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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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| Latest articles: International Day of Tolerance
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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He went behind my back how do I get over it?
Q. What do you do when you really love your partner, who you've been with for many many years.. and he is crazy about you, but has decieved you? My boyfriend deceived me last year. He had a friend of many years, who he was confiding in. I was very ...
A. 18 August 2010: He's not stupid. You shouldn't feel insecure. He thought she was someone he could confide in. He though she was okay with being just friends and obviously she wasn't. No one is at fault here. Well, maybe the girl is for not moving on but you ... (read in full...)
Does she love me or not? I am so confused!
Q. For the past two years I have been in love with a 34 year old woman in my office I am 47 but the age thing is unimportant to her. She has been living for the past five years with her boyfriend who seems abusive to her. On several occasions she has ...
A. 18 August 2010: You two sound perfect for each other! Be there for her, be there WITH her. She doesn't need an abusive boyfriend like the one she has right now. Go for it, I'm sure if you do, you'll be happier. You both need each other.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I think I may have made the wrong choice here...
Q. I am normally really good with stuff like this if I'm not the one in need but now I am. I have been with a girl for going on three years now and I was pretty sure I was in love with her but we have been stuck in a rut for quite some time. It seems ...
A. 18 August 2010: Work on your current relationship until you're sure there's no hope for it. If you feel strongly about this other girl then you should just break it off with your current girlfriend.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Am I being stupid if I go back and meet my ex girlfriend?
Q. I split up from my ex girlfriend a couple of months ago. While we were split up I met someone else. It was my ex who pushed me away saying she didn’t know how she felt about me if she just wanted to be friends or more. She claimed she had not b...
A. 18 August 2010: I think it'd be okay to meet up with your ex, just don't let anything happen. You're in a relationship, no matter how old it is, you can't just go for another girl whilst you're with the current girlfriend. So meet with your ex but make sure it's ... (read in full...)
Help! How do I get his attention?
Q. i really like this guy but we never had a conversation and he doesnt even know my name help. it is the first two days of school and i just gotten to get used to the class the atmosphere and the people around me.my first day yesterday i saw ...
A. 18 August 2010: Sounds like you don't really know much about this guy either. It's going to take a lot more than just a few days of school to know whether or not something is going to happen. Just start paying attention to what the teacher's saying and with luck, ... (read in full...)
What is the possibility of us getting back together?
Q. hi, i was with my ex since for 6 years, and has broken up for 8 months. he is the one who wanted to break up, and after he asked for a break up, i did all the normal reactions, i begged, tried to convince him to get back togehter, ran up...
A. 18 August 2010: Stop calling him so much. Maybe space the time out between emails, he sounds like a busy man.
No offense but you seem too desperate and that might scare him off a little because it makes you seem kind of a like a maniac. Again, I don't mean to ... (read in full...)
What do guys lookfor in a girl?
Q. Guys confuse me. And i dont know what they want. So i would like your opinions on what attracts a guy to a girl, what they look for in a girl, and how to keep them happy. Give me your answers pleasee....
A. 18 August 2010: Something I always tell my friends, both guys and girls. You have to stop looking at each gender as if all of them have the exact same tastes! Every single human on the planet, all 6 Billion people on the planet have different tastes. Most of them ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend about my injuries or will it make him overprotective?
Q. Hello, I have a slight problem with bringing up a certain subject with my boyfriend but it'll be very confusing and probably worse if I don't so could you all please give me any advice you have on this matter. This summer I had just arrived at my ne...
A. 18 August 2010: Wow. You have my respect for standing up for your friend. Those guys should go to hell!
Are you sure your boyfriend would get over-protective? I mean, I think it is better that you tell him so he can help you and make sure your shoulder heals qu... (read in full...)
Do men always keep a girl on the side?
Q. I have only had two serious relationships so far, the first was a very good guy. He never would talk to a girl or interact with them in any manner other than just friends, and any time a girl would send him something, he was very upfront w out my ...
A. 18 August 2010: If you don't mind my asking, why did you leave your first boyfriend? He sounds like the perfect guy for you.
I'm pretty sure there are a lot of loyal guys out there, just takes a little searching. People with similar personalities tend to hang aro... (read in full...)
Husband is psychotically jealous and our married life has filled me with disgust for the world.
Q. I am 28 years old. I have only ever been with one man intimately, my husband. I met him at 20, lost my virginity to him then, and at the age of 25 I married him. I did not know psychotic jealousy until I was with him. Nor would I have even ...
A. 18 August 2010: Never think yourself naive for being that loving. You sound like a wonderful person, the kind of person there needs to be more of. Don't let this man change that! Do not let him corrupt who you are. The world has its malevolence and it's more ... (read in full...)
