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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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Is my doctor flirting with me or is it just wishful thinking?
Q. I'm in my mid 20's and I'm not sure how old my doctor is... I want to say mid 30's. The age gap is not an issue but I don't have a clue if he's with someone, married, has kids, or single. It's impossible to fish out anything because his staff is...
A. 15 August 2010: I have a question...Wasn't there a nurse in that room when he did a full body exam? I'm pretty sure my doctor, however friendly he is, never did anything like that to me so...I'm pretty sure your doctor was flirting.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
She gave him a hand job but said it wasn't cheating
Q. I have been married for eight years now, recently my wife found this guy at work, she felt sorry for him, so she moves him into our apartment, so he can heal from an operation on his shoulder. Well let me back up, before he moved in he was stay...
A. 15 August 2010: I'm pretty sure she's just trying to justify what she did. In my opinion, it definitely was cheating! In fact, it sounds like she has no concern whatsoever about your feelings. Don't handle this irrationally though, just tell her that it is still ... (read in full...)
Is 'I'm not ready for a relationship' a polite way of saying 'I'm just not that into you'?
Q. If a guy says that the time is not right for him to be in a relationship and that it wouldn't be fair to me to start a relationship, is there EVER a time that this is a true statement? I feel like he's just letting me down easy and that he is j...
A. 15 August 2010: For some people, it is a true statement. Some people go through stages of their life where they just aren't ready to care about someone or feel anything. They could just be going through something big in their life. I don't know what the exact ... (read in full...)
Should I give him my virgnity?
Q. Okay so, I'm still a virgin because I would like to lose it to someone who really matters to me, but with my current boyfriend (who I just started dating), well, he's not a virgin, and he's able to find soo many of my "turn-on" spots. He's also able ...
A. 15 August 2010: Well, congratulations for being able to stay a virgin for this long. You really have my respect for keeping it for the right person.
Self-consciousness is a normal thing. I used to think myself really ugly, then something happened (not willing ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says its normal for men to cheat
Q. I always caught my boyfriend of 7 years cheating on me. I think he cheated on me 6 times or more. We already have a baby and I thought that he would change. Every time he is caught cheating he always says sorry and promises that he won't do it ...
A. 15 August 2010: You have a baby and he's cheating on you? Again and again? There's no reason for you to stay with him anymore. You need to find someone who won't do this kind of thing to you or your kid.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Does it take men longer to miss a partner?
Q. This is a love poll. I am having a break from my 3 year boyfriend. I don't know why but they say men take longer to miss their woman then the other way around. Is this true? And when do you think the amount you miss someone peaks? today is day 1...
A. 15 August 2010: Personally, I don't think gender matters, it varies from person to person and it also depends on how close you two actually were. If he was a caring partner then he would most likely be missing you already, if he always seemed slightly distant, I ... (read in full...)
13 year old FTM Transgender how to come out?
Q. [OP original title] Hi. I am a 13 year old FTM transgender. I am not out. And I watch Degrassi, which has a FTM on it. And if I tell my mom I am then I am afraid she will tell me that its because of that show. Which its really not. So, how do I...
A. 15 August 2010: I don't think it's anything to be afraid of. Don't your parents love you now as their child? What are their views on this sort of thing? They should support you if this is how you truly feel.
Tell them slowly, sit them down and just tell them tha... (read in full...)
His ex has appeared and is ruining our relationship!
Q. I am 18 my boyfriend is 19. Our relationship is perfect until recently when his ex girlfriend started txting him while me and him was together and now she is txting me and telling me that my bf hates me and he loves her and nerver wants anything to ...
A. 15 August 2010: Just ignore her. If you both love each other then this girl shouldn't really have any affect on either of you. Just ignore her.
I hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Do guys appreciate a girl who says no to unsafe sex?
Q. Do guys really think better of a girl, who, wont have sex without a condom. A lot of people say that guys really appreciate and that. But in ways it sounds like away to get people into safe sex. Cause i know my boyfriend sometimes will be like "well ...
