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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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| Latest articles: International Day of Tolerance
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 6 November 2010: Yes, people do seem to easily delve into things that do no concern them. Lawyers, government officials, people in higher power seem to bind themselves to things that once did not concern them but, that has never stopped anyone before. I think fear ... (read in full...)
How should I go about resisting my new step sister?
Q. How should I go about resisting my new step sister? My dad recently remarried and he and his new younger wife are building a new home, so they are staying in my guesthouse for privacy, but I've let my new 19 yr old step sister stay in the main...
A. 2 November 2010: I just thought I might clarify. Usually I support people who are not related by blood. Step-sisters or ste-brothers are alright to date each other if they find themselves in love but this is not love, this is lust and therein lies the risk of ... (read in full...)
How should I go about resisting my new step sister?
Q. How should I go about resisting my new step sister? My dad recently remarried and he and his new younger wife are building a new home, so they are staying in my guesthouse for privacy, but I've let my new 19 yr old step sister stay in the main...
A. 2 November 2010: Tell her you are uncomfortable with the way she is behaving around you, walking around in what you say is lingerie. This is not appropriate.
Have some self-control. It is not difficult to set aside your lusts. If you see an attractive woman wa... (read in full...)
How do you know what to choose...love of your life or great career opportunity?
Q. How do you know when to choose a great career opportunity over the love of your life, or choose your love over the career opportunity?...
A. 2 November 2010: Why must you choose? If the love of your life really meant something to you or if you meant something to your lover, would the career opportunity truly be such a difficult choice?
If the problem is time, I think it best that you leave that rel... (read in full...)
My husband is living with his mistress but says he loves me
Q. Hi. My husband has moved out and in with his mistress. He met her on facebook and had an online relationship with her for several months before meeting in person. I found out shortly after, but he did not end the affair and now lives with her, has ...
A. 2 November 2010: Take the choice out of his hands. He says he loves you and that is such an obvious lie, for if he truly did love both you and the mistress, he would not have ran to her so willingly, he would be tormented by the choice, most likely leaving both of ... (read in full...)
I want her to have everything she has ever wanted, but if she goes away out of my life I think it'll crush me.
Q. Hello. I started dating this wonderful girl recently. She is everything I ever wanted. We had a bit of an odd start as friends. Then she started to pursue me as a little more than friends. Things were going well, until a man from her past came along ...
A. 2 November 2010: When she tells you all of those intimate details about herself, every horrible occurance or nightmarish events that happened to her, she is immersing herself into you. We all have our secrets and if someone chooses to share them with you, there is ... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend was blind, would you stay or would you go?
Q. Dear Cupid, My name is Alexis and I'm 18 years old. I met the man of my dreams of 21, four years ago and we have been together ever since. When we first started dating, I knew I could picture myself getting married to him, and having a family ...
A. 2 November 2010: No doubt he would have learnt how to walk in and out of the shower, as long as the soaps are in place, I see no problem. Little things like that are manageable, he can learn and you will have one less thing to take care of. When people lose one ... (read in full...)
Oh no! His ex is 5 months pregnant with his baby!
Q. This is probably the hardest thing I have ever been through. My boyfriend and I met this year, our first year in college. He was my neighbor in the dorms before he moved out to another hall so we got to know each other very well. We started talking ...
A. 1 November 2010: There is no wrong decision to be had here. Both choices will without a doubt be difficult but both will have their blissful beauty.
If you leave him, it will no doubt hurt for a while, perhaps a few days or perhaps a few weeks even but, in the e... (read in full...)
Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 1 November 2010: Danielepew, do you truly believe that simply because the community that governs us has wrapped their greedy claws around such a precious ceremony, no one should get married?
Odds is overlooking the simple changes made once two people get married.... (read in full...)
Why buy the cow when the milk is free???
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and things are really good. We've discussed where we see our relationship going and we both agree on marriage in the short term future (say next 4 years). We've also talked about living together and ...
A. 1 November 2010: The problem people tend to ignore when they discuss marriage is, they merely think about the emotional factors or the intimacy or just planning of it all. You need to consider whether or not you have known this man long enough, he needs to consider ... (read in full...)
I'm a girl who loves porn!
Q. When I was about sixteen, like most people, i got curious about sex and so i started searching the internet for sexual videos. People always talk about how horrible it is for guys to watch porn and i feel like being a girl...its even worse for me ...
A. 31 October 2010: It is not worse for you to do just because you are a girl, though it certainly does not make it it any better. If you can control it, if you have no burning desire or need in your mind to see it and pleasure yourself to it, I see no real problem in ... (read in full...)
