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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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Love hate relationship, we fight all day then go to bed loving each other?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years off and on we live together n we have love hate relationship we fight all day about who does more, leaving messes, people comming over, dishes, money, and groceries. he also thinks that i pick on him ...
A. 9 September 2010: Well there is love somewhere in your relationship so there is hope if both of you are willing. If you are constantly being a nag, that has to stop, no one responds well to that but, he does need to understand that you cannot support both of you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be alone, but there's no spark in this relationship
Q. I think I should break-up with my boyfriend, but im terrified of being single! We've been together since christmas and he had apparently really liked me for quite a while before that.....i had just come out of a bad relationship and was just loo...
A. 9 September 2010: You can't force yourself to feel something just isn't there. And for what reason? The reason being fear. Fear of being by yourself which is probably what you need right now. You're starting to lie to yourself, you are forcing yourself to believe in ... (read in full...)
I miss my girlfriend and I am worried about her
Q. ok well my girlfriend and i have been togetehr a really long time and i love her with all my heart and so she feels the same she let me know that a million times. i honestly could c myself being with her forever(sorry if i sound stupid)i really love ...
A. 8 September 2010: Don't worry, you aren't being irrational in the slightest. I do recommend somehow going to her house just to see if she's alright. I'm sure she'll understand. No fear of her mother's boyfriend, they should not be of your concern. I'm sure your ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore?
Q. Why do I feel like my boyfriend doesn't love me no more? I am 19 years old and he's 34 years old.I've been going out with my boyfriend for about a month and he is an amazing person. He would come to my house everynight after work. however, like a w...
A. 8 September 2010: Try and talk to him about it. Things might be running through his head right now. Tell him that you feel like your growing distant. But first consider how long this has been going on.
If it has only been a week, you probably have nothing to worry... (read in full...)
My parents don't like my girlfriend!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have a very serious problem and it just happens to be my parents. The issue is that everyone i know in my family hate my girlfriend and even people i don't know do because my family goes around and talks about her. Before i just ...
A. 8 September 2010: Make your mother understand that she has no right to judge your girlfriend that way. They don't know her like you do and you don't need your mother to start judging your relationships FOR you, you are able to do that on your own, if this is a ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I said the most horrible things to her but I want her back!
Q. I hurt a girl...She was the love of my life and she is still the love of my life... I am the worst person and lover in the world... I never cheated on her or anything..but when we broke up, I said the most evil things anyone could say to someone ...
A. 7 September 2010: Tell her that you're sorry again and that you still feel terrible about it. Tell her that you didn't mean it and that you didn't want to hurt her. Telling her that will not make her run into your arms, saying that will barely affect her but i... (read in full...)
How to stay in love, when my wife isn't in love with me anymore.
Q. how can i do it? after all is said and done, it is my fault, i never cheated, hit her. i wasn't there for her emotionally, didn't support her when she needed to be supported. she fell out of love with me. now how can i stay in love with her,...
A. 7 September 2010: It is NEVER too late to show your wife how much you love her. Go now and do something to make her smile.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act around this guy I like
Q. I need some advice on how to act around this guy that I really really like. We know each other a little through work. He asked me out last week, went out, he was sweet, attentive, polite, held my hand in the film, kissed me on the cheek at the ...
A. 6 September 2010: You don't need to do anything except be yourself. He has already shown that he likes you, if you change, so to might his attraction to you.
Best of luck
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Do I continue with a relationship that will never fully develop?
Q. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. We both have children that live with us. So far the relationship has been smooth, no fighting, no drama etc. I went to have my tarot read a few months ago and i was told that we were both guarded, ...
A. 6 September 2010: This is why such things as Tarot readings should be done with caution. When having your future 'predicted', your mind tends to try and link everything to fit your 'reading'. Before this reading, you never even bothered to take notice of such things, ... (read in full...)
