life and becoming an addiction whether you are a guy or a girl. When you are in that state you are always thirsty and always in distress.But you can only reduce her cravings through those techniques if she agrees to stop masturbating and watching porn. That can be hard for her because those things are addictive unlike sex with a partner. Sex with a partner leaves you satisfied and happy instead of thirsty and in distress. I helps you excel in other life activities. You can ask her to masturbate in front of you that is OK, because it is still sex with a partner and it can help you to understand what she craves. Sex with a partner is what we crave. It is good high quality satisfaction. Sexual drive is a human desire and like all other human desires there is a point where you find you have taken indulgence too far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): I know what you are going through.
When I was at the peak of my sexual prime (19-20 yo) I had a woman who would have sex 6 times a day.... I was was sore and worn ragged down there. No matter how much it was hurt, at that age it would always stand tall.... I remember the first time I asked her to just give me a break... I had sores on my MVP. She looked down and apologized...
She was still the most sexual woman I met. She would never deny me any request or fantasy.... but she was not right for me....
Sounds weird, but All I really wanted was a girl to have sex with 3-5 nights a week.... TOPS!!!
All my buddies thought I was crazy, until I said.... Hey bros, do you think you could handle that much... No one of my friends was getting that much.... It was a chore....
When I could not perform, she asked me to use a plastic mr. happy. That worked for a while, but seriously... I grew weary of me SERVICING her...
Ladies, if you have an active libido, good for you... I hope you can meet someone who can support it.
I really did like her, and after we broke up I sincerely hoped she could find someone to satisfy her consistently, I have heard about men who can do that. Me, I guess I am just a mortal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): I am yet another (middle-aged) woman who is celibate, mostly due to high sex drive. I had to leave my fiancé because it was like torture to be near him and always rejected. I don't masturbate or date. I'm completely celibate because it is best to not wake up the dragon. I try to keep her asleep. I eat too much food and drink too much alcohol. It is better than suffering constant rejection. Although it is a tragedy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): I too am a lady with a VERY high sex drive and My husband of 3 yrs is slowing down, we both work and manage the house together and we are both in our mid 30's, I work as much and as hard as he does but I am still ready for SEX every night of the week where as he is ready to play on the computer or watch tv... he says he loves me deeeply and is turned on by me but sometimes i take it personnally when he doesnt act interested, I write him fantasy stories and text him all day and flirt and try to wear skimpy clothes to bed just to get his attention but nothing seems to work, IS it me or him? I mean I love him with all my heart but I am worried..this is my 2nd marriage and the first one Did NOTHING for me sexually, and I was molested and raped as a young girl and teen so I really thought i would NEVER get this feeling back, but now its here and stronger than ever, I mean I am at work in the bathroom touching my self b/c i am so turned on it hurts!!! I tell him these things and tell himhe should be glad i fantasize so much about him seeing as I NEVER liked or wanted sex before him, but still he is pretty much unaffected and when we finally do connect once every 3weeks maybe, its VANILLA and sooo boring, Please Tell me what to do, can you be in love with a man that doesnt want you the way you want him?? will it last?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): I too have always had a sex drive since I became sexually active. I have only had one guy who had a sex drive higher then mine and it was too much! The rest always complained about and made me feel like there was something wrong with me. But reading this forum I realize that I am not the only one and I'm not weird and that its normal. I think I felt this way because men supposedly want more sex then women, its been drummed into our heads our whole lives!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): I'm a male with a high sex drive who needs around 4 orgasms a day. So I can sympathise, not many women want it that often. I wish it was easier to find people who matched your sex drive.
In any event, it doesn't matter, if you love the person, you'll deal with your sex drive with masturbation, it is not necessary to cheat. You can start to think of sex as a special occasion, kind of like eating out rather than staying at home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): I am a woman and I have the same problem.I honestly thought something was wrong with me and wanted to see the doctors until I read all the posts.My husband is younger to me by 4 years but he has a very low sex drive while mine is very high. I feel very frustrated as I am left clinging thin air. He can go for weeks without sex while I can't. He has sexual hang ups and doesn't get a proper erection. I am frustrated. I did have patience with him but my patience is wearing out.He used pills one or twice but doesn't want to get used to it.We talk about it and he tells me it will get better sometime later when he gets over his hang up.I feel depressed and cry at night plus my sleep patterns are getting erratic. My ex husband was excellent in bed unfortunately he was emotional abusive. When my present husband I do have sex it's so placid that I can yawn. He says he hasn't been used to a woman being so passionate in bed. He also dislikes oral sex. Sometimes I wonder why I married him.
You cannot tame her sexual desires. She was born with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2010): i really understand what the lady aged 45 who answered in Nov 2010. There is nothing unusual about women with a high sex drive. There are many out there. I thank God my husband and i are well suited. I do appreciate his willingness to meet my needs. And over the years i've grown more insatiable. He's always ready for sex and so am i. . We don't have hang-ups. His encouragement and sex-talk on the phone if he's away delights me. If he is away i resort to hours long masterbation sessions. Being unfaithful is never an option. In public i can walk, talk, dress as, be, a lady. In the bedroom i am sexually voracious. His favourite name for me is 'jezabel'. He jokes that if the rest of the world had an inkling of how much i love it there would be a line of men at the front door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): I am a female. 21 years old.. newly wed. I was looking for answers too. Because I have a higher sex drive than my husband. I didn't know how normal it was. We have a pretty good sex life. we usually make love between 5-10 times a week. And that is pushing it for my hubby. If we could, Id have sex 3x's a day most days of the week. I guess a high sex drive in women is common. but my word of advice is.. sometimes my sex drive is so high because i don't feel enough of an emotional connection to my husband. Sex is when I feel loved, wanted, and emotionally satisfied. More masturbation and soft cuddling always helps me not have to have sex three times a day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): I am 47 and I've always had a high sex drive. Well, at least since 24. I have a career, do interesting things, and want sex everyday. After a run, or hike, sex feels even better. After work, before work - sex is great. I can go long periods without sex; but it's not my preference. Also I DO NOT have multiple partners. I am a dedicated woman who only wants one partner. I find the notion that there is something wrong with a woman who has a high sex drive absurd. I work all day, but if I could I would take a break just to have sex; well I've done that, but would like to do it more often. Yes some people, have high sex drives. There need be no negatives associated with it. Actually I can say this, the more involved I am with physical activities, the better sex gets.I do not watch porn, and am seldom bored. I have a physical desire for sexual contact. I like love making, touching, talking, holding hands cuddling, and all that goes with having a loving partner.I looked up this subject because I am with someone who finds my high sex drive great. But I am often teased about it, in a loving way. Today I wondered if many women have high sex drives. Now I know - yes they do. I will relay that to my loving partner, and perhaps he will find another way to tease me with it. The teasing is a turn on too. So hey, bring it on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): yeah...from the most recent responses, alot of women have a high sex drive. This observation relieves me a little, I sometimes feel like a bit of a freak 'cause I have a high sex drive and am constantly told it's not "normal" for a chick. My boyfriend's sex drive isnt by any means low, but mine is that much higher than his, so it becomes problamatic. I feel rejected sometimes by the one person I want sex with (and frustrated by the fact that guys constantly hit on...but it's not the person i want ..i.e. my boyfriend) and I think it makes him feel inferior (which his is not by any means). In the end, I can only suggest affection (so she doesn't feel rejected)and an discussion that diff. people have different sex drives and you both need to respect that in each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): I am 45.My sex drive is so high that I am celibate.I can have a hundred orgasm a day.It is unreasonable to expect any man to satisfy me.I am not a whore, or a slut.I can't handle casual sex, and I only like to be with a man who I actually LIKE.So I am alone.Sometimes I masturbate all day, ALL day. Floods of orgasms all day.When I am exhausted, I rise and have a day.The people around me can feel the energy of my powerful sexuality.Many people fantasise about me, but I keep alone. I don't like a man who can last a long time, because he can wake my body up, which means that I'll have a re-activated sex drive, which makes me feel terrible pain inside.I know that such a man will only be strongly sexual for a short time, whereas my sex drive does not stop.So allowing any man to affect me is an untelligent option.You men are too weak and I respect your limitations.So I am not sexual with other people.I stay alone.I sometimes write porn, to allow my sex drive to find expression. It makes me really hot, and I masturbate for days and days, endless continual orgasms.There's no one man who can satisfy me.I believe that I am genetically suited to being in a male group, and they all express their needs with me, and I would be able to handle it, no problem.I don't want to have a lot of strangers. I think that that is disgusting. But if I were stuck on a desert island, with a group of men, I would be able to offer all of them relief, and be satisfied myself.If I were continualy occupied as a sexual being, by a group of men, it would be enough.Because of my powerful sexuality, I am really reluctant to allow any man to give me an orgasm.If a man gets his hands on me I do everything I can to make him come as quickly as possible, and if he gets close to waking my body wake up, I stop him.I fake it.I know that if a man wakes my body up, I'll need him a few times a day, and no man can keep that up.You men are weak. I am genetically designed to be with a group of men.If individuals in that group knew that the other men were satisfying me the natural male competition would kick into action.I believe that the male sense of competition would make the men in my group more active.I do not have the olden times chance to be with a group of men who could satisfy my high sex drive.A woman with a high sex drive is damned as a whore.I am not a whore or a slut.I am a woman who is alone, and I still have many, many orgasms a day.A man caught me masturbating in the local sauna and steam room.He tried to 'play' with me, but I had to run away, because I know that he isn't enough for me.I would have loved to play with him, but I knew that he would be weak. You men need to think about how many orgasms you give your partners.I don't need cock to orgasm. I like violence, I like oral, I like G-Spot stimulation. I like fantasy.I like to be with a man who is turned on, so I can be turned on as well.I need a man who knows all this, who sees me as a sexual being, rather than as a sex object to satisfy HIS needs.Men use women to satisfy their simple and fast need for release.Sex is more than that.I can let a man release his need, and not blink.He is nothing to me.I have not had an orgasm with a man for 20 years.I don't expect any man to give a damn about me.And I have never met a man who does.You men are so obsessed with your own needs that you forget that we women are capable of much more than you.A man holding me, whispering into my ear, fingering me, telling me a fantasy, is enough to release all my power to satisfaction.But a man who thinks that I am a hole for HIS satisfaction is useless. He isn't enough. Cock isn't enough. Not in the long run.How many women would like to be held in a strong grip by their partners, held open and immobile, as their partners whisper stories into their ears of what they would like to do to them, stories of voyeurism, violence, sexual diversity that would make their partners feel madness, arousal, and then a little bit of fingering would be like a volcano exploding???Uh, well, it's not about cock action, so how could any of us ever assume our men would realise that their women are deeply sexual beyond what a cock can do?We are genetically designed to be profoundly sexual.But female sexuality is whores and sluts and hate as determined by recent evaluation of sexual behaviour.Your ugly attitudes don't alter what genetics has created.I need a lot of men. To survive my sex drive, to keep it asleep, I am celibate.I realise that this culture and social system is not right for my sex drive.I cannot go out looking for partners. I feel repelled by promiscuity, for myself.In the old days, women like me needed a survival group of men. A set group of men. And we would have been ready for all of you.But nowadays, women who would be appropriate are no longer needed.Thus, I realise that my genetics are no longer valuable to the survival of the collective, and I have had to 'switch off' my sexuality.Think on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): It is true, most woman have a very high sex drive and with that in hand two things tend to happen. One she will become depressed and not want to have sex or she will feel guilty because some other man is saying the just right thing to make her feel complete in the sexual part of her life. It is not either ones fault its called reproduction. The womans body is basically made to reproduce so she has a higher sex drive. Its not the fact of having sex all the time she could need the mental stimulation. These post all have really good ideas. Go to an adult book store and pick something out for her. It will show her that you want to please her and she will feel more fulfilled about the fact your trying to satisfy her. Also its not just the act of sex, try giving her a massage and explore her body without the act of sex. Physical stimulation without the act of sex also will fulfill a woman. Another great idea is cuddling her and being affectionate when you think she wants to have sex, it will make her feel more relaxed and she probably wont want to have sex as much. Maybe you need to ask her if she has any fantasies that need to be fulfilled because if she does that could be the reason why she wants sex from you so much too. Try talking to her because she will like the fact that you want to know how she feels about her sex drive. I'm pretty sure it makes her feel just a little insecure and scared that she will loose you because her sex drive is higher than yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): The truth is, women have a higher sex drive than men but they cannot openly admit it because they can easily face a lot of verbal and/or physical abuse by society, unlike men, which is very unfair. You know why? Women are naturally sexual and are programmed to have more sexual partners/affairs than men, due to the fact that they are naturally impulsive and can be laid, whereas men aren't even biologically programmed for that. But society (including men) has always been trying to prevent women from expressing their interest in sex and having multiple partners and forcing them into monogamy instead, which women normally don't want, and thus allowing men more freedom.