If he needs to watch porn does it mean I am not enough?
Q. I am not sure whether to be offended or not I've been with my boyfriend for roughly 2 years and the only time ive known him to put porn on is when he is trying to wind me up by putting it on the computer so i can see it, but i have recently noticed ...
A. 31 October 2010: How do you truly feel about it? You cannot ask anyone else how you SHOULD feel because, how you feel about somethings is simply, how you feel about it. There is no right or wrong way to feel about anything.
Obviously you are uncomfortable with wha... (read in full...)
He hurt my feelings when he said not tonight
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months and we are getting along great. Normally we see each other 1 time a week since we live 30 miles apart and due to our work schedules. In addition to our regular jobs, we both have weekend part time ...
A. 31 October 2010: I understand how you view sex but, a lot of people have differing perspectives on it. A lot of people I know, including myself, feel that sex in a relationship has a lot to do with every other aspect. How you act during sex is but a reflection of ... (read in full...)
My husband is living with his mistress but says he loves me
Q. Hi. My husband has moved out and in with his mistress. He met her on facebook and had an online relationship with her for several months before meeting in person. I found out shortly after, but he did not end the affair and now lives with her, has ...
A. 31 October 2010: File for divorce anyway. He should not be able to do this to you, dangle your heart from his fingertip. You have to leave him and let him live with his own choices, whether they were the right ones should not be of your concern. Your children need a ... (read in full...)
Scared about getting married....
Q. I am 24yrs old and getting married in a few months. I love my fiance but i maybe having second thoughts about this wedding. I am so confused, i dont know if i want to get married?! I love going out and partying and i love the attention i get ...
A. 31 October 2010: This may just be fear, after all, a wedding is a big ceremony. But, if you truly feel as though you are not ready for marriage then you have to tell your fiance, or else everyone is going to get hurt later on.
Spend some time by yourself to see w... (read in full...)
Mistress is threating to tell my wife about us
Q. I feel like I'm about to lose the best thing that ever happened for me behind ignorance. I know everyone's probably going to say I deserve it and I probably due but no one's perfect. I told my mistress that we needed to sto and she's threatening to ...
A. 31 October 2010: Needless to say, from the beginning, your wife's life was already turned upside down. The only option you have is to tell your wife.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Do men really get stuck emotionally between two women? Looking for male answers but females are welcome
Q. Do men really get stuck and can't choose between two women? If you have been in this situation please share. Who did you ultimately choose and why?...
A. 30 October 2010: Both genders are capable of trapping themselves in such an impossible choice. It occurs all too often. A man loves two women, even if he is devoted to his girlfriend or even wife, love can still course through his veins for another. Is it right? No, ... (read in full...)
How to make friends when you can't trust anyone?
Q. After a big fight in high school, I've never been able to trust anyone aside from my mom. I thought I was great friends with a group of people from high school, but one of them got angry with me for trying to stop a fight between her and another ...
A. 30 October 2010: Usually new friends are always welcome, there is no reason to be closed off and unwelcoming to others. You need not trust anyone to begin with, trust must be built over time and perhaps therein lies the source of these past conflicts. Perhaps ... (read in full...)
I feel that I do not want to offer a man anything else apart from sex as this is all that I feel that I require.
Q. Hello Readers, I would like to ask for some advice please and am very appreciative of advice I have had in the past. I have been in contact with a guy in Sydney for the last 2 years. To cut to the chase it started off as him being very interested ...
A. 30 October 2010: You are much more than what he thinks or wants you to be. He wants you to be beneath him and you have to deny him. Rise above him and show him that you are not a mere pet for him to play with, you are so much more.
Get counseling so that you are ... (read in full...)
Wife had emotional affair with coworker... how to win her back?
Q. I have been with my wife for seven years. Through a lot of those years i was an alchoholic and addicted to pain pills and she was a "good girl" so to speak. She has always been there for me through all my screw ups... (trust me... i have had some ...
A. 30 October 2010: This relationship is over. I am truly sorry but you have to face facts. From my point of view, from what you have told me, this relationship and whatever you two used to have just vanished. She even said that she feels as though she is being ... (read in full...)
What should be my next move in order to restore some sort of sanity in my life because I feel myself breaking apart in anger and distrust?
Q. Alright I am not really sure where to begin because I feel that it is truly lost forever due to the fact that I have put forth a valiant effort in rekindling a four year relationship and my two year old daughter's future of mommy and daddy being ...
A. 30 October 2010: If you still love her, ask her where you went wrong and then tell her that you are willing to change for her because you want to spend the rest of your life making her happy. Then ask her if she is willing to give you another chance. Swear to her ... (read in full...)