Commitment vs. having your space
Q. My boyfriend has brought up us moving in together a few times now and each time I'm not sure what to say. It makes sense because we're both students with low incomes and we spend almost every night together anyway... but on the other hand, I"m ...
A. 6 September 2010: You said you feel comfortable with him and you don't feel trapped even after such a long time. Isn't this a good sign that there is potential in this relationship, don't you wonder what could happen if you did move in with this boyfriend of yours?
... (read in full...)
I'm in love and confused...
Q. Ok, so how can this man I love so much, hold me and at his own will profess all his love and caring and say how happy we are together and couldnt imagine life without me, suddenly just a little bit later same day insult me? Help, I am confused!...
A. 6 September 2010: If it's only this one time he's ever done that kind of thing, maybe something was bothering him. Something he just thought up all on his own. The human brain goes through 6000 thoughts at a time, subconsciously and consciously, one of them is bound ... (read in full...)
An old boyfriend wants to have sex with me... but we're BOTH married!
Q. I have been married to my husband 10 years and he is great to me. This last year an old boyfriend from over 15 years ago found me over the internet and we have become friends. He was my first ever boyfriend. He says he is happily married to his ...
A. 5 September 2010: Love your husband, stay with your husband, ignore this ex of yours.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Is a God who does not exist, more important for her than the man she claims to love?
Q. Hello everyone, I am 22 and me and my girlfriend are in a relationship for the last 3 years. There are a lot of points that I must highlight before going to the real issue. In the 1st year of our relationship, she was flirty with guys and used to ...
A. 5 September 2010: This is ignorance. As much as you hate religion for leading people to what you consider to be lies, you yourself are blinding your own eyes with ignorance.
There is a way you can still be with her but you are going to have to understand why some... (read in full...)
How do I prove that I'm willing to change?
Q. My ex and I were together for almost 3 and a half years. We'd always had problems during the relationship, which lead to us being on and off quite alot. But in the end we always got back together. Back in June, we broke up, and days later he starts ...
A. 5 September 2010: You can start now, be open with him when you text him and then he'll see the difference. He'll see that you have learned and since you're both miss each other and you BOTH want to be with each other again, he'll see how well things will turn out ... (read in full...)
Still have the hots for a doctor I seen 6 years ago
Q. This is going to sound odd but I can't get my mind off it. 6 years ago my grandmother was taken ill to hospital and me and my mum stayed with her whilst all the tests were done. The doctor she had was a really nice guy and (innapropriate I...
A. 3 September 2010: It's normal and it's okay to feel a sexual attraction to someone else. There's really nothing you can do to control your attraction to someone else. As long as you don't act on it that is. Eventually, the less you see of him or hear of him, the... (read in full...)
I feel double betrayed by my husband
Q. I am 25 years old, my husband and i have been married for 5 years and we have 3 children together, ages 4, 3 and 1. My husband walked out on the kids and me the day i was discharged from the hospital with our newborn babygirl (12 months ago) and he ...
A. 3 September 2010: Next time he goes out, change the locks. File for a divorce. If he causes trouble, turn to the police. You are a woman with three children, they will take your side. Do not feel ashamed about turning to the government for help, they were wrong ... (read in full...)
Violence in the marriage, wondering about another guy
Q. I am 34 have been married for 10 years with 2 young children. My marriage has always had problems especially violence on occasions, husband committed more to work than family and husbands porn addiction, lots of lying for the majority of our ...
A. 3 September 2010: I think your heart and soul is trying to tell you something. Why have you so willingly fallen for another man? The answer is in front of you. Your current husband is abusive and disrespectful to you. He may be the biological father of your children ... (read in full...)
Trying to relate to my g/f's son
Q. Gonna get straight to the point here. My girlfriend has a small boy aged 2, who I think the world of, but, I'm incredibly shy around him. I have got a lot better around him but I find it very hard to talk to him when anyone else is around, I just ...
