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writes:My current boyfriend is 16 years old, and I'm 19. He's mature for his age (for the most part) and is extremely romantic and sweet. I love him to death. We met in person this summer after talking online (he lives in Ireland and I'm in the US), and we really hit it off great. We've been dating a couple months now (according to him) and he has already brought up marriage. He thinks about what engagement ring he'll get for me, and when/where/how he'll propose. We're waiting to get that serious until we're done with school. What I want to know is: is he really seriously thinking about marriage this soon into the relationship? Or is this part of the infatuation phase, and it will fade? He talks about it so seriously, I'm not sure. Any questions or advice are greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 February 2011):
 My apologies, I misread your age and got you two reversed. Easy mistake.
A few months into the relationship, of hardly knowing you he's already talking about marriage and proposing. Moving a tad bit too fast, don't you think? How many times have you two seen each other in person, was it just that one time? Do you two get to travel to see each other? Probably not with an international LDR. You can get to know a person online, but not as well as you would being around them in the flesh. So you two really don't know each other all that much, except for what you say over the internet.
He would still have to wait till he was 18 that goes for whether you get married on U.S. or Ireland soil. Then you have to figure out what country you will reside in, have to go through that irritating part of getting a visa for him or you. Maybe marriage could happen in a couple of years like he is planning...or it could fizzle out and you two never reach that point. Perhaps he wants marriage for the opportunity to come to America.
I'm not saying it can't happen, anything is possible. There's no timeline on how long infatuation lasts..it could last until you guys break-up or he sees his goal of marriage extremely difficult to accomplish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTennisstar: I'm not a minor, I'm 19... also, a "gorgeous ring" doesn't mean he's serious and that it will last.
(Update):
He is 17 now and we have been going strong and steady for almost 8 months (it will be 8 in a few days). He's still talking about marriage. How long does this "infatuation" last?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 At 16 all emotions are strong, wait a while and see if this phase of his relationship with you fades.
I hope that helps.
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reader, davo  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 I would ignore all the marriage talk it sounds like him just trying too hard to draw you in. But then don't take it as a bad quality of his. It can show how much he wants you. But it's for you to see past and see who he truly is.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 August 2010):
You've only met him once and it's only been a few months of dating and he's already talking marriage? I don't know how young they marry in Ireland but for you 16 is too young. Your parents would have to sign for you in order for you to marry I doubt they will do that. You already have your answer in your post, this i is part of infatuation not love, sorry. However, if he were to jump on a plane to the U.S. and have the most gorgeous ring picked out drop to one knee, then I would believe it and by all means say "yes". But, this is the real world not the movies. He would have to move to the U.S. though because I doubt you could get a visa and live with him overseas being a minor and all. Bottom line, marriage isn't going to happen with this one.
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