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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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Can my boyfriend force me to give up our child?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I might be pregnant. I've only ever been with one guy (my bf of a year and a half) and I've always told him that if I got pregnant by accident, the only option for me would be to keep it. I've scheduled a doctor's appt to find ...
A. 5 October 2010: Sorry for writing twice, something was wrong with my computer and I thought the first one wasn't sent...... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be in love with a married man 13 years my senior?
Q. i opened this account to just ask...that is it ok if iam in love with a married man who is aroung 13...14 yrs older thn me. i love him so much...we talk on phone..he says he loves me and he loves his wife also...its driving me nuts...plz help!!!!11...
A. 5 October 2010: You cannot force love to come or go. But please do not act on it. Please cut off all communication with him, do not provoke anything you will both regret. He says he loves his wife and he is already married, so let him rekindle things with his wife ... (read in full...)
Can my boyfriend force me to give up our child?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I might be pregnant. I've only ever been with one guy (my bf of a year and a half) and I've always told him that if I got pregnant by accident, the only option for me would be to keep it. I've scheduled a doctor's appt to find ...
A. 5 October 2010: If I may, your boyfriend is a coward and a dishonorable excuse for a vile man. To have threatened you with a break up in your time of need. Whatever your choice, break up with him.
As for the child. Please do not even consider putting the child up... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing?
Q. I need help i have a guy situation. Well ill start off saying im a young girl and i like older guys because i assume they would treat me better and have more values. Well i was dateing this guy back in december to febuary and after we broke up i ...
A. 5 October 2010: Being honest is always the right thing. Good luck.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
My female friend calls me late at night and talks for hours, does this mean she is gay?
Q. ok, am a female and i have a ladyfriend that was married,now she's not. and she calls me late at night and we talk for hours about everything.do this mean she is gay or what..i been thinking!!...
A. 5 October 2010: Why does that suddenly mean she's gay? It could be that she just needs a friend to talk to and she likes talking to you. That does not instantly mean she is a lesbian. It is best not to assume such things unless something else happens such as, she ... (read in full...)
He said no when I asked him out, Now he's coming around me a lot..Why??
Q. We were spending a lot of time together and I was starting to like him so I went ahead and asked him out. He said I was cool but he didn't want to be in a relationship. I said that was fine and didn't bring it up again until he started avoiding me ...
A. 5 October 2010: He probably thought about the idea, mulling it over in his head and somehow, he started developing stronger feelings toward you. Maybe now he might be interested.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I don't understand.... why would my friend do this?
Q. Me and a male friend of mine were walking to class ,(we go to college together) and a guy that wants to take me on a date was calling my cell phone. I didnt answer, Im not interested in this guy, so my friend said he was gonna call him back and say ...
A. 5 October 2010: Maybe he just thought of a way to tell that man to back off since you aren't interested in him. Maybe your friend is interested in you. But I think you already know why he might have done that in the first place. You have your suspicions don't you? ... (read in full...)
Paranoid and unreasonable or not?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 5 yrs.. We have two sons who are 5 and 1. Shortly after our first son was born, my sister in law told me that an ex girlfriend of my husbands had spread a rumor around (months before) that they had slept to...
A. 5 October 2010: It is all unreasonable. He should have been completely honest with you and I think it is quite, for lack of a better word, unhealthy, to have provocative pictures of his exes whilst he is married to you. I would not say that you were being ... (read in full...)
Marriage trouble! I just want to be happy again...help!.
Q. im 23 and have been with my husband since i was 18. we have one child and im getting to the point where i feel our marriage is no longer as it should. im not happy, we fight everyday. he drinks everynight. spends our last few dollars on alcohol. ...
A. 5 October 2010: Just leave him. He cannot take your child away from you, he has no job and he is a felon who does drugs, odds are people will side with you and look down upon him. If things get difficult you could always turn to your family right? Just until things ... (read in full...)
At my limit with my parents.
Q. This is going to be VERY long- please bear with me here: I feel like I'm losing my mind. I'm being torn apart. I had a very hard family life growing up, where my dad began working all the time and my mom became lonely and depressed due to just...
A. 5 October 2010: The only thing you can do is perservere with your fiance until things get better. They WILL get better. I suppose you could always try and be more assertive towards you mother if you have not already done so. I think she is just so used to despising ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 in a month and I masturbate 5-9 times a week. Do you think I should try and cut down? ...
Q. How much do you think a 14 year old girl should masterbate? Is about 5-8 times a week too much?...
A. 5 October 2010: That all depends, is it actually disturbing other aspects of your life somehow? If not, I am certain you should do it as much many times as you wish. Too much would probably be in the double digits so, roughly 11-15 times a week. That would be far ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like blowjobs
Q. My boyfriend doesn't like blowjobs. He says he finds them relaxing not sexual and whenever I give him head he loses his erection. He says it's not me and he's always been like this. Do you think this is true? If it is, what else could I do for him ...
