Like what
he writes?
... Add *erberus_Raphael to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *erberus_Raphael a private message | | *erberus_Raphael's Ratings | |
| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
|
|
| Latest articles: International Day of Tolerance
This question has 8 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
|
Raised my stepdaughter as my real child up until I caught her having sex
Q. I am 44 and have been happily married for 10 years. I have no children of my own, but my wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. I love her to death and raised her as my own since she was 6 years old. She is now 16, turning 17 in 2 months ...
A. 15 October 2010: I am glad you handled things the way you did with your daughter, sitting her down and talking to her calmly was a step in the right direction. I can only suggest you sit your wife down now and tell her that you need counselling, you just cannot tell ... (read in full...)
Am I destined to die alone?
Q. I am a 25 year old architect who has reached utter despair in the quest of finding that special lady to grow old together... This sentence sums up my life quite well however; the reason I am writing is due to the fact that I have not been with ...
A. 13 October 2010: Your life is not written in stone, neither is the fate of your broken soul. You are still very young and there is a woman out there waiting for a man like you, to love her and cherish her. Do not assume that in the vast populace of humanity, you are ... (read in full...)
Mom being stalked by her ex and doesn't seem to be taking it seriously
Q. I think my mom is being stalked by her ex boyfriend and I'm worried she's taking it too lightly, she doesn't find this as a dangerous situation, but I think it is or at least could escalate to something more serious. He and her dated last year ...
A. 13 October 2010: She could stay at your place for a while if you both feel it is necessary. I doubt the police would be of any use as he has not really done anything illegal or threatening. She can have his number blocked and perhaps she can keep company around her ... (read in full...)
I have the boy of my dreams and everyone else wants him!
Q. Hello!Hey so...Yeah hi.Im in an LDR and now that i have him as my boyfriend girls want to be with him now and it makes me jealous.He has girls who like him,tried to kiss him, n wana screw his brains out.At leas he says no.But it makes me upset and i ...
A. 13 October 2010: It's nothing you should be jealous of if you trust him that much. Do not let all the other girls affect you because there really is not much either of you can do to stop those girls from acting that way.
You have the boy of your dreams so enjoy... (read in full...)
I am married to a man who lies about everything!
Q. I don't even know where to start, but here it goes; I am married to a man that constantly lies about EVERYTHING- and he breaks every promise that he makes. Each passing day I can feel my sense of self-worth and self-esteem grow weaker and weaker, ...
A. 13 October 2010: You are absolutely right in considering divorce. Without trust, there can be no marriage and your husband has broken that trust numerous times. He may seem like he still cares but if he did, he would not be lying to your face everyday and you would ... (read in full...)
Raised my stepdaughter as my real child up until I caught her having sex
Q. I am 44 and have been happily married for 10 years. I have no children of my own, but my wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. I love her to death and raised her as my own since she was 6 years old. She is now 16, turning 17 in 2 months ...
A. 13 October 2010: It will be hard but you have to try and push those images away. Most people see things they wish they could 'un-see' because it is so terrible. What worked for me was, I replaced the image with something else, that way, whenever I was reminded of ... (read in full...)
I cant let her marry her cousin, but I am not in the right place for marriage either! What can I do?
Q. I need help,serious advice on my situation. I am 22, she is 21. Our society is not like yours , so things are different and complicated. her family wants her to marry her cousin now. She has her option which is she has to marry now,she can marry ...
A. 12 October 2010: You could plead to them, ask them to wait. Make them a promise that after those five years you will have everything they want and you can marry her. That is all you can do right now short of running away with her but, I doubt that would end well. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my past might come back to haunt me!
Q. i am a 24 yrs .typically from a cultural family .i have bitterness in relationship in my past.with many .everyone were a cheater .just made for physical relation .this hurts me a lot .due to my past even some of my fren scolded me .i was helpless .i ...
A. 12 October 2010: You have started a new relationship, free of past faults. If he is a good man he will continue to love you and his love will steal your troubles away.
The past is in the past and it will stay there. Cherish this relationship so that it lasts. ... (read in full...)
