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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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| Latest articles: International Day of Tolerance
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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Being sexual harrassed by my moms boyfriend
Q. ok, this is going to be long but please read and answer i need help! im 17 now but my mom started dating her current bf when i was 12. for about the first year, all was well and we got along fine. in summer my moms bf (lets call him john) would pick ...
A. 1 September 2010: It's worse than you are leading yourself to believe. Tell someone NOW. You cannot allow him to continue doing this to you.
Forget about hurting your mother. Are you actually about to let your mother be with someone with such a dark and secretiv... (read in full...)
Jealous of my boyfriends sister and ashamed of it!
Q. My boyfriend's sister is years younger than him and they have a very close-knit relationship. I feel pathetic because I'm jealous of their relationship and how much time they get to spend together, whereas I'm lucky to see him once a week. It'...
A. 25 August 2010: Talk to him about it. But if you want my honest opinion, I don't think you should be with him. What kind of a boyfriend doesn't defend his girlfriend when people are badmouthing her?
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Two years age difference..not bad at all right?
Q. okay soooo.. i have been talking to this guy since the summer before i was going into eighth grade it's the summer before tenth grade now, and my mom still wont let me date him.. i'm fifteen and he's seventeen.. its TWO YEARS! why wont she just lig...
A. 25 August 2010: Acknowledge the fact that your mother is right to be worried. Think about what men that age might do, what they might want and then decide whether or not you're ready for it. What you are ready to go through.
Your mother is being a mother, ... (read in full...)
I havn't met his family or friends yet, is he cheating?
Q. Same guy as my first question...I have met his mother and father, but briefly when I go to his house sometimes. It's been a little over 4 months and I've never met any of his friends. I've never even got invited to all the parties he goes to with ...
A. 25 August 2010: He probably wants to be sure that you're the right girl for him before introducing you to his friends and family. It doesn't necessarily mean that you're a 'secret'. But I don't know him so I can't be sure.
How does he treat you when the two of y... (read in full...)
Does she care for me or is she after something?
Q. Well me and my girlfriend has been together for a while, i asked her to marry me 3 months ago she said yes we was very happy together or at least i thought, about 3 weeks ago she finished the relationship with me and we only just got back together ...
A. 25 August 2010: Perhaps all she needed was some time to think. That could be why she's being nice now because something's changed. A wedding is a big thing so definitely wait a little longer and see if this is the case.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Lost hope
Q. Dear agony aunts i'm a male living with no hope in my life any more, i feel like i will never be normal again. i feeling sick with chest pains,always constapated,skin colour darkened by the unknown sickness i have, low sex drive and have lost ...
A. 25 August 2010: I'm not a professional so I can't be sure but it sounds like all of this is depression. It doesn't only affect your mind, it strongly affects your body in the ways you just described. See what your doctor thinks thought because I might be wrong.
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I want to kiss my bestfriend!!
Q. My best (girl) friend and I are extremely close. We talk about everything. I absolutely love her in a best friend way...but the problem is that I think she loves me in a different way. When we hug she pushes her boobs up against me and I can feel ...
A. 25 August 2010: I've had an attraction to my best friend, he's a guy, I'm straight. It doesn't mean anything. You're free to do whatever you want and right now I'm pretty sure you want what she wants so yeah, if you feel that strongly about kissing her when she ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family wont accept me because they cannot accept their son is gay, should I leave him alone even though we want to be together?
Q. my boyfriend is having trouble with his parents accpeting the fact that he likes guys.... i know that they dont like me for that reason and might attempt to get me into trouble about this should i leave him alone even thought we really want to be ...
A. 24 August 2010: Leaving him alone isn't going to help both of you. Don't be aggressive towards his family but make it clear that you have every intention of being with this guy.
If you're both old enough, you have every chance in the world of being together... (read in full...)
He abuses me and checks out other women, yet despite this I still cant leave him. How can I focus on the negatives in the relationship and finally leave him?
Q. I have been dating a man for almost a year. This man takes care of my bills and he says he wants to marry me. He has been physically abusive with me, to an extent where I should know he is not the one for me. I have been abused by my ...
A. 24 August 2010: You say you know the answer, why bother with the question? Doubt should be removed. The attention he gives you is not the kind of attention you want and you said it yourself that he often checks out other women in front of you, what kind of morbid ... (read in full...)
Is he serious?
Q. My current boyfriend is 16 years old, and I'm 19. He's mature for his age (for the most part) and is extremely romantic and sweet. I love him to death. We met in person this summer after talking online (he lives in Ireland and I'm in the US), and we ...
A. 24 August 2010: At 16 all emotions are strong, wait a while and see if this phase of his relationship with you fades.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Should I come clean? or live with the guilt?