A. 3 September 2010: All your problems are in your head. At that age, there are no judgments. Innocence still prevails, he bares no disliking to you. I doubt your girlfriend would find it endearing that you see things this way, how you wish to build a better ... (read in full...)
He knows I have low self esteem yet he still continues to talk about other girls!
Q. My boyfriend knows I have very low self estyeem, and knows how much it hurts me to hear him say how pretty he thinks another girl is. He told me he will stop, but of course like a lot of guys they don't stick to what they say unfortunetly. He ...
A. 3 September 2010: I am curious to know why you stay with him. Is there no one else who makes you feel beautiful? It sounds as though your boyfriend has no respect for you. The right guy would make you feel confident. Whatever the reason for your loyalty to this man, ... (read in full...)
We have different morals. Should I date him anyway?
Q. I'm in highschool, and the guy I like (who also likes me) and I have different morals. We get along really well and have similar interests as well as have great conversations. But, he and his friends tend to get drunk and do some recreational drugs ...
A. 3 September 2010: If you like him and he likes you, then you two can be together. This is how he likes to live his life. As long as he does not try to force you into it, I do not see an immediate threat to anyone. Just be wary and don't force him too hard to stop, ... (read in full...)
We never really broke up and I am finding it hard to move on....
Q. till now i cant move on my past.. ive been badly hurt before.. its hard for me to trust once more.. i have a bf before i get here in japan.. he promised me that he will wait for me.. but couple of months staying here..i heard news about him.that he ...
A. 2 September 2010: Go out and meet people that'll make you forget about him, do things that you love to do that'll distract you. The less you even think about getting over him, the more faded your feelings of betrayal and hatred will become, the more faded those ... (read in full...)
I still don't know if I'm over or not ! help
Q. hey guys ! quick question ok my ex broke up with me about 3-4 months ago she said she didn't love me anymore . of course i was upset but as days past i accepted it and moved on . im better , now back to normal life working , going out etc...
A. 2 September 2010: Time heals all, the less you hear of her or see of her, the more faded you feelings will become. Eventually, you'll see her again and you will REMEMBER how you felt but you won't actually feel it, unless you still store some amount of hope for ... (read in full...)
Torn between my current stable relationship, and the possibilities of what could happen with this other girl if we were both single.....
Q. Sooo this may seem like a really confusing question but i thank you in advance if you read this all and give advice Sooo me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 years now, we started dating in our senior year of high school and this ...
A. 2 September 2010: Whatever you choose will lead to you being single. If you really felt strongly for each other, why is it you both seem to want to stay with your 'significant other'? Why haven't you broken up with your current girlfriend to be with this other girl? ... (read in full...)
Is there a way for us to communicate calmy so it doesn't escalate into an argument?
Q. my boyfriend and I of 6 years have been fighting a lot. Most of the time its over small petty stuff but of coarse we have had some big problems too. We would like to know if theres a way or how to communicate calmly so it dont escalate?...
A. 2 September 2010: Sit down and talk calmly to each other. If someone gets even a little agitated, stop for a moment, take a deep breath and just stop to think. Try to see each other's point of view. In an argument, one side often disregards anything the other side ... (read in full...)
Can anyone make sense of what is happening here?
Q. Please help me.my man womt touch me wthout being begged. Each time he gets home, sits to delete messages and numbers before relaxing. Most times when with people all is well,once alone in bedroom picks a fight over anything small and goes to bed ...
A. 2 September 2010: It seems as though he is trying to find excuses for something. I have a feeling, he isn't being faithful to you. It could explain why he moves away everytime you touch him, it could explani why decides to start random and pointless arguments when ... (read in full...)
How can I make this better? I love him so much!
Q. hey there so i have a little problem in my relationship...my bf lives 20 min away but we go to the same school so i do get to see him and i stay at his place every weekend, he doesnt have a cell phone so i hardly get to talk to him when im not ...
