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writes:Hi, I'm 20 years old, and I'm in a 7 month relationship with a WONDERFUL man who is 21. I stupidly cheated very, very early into the relationship. My boyfriend just found out and i know it hurt him very badly as he's been cheated on before in past relationships. I feel absolutely awful because he has always treated me with respect, love and consistent affection. He has gotten over it pretty much, but I still feel so guilty. I just want to know what I can do to show him how bad i feel for what i've done and that i care for him so so much and would never ever do it again. i know trusting me again will take a long time for him and i understand that. im only looking for things i can do to help him see i am very regretful for what i did and assure him it will NEVER happen again, not under any circumstance. any tips? thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): It will never happen again :-)Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): I'M THE ORIGINAL POSTER! thank you for your answers. i know it will never happen again so i will just continue to reassure him of that. i really appreciate you all taking time to read my question and respond. thanks again!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Hi,
you are 20 years old. This is good as if you were older all sorts of issues have to be addressed like why did you cheat, what made you be unfaithful etc, but at 20 yrs old we all make mistakes and regret them - and yes even at the beginning of a relationship. You sound like you have turned a corner as you have finally met someone you truly love - I would focus on this.
It will be in the back of his mind that if you guys have an argument, spend time apart etc that maybe you will go off with someone else again. I think the best way to counter this argument is to suggest that at your age you have never met anyone you truly loved until you met him and you didnt want to hurt him.
Lots of reassurance is required and if he truly loves you he will eventually let it go. Oh, and if he knows the guy you slept with just make sure you have no contact with him again.
Good luck.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Do exactly what you are doing now, keep reassuring him, physically and with words. Times a great healer. If it was very early in the relationship let him know that you wasnt completely sure you 2 were going the distance quite yet and you wouldnt dream of doing it now!
The closer you get, the more secure he will feel, and eventually he will be able to move on. And not bring it up in arguments!
You cant turn the clock back, only move on. If you are meant to be it will work out.
C xxxx
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reader, mayfair +, writes (29 January 2008):
Patience and reassurance, that is the only thing that will work. He will be feeling worthless, like he isn`t enough for you, you need to let him know that is not the case and never has been. It will be hard for both of you but that is all you can do. Let him know you love him too.
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