Caught between my husband and the one.
Q. I dont really know how to start. I have been married for 10 years - seperated 1.5 years ago. This is because I found someone else. My marriage was fairly bland and bad, and I always found myself fantasizing about other men. I had married young and ...
A. 18 August 2010: She's not abandoning her child. She's just moving on to something better. If she stays in a marriage with no love, the child wouldn't be much better off now would it?... (read in full...)
Caught between my husband and the one.
Q. I dont really know how to start. I have been married for 10 years - seperated 1.5 years ago. This is because I found someone else. My marriage was fairly bland and bad, and I always found myself fantasizing about other men. I had married young and ...
A. 18 August 2010: Just get a divorce. What you're doing now isn't helping anyone, not you, not 'the one', not your husband or your son. You'll actually be making everyone's lives easier by just filing for divorce.
You'll be feeling even more guilt if you don't do... (read in full...)
My fiance lost his sex drive all of a sudden, one month before our wedding? Help!
Q. I'm looking for any type of feedback if someone is kind enough to help. I cannot talk to my closest friends about this because I dont want to embarass my fiancee. We met two years ago and we are getting married next month, yay! I've NEVER been ...
A. 18 August 2010: You definitely aren't the problem. You shouldn't look at yourself in that way. Know that you're attractive because you've already done it a hundred times before and you said it was great right? So how could you think it was you? Be confident, ... (read in full...)
In Love with a Friend--How to Confess?
Q. I've been good friends with this girl for many years (we went to college together) and I've been in love with her pretty much the whole time. I've made up my mind to tell her, but I'm terrified she'll freak out and never want to see me again. (Being ...
A. 18 August 2010: Tell her slowly, give her subtle hints that you feel something and then when the time is right, you tell her that you actually feel something for her. I don't think she'll freak out and never want to see you again, that's a little drastic don't you ... (read in full...)
She thinks we're friends, but ...
Q. My "friend" is always lying to me and forces me to do things. If I don't she starts crying and says she will go home. She thinks we are best friends and I can't just tell her I don't want to be her friend anymore because we have known each other ...
A. 18 August 2010: You're not a coward for this, just considerate. I don't think you really want to tell her that. There has to be some good points about her, a reason why you've stayed friends for so long. When you know she's lying to you, just tell her to stop, tell ... (read in full...)
Did I marry a parent?
Q. Married 2 months..went to exhibition..was there for 7 hours and my husband met up with family and they wanted coffee and my brother-in-law wanted to have a drink and so did I and my husband made me feel like shit..so I didn't go for a drink as my ...
A. 18 August 2010: Have the drink if you want to! He's supposed to be your PARTNER not your parent. He's supposed to support you not lead you.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Need Some Encouragement...
Q. I just need some encouragement from anyone... I finally got up the courage to ask the ex what he wanted from me, and he said he wasn't ready to give all of himself to me (due to all the hrs at work, and some trust issues). I totally understa...
A. 18 August 2010: One thing's for sure. If he feels anything for you, he'll be thinking about this conversation you had and he'll be thinking about it deeply. I'd say give it some time, you said he has trust issues and he's a workaholic. You ever stop to consider ... (read in full...)
She won't have sex. I'm tempted to cheat
Q. Hi, I really need some help here. Me and my girlfried have been going out for nearly 2 years (we are both 16) And she has yet to give me a blowjob or sex. I have tried to talk to her about it several times but she said she isn't ready for sex. S...
A. 18 August 2010: You are being selfish. If she's not ready for it, you shouldn't pressure her into it. The fact that you're tempted to cheat on her JUST because of this leads me to believe that you're just in this to get into her pants right now. In my honest ... (read in full...)
How can I be sure she likes me?
Q. Hey, im new to this but like, i just wanted to ask a question, im 14 and so is my girlfriend, and we only just started going out, i asked a question earlier this week and someone said just ask and she said 'yh i do' but how can i be sure? thanks...
A. 18 August 2010: She said she likes you, what more proof do you need?
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
We're in a rut
Q. well I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 2years and all we do is the same old thing nearly everyday and we are both starting to find this boring and now he thinks I have a boring personality he says I barley talk to him but I don't really ...
A. 18 August 2010: MAKE CONVERSATION! It can be completely random if you want, anything that's on your mind! Something funny you saw the other day, a great movie, the places you want to go to. At this point, something random is good!
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
We're growing apart since the baby
Q. hi i have been with my partner for 15 months and i now feel we're growing apart, as hard as i try to pull us together she seems to want to spend more time away from me. This is the time i think i should mention she has postnatal depression and we h...