Anyway, just because your girlfriend's sex drive is higher than yours, doesn't mean you should be verbally and/or physically abusive with her, especially if you think she is sleeping around with other guys. That's what a lot of guys do when they know that their girlfriends or wives have higher sex drives than theirs. The truth is, most girls are just interested in sex, not commitment, and you can't change that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): she does not need to be tamed. You don't need to feel threatened or insecure by her high sex drive. At the same time you dont have to feel pressured to have sex more often with her. You excite her, she feels sexually interested in you. Thank her for that. Reassure her that you accept her exactly as she is. But you are not as interested in sex as she is. Work out alternatives that are mutually acceptable to both of you. Go for a visit together to a Sex shop and see if there are any sex toys that she might like. Ask her what she wants. Sadly you may lose her, but that does not have to happen. People get through these problems, but it needs mutual respect for differences. Not efforts to change someone you love, to suit your needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): Lots women hav a higher sex drive than their man. Encourage yr girlfriend to masterbate using her mind (meaning you can do it anywhere, even fully clothed). It took me lots of practice, but it saved my relationship and it's much less messy than using fingers. Now i give myself one orgasm before i start the day using my mind - though the contracting of my vaginal muscles still happens in waves and its lovely when it happens, i feel it coming as i manage my own mind fuck. Then i do it again, at least once more every day. If my partner is away on business i sometimes manage up to 8 orgasms a day. This means the five times a week my partner can manage most weeks become the icing on the cake. my partner knows all the things i love so he can always get me to orgasm, but he's not into porn nor as much sex as i'd like. Occasionally i go into 'high heat estrus' (my partner's description) and to manage that i sometimes wear an internal artificial penis gripped in my vagina all day. I go off like a rocket when i get this 'high heat estrus'. But i dont want to make life hell for my lovely guy. So instead i may take one or two 'sick' days off work and just masterbate all day (17 orgasms, including finger and mind ones and said internal artificial penis are the only way i get thru these periods. After its over i go back to normal. My partner loves it, now that i better manage my high enthusiasm, during those demanding times. I love him and want him in my life as my sole partner, so its up to me to manage the problem. He is secure in himself and never bothered when i have to use the fake penis, which i have grown to love as much as i love everything about my husband
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): Marry her !
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2010): ok so there is deff nothing wrong with her, well i sure hope not because i am the exact same way. my boyfriend and i have been together about 7 years now, i lost my virginity to him when we were in high school and we had to sneak around to see eachother privately. we were having sex at least 5 times per visit and once we got older to where i could just go to his house when i wanted to we were at it allllll day. we couldn't get enough of eachother. well, about a year or two went by and i'd noticed that he was wanting it less frequently at first i didn't pay much attention to it but now we live together and have for about a year now and i want it everyday at least once. but i'm lucky to get it 3 or 4 times a week. it makes me feel unwanted at times and wonder why he doesn't want me as much as i do him (which is why i googled this, to see a guy's point of view) but she probably just needs to be held more, cuddled with, every once in a while tell her she's sexy or grab her butt. she just needs attention. i know that i want sex alot to make up for the attention that i don't get. i would love for him to tell me he loves me more, tell me i'm sexy, and hug/touch/kiss me more than he does already. now don't get me wrong.. we have an amazing relationship we get along perfectly, pretty much the only thing we have a problem with is this and as i read someone else say "sex doesn't make the relationship" sex along with many many other things work together to make the relationship, if you love her it's fixable. which there is no doubt in my mind that you love her bc you wouldn't have sought help the way you did. i hope this helps :)
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reader, ladyybird +, writes (27 October 2010):
Why is it when men have a high sex drive its no big deal, but when a woman has a high sex drive it's oh no look out. There is nothing wrong with her... I have a high sex drive too, my husband no longer does.
Get her a toy to use or go get one together.. Men are never happy it's always i'm not getting enough sex or I am getting to much sex. I mean come on.. If you don't make her happy she will find some one else who will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Dude,
your girlfriend may have been raped in the past- before you. It is not uncommon for women to want no sex or sex constantly after rape or molestation. 1 in 3 or 1 in 4 women are raped. those are the stats. its horrific. you can simply ask her- but if you do, tell her that it isn't her fault, ask her if you can hold her, if she says yes, do it and caress her gently. be supper supportive. if she was raped and she breaks down in your arms she will need lots of love from you and therapy for a very long time. it will be hard, but she will have her life back at the end of all of it and you will be closer because after she stops dissociating you will be able to have real intimacy. that much sex does seem to be a replacement for something.
or, it could be nothing. maybe she just has a high sex- drive. from the amount of women who replied i think that is entirely possible. i am female and i had an extremely low sex drive from 19-26 at 26 it started to get better- and now its probably fairly average (33). from the post of others i surmise its not high- but every once in a while i have a day or two where it is high. actually, reading all these posts makes me feel better. there is allot of variety in people- period. don't judge her. just accept her as she is. it seems a little sexist to assume something is wrong with her. if she wasn't raped and you can't handle having sex that much i'm sure you can leave her and she will find a guy who loves it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Was married for 10 years with a woman who had a low sex drive.
I'd masturbate 1 to 4 times a day. By the time I decided to leave, we'd had sex 6 times in 3 years.
Met someone, at it once to twice a day for the better part of a year so far. No signs of stopping.
Further more, if I was to describe the spectrum of what I used to get up to in bed vs what I get up to now... its insane.
Don't wait around for it to get better, or worse. If you are mismatched - get out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): i think there are two possibilities. one of them is she wants to be sure of you are not cheating her. other is she wants more. my recommendation is masturbation. mastering in masturbation can longstand your erection up to 40 minutes. but firstly i think u have to talk to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): I am a woman with a high sex drive. I would love to have sex 2x a day, five days out of the week. My hubby has a pretty good sex drive, but it can't compete with mine. I masterbate at least 3-4 times a day along with the amazing sex i recieve from my hubby. For me it is relaxing, releases stress, and I can feel closer to my man. We go out and do activities every now and then, but not enough as I would like. Just the simple walk in the park with my hubby controls my crazy sex drive.It makes me feel at ease and like I dont have anything to prove to him. When he wants to do something (non-sexual)with me then I feel like I dont need to try so hard to have sex. It's the weird twisted mind of the modern day female that is at play here. You will probably never understand it. I'm a woman and I'm still trying to understand the things I do and why my sex drive is so strong.My first peice of advice is to watch more porn by yourself. Find something that you like. Not all porn appears fake. You have to find a category in porn that stimulates your sex drive, whether it be lesbians, double penetration, bondage, amature, spanking, cumshots, blowjobs, rough sex, soft sex, even gay or transexual sex. You have to find something that intrest you. Watch it by yourself! You will eventualy find something that makes you tingle.Second piece of advice, once you find that bit of porn that intrest you, talk to her and try it in bed. Try a blindfold, try an ice cube in various places (clit, nipples,etc) shop at a local lovers shop. Simply shopping for sexy clothes can be a major turn on for both sides. Possibly research prostate stimulation (I know it sounds scary but the result i've seen have proved incredible).Enjoy and statisfy your girls sex drive. If you can't, I can garentee you that she will move one to a guy with a stronger sex drive. If you are not pleasing her and giving her the attention that she needs then she will find someone better. So love and "LOVE" that girl like there is no tomorrow.
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reader, Lauren123456 +, writes (30 September 2010):
Look I am 23 I have always had a high sex drive nothing wrong with it if I could I would have it every night but my partner wants it every 5 weeks or so he says when he is in th mood! Ur question0shoulm not b is there some thing wrong with, her it should is there some thing wrong with, me not wanting sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): I am a28 y/o female with a very high sex drive! My husbands sex drive isn't quite as high as mine but he still gives mr what I need. I feel sorry for ur girlfriend she don't know what she's missing! She could be with a guy that loves her and her high sex drive. I've been married 10 years and lots of sex works for us. It helps I've been doing anal for about a year now. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Most of you are wrong except people talking about compatilbility. This is what it all comes down to. These relationships you have are the ones that will not last, the ones that were not meant to be and where either one is NOT REALLY INTO the other one. I am a girl with a male libido because of the way I have sex and yes it is high, but only with the long-term partners I was truly in love with. When you are truly in love with someone, you know, both people are so into eachother, they will want sex all the time, it doesn't need to happen, but they do want it. They are constantly touching eachother and always wanting to be around one another. Bliss and happiness is what that is called. When one person is not so in love, this happens, the other poor person in love is accused of having too high libido, eventhough it is you making that person have a "high libido" because she/he is so in love with you therefore founds you sooo attractive, but the more you refuse the sex, the more they think they need to try harder and are actually in love with the fantasy version of you, they fantasize about awesome sex with you, when in reality - you are giving nothing in return! And people are so prone to fantasizing and it is very dangerous!
It all depends with whom you are with in a relationship. When you really fall in love, you will be all over that girl. Trust me. Righ now you are not in love with this girl. Period.
Good luck:)!
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reader, JazzGig +, writes (8 September 2010):
Chances are high that she uses sex as replacement for any other activity that amuses her, relieve her from everyday stress and so on. Find out what else apart from sex turns her on. Find out what she likes and do those things with her. Take more interest in her. When you read the last three sentences I wrote take them very seriously because you will have to do what I said very intensively; in a few words: Love her more in an asexual way. See what kinds of art she is interested in, go to a show she likes, talk about her family and yours, tell her more about what you like, take her to a show you like, play or watch sports you and she might like. It might be a little difficult for you but not impossible. It might mean a little change in your life too. I hope that girl is worth the effort. After all she is giving you her body and you should not be grateful as many other people here have already said. BUT if she is too selfish simply dump her! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): My girlfriend is the same way. She gets upset when I'm not into it but sometimes the texts telling me she wants to have sex in the middle of the day seem like over kill. Sometimes I just want to watch TV in bed but when I feel her put her hands on me I know I can't say no as it would offend her and start a fight. She complains because with her ex she could have sex 2-3 times a day but with me I'm fine once every week or less.