Marriage - why should any man bother?
Q. Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...
A. 30 October 2010: I could not help stumbling upon this post. It is an interesting article, an interesting point of view and an interesting and welcome perspective that I shall consider deeply. Having said that, I must wholeheartedly disagree.
Generally you are sayi... (read in full...)
Why can't she look me in the eyes?
Q. So theres this girl who before used to look me in the eye for a long period of time, like we were the only ones in the room and seemed so into me, but now she cant seem to look at me in the eye and never for a more than a second, however she seem...
A. 30 October 2010: There is far too little information here. You can begin by answering a few questions. If you talk to her, what happens? Have you asked her out? Is there even anything there between you or are you just curious?
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
He acts like he hates me and I don't want to keep begging him
Q. Hi,my boyfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago after an 8 month relationship. He said it was better for both of us. Lately we've been having lots of arguments and he has anger management issues.At the beginning of this month, he slapped me ...
A. 30 October 2010: You can stop him from treating you this way and I think removing him from your Facebook friends list was the right thing to do. If he wishes to act coldly towards you, do the same to him. If he wishes to delude himself into thinking there is nothing ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I am really turned off by sex after what happened to me
Q. Hi there,i'm just going to get straight to the point . ok so 4 years ago i was a victim of sexual assult and attempted rape,by my then boyfriend i was with at the time. I'm now with my loving boyfriend of 3 years ,jay. Are sexual side of things h...
A. 30 October 2010: This behavior and partial abhorrence to sex is to be expected after what happened to you. But I do suggest counseling. A professional has a higher chance of helping you accept and move on from what happened to you so long ago. Does your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
All I want is one good time together with this married man
Q. there is a man who works at my school who is a good bit older than me but I can honestly say I dont think ive ever wanted to sleep with someone more. I know he is attracted to me but he is married. I just need to know how to tell him. i barely see ...
A. 30 October 2010: What makes you think that after you sleep with him all those feelings will suddenly disappear? What makes you think there will be any sort of relief after it happens? How can you be sure?
Just forget about it and let it go. You feel an attracti... (read in full...)
I don't like what I see in the mirror
Q. Hi everyone I need some advice I dont feel countable with my body i just dont like wat i c in the miroor especially my face i been breaking out so bad i have the worst self esteem wat can i do ? ...
A. 30 October 2010: You are not alone in this. At one point when I was younger, I hated myself for more than just what I looked like and because of this, I just avoided my reflection. I managed to go almost half a year without ever seeing myself. When I finally did ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend physical with me, it always involves alcohol
Q. I love my fiance more then anything! We plan on getting married and having babies together. We have been through so much together and I know he loves me dearly! I have never been in such a loving relationship but the other day he beat me up quite ...
A. 30 October 2010: Get rid of the alcohol. If you want to live happily, such poisons must be removed. Go to counseling to determine whether or not these aggressive acts were the result of the alcohol itself or some underlying vengeance he feels he needs deep down ... (read in full...)
A friend I like is moving away. Should I tell her I like her?
Q. I have a good friend I like who I enjoy hanging out with. I've always wanted to her how I feel and ask her out, but I just never got courage to do so. Well, I am currently at a tough situation where I will be graduating college soon, and I don'...
A. 29 October 2010: If you two had a close friendship, chances are, if she does feel the same way, a long distance relationship could work for you after those couple of months.
If she does not feel the same way, it does not matter. Just tell her and see how things w... (read in full...)
I'm feeling lonely in my relationship
Q. My boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me as much as he used to. He's getting less and less affectionate too. We've only been together for 7 or 8 months, so we don't know each other that well yet. I'd like to start some deeper conversations but I'm ...
A. 29 October 2010: Generally, to this point, what has your relationship been about? Do you even love this man?
What Plato said stands true "You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation" so perhaps it is actions and his beha... (read in full...)
Just need some advice or encouragement!
Q. I have a beautiful wife and a 2 1/2 year old son. But last year I notice my wife was becoming distant and not very loving(which was very unusual for her). So I confronted he and she proceeded to tell me that she loves me but doesn't feel she's in ...
A. 29 October 2010: Feelings can fade, you have already discovered his but do not lost hope, she does feel something. It may not be the same love she felt for you before, but it still keeps her attached to you. You have no reason to lose hope because every time you ... (read in full...)
The only woman I have ever loved doesn't want me to contact her anymore
Q. I AM A FN EMOTIONAL DISASTER! I am still in love with The Only Woman I Have Ever Loved, and while she informed me that she did not feel the same for me I accepted it and have tried with all my strength and know-how to respect and honor her demand ...