A. 18 August 2010: Get her help. There are anti-depressants she can use if the doctor recommends them. Make sure she knows that she's a big part of the baby's life. Postnatal depression is actually more common than you think and that means that this definitely can be ... (read in full...)
How can I build up my confidence around women?
Q. Hi how can I build confidence to ask a girl out. A couple of years ago my mum died and I lost contact with alot of people got heavy on weed and I aint had a girlfriend now I dont no how to go about it...
A. 17 August 2010: First off, get off the weed alright? That's not helping anything. Go out and just try talking to a couple of strangers, like, at a bar or something. See how easy it is to start a conversation and then go with it when you try and meet women. It's ... (read in full...)
What can I do to let her know I still care for her?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up about 2 and a half weeks ago because I was unfaithful. We still speak regularly and have remained close even in this difficult time. Just last night I brought a television stand to her house, put it together, ad set her ...
A. 17 August 2010: I'm sorry, I have to disagree with you 'dirtball'. Yes, sometimes we have to live with the decisions we make but, it is also wise to know when you can change things by redeeming yourself. It isn't good to live with bad choices, better to have tried ... (read in full...)
PARANOID of being cheated on
Q. I am so worried all the time about everything. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We love each other a lot. However, I worry a lot about his past. The girl he dated before me is beyond beautiful and they dated for a little over a ...
A. 17 August 2010: I know this might seem kind of dim-witted at this point but, have you tried telling him about this? There has to be something he can do to show you how loyal he is to you. I think the other step you need to take is to stop thinking that she's ... (read in full...)
My husband's porn watching has put me in a deep depression, someone help me understand why?
Q. I have been married for 5 1/2 years when I discovered my husband was watching a lot of porn. It started when I woke up one night and saw my husband walking to the bathroom with our lap top. He said he had to go to the bathroom but then put the ...
A. 16 August 2010: You are all right. None of you deserve the emotional torture this has put you through. I keep reading these things I find that more and more of you are describing someone who is addicted. So find some help for his addiction. I'm sure your husband ... (read in full...)
The proposal!!!
Q. Hello people, last week i went to my boyfriend's country to meet his parents which was in portugal, and they were a lovely family especially his mum. we've been together for 1 year and 5 months now and we normally talk about marriage and kid...
A. 16 August 2010: I'm sorry sweetpie89 but, we're not psychic. We can't tell you when he's going to propose. I guess we could look at the facts though. If I were him, it'd be when I'm ready and there's nothing else on my mind or on yours so, probably after uni. ... (read in full...)
I like one of my best friend's ex girlfriends. Do I act on it?
Q. I really like one of my best friends ex's. I don't know how to cope with this, I've known her longer than I've known him but am closer to him as a friend. The problem is I want to try a relationship with her but not to lose my friend, at the moment ...
A. 16 August 2010: If your best friend doesn't have any residual feelings for this ex of his, I say it's fine. Go for it and tell her!
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Is this grief or just a bad relationship?
Q. Ok, I have a question. About almost 2 years ago, my husband died tragically from an on the job accident at 33 years old. I was in a deep depression for a long time, and I to this day, am still grieving. I have three children that I have to take care ...
A. 16 August 2010: Okay, this is a delicate thing to deal with. I'm very sorry for your loss.
I wouldn't say that it's "sooooo wrong", it's not a bad thing but, it's not a good thing either. It's just something normal.
You need to have somebody to love you, who doe... (read in full...)
He's blackmailing me since I broke up with him...
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 14 months and he he will not accept that it is over. He keeps threatening to come and house and tell my parents all my secrets and if i don't reply to his texts he rings the house phone which means i have to ...
A. 16 August 2010: Do not get back with him. You shouldn't be forced into a relationship with this man! Is there a close friend you can turn to? Someone else you trust? Are you absolutely sure your parents would kick you out because of these secrets of yours? Parents ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this insecurity?
Q. My bf of two years hurt me just under a year ago by seeing his ex without telling me even after saying he wouldn't. I lost a lot of trust for him then. But wanted to give it one last go. So we've been working hard together ever since. Problem is now ...
A. 16 August 2010: So basically you've been living with this insecurity for a year? That's not good. But congrats on keeping the relationship going for this long! Also, take a good look at how long you've been living with this insecurity, has he done anything else to ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up the topic of marriage and kids without sounding wierd?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my bf almost a year. He is amazing in every aspect and is everything I've ever wanted. He is the shy type so I was surprised when a few months ago he would start randomly bringing up marriage discussions ie. "I was ...
A. 16 August 2010: If he brings up that topic a lot, you can just wait to talk about it. Obviously he's keen on getting married so, if there just isn't a right moment and you two are walking somewhere or something or doing whatever you could just turn to him and say ... (read in full...)