Q. i was out one night with some friends and i got really drunk and i didnt really know what i was doing. i ended up having sex with this boy but i have a boyfriend who ive been with for over a year now and i love and care for him, so should i come ...
A. 24 August 2010: To the anonymous reader who said that "it is none of his business", that is completely WRONG! It has everything to do with him! You think if someone you love went and had sex with some other guy while he/she was in a long and close relationship with ... (read in full...)
Do you think every guy deserves a second chance?
Q. Hey i was just wondering do you think every guy deserves a second chance? In the begning of are relationship i told my bf if he ever cheats on me its over. (i was cheated on before by me ex and i kept giving him chances over and over and i dont ...
A. 24 August 2010: I disagree that he is already planning to cheat, contemplating it but that doesn't mean he is definitely going to do it. People tend to contemplate a lot of thing, whether or not it's out of curiosity or because they feel it's something they might ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to reason or heart?
Q. This could probably be a little long since the situation I got myself into is kind of complicated but I’ll try my best to explain and I appreciate you taking the time to read and reply. I am 26 and bisexual. I have had relationships wi...
A. 23 August 2010: Sounds like one way or another, you'd regret either choice. You're thinking of this girl but you're also thinking of this guy.
Reason says you should leave the guy, your heart says you should stay with him. Something is wrong here, somethin... (read in full...)
My husband is destroying my possesions out of anger
Q. I am very troubled, Over the last five years I have found my clothes and other possesions either slashed or damaged. They were fine when I hung them up or used them last. I belive it to be my husband who is wrongly angry with me as he believes I ...
A. 23 August 2010: My father did the same thing to my mother, destroyed things that she'll never get back, it wasn't just things she just bought either, gifts from friends, things from her childhood and the like. In the end he turned out to be a ***hole. He abused us ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with 5 girls and no one ever said a thing to me!
Q. What a bad day. I was dating this guy, Paolo. Since 2007. It was the first guy I ever loved, ever slept with, ever saw naked. To me, he was so important. We dated for 2 years before we tied the knot just last year. I was a missionary on another ...
A. 22 August 2010: What is he doing now to prove that he loves you? Why is he angered when you cry when he should be telling you that he's sorry and trying to comfort you somehow? There is little hope but nothing is impossible. I see the spiritual side, the emotional ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you are in love with someone?
Q. just want to know How do you know when your in love with someone ? because i think i might be but i`m not quite sure...
A. 22 August 2010: When you have an unbelievable urge to tell someone you love them. An urge that goes hand in hand with an unquenchable thirst for their affection.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I hate the things my girlfriend has done in the past
Q. Hello i know this girl online and we ve been friends for like 5 years and we know like almost everything about eachother. 2 years ago we confessed to eachother that we had feelings and we got together but we still havent met ( we re plannin to meet ...
A. 22 August 2010: You don't love her. You CAN'T because it's a long distance relationship and it STARTED that way. How can you know that you love her if you've never actually met her in person? Trust me, you can't. Don't let her past haunt you if she's still a ... (read in full...)
Being sexual harrassed by my moms boyfriend
Q. ok, this is going to be long but please read and answer i need help! im 17 now but my mom started dating her current bf when i was 12. for about the first year, all was well and we got along fine. in summer my moms bf (lets call him john) would pick ...
A. 22 August 2010: You are definitely NOT overreacting, I'd say you are UNDER reacting. Why haven't you told your mother about what he's been doing? This is wrong! Get him as far away from you as possible, get a restraining order filed against him. Your mother needs ... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me becuase he was stressed, do I wait?
Q. If a man seems really messed up and confused and dumps you cause he has had a lot of stress pile up on him at once is it best to give him his freedom and hope he still wants you when he gets his head together?...
A. 22 August 2010: It depends on what he's like. No one here knows for sure what your boyfriend is like so we can't give you an entirely accurate answer.
If he actually dumped you because he was stressed then he was right to because your relationship would never wo... (read in full...)
In an affair with a married woman, do I stay or go?
Q. Hi I am involved in a relationship with a married women and need advice. We have being having the affair for about two years. She's says that her does not love her anymore and they are only together for the sake of their child. She has already been ...
A. 22 August 2010: If you don't trust her, this can't possibly work. If what she's saying about being physically abused is true, I can't say she's a bad person for wanting to be with you because, if I were her, I'd probably be with someone else as well.
She is being... (read in full...)
My sister is telling people I am a racist...help!
Q. so heres the thing, my older sis and i are 10 1/2 months apart. we used to b close when we were younger but for the past 3 yrs, we became so distant. its to the point where we cant even b n the same room for long periods of time. my sis likes to ...