Hurt, confused, hopeful, scared... Please Read! What do I do???
Q. I was with a girl for almost a year and 6 months (Officially 1 year and 3 months June 09 - Sept 10), and things were great. To give you background on the relationship: We had great times, memories, our families got along, and really fell for each ...
A. 12 October 2010: Probably because it IS a rebound relationship. She just does not want to be alone. You may love her but she does not sound like she loved you as strongly. She was afraid to be alone so she tried to move from one relationship to another without ever ... (read in full...)
How does this work? Do I wait for him to call or text?
Q. I am a new widow as of March..yes, I am grieving, and yes, I miss my husband tremendously, but lately I find myself wanting to just be with a man. I don't want a relationship, but just someone to you know be with --be touched-- kiss-- and whatever. ...
A. 12 October 2010: Does that man know that? He might think you want something deeper? Just make sure you are clear that all you want is the physical intimacy without the emotional attachement. It is all up to you though, you could call him if that is what you feel you ... (read in full...)
Hurt, confused, hopeful, scared... Please Read! What do I do???
Q. I was with a girl for almost a year and 6 months (Officially 1 year and 3 months June 09 - Sept 10), and things were great. To give you background on the relationship: We had great times, memories, our families got along, and really fell for each ...
A. 12 October 2010: Do you really want her back anyway? She lied to you again and again about what she felt between her and the man she kept texting. Perhaps it was for convenience but she should have known better, she told you she loved you and if she ever meant it, ... (read in full...)
Can you date your half brother?
Q. is it ok to date your half brother?i didint know him till the start of summer, i didint know i had a half brother till dad died then mum said we had a half brother...
A. 12 October 2010: No it is not okay to date your half brother because you have the same father and therefore you are still very much related to him by blood. Go out and meet someone who isn't related to you.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says it's over if I get another tattoo!
Q. Hi all My boyfriend has told me that he might leave me if i get another tattoo, piercing or modify my body in any way. We have been together for 5 years and i love him dearly. He is very sweet and kind and i do value his opinion on body modifi...
A. 12 October 2010: Is it possible that perhaps all the piercings and tattoos are making it hard for him to be intimate with you? Could it possibly quite off-putting? Yes I think it is a good idea for you two to just sit down and discuss it with each other, try and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says it's over if I get another tattoo!
Q. Hi all My boyfriend has told me that he might leave me if i get another tattoo, piercing or modify my body in any way. We have been together for 5 years and i love him dearly. He is very sweet and kind and i do value his opinion on body modifi...
A. 12 October 2010: Is it possible that perhaps all the piercings and tattoos are making it hard for him to be intimate with you? Could it possibly quite off-putting? Yes I think it is a good idea for you two to just sit down and discuss it with each other, try and ... (read in full...)
My flatmate wants me to cheat on my girlfriend. How do I make her stop?
Q. hi, ok this may be confusing but i need your advice so please read. i fell head over heels for a female friend of mine that i shared a student flat with about a year ago. i told her how i feel and we had sex on 2 occassions. however, she was...
A. 12 October 2010: The moment you realize a text is from her, ignore it. She is threatening your relationship and very clearly, your morals, tugging on your emotions as if your heart were a puppet. Cut off communication from her and just ignore her. She has no right ... (read in full...)
How much will it take me to leave?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married to my husband for nearly 12 years. I am now 26, he is now 30. In the beginning of our marriage was bad, he cheated with one of my best friends 6 months after we were married, than a year later with another ...
A. 12 October 2010: You need to take your children and get away from him. I cannot believe he told you to just kill yourself but I am relieved that you still breathe to tell your story. I did once try it, it was depression but I lived through it and now, like you, I am ... (read in full...)
B/f asked me to move in with him but I'm afraid of losing myself!
Q. My boyfriend has asked me to move in with him. It's a big deal to me because I've never lived with a guy before and I usually need a lot of my own space in relationships. I'm wondering if anyone else who likes their own space has experience with ...