It bothers her that she wants it more than me and it bothers me and sometimes I find myself wishing I was with a girl who only wanted sex 3-4 times a month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Man, I envy you. I wish I could have it once a week let alone 3-4 times in a day. Dam man you got it going on. I am married and if I am lucky I would get it once a week, but usually it is once every two weeks. And if I asked her for some, she gets mad at me and says, "Is that all you think about." You have to be happy and if having to much sex is something you don't want then I understand. But dam, I wish I had your hand buddy. I would be a happy man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): I'm a 44 year old woman who had been married for 20 years to a man with low sex drive. I'm now happily with a man who matches my own high drive. Compatibility in all aspects of a relationship is so important. Sex, sense of humour, views of child rearing etc.. My suggestion to you if you are too tired use toys on her or oral sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): Count your blessings man. Some of us have girlfriends with a completely absent sex drive, and it kills us. If it ever becomes "too much" for you, think of how it would be the other way around, with no sex at all and a girlfriend with absolutely no sexual desire.
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reader, CC03 +, writes (31 August 2010):
Honestly dude, when you figure it out please let me know! Im a 28 year old female. I was always like you. In the beginning it was all the time but that wore off and it went to more like 3-4 times per week. Seems pretty normal. I met this new guy and I can not get enough! He says the same thing about me, that I wear him out! Hes always up for it but it bothers me that I want it more than he does. I know its not personal because (like you said) he thinks Im very sexy and Im good at what I do but why am I so horny?!?!! We only see each other usually one day in the week and then on weekends but I have a strong desire for him on the other days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): Honestly dude, when you figure it out please let me know! Im a 28 year old female. I was always like you. In the beginning it was all the time but that wore off and it went to more like 3-4 times per week. Seems pretty normal. I met this new guy and I can not get enough! He says the same thing about me, that I wear him out! Hes always up for it but it bothers me that I want it more than he does. I know its not personal because (like you said) he thinks Im very sexy and Im good at what I do but why am I so horny?!?!! We only see each other usually one day in the week and then on weekends but I have a strong desire for him on the other days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Okay, first - grow up. There is nothing wrong with her. Who said guys have the lion's share of sex drive all the time. You should get down on your knees and thank the stars above that you have a woman that wants you so much. I come from the exact opposite spectrum. Despite my romantic ways and efforts, my wife does not have a sex drive of any kind, and we both suffer.My advice is learn how to romance her. Learn what she needs - like other writers have mentioned. Perhaps she simply does crave sex lots of the time, in which case count yourself lucky. But then again, maybe she is unaware of other ways to show affection, or you both have not considered other ways to form intimacy.Communicate with her. Listen to her. And have her listen to you. You can't change her, nor can she change you. Learn to love each other as is...or walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): hello every one, i am a girl age 28. When i was 24 i had started enjoying sex with my boy friend (now my husband).
we both have full relation from the begining of my affair. I have a strong desire and is of my boyfrnd too.
Sometimes our full relation goes upto 8-10 times a day.
I also have very strong desire, and watch xxx movie even more than my husband. But it dosent make that there is some problem.
Now i am mother of 1 child, and still i enjoy same as before i.e 8-10 times a day, although frequency is low now.
It doesnt mean that there is some proble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): It sounds like she just needs a bit of attention from you and she feels that sex with you is when she feels closest to you, maybe she just needs a hug or maybe it is a very high sex drive. A relationship isn't only about sex but it does play a huge part, try talking to her. Lastly it is very natural for a girl to watch pornography but underneath all that it could just be a hint for you both to make your own ;) read the signs!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): my girlfriend was like that also..
our first 8 months of dating we had sex at the least twice a day but we only saw eachother once a week (so in retrospect twice a week) but then she got more sexual and we had sex 11 times in one day! and i know she was satisfied because shes has never once lied to me i told her if i was doing anything to tell me and i honestly wouldnt be aggravated or feel like less of a man
the way we got over it was just to limit it CHANGE the time you have together and do other stuff go to the pool take a walk or bikeride together the number one thing we did WE WERE ALWAYS AROUND PEOPLE if your around a bunch of your friends or your parents or co workers your sexdrive goes down stay active and stay social and put a cap on the amount of times for a week try 7-10 times a week -MR.J.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): Errr.. not to hurt your ego, but have you considered that maybe she's not satisfied? As in, reason she's always going for more is because she's left WANTING for more?
Do try and talk to her, but don't make it sound like a problem - take the "I really want us to work out as a couple" approach and see where that gets you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): I don't know it could be a sexual addiction, you said she watches porn 5x a week. Then again you are 22- 25, so i am assuming she is pretty young also might just be an age thing. Let your concerns be know to her, seek counseling if you feel that it's a problem and hindering your relationship. Remember that sex starts in the mind. Hope that helps you good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): Women have needs just like guys! If you can't be bothered with intercourse then just give her sexual attention. I'm exactly the same and it drives me crazy that sex is only available when it suits him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): ACTING LIKE A GUY?? as in guys are the only ones who can want sex all the time. i take offense in that, im a girl and i have a high sex drive. there is nothing wrong with feeling good as much as possible and sex feels GREAT.
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reader, Amylikealot +, writes (11 July 2010):
I think a great many women do not like to admit to a higher sex drive because they have been conditioned by society to think as you do, that there is something wrong with us. It shows remarkable ignorance for a guy your age in 2010. Many women have higher sex drives and it is quite normal I assure you. I have over the years counseled couples to have sex daily and still advise this, just as many pastors these days do. It is excellent for communication as well as health and stress. As a women I run 5 miles a day and stay in shape and my sex drive is important to me. As a couple our intimacy is extremely important, especially now the kids are grown but even without children or with young children this is an aspect of the relationship that is a vital component to the smooth running of the rest.Very few people know how old we are as we are both youthful ,attractive and extremely active but at 51, married and together well over 20 years and with adult children we still like to have sex every day. ( My husband is three years younger ) I can tell you that personally I would have sex twice a day left up to me and although his drive is high for his age mine is obviously higher. I think you either know how fortunate you are and are looking to gloat over other men or you are an idiot who does not realize what he has in which case you will be the looser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): Absolutely nothing wrong with your girlfriend. I am the same way and have been married a year to a guy who prefers it every 7 to 9 days when I prefer daily to every other day.
I realize how frustrating the difference can be believe me. But sex drive is not a gender trait and to say she is "acting like a guy" is stereotypical. Surely your ego would take a hit if she told you or others you were acting like a girl because you do not like it as much as she does.
The last thing you want to do is make her feel bad about who she is. Communicate and compromise. I am not saying your issues will go away but they are far easily managed with honesty.
Some things that I have learned is to watch less porn it cuts back on the sexual stimulation and also to encourage him to watch it, which increases his. Talk to her, lay out a planned compromise of some kind. example: certain days are off limits, or she is to masturbate half the time she wants to have sex, the other half I am sure you would be willing to have sex etc.
Hope this helps some.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): I have a high sex drive, i find that i cant get off over toys unless my boyfriend is using them on me, my blyfriend and i have talked about it and i understand but that still doesnt make me want it any less. I dont use sex to cure my bordom i like sex because i love the sensation and love my boyfriend and all though just because you love someone it doesnt mean that you have to have sex with them its my way off showing my love for him and that i am extremely attracted to him. he is often insecure because he is 10 years older then me and he cant always get it up or keep it up especially when he has had a few to drink,and just because this happens it doesnt make me love him anyless.It hurts when you get rejectd by the person that you love it makes you feel unsexy and that he is not attracted to me.. dont know if this really helps but try to see it from her point of view..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Funny I see some guys here saying that they don't like it when the woman wants to have sex and they don't and find that attractive and annoying.
THAT'S EXACLY WHAT YOU DO,
do you think women like it when the guy wants to have sex and the girl is not in the mood and the guy just takes her shirt off
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): To all those people that have written "maybe you two are not compatible.. that is RIDICULOUS. Sex isn't every part of a relationship; there are so many other aspects to enjoy. There are ways to make it work in the bedroom; you don't have to sacrifice your love for her just because she has a high sex drive.
To the main poster: I don't know you personally, but if my boyfriend said anything like this about me I would assume he was very ungrateful and didn't deserve me. It's not the fact that you can't have sex with her every single time she wants it, i understand that, its the fact that you're treating it like she has some kind of horrible disease. How can you complain about something like that, or even genderize it!?
I don't understand men; at the beginning of the relationship they are all gungho to have sex 24/7 and then later when the female actually acts like she enjoys it and wants to have it more they complain about it!
You're acting like you only want to have sex with her on your terms. Maybe she is asking for slightly too much, but shouldn't this be flattering for you? Obviously she enjoys it. There are so many men who wish they were in your very position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): There is nothing wrong with her per se. I was in the same shoes as you a few years ago. I ran into 3 women in a row with out of this world sex drives (literally wanting to have sex every day).At first it annoyed me. Then it became very unattractive to me. I like a lady who will sit back and entice me into wanting her, not somebody who is crawling up and down my arm trying to unzip my trousers.The best you can do is tell her how you feel and try to compromise. The first time (#2 in this crazy chain) I did it the woman completely flipped out. It essentially ended the relationship. The 2nd time I did (#3 in the chain) the woman understood and we worked it out. We are still together because she doesn't mind compromising.You can also try finding something for her to do. Find an interest of hers and get her really involved in it. I've learned the hard way that bored people usually turn to sex because it is exciting when nothing else is available.Funny thing is I had a friend who never understood why I complained. He droned on and on about how sex all day would be super duper awesome. Then he met a nymphomaniac who literally wants it every waking minute. Now he is crying like the rest of us because it has become a job that he hates.If she is worth it she will understand. Trust me I stayed at Holiday Inn Express last night.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): She is normal!
Just because she's a girl doesn't mean she should act all lady like and not want sex as much as you do.
who said that only men are always horny???
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): There is nothing wrong with her and she's not acting like a guy. Sex drive is an individual trait, not a gender specific one...(gender has no effect on sex drive). If you can't handle having sex all the time then talk to her and suggest that she please herself more often, it will satisfy her and take the pressure off you. But do not tell her that she is acting like a guy, it will make her feel unsexy and unfeminine and if you ever want to have sex with her again you will not say those things to her. Women can be sexy and sexual. If you are really that put off by her then you need to find a different woman who never wants to have sex.
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reader, USMC_wife  +, writes (6 June 2010):
Nope...nothing wrong with her.
Im the same way, and after looking for some kind of answer on google I found this site, and later read through some of the responses to your question.
I have been married one year, and have a high sex drive.
As a woman, I feel "not sexy" and "ugly" and "unwanted" because I inniciate sex 99% of the time, and out of those 99% I get regected 55% of the time because he is TOO TIRED!