A. 15 August 2010: As a guy, yeah I'd say girls who actually think about safety are very much appreciated! ... (read in full...)
I'm 19, he's 16, is it even a good idea to date him?
Q. Hello...I have recently fallen for a guy who is about 3 1/2 years younger than I am. I recently turned 19 years old and a college freshman. He is a high school sophomore. I never would have even considered a relationship with someone with that ...
A. 15 August 2010: Just don't get physical and things should be fine if you really like the guy. If you feel this strongly, I'm pretty sure you can just tell him that you want to be more than friends. You both have to be ready for this and really really patient. If ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I only think of him like a grandfather?
Q. Dear Cupid There is a guy that I camp with. I have known him for about 3 months now. He is about 65 or 70. I kind of have feelings for him. Not like I want a relationship but kind of like I love him like a father of grandfather. Am I in love wit...
A. 15 August 2010: My honest opinion, you shouldn't be IN love with him. He's just too old for you. I am going to assume you are fifteen. You haven't finished school yet and you are still going through changes in your body, in your mind and in your life. How does he ... (read in full...)
Realised my bf has lost interest in me after our holiday together
Q. [OP original title] I've just returned from my second holiday with my bf of 4 yrs. this might not seem as important to u guys but it kinda started bothering me that we weren't having sex all the time. The thing is, at home before we went, he woul...
A. 15 August 2010: It sounds like you've done all you could. You've shown your heart's devotion to him and he's only reacted, never taken action. So how does he look at you now? What does he do when he sees you? Are you his girlfriend or are you just the woman ... (read in full...)
Love with a touch of family?
Q. [OP original title] When I first saw him we were in middle school. We started going out freshman year of high school. We really thought we were both in love and one night we snuck out and we ended up having sex but we used protection. His dad foun...
A. 15 August 2010: Tell his dad how you feel. Assure him that you'll be cautious but you can't leave because you really are in love. I don't know either of you so I can't be sure but this is the best advice I can give.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Why does my body love him when he makes me sick?
Q. I've just recently realised a guy I've liked for ages is using me. So I've only just learnt that he isnt the guy for me, and that I should ignore him for the best.But why do I feel completely different around him, when he is near me? Its like my ...
A. 15 August 2010: Mind over matter. If your mind knows, your body will as well. Remind yourself what he did to you when you're around him and even though you should still be polite, you should also remember why you hate him, why there is no reason for you to like him ... (read in full...)
No idea what these dreams mean.
Q. I keep on having these strange dreams about last year at my school concert. It's my turn for the solo. I look around the room and I see one of my friends and his friend making faces at me to mess me up. I got nervous and ran into the band room and ...
A. 15 August 2010: Legally, no one on here is allowed to interpret dreams without a proper degree in psychology so I can't really give you a good answer.
You said you keep on having these dreams, are you still in contact with that guy? Do you still have a crush on... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him when I get no response or effort in return?
Q. [OP original title] I feel so alone right now. nothing in lifes going right and to make it worse im being treated like crap by one of my friends. Im a quiet person in general and so is he, depending on who he is around, mostly hes fine. I dont alwa...
A. 15 August 2010: There are two possibilities here. Either he really doesn't like you or he really does like you a lot. I don't know him as well as you do so I'm just throwing out ideas here.
Try talking to him again, actually be more talkative than usual about an... (read in full...)
I've said I love you, but he won't say it back!
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my boyfriend have been going out since June 11th I love him very very much but he has never said to me that he loves me!! Everyone says we are cute together even before we started going out, he is great we have never had an argue...
A. 15 August 2010: You don't. Don't say it yet. It's only been a couple of months. He probably really likes you but he doesn't love you...yet. You can give him hints that you really love him but I don't think it's the right time to tell him face to face that you love ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher really flirting?
Q. [OP original title] My AP US History teacher is very friendly with everyone, but he seems to be a little extra friendly with certain girls, including me. He's extremely attractive, and I wouldn't mind going for it, but I don't want to make thin...