A. 22 August 2010: You're right in wanting to confront her about this and try to rebuild the relationship you had when you were younger.
Why did she start bullying you? This kind of behavior often derives from external sources meaning that all this is just a way of... (read in full...)
I need an outsider point of view
Q. This may take long to read, it took me time to decide if ask it or once again try to fix it on my own and hope it magically change back one day. I got engaged a month ago, to my officially 11 months boyfriend (really i consider we been together fo...
A. 22 August 2010: It isn't selfish to want for love. What you want is something he can't seem to give you so you need to leave him and move on to someone who can give you the same affection you are so able to give.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Why does my ex mistreat me so much?
Q. why does my ex and father of my baby mistreat me so much. my ex broke up with me in the last months of my pregnancy, and ever since then we've grown farther apart. now that our daughter is here i try to get along with him for the sake of my baby ...
A. 22 August 2010: You shouldn't have to have anything to do with this man. If he's pushing you away, you have all the right in the world to do the same. I don't think you really want that kind of a man in your daughter's life, he doesn't even sound like he WANTS to ... (read in full...)
Engaged to be married but have feelings for someone else too!
Q. I am engaged to be married. I care and love my current girlfriend but I also may have feeling for someone else. Sometimes I think it may be infatuation but then sometimes I think it is more than that. I haven't cheated on my fiance and I don't want ...
A. 22 August 2010: You have to choose one or the other. Whatever you do, don't even think about having both!
You sound like you're more afraid of regret than choosing the wrong person, it's not the same thing.
The choice for me is obvious. You're already e... (read in full...)
I feel more like we are best friends not lovers
Q. I am so lost and looking for advice as to whether I should try and move on I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We own a home together (no children) and are both in our late 20s. He has cheated on me in the past (never physical, but ph...
A. 22 August 2010: Don't feel down on yourself just because you feel this way. NOT being in love with him does not make you a horrible person.
Just tell him that it's not something he can change because you just don't feel that way about him, it's nothing you can ... (read in full...)
I can't ever express myself without getting into a fight with her
Q. Hello all, my gf and I have been in a relationship for about 9 months and it is long distance. The problem is whenever I'm sad about anything now she gets worked up and always tells me "grow a fucking pair!" "man up!" "quit being a pussy" so I can ...
A. 22 August 2010: This relationship you have with her seems to be doomed. Without a trust between you two that enables self-expression, what is there really for you to build upon? I suggest you leave her now.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
26 years of marriage and not even a card on my birthday?
Q. I have been married for 26 years, and today was my 50th birthday. My husband did not even buy me a card. No presents, no party, nothing. We are in a bit of a financial crunch, but not matter what has been happening throughout our marriage I have ...
A. 22 August 2010: Was this the first time he didn't do anything? Has he celebrated all your other birthdays properly? How about every other occasion? Finance is no excuse for not celebrating your wife's birthday. What about your life in general? What does he ... (read in full...)
He finished off on his own!
Q. okay so today i gave my boyfriend a handjob and a blowjob and he didn't cum, he finished it off on his own..i feel like he wasn't turned on by me.. why didn't he cum? and what are good ways to make him? or turn him on?...
A. 22 August 2010: If he had an erection at all he was turned on by you! It's all about how you do it I guess. Tease him a little and stuff like that I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
How can I meet mr right?
Q. hey, im so fed up latley i just cant meet the right boy. i know everyone says there is someone out there for them but how come i cant find mr right ?? every boy i go for just wants sex. im fed up of it and latley when i go out im stoping myself ...
A. 22 August 2010: Go to different places where those kinds of guys wouldn't be around. You also have to think about what kind of a vibe you're giving off, some guys might take things the wrong way.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Why do guys want to watch girls masterbate?
Q. Why do guys like to watch girls masterbate? I mean I don't really mind it,but it's a bit awkward to me. I'd rather you finger me then me finger myself. I wouldn't ask a guy to jerk off or something while I'm there when I know he'd rather me do it ...
A. 22 August 2010: Different guys have different preferences. Not all guys like watching stuff like that. Maybe your boyfriend just has some kind of a voyeuristic preference to sex.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Opinions on what true love is?
Q. what is true love?...
A. 22 August 2010: There is no 'true love', there is no 'false love'. Love scientifically is the release of Oxytocin and nothing more. Love from an emotional perspective is a strong want to be near that other person and to devote one's body and soul to one's partner. ... (read in full...)
Total Babe in One-sided Open Marriage
Q. I am an average looking/height guy, though I make a good salary. I have been married about ten years. My wife is a beauty -- very attractive/sexy. She gets a lot of attention almost everywhere we go, even if she's only wearing sweats and a ...
A. 21 August 2010: Have you told her how you feel about sex? Although honestly, in my honest opinion, I don't think that would change anything.