A. 5 October 2010: You do alot of other things. I doubt he finds you selfish for not reciprocating. Some men just cannot find sexual pleasure in something like that, all for different reasons I'm sure. You could try using your hands or arousing him in different ways, ... (read in full...)
Being asked for support for a child whose mother I don't remember
Q. guys i need help, i dont know what to do :( you see i have this relationship with this girl.we were on for a month..i was just 18 that time..when our "relationship" ended she left. she went back to her province..the thing is,we had sex before she ...
A. 5 October 2010: It sounds suspicious. Perhaps I might have discovered a newfound paranoia in myself but I get the feeling she might just want money from you. But you should tell someone, your parents or your girlfriend if you truly trust her. Be honest and perhaps ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me and gave me no reason why!
Q. Last night my boyfriend of 3 years left me. We have had a thing for each other since 4th grade (In 1 year of college now) Out of the blue, We have been going threw some rough times. I just didn't know he would do this to us. He has been planning fo...
A. 5 October 2010: You can do this. There will be plenty of times where your own mind will tell you that you want him again, you just have to ignore it because you deserve better things. Do not beg god to let you be together, instead, know in your heart that God will ... (read in full...)
I don't want to come across to her as desperate. What do I do here?
Q. Hello everybody.. My girlfriend doesnt have time for me but i do not care . I love her so much its hard to let her go. I think i have annoyed her asking her to go out more often since she usually doesnt trust most people in her life. I pissed her ...
A. 5 October 2010: In my opinion, it would not come across as desperate, it would come across as apologetic and kind. I doubt coming across as desperate is your most worrisome issue now is it? You have to let her know that you will be there for her if she is in fact ... (read in full...)
He's way out of my league so how would I talk to him?
Q. Ok so I'm a freshman in high school and I have taken a liking to this really cute and sweet football player/singer. He's so goofy and always is showing off his muscles at rallies. But the problem is the only things I know about him as a person is ...
A. 5 October 2010: I know in school it is sometimes hard to approach someone you admire, even for friendship but you must understand that there are no 'leagues' as I wish everyone that young would understand. There may be cliques but that should not stop you from ... (read in full...)
I want to make the marriage work, but the spark is gone
Q. I'm writing as I have nowhere else to turn, and this is probably a really stupid question. The spark went out with my husband, and yes, I ended up cheating. After a month, I realised my husband deserves better and ended the affair. Howe...
A. 5 October 2010: Focus then on love itself and reconnect. Date each other again, return to the emotional place you once were in when you two were dating. After that love is reignited, the spark of your sex life will burn as hot if not a lot hotter than before.
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Morally confused about lesbianism.. Don't know what to do?
Q. Morally confused about Lesbianism. Dont know what to do??? I am 25 and married, been w/ my husband for 9 years,since I was 16.He was my 1st boyfriend.I have felt sort of attracted 2 other girls since middle school, but I always just convince...
A. 5 October 2010: Even though I have nothing against religious views, I feel I should offer you my perspective, just so you could readjust your moral views. I have seen enough people get hurt because of religion, what a book written by man says but, what would any ... (read in full...)
Possibly in love with my roommate... but is it worth the risk with his ex still around?
Q. I tried to make this short… I’m sorry! I’ve signed a two-year lease with Frank while I finish my degree. We found each other on the schools roommate search and instantly hit it off. We had been talking/emailing every day for the month before we ...
A. 4 October 2010: By that logic, it is a terrible idea to fall in love with anyone! There will always be that risk that you have to take. What difference does it make that he is your roommate but, that is beside the point.
Are you sure he is comparing you? It is po... (read in full...)
I feel like no boy will ever want me!
Q. hey, i know theres people much worse off people then me out there but im so fed up of my life. people have told me go get out there and meet new boys, as i was going for the wrong type (just wanted 1 thing). so i did this and met this boy i really ...
A. 4 October 2010: I sure he does in fact want you, but he is putting his son first. He's saying that this is not the time for this relationship to properly get started and I agree with him, I think this is for the best. He still wants to be your friend so that ... (read in full...)
Is it love or dependency for your husband?
Q. I know dis female who husband cheats on her. his last mistress he actually fell in love wit. He actually left his wife, wanted a family and was getting a divorce to be with her. After the affair the mistress ended the relationship and he went back ...
A. 4 October 2010: I wouldn't say it was the wife's fault. Perhaps she truly did love him that much. How long were they married? If it was a long time, perhaps she did not want to let go of it all. Maybe she was used to his company and did not want to change it. I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me and gave me no reason why!
Q. Last night my boyfriend of 3 years left me. We have had a thing for each other since 4th grade (In 1 year of college now) Out of the blue, We have been going threw some rough times. I just didn't know he would do this to us. He has been planning fo...