A. 15 August 2010: DO NOT EVEN TRY IT. No good can ever come from student/teacher relationships. No offence but, you are only a sixteen year old, you are going to change a lot. This is not the best time to be in a relationship with a mature man. What LLindy87 said is ... (read in full...)
My wife is very abusive towards me - please help.
Q. [OP original title] Someone please give me some advice... I have been living in an abusive relationship for nearly 15 months. I am not sure where to start because so much has happened during this time. But at the same time I am not sure how to s...
A. 15 August 2010: Never let yourself get bullied. It is time you fought back but I'm not talking about hurting her! A husband should NEVER hurt his wife. I'm talking about defending yourself, if she tries to hit you, move out of the way, do not take her abuse! Leave ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him that he misses me?
Q. I'm in love with this guy, And we stopped being friends and talking a little over 2 months ago. We text very very Little. And if we do text i always start it and it's not a long conversation. He text me yesterday and i text him back of course, ...
A. 15 August 2010: Essentially, this is a trust issue is it not? If he hugs you and tells you he misses you, what does he do to support that statement? If he knows you are aware of his lies, chances are he does really miss you. Why would he bother lying about that ... (read in full...)
Have I met my Prince Charming?
Q. I met a man at my old work place that tried to be very helpful when I was experiencing some really hard times at work. It resulted in me leaving without a job to go too. During the time that I was there I noticed the way he stared at me but ...
A. 15 August 2010: Well, if you've had experience with rotten men, you should be cautious. By all means, call this man, meet with him but do so armed with the awareness of possibility. People change and they often do with the things around them. If you were in a ... (read in full...)
I can't last long when I masturbate to porn!
Q. okay so i'm 19 and i've always suffered from premature ejaculation right back when i started having sex at 16 I recently bought a Stamina Training Fleshlight that says it can improve your sexual stamina The thing is, without and pictures o...
A. 15 August 2010: How often do you masturbate to porn? If you do it too often, it will affect your stamina negatively. This is why pornography is usually described as being an unwanted form of sexual release. Pornography is very addictive because it gives you the ... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm on the verge of dumping him!
Q. So my boyfriend and I just got back from vacation, and we usually see each other on Saturdays, but like 2 days before he tells me he's helping his parents move furniture. The problem with this is, that I don't believe what he said and he hasn...
A. 14 August 2010: You shouldn't be thinking about dumping him until you know for sure that somethings up. Right now, you're making choices on suspicions that seem to have no evidence to support them.
What makes you think he's lying? Have you tried calling him? Has... (read in full...)
Torn between a friend, a stranger and my conscience.
Q. My friends in love with a married man and he has decided to separate from his wife. They have a lovely kid who is maybe just a year old and one which is few years old. I feel for the woman and the kids though they are strangers and my conscience ...
A. 14 August 2010: I think you need to know whether or not they actually love each other. It is true that you cannot help who you fall in love with because the heart wants what the heart wants but, they have to be sure it's love otherwise he might just hurt your ... (read in full...)
Sex was so brief! But was it genuine embarrassment or signs of something else?
Q. I recently met this guy.. we are incredibly attracted to each other.. our chemistry is through the roof and we talk daily.. and tonight we had sex for the first time.Well i was super nervous to have sex w/ him but figured i dont normally do this ...
A. 14 August 2010: I'm pretty sure smoking pot had something to do with the short length of your night. He probably is really attracted to you. It's also a fact that pre-ejaculation can occur because of embarrassment so, he's probably still ashamed of how short he ... (read in full...)
All we do is fight..and now I've cheated...should I simply move on?
Q. Well...my story is a pretty pathetic one. I have been in a relationship for over a year with this guy. Initially it was amazing...but the last few months,well;they were pretty bad. I'm pursuing my MBA and 3 months ago i was really busy with...
A. 14 August 2010: Well first off, we need to know what you two are fighting about exactly. Is it your internship? The time you spend away? Do you really want to move on? I mean, you sound like you think (or know) that there is still a chance between you two.... (read in full...)
She says she feels like I'm her soulmate, but that I'm too young for her, what should I do?