So...think about it before you let her go...but if you can't handle her sex drive, then maybe it's best to go your seperate ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): Well, its hard to know where to start here. I think the point has been made that libido is an individual thing. Im 24, when i was 16 I had no interest in sex, when i hit 19,20 I started wanting sex, and now at 24 I need it the way i need food. I went 6 months without it (cos im single) and was climbing the freaking walls-toys are no substitute for a man. In a steady relationship say -two years in I would want at to have sex 3 or four times a week, though at weekends I would often like to stay in bed all day long. I can go without for months on end. On the other hand, I have female friends who couldnt do that-they need it 3 or 4 times a day, and i have friends with no sex drive at all who view sex as a chore of some kind.I think you are asking if theres something wrong with her, because if there isnt it means theres something wrong with you. Neither is true. You just feel bad, and somewhat inadequate becaue you feel she isnt satisfied. It hurts the pride-understandably. So how about you a) buy her sex toys to pleasure herself with b) make a compromise-sex 3 times a week but they will be supreme effort on your part. Explain how tired you are....but that you still find her attractive, and for gods sake do not say shes doing something wrong. tell her that you dont want to have sex half heartedly with her, and youd rather save it and have wild passionate sex instead.On the other hand if all of this sounds like a chore, then you should probably examine how you feel about her. Maybe youve been distancing yourself emotionally, and the decline in sexual attraction is merely a reflection of that. It could be why shes pursuing you, to try and connect with you in the way most obvious and familiar to her. It happens. When things got really really bad with my ex, I still wanted to have sex, when i found the idea of it repulsive I knew it was over.Think it through, anyway you both have my sympathy, and neither of you are in the wrong. Theres no manual on sex and love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): I don't think anyone understands what the original postor is going through....I am in the same boat....I know that generally men are more horny than women...but in certain cases women are more horny than their partners. Nobody can make themselves feel horny...so if a couple has sex once and the female wants it again after couple of hours (or four times in a day) while the guy is either drained or not horny, he can't just suck up and get his dick to become hard!...getting a hard on is something that happens by itself...it is about different levels of hormones which noone has control over...either the female needs to direct her energies to something else or they need to find different partners if it is becoming an issue in the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): I am 30 years old and my sex drive is out of this world. When I was a teen, I wanted sex every chance I got, then I got married and had kids and my sex drive went down. Then I turned 30 and my sex drive went into over drive just like when I was a teen. My husband on the other hand,wants it only 2 times a week. I want it like taking medication. Every 4 to 6 hours as needed, every day. Hell, I am horny thinking about sex right now! I have not cheated on my husband, I use toys to fill the need. But, sometimes that just does not help. My husbands rejection is making me fell really bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): My girl was the same way, turns out she cheated on me a bunch because of the high sex drive.
Shes just a nympho dude, always looking to have sex.
But be careful with the cheating thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): If your wife doesn't want to meet your basic needs every day, see what she thinks of you not taking care of her basic needs every day. Tell her she only gets to spend your money or use your resources on the days that she meets your needs.
I don't understand all the moaning women do over putting out for 5 or ten minutes a day. If you can't manage that with a decent attitude, why should your husband suffer through work for 8 hours plus commute.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): I wish I could meet a monogamous guy with a sex drive to match mine!Recently got dumped cos my ex said that sex daily was too much for him!?! So glad there are other girls who are like me.
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reader, LarryGalapagos +, writes (23 April 2010):
It's so good to hear that there are plenty of females out there who have a high sex drive, not just for the sex, but for the love and intimacy they feel from it.
I recently broke up with my girlfriend because my sex drive was much higher than her's. She didn't understand that I wanted her so much and that I really felt a deep connection.
I started worrying that maybe my drive is too high and I'll always be a frustrated guy. But reading this thread has helped me a lot, so thanks to all the females who shared their thoughts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2010): Me and your gf seem to have the same issue. I have a very high sex drive, and i constantly want sex when im around my bf. We have been together for 8 months now. I'm 21 and he is 24.When you first get together you tend to have sex 3-4 times a day. Well it didnt start like that with my partner. We only had sex once a day or so, or it would be 4 times a week. I wanted it and still want it all the time but he doesn't. Because of this I got very very self concious and thought there was something wrong with me because i have only been with one other partner before him and we always had sex all the time. I have had many talks with my bf and told him how i feel and he thought that i was PUSHING sex into the relationship which made me feel even more worse because all i wanted and STILL want is to have intimacy with him.I think he has lost his sex drive because he lost his virginty when he was 13, and i just lost my virginity at 20. I feel so bad sometimes because i ALWAYS initiate sex in our relationship and feel like im pushing him to do something he does not want to do. I tried and stll try to control myself, but it does not work. I think what your gf might want intimacy more than the actual sex itself. I personally love sex because i love being intimate with my bf, i feel so loved and like im the only person out there for him when we do make love. (very cheesy i know lol)The sex issue between me and my bf has become a little bit of a problem to be honest. I dont want to seem shallow about it, but its making me think if its always going to be like this all the time?The answer might be yes and like one of the readers said, you either deal with it or you break it off... well, im dealing with it, and lets hope i will be able to deal with it for as long as i can.My advice to you, as a female with a high sex drive is to try and COMPROMISE a little bit. Yes you might not be into it as much as she is, but try and make her happy. It never has to be sex, it can be foreplay, teasing and so on. It does not have to involve intercourse. Good luck, and hope things might change a little bitxxx
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reader, eyelo7 +, writes (22 April 2010):
I am actually in that situation right now, but in reverse. I am decent look with T&A and on top of all that, my sex drive is though the roof!!! What more could a guy ask for, right? Wrong, my boyfriend constantly makes me feel like there is something wrong with me. He will sometimes cancel dates because he doesn't want to end up having sex. Honestly, it doesn't make me feel pretty. Talking to her is great, but choose your words wisely, you don't want her to feel anything less than perfect. Because you can't honestly believe that it doesn't hurt her feelings when you tell her you don't want her. :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): Hmmm.... this sounds very familiar. I was married for 10 years and my ex had a very low sex drive. I was always the one pursuing sex. To me once or twice a day would be lovely. I have only met a handful of men that have had a similar sex drive. I think it is a myth that men are the ones always pursuing and thinking about sex. I enjoy sex with a great partner. As far as squashing my libido, it has always been high and I feel it will always be high. Working out and hobbies do not decrease my libido in fact, they increase it. I box and surf and ski and I notice when I am doing these things and feel really fit and in-shape my libido increases. I desire nothing more than at the end of a good day to go home to my boyfriend and share myself with him. I just enjoy good sex, nothing should be wrong with that. And it sounds like nothing is wrong with your girlfriend. I think it is just a matter of communicating amongst yourselves and understanding your libidos and maybe some compromising. Play some fun games and you may find that you enjoy it and want it as much as she does. Let yourself be seduced. She probably doesn't want toys, she probably just wants intimacy with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): I myself have a high sex drive and is starting to decay my relationship. Im 27 and have ALWAYS had a high sex drive. I thought it was all me, my hormons, my needs ect... turns out there's a two way street with this! I found that during the rare times i wasn't after sex and my boy friend made physical contact even just a hand on my leg a kiss while passing by eachother... whatever.. Oddly enough the times when this did not happen ie:he ignored me because i was after him all the time.. the more and more i wanted it!!! Being busy and ignoring is NOT THE WAY TO GO! Us woman are aware when a man isn't as "into" it as she... I tried dressing up.. down... u name it, i tried it because in the beginning is was all sex all the time.. so here i thought if i got into something new maybe it would be like it was before? No... the only way any good can come from this is if you talk to her.. do not accuse.. do not make her feel like she's in the wrong for wanting you!! It's all on how you present it to her.. that'll be the make or break.... no toys can top that... trust me.. i've tried em all.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Wow,
I am the exact oppisite of him. I am almost 45 years old
and my Wife is about 3 years younger than me. My sex drive seems to be the same as when I was 17.
I have been with my wife for almost 14 years and Married about 8 of those years. It was great the first 2 months,
we were having sex every day and sometimes 2 or three times a day. I know it is normal to have a lot of sex when you are new to the realtionship, but then it came to a screeching halt. Before the year was up, we were only having sex 4 or five times a month.
Fast forward about 2 years later and it was only a few times a year. Alltough we talked about it and she says we will have sex more often, it hasn't changed much.
I usually masturbate at least once everyday, but twice is normal and three times is not uncommon.
When we do have sex, it's because I bugg her about it and I think she feels bad. It doesn't make me feel good inside, because I want her to want me.
So age in my case has nothing to do with it. We have sex so little that when we do have sex, I'm nervous because It's a unfamiliar thing for me. I would even settle for sex once or twice a week. I think it's great that some women have high sex drives. i would not give mine up for all the money in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): Thank your lucky stars! My wife only wants it once a week, and is so quick when we do it that she's had 6 or 7 orgasms within a couple of minutes while I haven't even been able to shoot off myself. Then she loses interest. Foreplay is definitely not in her repertoire.
Dear friend, could you consider a wife exchange with mine ??
She is exactly the opposite....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): I don't know about most other girls, but I am the exact same way. I'm 21 years old and I don't know if it's because of the age or what.
I've noticed that guys I'm with usually tend to think that I have a ridiculously high sex drive for a girl... I think it may have something to do with hormones.
Women with higher level of testosterone tend to have higher sex drives than women with lower levels of testosterone.. women normally produce testosterone as men do, just lower levels of it (I have a major in Biology).
I know that supplemental hormones such as birth control pills and such can tip the equilibrium of hormones in the body and this could also possibly cause an increase in testosterone. This can also occur from the effect of changing levels of hormones in pregnancy, but since you have said that you've been with her for a while, it's probably not that :)
Anyways, any number of things can go into affecting this and everyone is different. I'd say don't worry about it because maybe it's just the way she is, some people can't really help it haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): Thank your lucky stars! My wife only wants it once a week, and is so quick when we do it that she's had 6 or 7 orgasms within a couple of minutes while I haven't even been able to shoot off myself. Then she loses interest. Foreplay is definitely not in her repertoire.
If I was in your situation I'd find lots of novel ways of getting her off even when your knob won't stand up for you. In fact, I'd try to get her off so many times a day by hand-wanking, licking, even vibrators or other sex toys, to see what her eventual capacity may be. I'd be very curious to see if she has a limit.
Meantime, be thankful, I'd swop with you straight away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your girlfriend.
If you love each other, just have a serious talk with her & figure something out. I'm telling you though, be happy you have her. And also, when it comes to how she feels about you, she loves everything about you & so everything about you turns her on. From the way you smell to the way you laugh, etc. Even if you do non-sex related activities, I guarantee you it's on her mind. Doing stuff with you turns her on & having sex with you turns her on.
I'm 21 & I've had a high sex drive since I practically hit puberty. I masturbate nearly every night to fall asleep.
My sweetie goes to a university 500+ miles from home (where I am)& is quite far away most of the time, but when he visits the sex is wonderful, we get better every time, lol! Luckily for me, he's as voracious as I am.
And as for people who enjoy sex 4 or more times a day, how long do your sessions last & have you ever just kept going for hours at a time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): My husband and I used to have sex 4 or 5 times a day. Now its 2 or 3 times a week. He is a very attractive man(no shit). I always wanted an attractive man but damn whats the use if he's not gonna give me what I want(SEX) - just kidding. Any way my sex drive is very high and I have even had thoughts of cheating because he doesn't want sex as much as I do. Trust me I don't want to but a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): me and my girl are bolth 22 years old and if i can get it once a month without beging i am a lucky man i love my girl but i whant more so shut up i whould love to be in your place
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): no worries i am the same and always have been since i lost my virginity. i looked up high sex drive in women because i can never find a guy as horny as me. i found out that its because of high hormones such as talking birth control pills and such... but good luck, something you will have to get used to
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): Your sex drives aren't compatible.
She wants it all the time, and you just can't keep up with her.
I think you two should see other people, you both may end up happier.
I was with an older guy for about 6 months and I have a really high sex drive, and he didn't. As a human, sex is a need. To me it's like dehydration, when your partners sex drive is way lower.
