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writes:so heres the thing, my older sis and i are 10 1/2 months apart. we used to b close when we were younger but for the past 3 yrs, we became so distant. its to the point where we cant even b n the same room for long periods of time. my sis likes to bully me around alot, n she always says stuff under her breath when i walk by. ive been able to ignore it cuz to me its petty stuff. but finally she pushed my button for the last time. she keeps telling ppl im racist!!! im a black female and my preference is black men. thats jus who i find attractive to me. n she thinks im racist cuz i dont interracial date. my question is.... how do i get her to stop telling ppl im racist?? i want to rebuild my relationship wit her but i think shes gone too far n i dont find it funny at all.
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reader, spiderweb  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 She is being a bully and the only way to stop her is to ignore her completely. The more you react, the more she will try and wind you up. You are perfectly entitled to have preferences as to whom you date whether it is black men, blonde men or short tubby bald men. She doesn't think you're racist, she is just trying to ignite a reaction from you and she is loving the fact that she is succeeding. Since you can't stop her saying what she wants to, rise above her taunts and refuse to be drawn into her silly games. The more you deny her nonsense, the worse stories she will make up. Sisters! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): My sister is the same way, she hates me and its been that way forever. But you said that you have been distant for the past 3 yrs. Is there something that you did to her that could have made her start acting this way to you? I suggest talking to her and find out what her problem is.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 You're right in wanting to confront her about this and try to rebuild the relationship you had when you were younger.
Why did she start bullying you? This kind of behavior often derives from external sources meaning that all this is just a way of keeping her self-esteem at a high because something else in her life is getting her down. What in her life is causing such turmoil that she would use you as an outlet for her stress?
I don't know either of you so I'm not sure if what I'm saying would actually be correct in the case of your sister but nonetheless asking her is worth a shot right? Ask her why she treats you like this, tell her that you don't want to be enemies, you want to be sisters. Good Luck.
I hope that helps.
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