A. 12 October 2010: I think you might have found one of those men that almost every woman looks for. You could tell him how you feel about it, you said it yourself that you feel no pressure and you don't feel trapped. It sounds like the perfect relationship. What makes ... (read in full...)
Normal for a guy to watch porn once a day?
Q. ok, just want to know is it normal for a guy to watch porn alot? i mean like almost once a day? and why? when you have the real thing that does anything you want and enjoys it just as much....and why don't he ever initiate if he just wants oral or ...
A. 11 October 2010: Something I have never really understood. I suppose it is a primitve lustful want for a voyeauristic experience but I have never really thought that logical at all when they have a wife or a girlfriend in your position who enjoys it and would try ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else like really rough sex?
Q. So, I'm wondering. does anybody else love really really rough sex? i mean, i feel weird asking, but i dont want to be the only one. like, i love being slaped, called dirt names, and thrown around, choked (not hard but yeah). i love it, but i feel ...
A. 11 October 2010: It is just what you like, it is nothing to be ashamed of and you should not feel like a whore just because of that. You do not enjoy all of that in other aspects of your life though do you? Then that would be a problem. But if it just during sex, it ... (read in full...)
Why is it so easy for girls and so hard for guys?
Q. Me and my GF have been on a break since july 22, but on Monday oct 4th it finally became official. She went from going to the movies with a dude we'll call him "Douche" to now being in a relationship with this guy whom we'll call "Jackass". Why is ...
A. 11 October 2010: That is not always so. Sometimes it is the other way around. Look at this entire site, both men and women struggle to move on whilst their lovers seem to breeze through different people as though they were devouring their way through chocolates. No ... (read in full...)
Do men regret leaving their pregnant partners?
Q. i dated my ex for 2 years, when i found out i was pregnant and told him on valentines day, he dumped me. he treated me like crap my whole pregnancy, he never called or emailed me and whenever i contacted him (i sent ultrasounds and updates, i was ...
A. 11 October 2010: My father did the same thing, he is a monstrous liar and I hate him more than anything. Men like that do not have a logical conscience, they WANT you to suffer and they want you to feel such mental aggravation that you are torn and shattered. Do not ... (read in full...)
Where are the good men hiding?
Q. Right now I'm very discouraged. Where are all the good men hiding? In the past years my dating experiences have been bad. I've tried dating friends, acquaintances, co workers, random people.. nothing seems to work. I think I'm a fairly normal pe...
A. 11 October 2010: Single life is always an option. But romance is so much more thrilling. Why do we seek love as humans? Forget that our nature is to reproduce. There is something about love that even the innocent child knows about even though it's heart has never ... (read in full...)
How do I make conversation with the guy at work?
Q. hi, I'm really confused and not sure wat to do...I fancy someone at work i'm very shy...not sure if he knows or not...I get the feeling he might..we dont really talk, but there are those moments when eyes meet and he looks other way...or on lunch he ...
A. 11 October 2010: Well, at lunch, you can offer to have lunch with him. It is easier than you think to make conversation with someone. I do it for a living so I know first hand how surpisingly easy it is. Who knows, you two could really do well together. Just strike ... (read in full...)
She is jealous but wants to keep her ex in the picture but not mine, what to do here??
Q. My partner and I have only been together for about 5 months. I have had a total of 2 partners before her. She has had myrriads. She ask me the other day to quit communicating with my last ex because she was afraid I would end up having an emotional ...
A. 11 October 2010: Well, it is unfair for her to have asked you to terminate communications with your ex when she is still openly meeting with hers. She does not trust you but she expects you to be completely trustful of her? That is not right. I suppose she thinks ... (read in full...)
How do I tell a guy that I don't want to talk to him anymore nicely??
Q. please help. I was on My Yearbook.com, (bad site i know) but my friend made me put my number in one guy's message box and now he won't stop calling me. I realized that i really don't want to deal with anyone I meet online and really actually want to ...
A. 11 October 2010: Just be openly honest with him. Tell him that he is a really nice guy and its not that you hate him or anything, you just do not feel comfortable with that sort of contact.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Should I confess or just keep quiet??