Q. Hi all, I met this amazing lady about 2 months ago.....we met on the dating site.....and it was a fluke as she doesn't go there often and she was about to log off....I instant messaged her and she replied and we hit it off from the start....nor...
A. 14 August 2010: Have you ever heard of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore? They're still together so something must have gone right. I say if you're willing then nothing should be stopping you.... (read in full...)
How can I trust my wife again and how can I make her trust me?
Q. I have, like most men, some serious Retroactive Jealousy issues. I also have struggled with temper problems in the past. I have been able to control these things for the better part of the last 10 years. Recently, my wife of 7 years and I were...
A. 14 August 2010: I am about to give you my advice to the best of my abilities but, I can't do that well given that I don't know exactly what you said to her.
If you've already apologized to her, then perhaps you both should just sit down first and talk about wh... (read in full...)
Will this guy grow up and realize he has wrecked an amazing relationship because he was too lazy?
Q. Hi there, Iv'e never sought help from internet sights before but i'd really like to hear from guys and girls that have been through similar experiences as me. My boyfriend and I have just broke up for the 4th time in 2 and a half years of a ...
A. 14 August 2010: Well, he puts effort into getting you back so, his willingness is there, you just have to find a way to spread it out into other areas of your relationship. Finance is usually the reason for a break-up so you can't let that affect you. Now that it ... (read in full...)
My LDR won't tell me what's bothering him
Q. I've been dating this guy, A, for three weeks. We met thru a friend on a night where we both were desperate for a relationship. We have almost everything in common and he gets me. Almost a perfect relationship. Though it would be perfect if he told ...
A. 14 August 2010: Depending on when his depression started, it could be possible that it's the long distance relationship that's bothering him although, depression can occur for any number of reasons so no one can be sure that it's anyone's fault. Don't be so quick ... (read in full...)
Agreed to an open relationship but hate the idea
Q. I really need some help with my relationship.. im so depressed now//? i love this guy.. i love him a lot.. i would take a bullet for him.. we've been dating for like a month now, and he told me last week that he wants to keep our relationship...
A. 14 August 2010: Does he truly feel the same way about you? If he does then, if you tell him exactly how much it hurts you, he should be there and you two should be able to talk about it. Why does he want an open relationship?... (read in full...)
I screwed up my relationship and I really want her back. Please help?
Q. Hey guys. Well, the title says it all. I badly screwed up my relationship. I always hurt my girlfriend in the past and she just kept taking all my BS until she can no longer take it anymore. We were together for 4 months, by the way. So anyway.... I ...
A. 14 August 2010: If you want her to come back to you peacefully, then do what she says. Just be friends and show her in a friendly non-romantic way that you have changed. Take things slowly again. Be patient. I think the fact that she was wrong in accusing you of ... (read in full...)
I flirted and he got the wrong idea -- how do I let him down easy?
Q. So I met this guy online (he's My friend's friend) and we chatted on facebook,texted each other and skyped and really got to know each other, and i really, REALLY do not like him...i mean he is nice..but he is extremely clingy and annoying,and is ...
A. 14 August 2010: Well, you should worry about your flirting problem first otherwise you might just lead him on again whilst trying to let him down nicely. Do you know why you feel a need to flirt? Does it make you feel confident somehow? In the bible, Humility ... (read in full...)
Confused about my relationship with a colleague - is he just a friend or more??
Q. Hi, I am a married woman - have a 4 year old. Marriage isn't going great guns at all - husband hasn't touched me in years together and I haven't touched anyone except this colleague of mine I am gonna talk about in just a bit.. There's a colleague ...
A. 14 August 2010: I'm judging this purely by the way you stated your situation. Your talked about this colleague of yours and only once stated anything about your marriage or your 4 year old child. Not even a simple statement of how things are at home with your ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if she likes me back?
Q. ok mme and this girl, call her danni, have just started going out but i really like her and im not sure if she likes me, anyways to find out?...
A. 14 August 2010: If guys are going out then just ask her.... (read in full...)
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