Now I'm with someone my age and the sex is A-mazing! We go at it 4-6 times a day. We are so attracted to each other it's kinda pathetic, but in that sexy kinda way ;)
Not only is the sex good, but I adore him so much. We have everything in common and even when we aren't having sex we have so much fun. I feel like I've found the love of my life.
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So suck it up, or dump her..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): hi just read yr tx and theirs noyhtng wrong with yr misses to be honset i just asked my parther if he wrote it about me lol thats wat im like to a t i think ive got the male sex drive and my parther is the girl .i do think sometimes women can have a sex drive like men at lest i can say my parther wot cheat on me for sex he gets it to offten lol so stop stressing and count yr self bloody lucky you go girl.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): I had the same problem with my boyfriend. We've been together for 17 years now, and over the years I've learned a few things about him. I found that when I wanted him all the time, he was NOT in the mood. I tried everything to get him to have sex with me, and nothing worked.
It seemed like he got turned off by me trying to seduce him all the time, so I decided I was going to turn things around!!
I wore skimpy clothes that showed off my big tits and nice ass. I started talking more to my guy friends, and I wouldn't let him touch me (sexually) for over a week. When we went to bed, instead of me cuddling him and playing with him like I usually did, I just rolled over, said "Night Sweetie", and went to sleep. If he tried to touch me at all, I said "I'm not really in the mood, maybe tomorrow?".
Something happened in his brain. All of a sudden he wanted to seduce me. :) He asked if I was still attracted to him or if I was running around on him. We had a bit of an argument and then we had the best sex I've ever had. (Hehe)
To this day I still play hard to get. I'll lap dance for him sometimes and not let him touch me and that drives him absolutley crazy!
I guess you can handle a pussy, but you're not quite sure what to do with a cougar, huh. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): dude, dont complain.... Get her some sex toys and see if that chills her out if not, just give it her....!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): Iv just been researching this, it is actually possible that she has a high level of the hormone testosterone. this doesnt make her more like guy, because natually women produce testosterone from the overies to help balance the women hormone estrogen. If she has too much testosteron, like massivly high levels, she would develope a deeper voice, facial hair and ect ect like a man.
I think she has a high need for sex because of personality aswell maybe, kind of like a phase in her life where she thinks its really cool to focus all her energy on sex. Maybe redirect her energy into exersising more, which is really good for girls with high tesosterone! (like a boxing class)
Also, I mean her personality because she watches so much porn, that would just stimulate her more to want it more, whereas if she was doing somthing else like a different hobby, then she wouldnt be so 'ready to go' all the time. am i making sense? write back if i didnt
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): There's so NOT anything wrong with her. Some people have high sex drives others not so high...i'm twenty and i'd do it all day if i could...stop complaining! I'm sure all it would take is a simple casual conversation about it and all would be well. Watching porn is also totally normal, people need to relax a lot more about what men and women should and shouldn't do respectively.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Well I myself am just about to turn 36. In the past i have had average sex drive and then period of 6 years oa very low drive or desire due to a bad realationship. BUT now but fate or other I have met the "one" and have doen a 360 degree turn around. I want it all the time and if Im not getting it I think it and pretty much take any comment he said to a sex thing. I feel like a 18 year old male. I too have been told "honey is there a man in there with you" talking about my sex drive or that he feels like he is with a man because my desire for him is so high. It makes me feel bad because its not like I just have this crazy increased drive in general but it is just him. He has a effect over me. I have begun researching human pharmones the attraction to someone due to invisible chemical markers of the brain and I believe there is something to it all. But with that here nor there that will not curb my desire for him. I males that complain about their ladies who want them too much to remember this when they are too old and all they have is a memory of the days things were different and that they did not take advantage of it. Because guess what a side effect of you not quelling our desire will effect us in our mind and hearts as well. We do not understand this as much as "oh hes just a 18 yr old male" this is uncharted waters for all females. We hear of the dirty thirties and increas sex drive peek coming our way sometime in the thirties but still little help or expination for us taht get there on what to do about it.. So go home grab your gal and have your way with her before we ask or give you that look. Take charge of it that is all we ask for and perhaps you will quell us for a while...
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reader, milon  +, writes (14 January 2010):
My friend,
You are among the luckiest of the men folk around. Pls do not complain about your situation. I think you have to be in a sexless/low sex relationship to understand how lucky you are. We don't appreciate what we have until we see the other end of it I guess.
I've been married for 3 years now and I would be lucky if I get laid once every 2/3 weeks. Most of the time it's a major struggle to get her in the mood for sex. I share house work, we have a decent income and no other troubles. Of course when we do it, it's hot and steamy and great. Often she comes couple of times before we finish off. She's got her reservations such as not really willing to taste sperm, limited positions etc. where as I please her in every possible way... I have taken my vows for ever until death do apart..so i will live in this..but i hope you and all the men who have married those wonderful women who have posted in this as sexually active would enjoy what they've got to the best..good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): There is absolutely nothing wrong with her. As others have suggested, libido's sometimes go down after women accept the stability of a long term relationship. People tend to behave in ways that soothes their ego or problems, and craving sex and affection an unusual amount far into the relationship happens occasionally when somebody wants reassurance about other problems. For example, if you aren't spending enough time with her, doing nice things together or talking enough etc. she may be returning to the thrills and reassurance of that early relationship sex.However, if these problems do not exist, ask her if she wouldn't mind leaving three days of the week free just so you dont feel pressured. This might help, and will go some way in stopping her feeling rejected. Who knows, if you know that you can't have sex tuesday nights it might make you want it more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): You just insulted your girlfriend for having a high sex drive. That is so not cool. You feel like your dating a dude? You thought you were supposed to be the one doing the chasing?
Look, it is not okay to disrespect a girl for having a high sex drive unless she's cheating on you.
Having said that you should probably just talk about this and find a way to get past it. How about you sit her down and say, "When you [specific action] I feel frusterated and what I want you to do is [specific action.]"
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reader, sax  +, writes (3 January 2010):
yes, some women hv high sex drive. Married, earlier on in our relationship, sex was about 4 times a day. Now it's lucky to be even twice a week. I've always had a high sex drive. Love my hubby to bits, we talk about everything and he knows i feel sexually deprived. He's always tired, works a lot. Lately been having all this thoughts about just having one night's stands, with ex's of strangers for the sex. H's not opened minded to that so it's a problem. I use plenty of toys, etc, but that doesn't replace the 'making love'. Think i need therapy or medication....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): My friend,
You are among the luckiest of the men folk around. Pls do not complain about your situation. I think you have to be in a sexless/low sex relationship to understand how lucky you are. We don't appreciate what we have until we see the other end of it I guess.
I've been married for 3 years now and I would be lucky if I get laid once every 2/3 weeks. Most of the time it's a major struggle to get her in the mood for sex. I share house work, we have a decent income and no other troubles. Of course when we do it, it's hot and steamy and great. Often she comes couple of times before we finish off. She's got her reservations such as not really willing to taste sperm, limited positions etc. where as I please her in every possible way... I have taken my vows for ever until death do apart..so i will live in this..but i hope you and all the men who have married those wonderful women who have posted in this as sexually active would enjoy what they've got to the best..good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): WOW! Really? I thought I had a Problem too! My sex drive is High and my husband is kinda low. well, it used to be high just like mine but now it changed i don't know why. we used to have sex 2-3 times a day, sometimes once or twice a day but now my wants to do it once or maybe twice a week or a month, or he waits until I cum the first time and then he stops!!..(WTF! to me that's unfinished sex) but anyways he is in shape and he does not have any physical problem. He always complains that he is tired or just not in the mood. Well, at least now I know I don't have a rare disease lol but honestly speaking I don't know how to deal with this situation anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Holy crap.After reading the women's responses on this blog I think I've been screwed. Where were all you women before I met my wife? I would love to hit it 3, 4, 5 times a day! Hell I wouldn't mind just staying naked all day long. My favorite thing about sex is making woman orgasm even more than having one myself. DAM IT! DAM IT! DAM IT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Oh you poor thing. Not.
Dude can we trade my wife's sex drive for your wife's sex drive? You don't know it but you are one of the lucky ones. Don't get me wrong I love my wife but my wife has maybe approached me for sex once in 3 years. I do everything right I never leave her unsatisfied. Sometimes she finishes with 2 orgasms. One time I gave her 5 orgasms in a row. Yet sometimes we will go weeks without having sex at all and it's like pulling teeth with her when we do. She is always concerned about her physical appearance. most times she refuses to take off her shirt. She also only likes to do it missionary. She is also extremely insecure. We cant even watch a damn movie with out her freaking out about me seeing any amount of nudity. I had to throw away some of my favorite movies like "Euro Trip" so she would stop being pissed off at me. Don't get me wrong I love my wife and I took our vows seriously. I'm going to be with her till death do us part. The point I'm trying to make is: Count your blessings your a lucky man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): i have been in a relationship for 3 years where i wanted to have sex 3/4 times a day but my girlfriend wouldn't have sex more than once a day. it was very frustrating for me as i would end up masturbating everyday anyway.
now i'm in a new relationship and my girlfriend wants sex as much as i do. sometimes 4/5 times a day.
there's really nothing wrong with anyone's sex drive. u just have to find ur match.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): I also am a female, and i have a high drive. Sometimes I want it 3-4 times a day, other times 0-1 is okay with me. Luckily, my boyfriend is as horny as I am. He can get it up again in about 5 minutes after we have sex.
Your girlfriend does not have a problem. I love sex and it's completely normal. Are you fit? My boyfriend and I are both in great shape and it makes our drives so much higher. The more you exercise the more you want it. If it simply is the fact that you don't want sex, you are definitely mismatched sexual partners and you need to have a serious talk with her about it. Communication is the key. Tell her that having it so much is making sex boring. Maybe try doing something that excites you, like a semi-public place or using toys.
