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writes:okay so today i gave my boyfriend a handjob and a blowjob and he didn't cum, he finished it off on his own..i feel like he wasn't turned on by me.. why didn't he cum? and what are good ways to make him? or turn him on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): it's no problem; I ususally don't cum when my gf gives me hear. I need to "finish" myself with my hand or simply penetrate her vagina after oral. Oral is just foreplay for me, something that gets me hard and excited.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 August 2010):
 It doesn't work for some men, it just doesn't. Difficult to say why, but that's how it works - some guys are just too used to their own hand for anyone else's to do the trick. As for cumming from the BJ only, that's not easy if you're not used to it, and honestly even I (having given more blowjobs than anyone else I know) am not always able to finish the guy off on my own.
But you know what - as the female anon below says, you don't need to finish off. Try to make as much fun out of him finishing as you can. Let him cum on you, on your breasts works great. Enjoy it, show him you want it, show that you WANT him to cum for you, on you. Huge turn-on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Honestly, if it was just for the last minute or less, that's normal! That said, if he just took over after a minute or two and finished after a few minutes of jerking, that's not such a good sign. Keep the following in mind:
1. He probably watches porn. Wait, no, he DOES watch porn, and in porn that's what always happens. You get him almost all the way there and he does the last 30 seconds or so of work.
2. I actually find it sexy when my guy does this--he's then out of my mouth so that I can move my breasts, face, tongue, etc, around for him to come on them one way or another. If you find that kind of thing degrading, no worries, don't do it, but the next time he pulls out, consider some good positioning so that he can have the satisfaction of coming on you. :) And hey, if you want to gobble it up afterwards, that's on you, or, you can leave his come all over you and take heart in the fact that you didn't have to swallow but you gave him just as much satisfaction, if not more.
3. If you're inexperienced, honestly, I'd buy a book on giving good head! I know you're only 16/17 and probably don't have a debit card or credit card, but if you live near a bookstore, they have plenty of books (for the public to browse through; they aren't in a secret room or anything lol) you can look through and buy. This is what I did, and 2 out of the 3 guys I've been with tell me I give the best head they've ever had lol. Or, if you don't want to go through the expense of buying a book, look around online if you know how to avoid the possibility of your parents seeing what you do online. There's tons of advice out there, and online, 95% of it's free! :)
4. Its all about enthusiasm. You MUST at least act like you're really, really into it, like he really turns him on, and as though there's honestly nothing you'd rather be doing than...well...what you're doing. Just a random tip, look him in the eyes as you're doing your thing. The guys I've been with say it's super sexy.
5. Honestly, don't be afraid to say you want advice! With every guy I've been with, I do exactly that, and they usually aren't afraid to speak up and tell me more of what they want. It's how I learned to be better altogether, too! So, if you're comfortable with it, you can say something like, "hey, don't be afraid to be vocal with me. Speak up. Tell me what you like. I mean, I don't exactly have man parts haha so I could always use advice." --fyi, that's exactly what I say every time. :)
I hope this helps!! At the start of the year I was in your exact same position, having never given head before and being super worried that my guy didn't/wouldn't like it. But with advice from my partners and from others, I gained confidence, my partners encouraged me, and I gained enough enthusiasm to be what I'd call a bj enthusiast, as its something I take pride in lol.
Remember, practice makes perfect! I hope this tidbit of advice helps. :)
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 If he had an erection at all he was turned on by you! It's all about how you do it I guess. Tease him a little and stuff like thatI hope that helps.
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reader, Jeseh.  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 I dont think you didnt turn him off maybe he was tired or in a hurry.but next time try blow and head at the same time,put your hand on his shaft & your mouth on the head of the penis and do the magic.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Hand jobs are rather silly I think. It's like you're doing the masterbating for him. I was never really into them, I think it's something he can do on his own time, plus my hand would get a little tired, lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): leave him a sexy message
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reader, Hurt4life +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Well you neeed to put your mind to it, some man takes long others just cum fast, as you can see he takes long....You need to find ways he likes, or ask him, his turning on places like, while u doing it, touch his chest or balls maybe etc.... But you must be contant if u stop to much, u will never make it, GOOD LUCK
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