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reader, Denise32 +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Q1605, yes, that's right. You don't stop caring for someone when the relationship has ended. You still want the best for them, especially when they once meant so much.
I'm not in contact with any of my ex's; and I'm widowed, so it doesn't apply to me......but I'd still hope they are happy now in their lives.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Love has many degrees of depth. In a good relationship love continues to deepen and continues to deepen and continues to deepen. It takes a complete understanding of human emotion to do this (you will not find it in psychology). True love is what everyone is looking for, to feel completely emotionally complete, completely happy, and know with absolute certainty it will last forever.
People are all superficial. There are no people this deep; who understand human emotion and human dynamics completely. If there were they could control the masses, they could manipulate you to no end. No, true love is a fantasy drawn out by the human condition. It is the answer to the pain we all feel, luckily we repress it.
True love is an emotion requires very certain conditions in order to exist. These conditions are nearly impossible to meet, it takes complete, and I mean complete control of oneself, the ability to manipulate oneself to no end.
The last thing is that it takes two people, one is impossible enough.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (22 August 2010):
Interesting - and on-target - answers.
I think a couple who have known one another many years and are happy, because each has the other's best interests at heart and values the different (from himself/herself) qualities each brings to the marriage......they not only enjoy being together, and look forward to seeing one another after being away, but also respect the other one's need for alone time sometimes, and recreation time spent with other friends - at least some of whom are friends they have in common and enjoy getting together with.
I know one man - a clergyman - who once said his wife is both his best friend and his worst enemy - BECAUSE she knows him so well and when necessary is willing to confront him! So, loving someone doesn't neccessarily mean you always (that is all the time, and in all ways) LIKE them.....but hopefully conflicts can be mutually worked out in cases such as these.....
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 There is no 'true love', there is no 'false love'. Love scientifically is the release of Oxytocin and nothing more. Love from an emotional perspective is a strong want to be near that other person and to devote one's body and soul to one's partner. How can there be 'true love' when an emotion like this is almost always easily stolen away? Love is a bond and a joy and a willingness to sacrifice and give in to this one feeling. Where one would usually sit and laugh at the failings of a relationship, another in love would cry thinking that such a tragedy could affect his love. Love is a pain that burns in each heartbeat. It can be the suicide of hate or it's birth.
Love is like Yin and Yang, it is a balance. You can either feel immense happiness or terrible pain and anger. There is no 'true love' just a prosperous one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): AskEve said what I wish I had said...the things I feel...not only I but all those who have experienced true love. She wins the award so far...but I will say that I love the poem. mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): AskEve said what I wish I had said...the things I feel...not only I but all those who have experienced true love. She wins the award so far...but I will say that I love the poem. mal
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just a crush or infatuation.
Real love on the other hand is very different. If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): True love is when you put your partnrs needs and happiness before your own
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Someone that makes you into a better person. True love is when you think of the other person and their happiness and needs before your own. You want the best for them always even if it's not necessarily the best for you. It's about compromise and unconditional acceptance of them and all their flaws.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): yep....lilpixie has it pegged pretty close. :)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Easier to answer "what is fake love"..work on that one first.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (21 August 2010):
 I think everyone will have their own opinion on this.
I think it's when you love someone so much you would do anything for them. Someone that you can see yourself with for the rest of your life. Someone that stands by you through thick and thin and you would do the same for. Someone you share a special bond with that you don't share with anyone else. The person that you want to wake up next to every morning. Someone that makes you smile and gives you butterflies no matter how long you've been together.
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (21 August 2010):
 For me it's a feeling that I'm the only one this man is seeing even if he's in a room full of beautiful women. When I'm sitting down chatting with my girlfriends and I look over at him, our eyes meet, and he just looks straight into my eyes, while other people keep talking to him, but he doesn't hear them or see them, he sees only me, across the room, then comes over without breaking eye contact, all I could do is smile, and kisses me, then goes back to his friends and lets me continue to enjoy girlfriend chit chat.
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