Regardless, something needs to be done in your relationship because neither of you are happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): I gotta say I dont think anything is wrong with her, I think something is wrong with you. You hav what guys want to be constantly sexually satisfied, and you wanna complain, I you may have some homosexual tendencies, acting like a man may not be what you want , I thin you want a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009): I am in my 40's been with the same guy for 17 yrs. I have a much higher libido than him and it is very painful and difficult for us both. I hate that he is constantly rejecting me and that I have no choice but to handle my sexual desire if I want to be with him. So over the years I have stopped initiating sex and wait for him to want it. Which because he gets depressed could be 10 days to 8 weeks. I have really struggled with the whole issue. I don't think that either of us is not normal we are just different. I don't really enjoy masturbation either which adds to the problem. He gets shy and embarrassed about sex and I don't think he likes it if I go to wild. Although when we do have sex its normally great. Tried not organisming for a while which helped to raise his desire for me
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): I have a extremely high sex drive, I have been told by every man I have been in a serious relationship with that its almost overwhelming. I don't never have understood it, and honestly I wish I could not have a sex drive half the time... Like an on and off switch would be great. The only thing I really see an issue with is that my current boyfriend and I fight over it, I have started to learn that if I want to be with him I have to pleasure myself instead. Be careful on how you bring things up with her when you deny her sex, because I know I emotionally get insulted when my bf tells me he doesn't want to. It makes me question how he feels, if he's cheating, if he's gay, just a bunch of stupid questions that shouldn't be bothering me. The one thing I had told to me that means a lot is that my boyfriend loves me and its not that he doesn't want to be with me but sometimes he just wants non-sexual intimacy. Good Luck, and I hope things work out with her, I know it can be extremely emotionally draining.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): I am a thirty four year old woman & my sex drive is great. I want sex all the time. Alot more than my husband but our sex is really good. Dont worry she is normal. Be happy she wants sex because some men complain about not getting enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Well, that sounds like me... nearly, exactly the same problem. Me and mine are the same age though. My man seems happy with once every 3 weeks, I want it more than twice a day. I used to spend weekends having sex with ex-partners, but due to the demand (from me), it broke us up. I feel that this current partner is going to leave to. He doesn't like ANYTHING!!! Porn, Sex toys, masturbation. A shame cos he's lovely, but we're obviously not compatible.You're obviously not compatible with her either. Rather than drive eachother crazy and end up being totally frustrated with eachother, you may have to come to some kind of compromise, or go your separate ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): I met my boyfriend when I was 27yrs and he was 23yrs.in 2002. I was at a blackjack table gambling on my sister's b-day. He came to the table and play on our table. First, I thought he was cute but didnt say anything. My sister and another girl on the table thought he was cute and was hitting on him. At the end of the night, me and him start talking and hit it off....we stayed at the hotel for like 2 weeks. We mess around and end up having sex. It was great! Now, its 2009 and we are still together. Our sex life is great! I gave birth a to beautiful baby girl in 2003. We have such high sex drive. But, I noticed for the last 2 yrs my sex drive is higher than his. Im always sooo horny. I want to have sex everyday. I want sex more than him most all the time. And especially when we are in an arguement(doesnt matter who's fault) my sex drive gets even higher. I just want him to F***me hard and just make me be his s***. I just want him to be real rough and just do whatever he wants and afterward when we are done I go back to being mad at him. Is that normal? Why when he make me mad my sex drive get way higher???? Anyway, I think in my realtionship I'm more of the man and he's more of the woman cause Im more agressive and want and need sex more than him. Sometime, we talk about having a 3sum, to see if that will lower my sex drive or help my sex drive. And Im willing to let him have sex with another female while Im watching to see if that help or maybe let him watch me be with another guy. Anyway, He's home. Im horny right .BYE
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): You lucky man.
I wish I was in your shoes, I can have sex 5 times a day.
My wife tells me I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): Its not that helpful to worry about what is "normal" the real question is are you well matched. My girlfriend is 44 and I am 63 and we both left relationships with partners our own age who "just weren't interested". We have been together 3 years and have sex pretty much every day, more if there is time. We feel so relieved to have found each other.Obviously people differ, and for different reasons, so talking can solve some problems but sometimes we are just seem built different. However it helps to like yourself and your body and to be unembarrassed about it. Keeping fit helps and you will look and perform better
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): i am 24 years of age and me and my x boyfreind had sex 6 x a night or more so, he was 7 years older then me and had many sexual partners ive only ever had 5 but even i wore him out, we split up over 9 months ago he now has a new gf but we still meet alot just for the sex, i also masturbate at least 3x a night i love sex but im not into one night stands ect but its like once i start i cant stop?! i just find it difficult to meet a guy that can keep up with me AM I NORMAL?? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): I'm 26 year old straight female and consider myself a woman whose sex drive is on the higher end. I really enjoy sex when I have it (how can you not enjoy multiple orgasms??), but I don't *need* it every day, nor do I masturbate, frequent pornography, or engage in risky/alternative sex. There have been days when I've slept with my partner maybe 3 times, but that's the maximum.
Honestly, I don't think there's anything YOU can do to tame your girlfriend's sexual desires. It's possible that there are intimacy issues or that she views and uses sex differently than you do. Many people use sex to deal with life when they: are bored, crave adventure, want to escape, want to feel better, want to feel close to someone, want to feel in power/control, etc. I think the real question isn't why your girlfriend is acting like a dude, but whether "acting like a dude" may actually sometimes refer to a NON gender-specific PROBLEM that is tolerated, accepted, and even encouraged in males (but not in females). I could go on and on about this, but I'll spare you! ;)
Also, there is a huge difference between a high sex drive and sex addiction. I will not attempt to "diagnose" your girlfriend, but I do recommend doing some research on sex and love addiction in females if you want more insight. Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I feel your pain. I am very attracted to my girlfriend, and she's very attracted to me. She has a very high sex drive. I find 3 to 4 times adequate but she wants it 3x a day. I would love to be able to do this but there are a lot of times where I am physically tired and what not. And also there are times to where I just go soft and it honestly makes me feel defeated trying to please her. It also doesn't help that she's only orgasmed once during intercourse and it was with her ex. All of this ultimately makes me feel soo defeated. I am looking into Viagra or penis rings to try and help. I know it doesn't help what I'm telling you, bt I want you to know you're nt the only man wihthis problem. I I fnd a solution I'll let you know
-a fellow male with same issue
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): your lucky my wife has a low sex drive and never wants it mine is very high. maybe we should swop partners
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): LOL, I have to write. Im a Male 38, was married 18 1/2 and divorce still good friends just grew away from the romance, Sex was hit and miss and no it only lasted 20 minutes..lol Stay sinle for a year and half. Met my new love in MS, Im from Ohio. We date in highschool 23 years ago. We dated for a year while she lived in Ms, I was back and forth every week. She my everything. Any how while I made the trip weekly( I drive Truck) that how I was there so much but it turn out we was having sex 4-7 times a day for over a year and trust me I live there most of the time. I went from a 20 minute guy to OMG and even got to the point off it goes and it keeps on going. Seems so crazy. Now she in Ohio been here for 9 months and we havent missed a beat. I would never turn her down and we have talked about cutting back, She admits and I do to we both was sexually deprived and neither us needs it as much as before but I think we both still our keeping up with it because we both think the other needs it.lol Lack of comunnication. We both know one day it will end. I even have laugh with my ex that I have had more in 20 months then in 18 years. Please dont someone take that the wrong way, my x and I our still best freinds, she even had a check book for my accounts for 2 years after the divorce. So we talk freely and I know some people have prroblems with there ex but dont look at mind as normal. Lost the luster and didnt take the time to get it back, but will always be freinds to the end. You all have fun, just was doing some reading tonight seen this thought I would throw in my 2 cents. Morral of the story. My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her..My answer. She has probally found something thats not sexually you give her. My ex provides that to me and I provided that to her but ours it not sexually what so ever. Im not saying if you dont have this then sex is a blop, but women seem to enjoy more what Intimacy normal males provided and I personally feel the same way. Any one can do it..lol Please excuse the type o errors, its stinksThink about this 80 yo couple married 55 years and they did it one last time with what little strength they had. Would it be better or worse then a 25 year old couple that just met at the local bar. Who would get the most out of it Psychically and mentally. Thanks All have a good nite. Sorry again for the type o's would fix them but late and I goto get to bed. Need my rest
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): No, nothing wrong with her... I am 29.... not even at my peak and I am crazy... of course, I am dating someone that I absolutely adore and love... that increases my drive. I want him all the time! GRRR!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Man, we should switch girlfriends. Generally males have higher sex drive, but in many cases it could be other way around. I personally need sex 2-3 times a day (or at least want to), my girlfriend only settle for 1.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Your girlfriend is normal, she just has very high sex drive. However it can drive a relationship apart if one partner needs it more than the other and you cannot compromise. I left my husband of 5 yrs of which one of the reasons was our different sexual needs. There was a period of about 2 yrs! when my libido literally went out the window after having our first child. But when it came back my ex-husband suffered from premature ejaculation and we stopped having sex almost altogether. There were other problems in our marriage, sex wasn't the ultimate reason why the marriage dissolved but it was ONE of the reasons. I've now met a new partner and he satisfies me no end. We have sex 4-5 times a week, it's so great to have that feeling once again because I've always had a high sex drive (I'm in my early 30s). It's nonsense when I near people say lack of sex in a relationship/marriage is no big deal because it is important IMO. Love and sex go hand in hand.If the OP is still reading this I hope you can work things out with your girlfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): Im a guy and I have a high sex drive I wish your girl was mine I would go non stop with that I could last hours cum and still be hard
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reader, Rivermeetsanend +, writes (3 October 2009):
There are lots of women who have high sex drives...I consider myself one. But 2-3 times everyday? Where do you find the time for that?
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reader, Hotguy12345 +, writes (24 September 2009):
Girls, dont blame us boys. There is hardly any normal boy who can say no to sex if girl is HOT and Sexy.All of the girls complaining abt boys shd have a look on themselves first and ask yourself a question- are u hot enough to wake a guy's desires up. The problem is that after a while we boys get bored of seeing same face and body with no extra efforts to improve. And its a simple market mantra if u dont change your menu you will run out of business. If we boys have less sex desires then how come its possible to become a 24*7 guy if we are with a new hot and sexy girl (as u all say in the beginning it was more). So look at yourself, make some changes and get some hot curves plus give love to your boy coz we hate if u show u are with us only for sex. I am sure this will help u..Cheers!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): I agree with a lot of these girls on here. I too have a high sex drive and just don't get it enough from my boyfriend of almost three years. What I am wondering is what is wrong with guys these days?! I just want a lot of sex, and get so frustrated with him. It makes me depressed when I have to go for more than a week without it, and he acts like he doesn't even want it. I dont know what to do anymore. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): Your girlfriend sounds just like me. My bf and I have been going out for almost three years, and I too have an insatiable sexual appetite. Some girls are just built that way. If you can't keep up with her sexual desires, you should tell her to get a dildo. Perhaps a rabbit vibrator? I've also heard that the more you have sex the more you want to have sex, so maybe try to lay off it a bit. Whenever my boyfriend feels like you do, he just flat out turns me down, so I go watch porn and please myself. You need to make sure she is pleased when you are in bed, and she wont need it as much.
