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anonymous
writes:Hi.. so if im honest life gets pretty tough sometimes. Older people may think that the only problems a teenage girl could possibly have is a guy that doesnt want them or needing money to buy clothes or whatever. That couldnt be more naive. Over the past couple of years ive dealt alone with some things that i dont even feel comfortable enough to talk about here anonymously. Ive made some bad mistake and some terrible mistakes, like everyone i guess. So anyway, ive never been an openly sensitive person. Yes ive always been the master of brave faces since a young age, pretending to be okay with things that kill me a little inside. Ive never been able to truly open up about anything, to anyone. I guess because i dont like the spotlight and dont want the fuss or people thinking that i want to be fussed over. Tbh ive confessed more on sites like these over the years than i could to anyone in real life. Anyway this is getting a bit too deep now ill get to the point. About 5/6 years ago i figured out how to pleasure myself (and 2-3 years since i started watching "videos" aswell), i dont even remember how that idea came up. As i matured and started to experience life it became my escape, like a haven away from all the bad **** in my life. Its still my escape mechanism now. When i dont feel like crying into a pillow or screaming, i just have some "me time" and it sets me back to neutral. Problem is, i dont want that to be my escape anymore. It sounds dumb but im virgin and i want to hold off on thtt stuff until I find someone worthy of my virginity because, i dont think that masturbation is unhealthy or sinful or anything, but i think its stopping me from getting out there to find someone because i think to myself "i dont need anyone to feel good". Sounds stupid i know. My questions sort of all over the place but i need some advice on what else i can do to deal with stuff so that i can quit masturbating for good and just wait for a special someone from now on. Also even if i dont give it up completely how do i stop watching "videos"? I think its becoming an addiction in the sense that i dont watch it all the time but i do whenever i pleasure myself and i cant get myself to stop... this questions pretty long winded but i could seriously use some advice please...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 July 2016):
 Again I would tell you there is nothing wrong with masturbation, or watching the videos. The thing with it is it should not be stopping you going out and meeting people, and if it is then yes that could be leading to a problem. If you want to stop the videos then delete them all or block the sites that you get them from, if that fails disconnect the internet and find something else to distract you from it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (27 July 2016):
 There's nothing "wrong" with masturbating. The Good Lord gave it to people as a release mechanism. Whilest there may be some who would chastise one for doing it, that (chastisement) is not based on any real detrimental effects....
Please stop beating yourself up for doing it... and spend your mental time and energy working on other matters that apply to your life.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2016): If you want to pick on yourself youre doing a good job.
Masterbation is a private act and fortunately it makes you feel ok!
If you were a guy you'd be handing those movies around and holding jerking off competitions but you have every right to stop it as much as to start it so you need to think of other ways you can make yourself feel ok!
I think you are probably looking for a lifestyle change so you should prioritise your objectives and then set about those that are possible to change!
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