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writes:i am so overwhelmed with embarrassment right now. in my local bar i pulled a guy into the packed bathroom and tried to get him into the cubical.. i was so so so so so so so drunk and its completely out of charecter but it has really effected my reputation. i live in a very small town and i have no idea who saw me, but im almost positive my teacher saw me and my friends mom... im so embarrased and just don't know what to do. im disgusted with myself.. please someone give me advice to get over this and put it at the back of my mind. i feel like a tramp. for the record me and the guy did nothing, i just had a bunch of women shouting "YOU HAVE NO SELF RESPECT" and "GET THE **** out of there!!!" and stuff.. he got out asap but yeah.... i feel so horrible and ashamed:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): it's really no big deal from a long term perspective but for the immediate situation 'the pain must be felt' and there's nothing u can do about other people's reactions BUT use this as motivation to lead a better life. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): Maybe if this is how you react when you are drunk and it is so completely out of character then you should consider becoming teetotal or at least not drinking anywhere near as much as you did that night.
If more people realised that drink turns them into not very nice people and stop doing it so much then the world would be a much nicer place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): You have no idea how relieved I am to read this! I went through probably an even worse time last night, but I know I'm never going to get into that state again. I'm probably going to be called a slag at my college, so just take this advice a friend told me: laugh about it. This isn't just aimed for 1 person, it's for whoever comes on here.Things are just uneasy at the moment... because on top of me acting like a slut, I'm actually in a LONGTERM relationship. I feel so guilty, I don't even know what went through my head. ARGH! Help me T__TANYWAY, everyone, in my case college is going to be over soon and I'll only keep in contact with whoever I want :) Just don't get yourself into that state again. This happens to everyone at some point in their lives, it's just part of growing up.
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reader, Jessie.  +, writes (27 October 2008):
The exact same thing happened to me last night :| Its completely out of character and it was with people in my college, dont worry about it. Keep your head up high and in no time at all it will all blow over me. In a few years you will laugh about this - probably in a month. Everyones been there and its going to be ok :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): I'm glad I found this bulletin board. Trust me, you guys are not alone. I've been searching for consolation with regards to MY stupid behavior as well. While drunk, of course. And sometimes not while drunk. But basically if you took alcohol out of the occasion, it would have been fine.
I've liked this guy for two years, and all of a sudden, he took interest in me. I was so excited! So we started dating, and then we started drinking. Two weeks ago I got really drunk, and I dropped my cell phone on the floor. I went under the table to get it, and for some ridiculous reason, I started crawling around on the floor looking for it. He had to carry me out. The next night something similar happened at a high caliber restaurant. It was in front of his friends and he was really embarassed. After that he completely stopped talking to me, and hasn't talked to me since. I feel so stupid.
There's not much we can do now, I guess. But you know what...I think people that don't make mistakes are kind of boring. Maybe this is something that down the road we can laugh about? I hope so. For all of our sakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): I know EXACTLY how you feeel. I don't drink that often and last night something kind of similar happened to me. I was at a party and i was wasted and I p**sed in the kids washing machine like 3 times! and like 10 people were in the room and now I feel terrible and my reputation went to shit and not to mention i feel terrible that this kid has a washing machine full of my p**s. and now ive been getting random calls form girls i dont even know bitching me out for it like every 10 minutes and it sucks so bad i feel terrible and ashamed. but theres really nothing you can do about it other than blaming it on the fact that you were black out drunk and in a couple days everyone will have forgotten as well as yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): We all have embarrasing memories we want to forget. It's a part of life. This experience will help you to understand the length of problems you can get into while not being in your sane judgement (drunk) You know you are not 'that kind' of person. You did it out of craziness because of being so drunk. This is a 'good' time to start believing in yourself and less in people. Forgive yourself. Look in the mirror and say I forgive myself for what I did. It clearly was a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes in life and there's nothing to be ashamed of because you have the right to make mistakes just like everyone else. Say to yourself: I know I'm not that kind of person, life is short and it was only a crazy moment that will never happen again. I'll prove others and myself I do respect myself from now on. Confront shame with truth constantly and I promise things will get better. It's when we try to mask the truth and hold grudges and shame about our mistakes (process taught by our parents) we feel miserable about ourselves and develop guilt and unnecessary anxieties. So what if people think this or that or say that other thing? What have they done for you that they are asking for explanations as if you owe them something? Keep your head up and never be ashamed of anything you do or not do. When you are older you realize it's not worth it. Try to be a better administrator of your life and don't be afraid of mistakes because they are necessary to make you a strong person each day. Take Care.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Nothing happened fortunately. Just wait til someone else does something embarassing and the girls will switch subjects.
In the mean time, probably best to drink a bit less for the time being! And make sure you eat something substantial before you go out drinking.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Are you always this horney, or just when you're drunk? I don't know, under heavy alcohol, too many people who are themselves when drunk. I really wouldn't worry about it. If someone brings it up, just laugh with them, let them know "I'm not drinking that much again."
Don't feel horrible and ashamed. You were bombed, it was an experience (one years from now will crack you up). Even if it did make anyone look at you different. That will be short lived.
Take care. You'll be OK.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Hi,
Oh dear, the perils of living in a small town. It's easy for a big city guy to say ignore it, but I know in a small town gossip like this spreads like wildfire. People are so judgmental because they are bored out of their skulls and they envy people who are prepared to get wild every now and then.
I assume you have no plans to move away ( if you do now might be a good time! ) so you have to make the best of the situation. First , never allow yourself to get in this situation again, that is the sure fire way to get a reputation as the town bike ( as they say ).
Secondly, try and pretend it never happened. You live in a small town there is nothing you can do about the inevitable gossip, but if you dont repeat this performance people will get bored of labelling you the town tramp and move onto the next girl soon enough.
But there is no way of avoiding malicious small town gossip, I've seen it in action and it's brutal. All I can say is steer clear of the men who will now see you as fair game , don't get drunk in public bars, and keep your head held high.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Don't sweat it so much.
Sure, you got drunk and did something stupid - there are plenty of people who have been there before you.
As long as you learn from this experience, and don't get yourself trashed like that on a regular basis, it really is no biggie.
People in your town may gossip for a little while, but another couple of weeks and something else will come along, and your mistake will fade into the past.
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