A. 3 October 2010: If he refuses to give you reason. All you can do is try to move on. It will be hard and you might lose hope countless times but, persevere and time will mend your broken heart. For the sake of your daughter, please keep your strength up. There are ... (read in full...)
He wants me back but I don't trust him
Q. Dear cupid, am in a dilemma. Am torn apart i dont know what to choose please help. I was in a relationship for almost 3yrs with my ex boyfriend. It was a long distance relationship. I loved this man so much and i still do. During this 3yrs all w...
A. 3 October 2010: I think you should move on. He casually posted pictures of himself and another girl when he was dating you right? He was disrespectful and completely inconsiderate. Without trust, your relationship would suffer anyway because you will always ... (read in full...)
Husband blames me for everything!
Q. My husband of 20 months is what I think is verbally abusive towards me, he calls me a s**g, b***h, w***e, thick, stupid, dumb, joke, f**k up, failure, pathetic. But he says he wouldn't call me any of these things if I didn't ignore him which he says ...
A. 2 October 2010: None of this is your fault. You have done nothing to deserve this sort of angered and irrational aggression. If your parents will allow it, go to live with your parents. You should not have to accept this sort of aimless behavior from anyone. Leave ... (read in full...)
When he just wants to get into your pants...
Q. Simple question: how do you know when a guy just wants to get in your pants? What are the sure fire signs?...
A. 2 October 2010: He probably would not look into your eyes as deeply, he would also try to touch you alot (That isn't a sure thing though)...That is all I can think of at any rate. The truth is, some people are magnificent at disguising their true intentions so you ... (read in full...)
Why are women attracted to guys with fancy cars?
Q. Why are women more attracted to men with fancy cars than men with raggedy cars? Does it really matter and why?...
A. 2 October 2010: Or perhaps a more complex instinctual desire. Women look for a man who can take care of them, someone who will offer security both emotionally and resourcefully. The man with the fast and powerful, shiny car obviously gets things done, he probably ... (read in full...)
She dumped me because I failed to make plans for the future
Q. My girlfriend of 3 years has just dumped me. I'm 34 and she is 28. I cheated on her once, and it came out at the start of the year. I had also failed to make any concrete plans to move in (start living) with her, or mention marriage / kids. She was ...
A. 2 October 2010: You did not show effort before so that is what you must do now. Have plans and then tell her that you still love her and you still want to be with her. You have to be able to make a promise. You have to PROMISE her that you will take the initiative ... (read in full...)
He's been asking for a divorce but since I've decided yes, he has changed his mind
Q. Hi everyone, I'm taking some time off of my 2 year marriage, ever since we were boyfriend and girlfriend relationship has been full of drama, he's always been very jealous and all our arguments get very very bad, like he's always too proud to accept ...
A. 2 October 2010: I think maybe he yearns for the drama so he needs you to stay only to end up hurting you to appease his appetite for tragedy and emotion. I know people like that and this man sounds like he is one of them. Divorce would be a good idea, be with ... (read in full...)
FWB moved on to a relationship, but came back and cheated with me
Q. Ok, i'm going to try and make this as short as posible. A had a FWB/buddy, this ended and he now is with somebody. This is the bad part, we had sex a couple on months ago, so basicaly he cheated. Since then i've tried distancing myself from him, he ...
A. 2 October 2010: He is not respecting anyone here. It is not even worth friendship anymore or an attempt at it.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
FWB moved on to a relationship, but came back and cheated with me
Q. Ok, i'm going to try and make this as short as posible. A had a FWB/buddy, this ended and he now is with somebody. This is the bad part, we had sex a couple on months ago, so basicaly he cheated. Since then i've tried distancing myself from him, he ...
A. 2 October 2010: He is not respecting anyone here. It is not even worth friendship anymore or an attempt at it.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I want to know if she is still interested
Q. Ok so here is the deal. So there is this girl I have been talking to for a week or so. We hung out together for the first 3 nights in a row, 2nd night we slept together. I know she wanted to because we were just making out and then she ...
A. 2 October 2010: I think you might be overreacting. She might be a little upset that you "blew up her phone" but she is acting like she is still interested. Perhaps you should initiate the texting and invite her over to your place again to get things going.
I hop... (read in full...)
Did I wait too long before asking her out on a date?
Q. Hello all, I'm in need of a little insight on this. There is a lot of details to explain, so this might get a little long. First the details of her past. She's going through/has been through a tough time with a break up. She was in love with...
A. 2 October 2010: Have you actually asked her if something was wrong and if you could help? If she says no, then it is best to give her space. I think she might be thinking things over, mulling a decision over in her head and she needs some time and space. Just be ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to have sex in a brothel
Q. My husband of 8 months wants to take me to Los Vegas to have sex at a BROTHEL. I am not sure why he stated that during sex. There is nothing I have said or done to make him think I am into threesomes. He brought this up during sex which now makes ...