A. 2 September 2010: He needs to stop doing 'single' things like texting other girls if he hasn't stopped already.
You need to think. The time that you DON'T spend together, is it a large amount of time (whole day(s) at a time) or a small amount of time (one to six h... (read in full...)
Man hater!
Q. [MOD NOTE: OP's OWN TITLE] I am only 13, but worried about getting married. I have never had a boyfriend. I dont even have any guys that are friends, I pretty much dont have any friends. My dad left when I was 6 and I havent seen much of him sinc...
A. 2 September 2010: Intolerance and hatred often stems from ignorance and a resistance to outside perspective. I despise reading about intolerance and hatred but I need to read it because it clears my vision and helps me see other perspectives and why some people see ... (read in full...)
Should I just leave her alone or try to get her out to have fun?
Q. I have this huge crush on a girl and I have let her know several times but the past few days she has become very stressed by her large amounts of homework. When I ask if she wants to talk about her situation or if there is anything I can do to help ...
A. 2 September 2010: Education is very important, leave her alone for a few days, occasionally checking up on her if you think you need to. Then when she's stress free, take her on that date to relax her and make her forget the stress.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm literally going nowhere
Q. NOD NOTE: OP's own title: I'm basically stuck in the game called life. I'm 23 and I just don't know what I'm supposed to be. Basically my life is like an endless cycle of failure (on my part). After highschool I went to college, got stuck doing some...
A. 2 September 2010: Eventually in life, there will always be obstacles that challenge one's moral codes. Do not give up simply because they do. You do not need to turn away from such obstacles but embrace them! Accept that these things exist in life and there is no way ... (read in full...)
Married for 21 years and I'm afraid of being alone
Q. Because of my husband's affair 3 years ago I could no longer handle the pain, it was always coming up and fights broke out, he provoked things by not being there in conversation, all I could think of was you knew what to converse with other ...
A. 2 September 2010: You are not to blame. It was his fault, he decided to have the affair not you. You shouldn't feel bad, him walking out was probably the best thing he could have ever done for you after his affair. Now you are free to look for someone who won't ruin ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions about teenage romance?
Q. Just wondering how people view it. Doesn't matter whether your old, young, for or against it :) I myself have mixed opinions on it. Do you think people should be in relationships at the age of 15? I have been in a so called "relationship" and it ...
A. 1 September 2010: There is only one romance. You can't categorize a feeling because, face it, people feel different things in different ways. What is sad for one person might make someone else laugh, what sparks joy in one person might anger someone else, I've seen ... (read in full...)
I've met the most amazing woman, but she lives 400 miles away!
Q. I met the most amazing woman and i cant stop thinking about her! We are really good friends and I have told her how I feel about her and I think she feels the same! Unfortunately we live 400 miles away from each other and I also work away from ...
A. 1 September 2010: Well, first off, how did you meet? If you MET online, I suggest VISITING her first and really getting to know her in person before making any decisions.
If you've already met her face to face and feel that you are ready, then by all means, d... (read in full...)
Dilemma...Do I tell her?
Q. Hi, I have a Dilemma. I had a wonderful/fantastic relationship with an ex (Sophie),we even talked about marriage. We were always 100% honest with each other.Anyway we split some time ago as I was working abroad and she couldnt handle a LDR. ...
A. 1 September 2010: You two sound like you were made for each other! Tell her how you really feel about her. I'm sure you can work all other problems out some way, just remember how good you two feel with each other.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Being sexual harrassed by my moms boyfriend
Q. ok, this is going to be long but please read and answer i need help! im 17 now but my mom started dating her current bf when i was 12. for about the first year, all was well and we got along fine. in summer my moms bf (lets call him john) would pick ...
A. 1 September 2010: It's worse than you are leading yourself to believe. Tell someone NOW. You cannot allow him to continue doing this to you.
Forget about hurting your mother. Are you actually about to let your mother be with someone with such a dark and secretiv... (read in full...)
Why don't girls have sex as much as guys?