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reader, Just Gene the Marine +, writes (18 August 2009):
Well just talk to her about it man. Tell her you cant keep up and its draining you or however you feel. If she loves you then she will respect that and you two can find alternant ways to satisfy her needs. Me personaly I envy you I can never find a girl who can keep up with myself, yea I hate sleeping with many other females to get what I feel I need but its hard to find a women who is on par or higher then myself and love me for me. If i can find a girl such as you'res witch you are lucky i'll be good. And look at it this way bro at least she's doing it with you and not some one else to get what she wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): I am a 42 year old woman, I am tall, slim and have been told really good looking, I have a similar problem, I have found that since being with my present partner I have a higher sex drive than him, believe me I wish I could get it 3 times a week, sometimes its only once a week which is driving me crazy because I am so in love with my partner and I fancy the ass off him, I am fairly fit as it is, but I have tried to get fitter and toned up more to make him want it more, but doesn,t seem to be working.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I'm a woman and I'm the girlfriend in your relationship. Hell, you could be my boyfriend writing about us! My man and I started out having sex about 2 or 3 times a day when we first got together. Then he started wanting it about once a day. Then it became about twice a week. I love him dearly and would never leave him, but I almost feel like I was tricked! I mean, how can you be all for sex in the beginning of the relationship and not maintain that pace? Why the drop off? I just don't get it. It doesn't matter that we've been together for almost 4 years--I don't understand why suddenly I'm the one always asking for sex.Despite popular belief, women are highly highly sexual creatures. Most women DO have a high sex drive. Some men don't. I think you'll have to compromise in your relationship--maybe tell her to "get you in the mood" when you're not 100% up for it. Ask her to perform your favorite sexual treat to get you aroused and ready. This might help you gain a little higher sex drive as well as satisfy her (and show her that you're trying).At the same time, be understanding with her. Its VERY frustrating to be her (trust me, I know). Don't be angry or snap at her--she's showing that she loves you and wants to be with you sexually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): you are a lucky man. i love having Sex but not with my boyfriend. I dont really get turned on by him. We have sex about 3 times a month. However, i watch porn everydaY, masturbate 3 or 4 times a day and sleep with my ex boyfriend when i can. My boyfriend says i've got a higher sex drive than him. I even masturbate with a toothbrush! I dont know if i should leave him. I was abused when i was younger, and i suppose i dont get turned on by my boyfriend because there is no element of danger or dirt in our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): here is nothing wrong with her! what's wrong with you!? maybe it's you acting like a female. personallly, i love sex. ABSOLUTELY ADORREEEEEE sex. and yes, I'm a female. I live far away from my boyfriend, and when were together that's all i want. he doesn't mind so much either. your girlfriend is just a nymfo. like me :D i watch porn more than my boyfriend does.
i once made my boyfriend cum, and then we had sex again a few hours later, and it lasted FOREVER. it was AMAZING.
i honestly think you should stop whining, and open your eyes.
and if yor really REALLY not into the sex,
maybe your gay, haha
if yor not attractre
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): Sometimes I feel like I am the one with the high sex drive and I only want it 2-3x a week. I consider myself lucky to get it once a week however we never go more than a month so maybe I am lucky. We have a 20 year age difference; I am in my 30's and she is in her 50's. When we first got together, we were having it 2-3x a day and we started as an affair. However, 3 years later and now we are both divorced and finally together in the eye of the public...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Many women want sex more often than men do,yet are taught by society not to. look at the replies here - calling women sex addicts & asking where they find time to have 5 orgasms in one day? Would you ask a man that?? Some men have slept with more than one woman in a day, a woman who does that is a slut. It is like we are not supposed to like pleasure.
I am in my lat 40s & still would like sex daily. Or more than once when I do have sex. I feel comfortable with my body, my looks and I don't embarass easily.
Of course my partner of over 20 years does not want sex more than once or twice a week or less (that's a lot for him it used to be 5 times a year til I had a talk with him, he prefers to do it for himself, less work) He won't even let me try a blindfold which isn't even kinky.(but he will watch the kinkiest tv show where they travel all over watching machines do women and all kinds of really kinky sex)
Why are so many of us so mismatched?? I love him but lately have thought a lot about leaving and finding someone who really cares about my sexual needs. I think it has something to do with the men's general attitude toward women - they do not want to please someone that much when they have a bad attitude about women. My partner does & has no reason to as I have treated him like gold always and he is a very good looking man.
I read somewhere ( on a psychology site) that men who don't care about your needs in the bedroom will not care about your needs outside the bedroom either. It's true in my opinion. If you tell a man that you read that see how quickly he changes.
For the men who make women happy in and out of the bedroom I have to say thank you even if I am not with one of you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): Dump her dude, you are mismatched.
My ex had low sex drive, and didn't like her boobs handled, and I lived with that for years, thinking I was abnormal with my high sex drive and boob fetish.
After we divorced for other reasons, I met a girl with a high sex drive that almost matches mine, and she loves the boob play. She's not a morning sex person (I'm an all-day-ready-4-sex sex guy), but she lets me bang her tits in the morning and loves it when I come between them and rub the cum into her skin. She also likes porn like I do, and wants to watch it while we go at it. This weekend I came with her about 10 times between Friday night and this morning, and she about 4-5 times.
So I believe there is a sexual soul-mate for everyone out there, you just have to look hard, and put little subtle clues on eharmony profile about the kind of romantic you are, especiallly in terms of how often you like to "get romantic" and you will be more likely to find that soul mate.
Good luck,
Satisfied in SoCal
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): I am 26 and I have the same problem. I started being sexually active at a very early age, and stopped being sexually active at an early age as well. My mother is a very attractive woman and I would catch her in the act with porn in the background quit a few times, as far back as I could remember (3-5yrs), about 10-12 years of age I started masturbating, and at 13 having sex, from 15years-22years I did not have any sex nor did I want to, I didn’t even talk to boys, I went to prom with a family member. I have always been very attractive, even model for a long time. Somewhere around 22-23 I started watching porn for the first time and having sex again; now I can’t stop. I want it like all the time, the dirtier the better. I don’t even know how I went so long without having sex. The thing is that I only like having sex with one partner. I left my old boyfriend (late thirties) who would never bother me, for a younger man that was more close to my age that could keep up with me. The first six months it was sex heaven we would go at it like 6x a day, no joke. Sex clubs, strip clubs, parking lots, in front of people, porn the whole 9 yards. As soon as he took me home and labeled me his soon to be wife, our sex life completely changed. No more night clubs, strip clubs, and sex only about 3x a week… if that. We have been together for two years and my drive is still the same. I have to masturbate behind his back, because if knew he would flip out, trust me, he even threw out all my toys. He doesn’t even like to watch porn with me, at times I have to force him. I learned that, the less I bug him, the more he comes around. If I tell him no he’s begging me to say yes… and if I ask for it, he gets frustrated. I feel it has to do something with the Man feeling like the man in the relationship, I feel that if a woman starts to portray men-like qualities the Man gets turned off. As soon as I cached on to this our sex life is getting better, I even mange to get him to watch porn we me every now and then. I would never cheat on him, but I do get very frustrated to the point of leaving him, because I have to take care of myself a lot, about 3x a day, sometimes more.
Just try to come to a medium understanding. Tell your girlfriend how you feel, even if she cries, stand your ground, and try not to only think of yourself as well. You are lucky either way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): I only wish i was in your situation. My wife and I have sex about 2 times a week. I am 31 and she's 27 married for 2 years. I would like it to be at least everyday if not more. I have tried talking her to increase the frequency of intimacy. We have lot of communication, affection and understanding. But it seems she doesn't get the physical need to have sex so often. Of course when we have sex, it's always great and she orgasms 2-3 times before I finish. I love her so much. I have settled into masturbating at the other times I need sex, but don't get it from her. Enjoy what you have and be really really happy about your girlfriends desire...because i know there are so many of us out there who are not so lucky
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): I have a high sex drive like your girlfriend and when I was married I felt like the dude in the relationship as well and I also watched quite a bit of porn. But what I have learned of myself is that I have a bonified sex addiction and I am a sex addict. Your girlfriend sounds like a sex addict as well. I bet if you dig deep you will find some trauma in her past and you may also find she has an addictive personality. Sex for me is a drug, better than any drug I have ever tried, therein lies the problem and the reason for the addiction. Only it is never satisfied. I am coming very close to working on my addiction because frankly it is very frustrating to always have to have a partner for sex and not to be able to go with out sex. It is usually sex for all of the wrong reasons too. I hope that this helps you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): its not normal, my girlfriend is the same way.
i'll be playing a game or just watching tv and she'll all the sudden want it.... like every day, it gets old.
I mean, in my case, it would definitely help if she lost a little weight... but enough is enough. Cant you just love somebody and not have sex like a thousand times a week.
Shes the one with the problem man, these girls need to learn that theres a fine line between sexy and pathetic. Its almost like a reverse "hard to get" by being tired of it.
If i had balls i would tell my girlfriend that instead of researching on the net if i was alone in my situation. But if you're girlfriend is like mine, you can't have those conversations, because she cries, you say you're sorry, and nothing changes.... needy girlfriends man, they suck balllllllllllls
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): You got one of those good problems bro.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): So I love that this blog is like a year old and still getting lots of attention. Must mean that your girlfriend is normal and that there are lots of women out there just like her.
I am like her a lot. I love sex. I want sex all the time. 2 or 3 times a day would be super for me. I always am worrying that I am not normal too. I feel like I am wearing my boyfriend out too. Please do what you can to make your girlfriend feel normal not a weirdo. She is just a sexual person and wants intimacy with you. Probably has always been a sexual person. I am that way also. Starting masturbating at a very young age. And reading my parents dirty magazines.
Be glad, there are lots of women out there that are perfectly satisfied with sex rarely or never. Its fun too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Hi. I am 30 and extremely sexy. It becomes impossible for me to do my life works if i keep my self from boys for 2 days. Actually i dont want to marry because i enjoy sex with my any friends which are few thousands. I want sex 24 hours a day. Infact i do sex about 15 times a days with atleast 5 boys a day and in each sex i get 5-12 continuous intense long orgasms. Some may last 40 seconds and 12 continuous makes it 360 second long. I have a good hunger for sex. I love my self. I am enjoying myself for 20 years.
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reader, openmindbaby +, writes (17 April 2009):
Hello,i am a female and i came across your question because i was searching to see how many more women out there have to contend with a very high sex drive, like mine.And i found many entries...I think it's a great thing too.We live in a society that loves to stereotype us all.But as humans we are unique and diverse,so your girlfriend is not acting like a man, she simply enjoys life.Maybe her heightened drive is a distraction from other major issues going on in her life?Or she needs much reassurance that she is loved.Try to investigate...if by now you are still together...also this goes for other guys reading this answer....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): Dude...it has nothing to do with being a man or a woman. Society just likes to hold that idea to make it seem that men are the horn dogs and women are pure as gold. I happen to be a woman who absolutely LOVES sex. After my partner finishes, I want to keep going right after, which usually he can do. It really all depends on the person. Sometimes a higher sex drive can mean that the person is healthy or has higher or lower estrogen and testosterone levels, but not always. My ex couldn't even keep it up whenever we'd have sex, which was merely once or twice a week, but that could have been several factors with stress, health, mental well-being and how the status of the relationship is doing. Don't stress about your girlfriend being the beast, just talk to her about it. She may get a bit frustrated at first but hopefully you and her can reach a mid-point that can suit both of you.Hugs and Smooches XOXO's
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): My man is 8 years older than me. We have an understanding--no sex on the work days because he works long, physical hours. I respect that and leave him alone during the week, but it is very difficult. I am one of those that could do it all day too. I think it is the endorphins that make me crazy and want more. Guys, you have to know that us ladies love to feel good. There's many things that you guys do to us to make us feel good and we want more. My man has learned to make me orgasm so much on the weekends that I'll be satisfied for the whole week and will be looking forward to the weekend again. It's taken us 10 years to figure it out. I think it is normal for a woman to want it a lot if she's turned on by the guy she's with.Eat less sugar too. That's been scientifically proven to increase libido.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): Dude! I've got the same "problem".My GF is HOT, and always horny.I'm definitely on the trying to keep up with her side of things, and I can't always do it! Especially, after I've had an orgasm and she wants to keep going.So, yeah... it's tough. But it's never going to be perfect, and would you really prefer a girl who had a lower sex drive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Come on guy, this lady is just but in love with you. She has no where to turn to and the moment a lady is in love, and that is TRUE LOVE, that is exactly what happens. Be proud of your girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): There is nothing wrong with either of you, you're just different. Just like some people like to eat pizza a lot and some don't, she craves sex a lot more than you. I don't see why you assume she should be "tamed", why don't you try and increase your sex drive? Plus evidently the whole idea that she's the "guy" is just plain wrong. Guys, women want sex too, deal with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): there is nothing wrong with her i would have sex all day long if i could and have done to the point of exhaustion my fella never moans and is always happy to please me .