A. 2 October 2010: Have you talked to him about it? If he is persistent in his requests even after you tell him how uncomfortable and hurt you are by it, then it is best to end this marriage. It may seem drastic but you said it yourself that even his behavior towards ... (read in full...)
I think I bore him!
Q. He arrives at the house, give me a kiss as ussual but he is so cold, takes a shower(usual), eats supper and straight to bed making work load an excuse, am getting worried, I think I am getting to bore him. Plz help what do I hv to do. We have been ...
A. 2 October 2010: Suggest finding a way to go out on a 'date night', go back to when you two were first dating and that small flicker of a relationship was a blazing bonfire.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I'm overdue to have this baby and I can't get ahold of him, sometimes! What's up with him?
Q. Ok i been with my bf for 1 year but was with him 7 months b4 he went to prison and i waited for him and wrote him for 2 years so we been living together for a year he has been there 4 me through everything we gotta baby due any day now and he ...
A. 2 October 2010: You tell him so you know that he is aware that you need him right now. He needs to be by your side instead of going off and doing his own thing which is fine occasionally but it sounds as though he is doing this far too often. Perhaps he wishes to ... (read in full...)
Falling for my guy friend..but having sex with him will really hurt my bf! Help!
Q. I've been in a relationship for the past 6 years! The first 3 years of our relationship i was fitting for our relationship he treated me like crap but now things are really good, I'm young but i do love my boyfriend he is living a couple thousand ...
A. 2 October 2010: You have known your boyfriend longer and you have been his girlfriend for much longer than you have been this boy's friend. Just say no. He cannot be a very good friend if he keeps asking or tempting you into having sex with him.
I hope that hel... (read in full...)
How can I stop getting so angry all the time??
Q. Hi veeryone. I'm 13 and want to know why I am so angry. I haven't had a good life at all and my mom said she fears I will run away or something. But the littlest things get me angry and it is very sudden. I don't want to Hurt myself, but I want to ...
A. 1 October 2010: You are only 13, your hormones are raging about aimlessly trying to sort themselves out. You are going to feel a variety of new emotions, see things in a new light. It is all a part of growing up and though it can be an intense period of your life, ... (read in full...)
What to do with my life?
Q. Ok, so its not really a question about relationships or anything but here's the deal. I've been really depressed lately thinking about my future. I'm 17 years old, have a good paying job that I work 9 hours every day at, I'm graduated from high ...
A. 1 October 2010: You are off to a good start. From here (without college) there are a multitude of options for you. I know how you feel, empty because you have no real achievments you can be proud of. You could start traveling, meet people or start a relationship ... (read in full...)
Remarried, happy, 11 years later, spark of some kind still exists when see this guy, why??
Q. Okay guys here's a ? For you! Bear with me .... I was married for 20 years to an alcoholic, have three Great kids. 10 turbulant years a customer. Had alway's admired At my store starts being more than just nice. He comes into the More frequent...
A. 1 October 2010: Was this guy a creep? What would lead you to believe that? He is probably feeling the same thing you are. But you cannot do anything about it now. You are married.
Ask yourself this. Do you love your husband? If you don't, you have to divorce ... (read in full...)
Have not been introduced to his family after 2 years, should I be concerned?
Q. Hi, all I need your advice. I have been more than 2 years together with him. My boyfriend seems no intention to introduce me to his family or friends. I have no idea how to deal with this situation. He is living far from his hometown at t...
A. 1 October 2010: Perhaps he is ashamed of his family somehow. Maybe he has issues with his family. I know it may not seem that way to you but that would be because he is hiding it. A close family can have problems and hide them from the world but when it is just ... (read in full...)
Very close to my female best friend, is this more than a friendship??
Q. I'm a girl, and I have a super best friend who I talk to about everything and anything. We're totally tight and we like to joke about sex all the time. But just a week ago or so, we were outside and started feeling each other's boobs and nipple...
A. 1 October 2010: What do you think? Do you think you're still friends? Do you want to keep being 'just friends'? Are you sure this is not just about sex?
I am going to assume that it is not simply about sex, if that was the case, I think you two could blossom ... (read in full...)
Confusing on again, off again relationship, any ideas where his head is??
Q. Hello. I've found myself in a muddle with a guy and would like some advice. I've known him for eight months, and in that time I've seen him on and off for three times, each time ending with a fight because he 'wasn't sure what he wanted'. We ...
A. 1 October 2010: That depends on what you want. Do you want to be friends with benefits? If not, I suggest you avoid sex completely until you're both sure of what you want out of this. I think you should go to dinner with him and see what happens.
I hope that hel... (read in full...)
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