I'd actually divorce her. Look I know you've been together for 10 years but this is obviously bothering you and if left ... (read in full...)
How to deal when he seperates after sex
Q. I am hoping some of you out there could help me because I have spent days, nights, and hours in my confusion and help would be greatly appreciated. It’s long but please read it and let me know your honest thoughts. I am so hurt and I cry so much ...
A. 21 August 2010: Find hope in the fact that he still wants you after the two of you had sex. Be patient and go with it. It sounds like he's slowly coming back to you. Don't push him away and don't let this opportunity slide. If you want to be with him then be with ... (read in full...)
Is he just here for a place to live and sex?
Q. I have been with my husband for probley 18 yrs. an have been married for 5 of those years and have 2 kids a 15 yr. old and a 13 yr.old. during this time he has had 2 affairs that i know of an 1 of the 2 has resulted in a child being born he lives ...
A. 21 August 2010: I'm sorry to say this but he definitely feels nothing towards you. Leave him, find someone better who will take care of you and your children loyally and with love.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Why is he distant now that I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend treats me like a princess and we get along very good but ever since I've been pregnant he spends every spare minute out in the garage distant from me. He is 38 and I am 36 this is both our 1st child and both wanted this child. I am just ...
A. 21 August 2010: It's not normal. It being normal doesn't matter. He should be there for you right now! He should be taking care of you, doing stuff like making sure you get enough rest and things like that. Let him know that you're uncomfortable with the fact that ... (read in full...)
Why did he hug me so long?
Q. Me and my boyfriend went on our first date yesterday. at the end, he hugged me for ages, i mean like really ages. afterwards, i suddenly became shy, he was going to kiss me, but i turned my head away. i havent heard from him since. what i really ...
A. 21 August 2010: Why would anyone hold anyone for that long? Obviously he feels something for you. You're dating aren't you, I mean, are you really that surprised that he hugged you for so long?
I hope that helps. ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband continue to fantasize over younger women?
Q. Why does my husband continue to fantisize over younger women? I guess I am just sick of it. It started with his searches on my computer and when caught, he went out and bought a Blackberry and spends all of his time on the Blackberry. He tells me ...
A. 21 August 2010: This is may be something that men do, but it's not something they SHOULD do. It's very easy to become addicted if he continues this way.
Try and find a time when both of you can go out on a date, dress up, make yourself look beautiful and make... (read in full...)
Can a relationship with a younger man work?
Q. Can a relationship with a younger guy work I'm 33 been married (divorced now for 4 years) and have 2 kids (age 5 and 10). My boyfriend is 26 never been married and no kids. We love each other .... my kids love him. Our life together is gre...
A. 20 August 2010: Age is just a number. Does he seem less mature than you in any way? Does it matter? I used to teach under privileged kids English for some school thing and I realized that even though I was their teacher, there was still a lot I learned from them, ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't love me, he misses me, does this mean he loves me?
Q. My x says he doesnt loves me any more but still misses me. Does it mean he still loves me?...
A. 20 August 2010: He can still miss you without feeling any love. Love is a powerful emotion and what he's feeling right now is probably closer to just a strong friendship kind of bond. This post is nowhere near clear enough for me to give you a definite answer ... (read in full...)
My wife recently gave birth to twins but it's driving me crazy that all I can think of is this other woman!
Q. Hi everyone I have a really big problem I just can't handle anymore. 5 years ago I got married to a woman, my first and only girlfriend I ever had. I really love her and always have. However about 3 years ago I met a woman I was wildly attra...
A. 20 August 2010: New love is ALWAYS going to feel like true love and usually, it isn't. True love is the love you felt in the first place, for your wife. Instead of spending time with this woman, spend more time with your wife and your two newborn children. Your ... (read in full...)
Should I just give up the LDR and chalk it up as "not meant to be"?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, 3 of those years were at university where we lived in the same house for 2 years. This last year we have had a long distance relationship as I returned to London whilst he was still studying a law ...
A. 20 August 2010: Life will often go in the complete opposite direction of what you want and it'll leave you watching as your desire passes by. But it's not like there's no hope at all. You said you've discussed this with him but he hasn't answered yet? That's a good ... (read in full...)
He went behind my back how do I get over it?
Q. What do you do when you really love your partner, who you've been with for many many years.. and he is crazy about you, but has decieved you? My boyfriend deceived me last year. He had a friend of many years, who he was confiding in. I was very ...
A. 18 August 2010: He's not stupid. You shouldn't feel insecure. He thought she was someone he could confide in. He though she was okay with being just friends and obviously she wasn't. No one is at fault here. Well, maybe the girl is for not moving on but you ... (read in full...)
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