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): hi . . Well i hear you but i cant say i can give you advice. Im extremely sexual and i must say my husband has also said i make him tired. I want it atleast once a day but i agree with what some of the others said. Maybe if they gave us more attention, loving, kissing, playing, oral, prolong the session and make sure we have like 2 to 3 orgasms, we might just calm down a bit. Some men just think of their own needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): ummm DUDE!
You are so lucky to get a girlfriend like this! Sex drive is related to age. It might be that you are older than she is, or you have passed the period that you are hungry for sex. Remember your late teenage years? I don't know about you, but many guys, including myself thought about sex every moment we had! I would have sex 6 or 7 times a day and still want more. She might still be in that stage. She could also be more attracted to you than you are attracted to her. You should really talk to her about this issue rather than blaming that she has a problem! Work out your sex routine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): I'm like that, me and my husband have sex everyday 2-3x a day... I can't get enough. It's not a problem unless on of you makes it an issue (or goes elsewhere for it).
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Oh my goodness! This cracks me up because I am just like that!! I love, love, LOVE sex!! Even if I don't get off... I know I'm not a sex addict because I don't feel like I need it and sometimes I can go for long periods of time without it but I just really enjoy sex and getting my boyfriend off that I want to do it all the freaking time!! It's completely normal, for me it's a way of showing my love and care to my boyfriend. I love satisfying him and finding new ways and positions and props to use to get him exciting and wanting more! I think a lot of women are like this but we don't talk about it as much or do it in a guy kind of way...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): It's normal. I after my husband at all times. I ask for more after few minutes. My husband never had problem with ex girlfriends and wives who were complaining they sexed too much. Now, he has me.. he keeps laughing for no reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): She does have a problem, People always think that when a women wants a lot of sex and does all the things you said its a blessing and that this is nothing to complain about. You are 100% correct for feeling that something may not be right with her. She sounds like a sex adict to me. How do I know this, because I also suffered from this, its a real problem not something to laugh about, I mean u don't laugh when people are addicted to cocain or heroine so why laugh if a women is adicted to sex and why mock the guy whos on the other end! My advice is talk to her about it, go on a few websites research sex adicts, symptoms, help. I helped myself when it came to my sex adiction. I was having sex with a lot of people because at the time I didnt have a partner so it was easier for me to reconize I had a problem. When I was with my boyfriend my behaviour was the same as your girlfriends but because he enjoyed it, I never questioned it. So for years this went on. When I realised I had a problem I went "cold turky" meaning, I didnt have any sex, touch myself, view any explicit material just anti sex for atleast 3 months. It was hard and I had major lows and depression. For the past 3 years I have been living a controlled life. I still enjoy sex alot because that adiction will always be in me but every guy I have a relationship with I tell em clearly I am a sex adict and that it really can't get out of control. Luckily they have understood and cared enough for me to live a controlled sex life. I have relapsed about 3 times in the past 3 years....I just want people to know it aint nothing to laugh about. Its a serious adicted, arent they all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Don't you think your being rather sexist?
I've got a very high sex drive too & it has nothing to do with having more testosterone than other females either.
Stop trying to put everyone in the same box, no two persons are the same!
My sex drive is probably higher than your partners & I watch a lot of porn too...Is it a problem for my partner? No, because instead of automatically thinking it was a problem with me, we as a couple worked out what was best for us. I'll have a play with a toy while he watches & either he'll join in & give me a hand or just enjoy the view, & whilst we're having sex he makes sure I orgasm a good few times (about 4/5 times at least) so I'm so tired out theres no way I'll be asking for more 5mins later.
Just because she's got a higher sex drive than you doesn't mean there's something wrong with her, are you sure you even want to be with this girl because you've got a really funny way of showing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): No, your girlfriend is normal, I'm a woman, and I have a high sex drive too. It has nothing to do with her being a woman or acting like a guy. It's just how she is, every persons sex drive is different.
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reader, nickie5  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Reference your Question; My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her? I don't think so females love sex just as much as guys. I too have a high sex drive but it only acts like that when I have a partner who is absolutely fabulous in bed. Women talk about sex just as much as men or even more we just don't stay on the topic all day. Speak to her find out how she feels. maybe she just want to satisfy you so you don't leave. Many women believe that if they don't have sex as much as they feel they should they will loose their man. I don't think she is crazy nor you. She is either just horny or really wants to please you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): You have no idea how fortunate you are to have a woman like that! Keep her! Do whatever it takes for you to keep up with her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): believe me. Its not only you, the person who have this troubles. Try to have a conversation with her in a nice way and explain your situation. what you like and what you dont like. As well, I think she should keep herself busy with other activities, going out with friends, ect. good luck. If you can not solve this matter, contact to the doctor because probably she is suffering from some kind of sex problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): I read an article that said women's sex drives tend to go down once they feel they are in a stable relationship. Maybe if you reasure her that she is your girl she will stop acting out/ Show her lots of attention. Maybe, if youre ready you could pop the big question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): I have the same problem...I can't seem to get enough from my mate either and I stay with a big appetite! Don't know if it's age or what. Not many women have high sex drives, maybe she has more testosterone than progesterone. Maybe if you give her more attention and be more affectionate may help. Not saying you don't do either but maybe you need to do more of it to get her mind off sex. It helps me out, but I still want it but the extra attention and kissing and hugging helps to reduce the urge some.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): check out free online book "Tantra Discovering the Power of Orgasmic Sex" by Yogani.
This book will teach you how to totally exhaust her every single session, while gaining energy yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Don't worry. My girlfriend wants sex a lot too and we have sex at least 5 times a day. It is definitely very normal for a girl to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): believe me i know how that feels, i am with a girl who also has a high sex drive. I find that if you actually satisfy the woman you are with and then keep going you break them so you then have a chance to recover and do it again in a day or two :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): oh, you are he luckiest man on this misunderstood and hard to two- way communicate world. just enjoy your live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
I cant give you any advise as Im the same and I no troubledtoomuch will think this funny, But he is wanting to trade so he is just as bad:) I guess you could take some space time to get your bits back in order love, YOUR CUTE! Thats probably why she cant keep her hands of you love YOU TAKE GOOD CARE LOTS OF LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): If I were still your age I would ask you if you wanted to trade. :) OK, I'll be serious now. I used to want sex 3 times a day on the weekends and once or twice on work days, while my girlfriend liked it once a day, most days. We compromised and had sex 6 to 10 times a week. Try to compromise if you have the energy.
Are you working long hours at your job. If you are, I can see why you are exhausted after both work and sex multiple times a day. When I was young, the normal work week was closer to 40 hours a week. Now it seems to be 50 or 60. That can make a big difference. I don't know if that is your situation, but just a thought.
To repeat what others have said, is sex a quickie or a long session? If it is quick sex then try to slow it down, with lots of kissing, snuggling, oral and intercourse. The intimacy of the kissing and snuggling might satisfy her as much as the actual sex. Also, try to give her more oral orgasms. That will satisfy her and not exhaust you so much. The orgasm takes much more out of a man than it does a woman. Perhaps that is why my girlfriend and now wife has always wanted it less than me. I always made sure that she had 2 orgasms and sometimes 3 in one session.
I know that some would say that any man would kill for your situation. I'm sure that many would, but everyone is different. Both men and women can range from total lack of interest for sex to real sex maniacs. When 2 people are so different, the only answer is compromise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Well she could have a real addiction to sex -I think two things may help.
1. Suggest nicly she cut back on the porn - she may be overstimulating her desire. It doesn't have to be a lot maybe small decreases.
2. She is obviuosly enjoying sex but maybe try getting her to orgasim several times this may wear her out and satisfy her drive without you climbing up there all the time. Try manual, oral, maybe toys if your cool with it, and then finish up with actual penetration.
I know this is a bit personal - but hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): She is completely normal, im just like her..
When I was with my ex i wanted him all the time, i have a high sex drive but also it was the only way i would get some attention out of him..i loved him so much but he wasnt as affectionate as i would have wanted him to be...
but i met a new guy and hes amazing! i cant keep my hands off him, hes so exciting! i could easily do it even 10 times a day with him! just a shame i dont see him as boyfriend material!....
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (31 January 2008):
I understand your concern but believe me there are girls out there who think 2-3 times a week is too much and would think you a sex maniac! Talk to her.Tell her to slow down but i guess that'll have little or no effect.Some have suggested getting her sex toys but i'm strong believer in the power of the mind.If she can train herself to want less sex,the better for you.I also think the porn is becoming an aphrodisiac.Tell her to chil a bit away from the porn.On the other hand,you can take it up as a challenge and train yourself to want sex more!
Good Luck.
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reader, eddie +, writes (31 January 2008):
 I can only imagine what the aunts would say to a guy who wanted sex 3 times a day.....Let's be honest, if this lady wants sex 3 or 4 times a day, she must have some sort of issue going on. On the scale of normal, it's off the chart. Since sex is a good thing it's not the end of the world. It's certainly not "average" though. Really, who has time for that much sex. I'd like to know if the original poster was exaggerating about the amount of times per day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Ah, the female sex drive. Some of us have an uncontrollable drive...some of use are stuck in 'park'. I agree with the toy idea. Take her toy shopping! :) Perhaps just make out with her for a while instead of going straight for sex, you know? Hug her, kiss her, and show her that there's more to romance and physicality then penis-in-orafice sex. :) Consider asking her why she is never fulfilled.
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reader, Miss Stella +, writes (31 January 2008):
Hello....She is not acting like a guy.. She is horny, thirsty. and needs affection. Get with the programme. Realise how lucky you are , cause when you dont have it..
You will want it.. And dude..She wants it with you. You have the problem not her.. Nothing wrong with a healthy appetite. Get some toys or massage her , take it slow so it doesnt seem so intense all the time.
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reader, STAC3Y +, writes (31 January 2008):
Im the same so i dont really know where your coming from, but my boyfriend used to ask me the same questions but the really is no answer, shes just a woman with a high sex drive only thing i can think of is a viberater or some sex toy to keep her happy when your not on the mood, or you could try explaining that its too much but make sure you tell her you still find her attractive because woman are sensitive or if you dont do eather your just going to have to stick it out! Good Luck x
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Toys my friend toys....
I have to admit my beau was rather enthusiastic for the first couple of years of our relationship. When it felt like I was going to have a heartattack if I didnt stop I would reach into the bedside drawer and bring out the 'big boy' and she would happily play away - it worked a treat and before long I would be so worked up just watching her that I didnt give a crap about the impending heartattack - though getting her to stop banging away with the big boy could prove difficult at times! :)
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reader, rcn +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Tell her she doesn't need to rush now. There's pleanty of time. She should save some energy for when there's nothing left to do but sit around and visit grandkids.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (31 January 2008):
 There's an old joke.
A woman runs into an old school friend. Her friend says - "How nice to see you! How Have you been since High School? I went to Princeton!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend continues - "I met a really handsome guy there - and we got engaged during College!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend continues - "We got married, and we have a son and two daughters!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend says "We have been so successful, we have no money worries and we are deliriously happy!"
The woman says - "That's nice!"
The friend finally asks - "What have you been up to?"
The woman replies - "Well, Shortly after High School, I went to a Charm School where I learned to say *That's Nice* instead of "F*** You!"
I'm sure the point isn't lost on you, in a site that deals with a lot of problems - YOU don't have one and you are rubbing it in.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Her body produces more testosterone than normal and this increases her libido.
Get her some sex toys.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (31 January 2008):
Nice one...
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