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anonymous
writes:We met on Face book back in 2011 and met in person a moth later.We had strong connection but the distance eventually took it's toll and he broke it off since neither of us were in a position to move. After time part we would reconnect and meet up again.This went on on and off for few years untill we finally broke it off for good in late November of 2014 when he met someone closer.I tried to move on but haven't connected with anyone the way we did. In any event,he started reaching out to me again more than year later.He sent me multiple messages back in April and june telling me that he had been thinking about me and misses me etc.He also left his number for me to contact him.He deleted his face book few years ago so he clearly open a new face book for the sole purpose to re connect with me.The thing is,i had allot going on around those dates when he reached out.I didn't log in on Face book until in late July. I texted the number he left but I got "sorry you have the wrong number". I decided to message his aunt and ask her to pass my number to him ..He got in touch with me a day later. We chatted ,catching up on our lives. He openly admitted that he has always thought about me and is happy to reconnect.Moreover,we planned to visit each other some time this month. However,he has been wanting to skype with me for the last couple days but we couldn't because of schedule confliction.I finally I told him that I can stay up late last night since I'm off the next day, which is today.He said 'sure sounds good, looking forward to talk to you' 'So last night I stayed up the whole night for him. I even texted asking what time he's getting off work but he never responded. I stayed up until 12:30 am until I got too tired and went to bed. I wake this morning ..still no text from him.In fact, I haven't heard from him the whole day which is rather unusual-- given how we have been in daily contact since we reconnected. I have been feeling mixed emotions the whole day. Part of me is worried that something might have happened to him and the other part thinks ,he might be blowing me off. I would hate to give up on him .I see a future with this guy and haven't connected with anyone the same way as we did.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 I can understand the way that you are feeling, you where looking forward to the video call, you had it built up in your head to be a great way to see each other after all this time, and well what did he do? He did not even bother to reply. Sweetie I will be honest with you, if there was a future between you both then it would have been solved by now, the fact that he keeps coming in and out off your life should tell you that he is not reliable. I know it is difficult because you feel like you have a strong connection with him, but for me it looks like he just wants to be connected to you when he is single or bored. Don't allow a man to enter in to your life again so easily.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (9 August 2016):
Regarding a future -
Whenever the story begins with "we met on Facebook/Tinder/etc," the answer is almost always no.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (5 August 2016):
Unless you are both on the same page, this is not worth it. I understand that people are unique in their own right and having a connection is important, but you need to consider the other things as well such as communication on Long Distance Relationships. It does not make sense on saying "giving up on a future" when you don't even have a "present" with that person, else it just sounds like a kids fantasy. I'm not against someone dreaming for as long as he/she wants, it is your choice to make at the end of the day.
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