Q. Ladies...I need to get an honest opinion of how you would deal with this situation: Let's say you started a friendship with a guy who dazzled you like no other man, but he had a serious girlfriend. You found out later their relationship had...
A. 11 October 2010: I know you wanted advice from ladies but I just felt I really had to say something about this.
This whole relationship started out messily and now you are facing a messy problem. Technically, you two were not in a proper relationship whilst h... (read in full...)
What happened here with my boyfriend, do you understand it??
Q. so im a little confused with my boyfriend or ex or whatever he is. We broke up not to long ago cuz i made a mistake. But everyone makes mistakes and i think it can always get sorted. So anyway we live together and been dating for 5 years. We kinda ...
A. 11 October 2010: He might prefer negative emotions, some people are comfortable in them, some people crave drama in relationships but maybe he did visit old memories and old emotions returned. He may not have sorted things out in his heart yet. No one can ever truly ... (read in full...)
Why do people dislike people who are large??
Q. How come people dont like others just becuase there fat ?...
A. 11 October 2010: At the risk of sounding like a complete buffoon and an inconsiderate jerk I will offer my perspective.
Women are beautiful, every single one of them are beautiful. Perhaps it is because we grow up in an age where everyone tends to think they kno... (read in full...)
My bf will not "own" me around his friends or say I love her, should this be a problem??
Q. My bf has this dual personality. To me, he speaks and act perfectly. Seriously, could not get a more perfect boyfriend. But when he is with his friends he doesn't ever speak of me like he loves me. He will chat about how hot some girls are, joke ...
A. 11 October 2010: I think you are right. Some men are afraid that they will seem 'whipped' to their other friends. Talk to him, tell him it bothers you and it is starting to hurt your relationship. This sort of behaviour shows that he does not respect you as much as ... (read in full...)
I drunkenly cheated on my fiance and now she doesn't know if she'll ever trust me again!
Q. My fiancée and I have been together for two years (living together for 1.5 years); we were supposed to get married March of 2011. I love her more than my own life and would stop at nothing to make damn sure that she's happy. But last month, I to...
A. 11 October 2010: This may sound rather blunt and unhelpful but false hope is better than no hope at this point because it sounds like you two really love each other, there has to be something to cling on to and if must be 'false hope', so be it. Whatever it takes to ... (read in full...)
I've told him the trust is gone but he wants to try again
Q. 41yrs of age with husband almost 8yrs and married for almost 1 yr. This is my second marriage and my first one broke up as he was violent and should nothing for me but I stayed in it for 14yrs. Then I met my new husband and he was just everything I ...
A. 10 October 2010: First off, has he actually made a change? Sex really would not be the best thing to be doing right now because, you do not trust him and the wounds are still too fresh which is why you are left frustrated. I really think you should go back to when ... (read in full...)
Damn boys!
Q. damn boys! i love this guy. he doest love me back but he flirts, now he saying we should have sex. what should i do? im in love with him and i realy want to. ...
A. 10 October 2010: Do not even think about doing it. You are under-aged and not yet ready for something as emotionally and physically, impacting as sex. Neither is this boy apparently. If you love him then wait until you are both ready, mentally and physically.
... (read in full...)
My heart and my mind are at war
Q. my (ex?) girlfriend slept with someone else. i didnt realize that were officaly broken up sisnce we were still doing everything that couples do like go to a show,dinner, sex, etc.... we have had out differences that could have easly been worked out ...
A. 10 October 2010: You handled it well enough so congratulations for not losing your head on such a delicate matter.
What do you want to do? Which do you want to listen to? Your mind will always tell you deep down inside that you can do better will it not? But your... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend have told me that her ex was going with her?
Q. My GF of a year, has been divorced for almost 3 years and has 3 children. Today her and her kids were going to a apple festival. Well last night her daughter told me that her dad was going with them. Just a little background, he is not from this ...
A. 10 October 2010: I cannot really say. Somehow, I agree with your wife in part but I can see why it bothers you. I do not like the fact that she grew angry about it because you were simply expressing how you felt about it. She probably thought that it was not much of ... (read in full...)