Q. I would like to ask a question at a general/stereotypical level - Why don't girls have sex as much as guys? Eg. a single guy goes to a party/club/bar and hopes something will happen. A single girl goes to the same place and doesn't let anyt...
A. 31 August 2010: Guys and girls all want it the same, sometimes one wants it more than others but generally, humans are equally sexual.
More often than not, a woman can tell whether or not she wants to have sex with a man just by looking at him and a few minutes ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her because she said she was pregnant but she wasn't!
Q. Over a year ago I ended a relationship with a woman I was deeply in love with. Now I kinda regret splitting up with her as I still love her. The reason we split up was because she told me she was pregnant which I was so happy about, But later it...
A. 30 August 2010: It depends on why she thought it okay to lie to you about something like that. It was wrong for her to do so but depending on her motives, I suppose it's understandable.
If she thought she had to lie to you so that you'd stay with her, tell her... (read in full...)
Pregnant and afraid of what everyone is going to think
Q. heyyah im 15 and im pregnant but the father or my parents dont know anything about it and im scared of what they all might say...im scared of the father leaving me on my own to raise the baby and im scared that my parents might not want anythin to ...
A. 30 August 2010: The child is always afraid of the parent but you are inevitably going to have to face the fact that your parents will find out anyway. It's better you tell them now and give them a chance to help you so that you can all deal with this early.
If yo... (read in full...)
Is the DEPO shot making her less interested in sex?
Q. me and my fiance use to have sex 2-3 times a weeks. (a lot of times she started it) but now shes on the DEPO pregnancy shot and we now we have sex maybe once every 2-3 weeks, and i have to kinda work to get her in the mood, and i feel guilty, cause ...
A. 30 August 2010: Isn't DEPO a type of birth control? Sorry, I don't know much about it. It COULD be the shot but that wouldn't make much sense because birth control isn't supposed to suppress sex drives.
It could be because she used to start it most of the time... (read in full...)
He said that he hadn't been happy for 5 years and doesn't love me anymore.
Q. I'm about give up. My husband of 11 years( been together 18) with 3 kids,9,7 and 5 left me 3 months ago. He said that he hadn't been happy for 5 years and doesn't love me anymore. He is living in a house of a friend rent free. He has said that he ...
A. 30 August 2010: I found hope when you said that right know, everything has been better, no fights and no negative thoughts about you.
What concerns me and confused me is the fact that he stopped having sex with you. Intimacy is an important part of a relation... (read in full...)
Can our relationship become stronger if I just do what he wants me 2 do?
Q. (It would be nice to have guys and girls opinion) Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now..and like yesterday and Saturday he was acting all weird with me. I asked him what was up? he said nothing at 1st..but he eventual...
A. 30 August 2010: None of the reasons you wrote at the bottom of your post are correct. Doing whatever he wants you to do will make your relationship weaker. Eventually, you'll feel like he's taking advantage of you or that it's a one-sided relationship because ... (read in full...)
When your dream turns into a nightmare
Q. A while back I posted a message stating that I was looking forward to immigrate with my son to start a new life in the caribbean where my mother now lives. I had intended to pursue a business but I can tell you it has certainly turned out to ...
A. 30 August 2010: That's certainly no way for a mother to act. Where there is a will, there is a way. Look for a job, earn money, put it all into a bank account and when it's large enough, you could try investment, sooner or later, your dream will come true. I KNOW ... (read in full...)
Being sexual harrassed by my moms boyfriend
Q. ok, this is going to be long but please read and answer i need help! im 17 now but my mom started dating her current bf when i was 12. for about the first year, all was well and we got along fine. in summer my moms bf (lets call him john) would pick ...
A. 22 August 2010: You are definitely NOT overreacting, I'd say you are UNDER reacting. Why haven't you told your mother about what he's been doing? This is wrong! Get him as far away from you as possible, get a restraining order filed against him. Your mother needs ... (read in full...)
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