A. 29 October 2010: First of all, stop thinking about her and keep away from her. Eventually, what immense love you feel will die as easily as the winter snow in spring. Feel what you must but whenever you think of her, remember to distract yourself and think of all ... (read in full...)
Why do men think of women as slaves?
Q. why do men think of women as slaves?...
A. 29 October 2010: Ignorance is the reason why some people think themselves superior. It is why a man may mistreat a woman, it is why a white person may look down upon a black person, it is why a Christian may despise homosexuals. Ignorance. Please realize that not ... (read in full...)
My bf is ditching me on my birthday, am I being stupid for feeling hurt?
Q. Just when I thought my boyfriend loved me, he goes and makes plans to hang with his friends on my birthday. He doesn't even mention it...he also chose not to spend his birthday with me, but I decided not to get angry/hurt since I had known him only ...
A. 28 October 2010: You are not stupid to feel this way, what you feel, you feel and you cannot force yourself not to feel something.
If he is your boyfriend, does he not wish for you to be happy with him? Otherwise what is the point of this relationship? What is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is stalking her and I don't know what to do
Q. So I'm dating my ex-girlfriend again. We broke up about 2 and a half years ago and she dated this other guy for about 2 years. They broke up about 9 months ago, I dated other girls but none of them really fit the bill so I decided to try again with ...
A. 28 October 2010: That is not what you want in a relationship? What then, could you possibly be seeking from this? As a boyfriend you have to make her feel safe otherwise what is the point of this? Do you just want someone to kiss and hold? Do you not want any of the ... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife's relationship with Matt bother me?
Q. Should I let this bother me? My wife is in nursing school. The past two days she's mentioned having lunch with the same guy. Matt. When she first mentioned him back when school started I casually asked about him. She said he's married but havi...
A. 28 October 2010: Does it matter whether or not your insecurities make you seem unnattractive? If you feel this way about it, silence will just make things worse, you need to let this out in the open and just let her know you feel like he is trying something with ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my baby? It's all up to me....
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months, and now im 4 weeks pregnant. Im 19 years old and I don't feel I'm ready to be a mother. I want an abortion but I'm scared to kill my baby, most of all, I'm afraid he won't be there during and after the ...
A. 28 October 2010: I am going to try and offer my perspective on things and I shall start by saying that, I doubt many women are actually fully ready to be a mother. A lot of women (at least the ones I know) were timid at first because they were afraid and who ... (read in full...)
Moving On From One Night Of Horror In A Happy Marriage Of 10 yrs??
Q. I've been married now for almost 10 years. My husband and I have what most people consider a great relationship. We don't argue or stupid things and when we do, the fights don't involve name calling, profanity, or low blows...and we make up ...
A. 28 October 2010: Everyone else acts as though alcohol is some fantastical truth serum. No, alcohol does not reveal truth. There is always the bigger picture. He hurt you but the answer as to why he did it is not so clear. It was not simple irritation and anger. So I ... (read in full...)
Should I do something with my hair to get this guy to notice me?
Q. i really like this boy at school but i dont know how to get him to notice me. should i do something with my hair or face? what do i do to get with him!!! he is so cute help asap thanks!...
A. 27 October 2010: I have to disagree with Jmtmj. It really depends on the guy, certain hairstyles may serve you well in getting this guy to notice you. You could try wavy hair if you do not have that is not your style already, but that is my personal taste. Like ... (read in full...)
When is it the end?
Q. how do you honestly know when your relationship is at a end point...
A. 27 October 2010: Most probably when someone begins to wonder how you know a relationship is at an end. Most people in love would not wish for an end and therefore, they would never think of their relationships ending, they would struggle to keep it alive but when ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 weeks pregnant and my husband is cheating. Do I leave him or stay because of the baby?
Q. Hi,I am 12 weeks pregnant and my husband is cheating with one of he's co-worker and she is married too I dont know who's the jerk, but this problem is driving me crazy I just don't know what to do. I must leave him or stay cuz of the baby?...thanks ...
A. 27 October 2010: Never stay because of the baby. What you need and what the child needs is real love. Whether you find that with someone else or you find that on your own, it does not matter, as long as neither of you are being continuously deceived, all will be ... (read in full...)
Does he care at all?
Q. hello hope you all can help... ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years... he says im unaffectionate (i am such a loving person but gave up trying because he is non affectionate) ...if fact my question is this .. Ive always tried in the rela...
A. 27 October 2010: This relationship is lost. There is no more affection and not even the slightest hint of care. As he left you in the dark that night, so has he left you in darkness now. Alone and afraid because he will never be there for you. That is exactly what ... (read in full...)
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