Is there a right way or wrong way to handle this situation?
Q. Basically, I'm in a bit of a situation. I know what I want to do, but I don't know how to go about doing it. Advice and opinions would be much appreciated. I was in a relationship for six months with a guy, call him X. Nothing remotely sexual ...
A. 10 October 2010: You should be free to be with anyone you want. He cannot dictate who you get with and if Y is alright with it, you have all the right in the world to be with him. If X has a problem with it, then I suppose you just cannot be friends with him, but, ... (read in full...)
My husband's adult children take precendence over my needs
Q. I have been with my spouse for 15 years. We both have two boys from other marriages, his are 39 and 36 and mine are 28 and 26. The problem I have is his grown children, and his need to change everything we have together, in order to be with them....
A. 10 October 2010: Both your children are growing or have grown up and must live their own lives as you two have lived yours. He needs to know that no matter how hard it is to let them go, he has to make them deal with their own problems, financially or emotionally, ... (read in full...)
Can I keep seeing my professor, or is it a lost cause?
Q. About a week ago, under fairly casual and normal circumstances I accepted a ride home from my college professor. The classes I take are evening classes part time, and he is not employed by the college directly, but began teaching this past ...
A. 10 October 2010: Forget the fact that he is your professor. This is a typical affair on his part but you know better than to steal a man away from his wife, no matter how unhappily married he is. He needs to get a divorce before he can seek a relationship with you. ... (read in full...)
Been in love for 2 years with her but afraid to tell her!
Q. Hi I am in love with my best friend and have been for about 2-3 years but over them years we have become very close. But I wanna tell her but as you can see we are both girls . . . but also I don't wanna do anything that might ruin our friendship?? ...
A. 10 October 2010: It is all in the way you say it. If she does not feel the same way, don't make a big deal out of it, just carry on being friends as you usually would, she will know and nothing would have really changed unless she DOES feel the same way.
I hop... (read in full...)
(User's title) Am I a phantom?
Q. I'm new to this site and I seen that it gives advice, so I figured why not to join, right? I always wanted to know why... Can't I get a guy that will treat me like a princess, maybe I'm misfortunate enough to go for the pricks.. I'm not sure, I ...
A. 10 October 2010: It is difficult to find someone at that age because all the boys would typically only want sex. Everyone is hormonally ruled at that age.
You may not find anyone just yet but wait until you're older, wait until you meet someone new and that man... (read in full...)
Is my husband abusive or is it just me?
Q. I need an outside opinion of my relationship...I don't know if my husband is abusive or if I an or both or what I'm supposed to do about it!! I feel like I'm losing my mind!! I've been married almost 2 years and we've been separated on and...
A. 10 October 2010: Just leave him immediately. He is causing you physical and mental anguish, listen to yourself, this man is driving you to the brink of insanity.
He has forced himself on you sexually, he has attacked you physically, he has attacked you verbally... (read in full...)
I think about her every second and its driving me crazy!
Q. hello everybody , thanks for the time you re spendin on order to give me some advise , here is my problem , im in a LDR for a long long time , and its been ages since i didnt see my gf, but lately i just cant seem to stop thinking about her, i m...
A. 9 October 2010: It could be the guilt that has finally sunken in, or a thought that triggered your passionate feelings for her which would explain why she seems to flood your thoughts every second.
But I really think you should tell her that you cheated on her, ... (read in full...)
She say's she wants me to grow in my walk with God before we can have a relationship???
Q. I met a great, pretty girl at my college late this past summer. It felt like there was chemistry from the start, we were talking every day, hanging out a few times a week, texting alot, talking about fun things we could do in the future. It seemed ...
A. 9 October 2010: Perhaps you should remind her that what you two feel for each other is completely benevolent, from what you are describing, this is the most affectionate and romantic, none lustful relationship I have read about in a long time. Would God not smile ... (read in full...)
| *erberus_Raphael's friends
These are mutual friends, so *erberus_Raphael has
added them and they have added *erberus_Raphael!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