Am I attracted to my own twin sister??
Q. hi, im having an overwhelming problem. i have a twin sister, who is the love of my life, literally. i have been attracted to her for a few months now, i would normally think, why dont you ask her out? but this is my SISTER! i am bi, and as a mat...
A. 16 August 2010: I have to agree with your friend. This is most likely just the after-affects of a troubled era of your life. Just remember that who you are thinking about is your SISTER and it will pass just like every other phase in your life, no matter how ... (read in full...)
I'm really upset at my husband's confusion over whether he loves me or not.. please help!
Q. we have been married for 15 years, together for 17 and have a 12 year old daughter. my husband is in the army and works and lives 1hr and 30 mins away. he normally comes home Fri-Sun or Mon am. 3 weeks ago he told me that he does not know what he ...
A. 15 August 2010: I think it might be the distance between you that makes him feel this way. He only comes home to you on the weekends? So for about three or three days every week he doesn't see you or your daughter?
When he is home, be sure to treat him with the... (read in full...)
I felt sooo low when I saw my ex and his new girlfriend today!
Q. I don't know how to begin exactly... My Ex... well he was an abusive, liar and a cheater and he took my virginity. I loved him, and I do know that I loved him because I never felt so alive while with him. I know your thinking lucky escape, he's you...
A. 15 August 2010: Don't ever let another person get you down. Being short is in no way attractive! Look at Mila Kunis or Shakira, both are really short and both are really hot! What have tattoos got to do with anything? Tattoos should be a form of self-expression not ... (read in full...)
Should I do what's best for me, or what's right?
Q. To get right down to it, I am in love with a guy and I am 100 percent sure I would like to spend the rest of my life with him. We dated, broke up, dated again, and broke up because he could never make up his mind whether or not he wanted to be with ...
A. 15 August 2010: You asked whether or not you should do what's best for you or what's right. It seems they are both one and the same. You don't love your current boyfriend, you're only afraid of hurting him, correct? It sounds like you are just hurting him now by ... (read in full...)
We don't have sex as much as we use to. Why?
Q. Okay, So I don't know what to think if I'm being stupid by worrying too much, or if i have a reason to worry and think so negative about my bf sometimes but... Lately i have noticed our sex life has been decreasing. We don't have as much sex as w...
A. 15 August 2010: I'm going to assume you're married. Sex is an important aspect of marriage and it seems that it is going downhill for you. How about the other aspects of your marriage? Is he still romantic? Do you two still talk to each other about things like your ... (read in full...)
Still a virgin after partial penetration?
Q. My boyfriend and i were..messing around i guess.. and after awhile we were naked and he was putting his dick near me. I said ok just a little bit, Im not sure if he really went it,so i asked him how far he went in he said about half way and ...
A. 15 August 2010: You stopped being a virgin the moment your hymen broke... (read in full...)
How wet do women get when aroused?
Q. Quick question, this guy and I have been sexting (sending sexual text messages) a little bit. And he does oral, and he talks about what he'll do to me in details and so on. It turns me on and everything. But he says the same thing every guy I sext ...
A. 15 August 2010: There's not really a problem here. The amount of 'wetness' depends on the person and their body. Some women find that it takes a lot to get them really aroused. It's not you, it might not even be them.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
How can I improve my boyfriend's libido?
Q. I am 18, and my boyfriend is 21. We are both young, as you can see, but it seems like he is rarely in the mood for sex. I thought for his age his libido would be higher, but it so much lower than mine. I'm almost always in the mood and waiting for ...
A. 15 August 2010: You could try lingerie that ought to get him in the mood. See what his preferences are. I'm concerned that he plays video games for extended periods of time. Does he get the proper amount of nutrients everyday? Does he stay hydrated? All these ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me after only two months
Q. So I just recently got dumped. It was a relationship that was rushed and very full in just a short 2 months. He told me a lot of things and I let him in. After it was over it was hard to handle and very painful. It hit me in my chest. He was my ...
A. 15 August 2010: It seems like an unrequited love. You have all the right in the world to be angry with him. This is what all oxytocin-fueled emotions are like. Every emotion has a dark side (if it didn't start out that way already i.e. anger and hate) It's best if ... (read in full...)
Is my doctor flirting with me or is it just wishful thinking?
Q. I'm in my mid 20's and I'm not sure how old my doctor is... I want to say mid 30's. The age gap is not an issue but I don't have a clue if he's with someone, married, has kids, or single. It's impossible to fish out anything because his staff is...
A. 15 August 2010: I have a question...Wasn't there a nurse in that room when he did a full body exam? I'm pretty sure my doctor, however friendly he is, never did anything like that to me so...I'm pretty sure your doctor was flirting.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
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